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ughh okay i absolutly hate my friend
okay so me and her have been friends for about 3 years..and not only friends BEST FRIENDS...we tell each other everything...we can be on the phone do absolutly nothing and stil have fun...but lately she's been acting very gay/stupid/retarded..like i'll tell her something and she'll just nod her head...it's soooo annoying...UGHHHH so annoying i can't stand it!!
like and i've tried talking to her but that's all she'll do
and so i stoped talking to her b/c i got tired of it
and then one day she texted me and was like are you mad at me?..wat did i do??
but i did'nt text back..and it's not like i can avoid her b/c i have 3 periods with her...and i used to walk with her between them
it's been about 1 month that we have'nt been talking
and it's really awkward b/c we have the same friends
and i have 3 periods with her
and she's my only friend in that class
i don't know wat to do
b/c i'm sick and tired of dealing with her crap!!
and if you can give me any other advice besides making up with her that would help
b/c i doubt i will ever make up with her (link)
Communication is key ... if you were doing something she didn't like and then she got mad and you didn't know what you did ... that would suck [ I know . Been there done that. ] Tell her how its bothering you and All that because like you said , you can't [ or it's very hard to ] avoid her.

Hope I helped ... inbox me if you need anything
xoxo
Stephiiii


do guys shave down there to?
or is it jus girls (link)
A lot of guys just trim


im an 18/f my bf is 19/m. i have been with my bf for almost 2 years. we have had our rough times, and i dont feel he is committed to me. he hasnt cheated to my knowledge, but we havent been together for more than 8 months straight without being on a break.
tonight i took his phone and looked through his facebook messages. was it invasive? yes it was. but i feel i have the right to know considering his past of flirting with girls online, hooking up with girls during our breaks from going out, etc.
in his messages i saw him encouraging girls to cheat. the girls see hes in a relationship, and they say no, but i am so hurt by this. i really think one day he will cheat on me..im so lost, i love him but i dont want to get hurt. he has promised me before he would stop but he hasnt! he lied to me also. he told me he stopped talking to this one girl, but they havent stopped. he wants to meet up with this girl! he doesnt drive, neither does his mom, and i just feel if he did drive he would dump me or cheat on me. any experiences like this? any advice? thank you (link)
Just end it , from the sounds of things , he's not pulling his weight in the relationship !


There's some rumours going around the internet that you can buy these contacts that makes your eyes look bigger or make them bigger.

Does anyone know if that's true? I've been trying to search the internet but couldn't find anything.

And to further show my question if you don't understand it, look at this girl's eyes:

http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=7oTj7Vt1l2I (link)
Her eyes look at if they are black in some pictures but blue in others...


EDIT ;;

Thanks for the rating of a 1 =] Sorry I was half asleep when I answered that question !


Does it feel good when someone fingers you? Because my boyfriend wants to, but I'm scared that it wont feel good or it will hurt. What about after if he's fingers are wet? What does he do? I feel like an idiot for asking, but I really wanna know.. (link)
1.My friend said it felt really good , but the guy was experianced.
2.My friend's boyfriend put his fingers in his mouth.


i want to get the song why don't you and i by nickelback on my profile
but they dont have it on their profile because its an older song

does anyone know how i can get it on my page?
with a code or something (i know there used to be a way before singingfish closed down)
thank you (link)
COPY AND PASTE




Okay my period is a bit..odd. I have had it for a year and a half now, so it should be regular right? well I do get it regularly but its just not every 28 days. It's about every 40 days really. I dont have any other symptoms or anything. Is this normal? I mean i never really skip a period, There is just a long time in between them. (link)
My friend has this problem , it's not bad , it just means your body is slow and your period only comes around 1 time in 2 cycles , so you're fine.
Theres nothing wrong with you .


13/f

thanks for a lot for the help. it sucks like hell. i seem to have all the symptoms except i havent thrown up though ive felt like it about 3 times. ive felt like this for the past 3 days as well. on top of it i have my period so i feel bloated and crampy.. ugh this winter vacation (after xmas) has totally sucked cuz of it. (link)
Dring LOTS of water , be really hot to sweat it out , it works for me


whats the big deal about cutting i cutt and i have never had medical problems what can happen whats at risk (link)
Bleeding to death, if you cut too deeply. If the tools your used weren't sterile, there is risk of infection. At the very least, you'll have ugly scars that won't get away.
Mentally...let's just say it would make your problems worse instead of better.

infection, iron deficiancy, bleeding to death....anything a peircing can do...only MUCH worse.

um, there's a few things. you can cut too deep and cause permanent nerve damage. another one is you can get an infection due to contaminated razors or whatever you use. those are just physical health risks. there's a lot of physiological health risks as well. essentially it holds you back in life. it becomes conditioned in your mind that you need it. you start to develop little ticks. your nerves drive you crazy until you get some relief. if you go to any SI site you'll see all the risks. if the person is going to cut, they need to be safe. they need to make sure they clean their blades and cuts. i use rubbing alcohol. just be safe.

*btw, i'm not saying that you should cut. i don't recommend it. it hasn't done anything positive for me. i'm just saying if you are already one to be safe! you can't make a cutter stop UNLESS they want to!


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16/ f

me and my girlfriends went to a waterpark for me and my best friend's combined birthday party, and we met a group of guys there. the guys go to the highschool in the town next to us. me and one guy got especially close, we exchanged numbers and even kissed eachother on the cheek. we've called eachother a couple of times since we parted, and talked on facebook, but we havn't seen eachother.

i casually mentioned to my parents that we met a group of guys that we might hang out with again, and i even told my mom that my friends all think i should date one guy in particular. i didn't tell them that we kissed.

the problem is, ill be getting my licence soon, (he already has his,) but i know my parents aren't going to let me drive over to his town (especially alone, as a new driver, in a strange town). or with anybody for that matter! i could lie and go over there when i said i went somwhere else, or i could invite him over to my house, but his parents might say the same thing to him. how are we ever going to see eachother again? how can i ask my parents to let me drive over there, when i know they'll say no? (if i ask them and they say no, they'll be suspicious always that im going over there, im afraid) if we could possibly start dating, should I even tell my parents? what should i do? HELP! (link)
Meet somewhere in the middle again
Go to a resturant or something near the waterpark.

Hope I helped

xoxo
Stephii ♥


can you get a tattoo at age 16 with a parents signature? (link)
WITH the signiture of a parent/gardian , [in Canada at least] you can at any age.
My friends brother got one at 11.


16/f

i can't stand my boyfriend anymore, we've only been dating a couple months and he is always telling me how much in love he is and how he never loved somebody as much as he loves me. he made me meet his entire family, church members, friends, etc. and always tricks me into going to his grandma's house so i can become "friends" with his grandparents. and for christmas he got me a bracelet that has an engraving of "i Love you more than anything"... i just got him a blanket? again, we've only been dating about a month and a half!!! This is moving WAY too fast for me and i told him that he just got mad and ignored me.

second thing, we never do ANYTHING physical,not even a peck on the cheek. I don't really find him attractive but i didn't think that was an issue because i loved his personality, but it makes it difficult to be physical and im growing tired of his dirty jokes. He is so awkward about everything, he has to announce when he is going to put his arm around me or try to kiss me it makes me really turned off.

i want to break up so badly, because im really tired of all this, but the thing is he gets so moody about things. Before when i tried to break up with him he said "this isn't going to happen again." and it really freaked me out. Now i have his entire family, friends, and church members breathing down my neck if i want to break up with him he's going to make it so chaotic!

i guess my question is, how can i break up with him in a way that i can make him feel good about it, or at least not make him upset?
what should i say?
(link)
Be 10x more annoying ...
Then He'll dump you
Problem solved

Hope I helped
xoxo
Stephii


I'm 15 and I usually don't wear any makeup but when I do I only wear some eyeliner and mascara. I wanna get more though. What kinds of stuff should I buy? i was in sephora yesterday and there's so much nice stuff but I don't know what to get. I would like it if I could get some advice from girls about my age b/c I want to wear what's in style and nothing too crazy. I have dark brown hair, blue eyes, and a light complexion. If you could just give me some tips and tell me what you do and what brands to get, that would be great! Pictures would be nice too. (link)
Okay really ,

Make up was ment for hiding flaws & all that.You want to do your mascara & eyeliner as well as a flesh / beige colour eye shadow and a rosey blush.Cover up and lip gloss , if you want.
Maybe mix some brown / natural colours in with your eye shadow.

Some good brands are Cover Girl , Maybaleen[sp?] , or anything along those lines ... They are also not so expensive.

Also , if you're looking for a more out there look or a more teen colours look type thing , try a deep purple or pink and a clear gloss with some red toned blush. and a coloured eyeliner or mascara.

Hope I helped !
xoxo
Stephiiiii ♥


only answer this if you like stuff like boys like girls, wtk, powerspace, yellowcard, etc. not top 40 stuff. or rap.

thanks :] (link)
Okay well ;;

Creed - Faceless man
Fall out Boy - Thanks for the Memories
Nickelback - If everyone cared
Our Lady Peace

Hope I could help :]
Stephiiii ♥


I'm 16, and my home life is good. i'm fed, clothed and sheltered etc.

but my parents make me feel absolutely miserable. i've spent some time on my own before, and i am more productive without them there.

I dont view myself mentally as 16--certain events in my life caused me to grow up too fast i think. (i have no friends my age) I'm almost 17.

When I'm at home i feel depressed. and I want to move out badly.
It might take a while- until i can reach financial independence, and pay my parents back for my car-- but if my parents say no to me moving out- i think im going to go crazy. im already going crazy here.
I know that if i move out- and move in with my boyfriend (which we've wanted to do for some time now) it'll be rough. and im willing to accept the hard times ahead. it'll certainly be better than what i have now with my parents. we dont connect at all. we've tried for at least 10 years. im more productive when im on my own- examples-- my schoolwork i can do when im alone, my music i only do when my parents aren't home.

if my parents dont let me move out, i want to try and bring it up in court for emancipation (once im financially ready to support myself)

if i did bring this situation up in court, do you think i would get emancipation? what good claims do i need for emancipation, and will anything above help towards the case on my side? (link)
I'm only 13 but still I've read a lot about it .
I know what I'm talking about
Okay well the KEY to being able to be emanipated is somewhere to go , where are you planning on living ? If your boyfriend will beable to ... [when you're both finacially ready ] have him rant an apartment if thats what you guys want , or if you're moving in with his family bring that up in court .

Make sure you expand on how mature you are and how you are finachaly stablee
Hope I helped , Hope all goes well


I am having dicharge and my stomach hurts (cramps) should I be carrying around pads just incase? im 12. (link)
Yes . I think you should .
How long has the discharge been happening ?
if more than a year it's deffinitlly coming .
I had mine for about or a little over a year .
So yes carry pads =]
Also , use google to serch about it , it helped me A LOT and I was more knolegeable than all my friends .
so inbox me with any other questions or concerns =]
xoxo
Stephii


I couldn't really pick a category that fit my question very well. Anyway, here it goes: (Bear with me, it will be long.)

I found out about four months ago that I am pregnant. At the time, I was just 15 but I am 16 now. My mom is fine about it, because she and I are very close and she understands me. My dad was upset, but he is better now. My boyfriend is 19 years old. He wants to be fully involved in the baby's life as well as mine.
The main problem is that my dad (Whom I live with; my parents are divorced) is very controlling. He barely even lets me see my boyfriend, and even insists that the baby's last name isn't after the father. I think this entirely unfair.
Anyway, the question is this: My baby is due in May and my boyfriend and I want to live together... We want to have our own apartment, just him, the baby and me. This could be done; he has a good job and I am going to finish school even after the baby is born.
Being that I am a minor, I don't know how I can do this. I want to leave and be with my boyfriend and baby once the baby is born. I know that I am legally considered an adult if we were to be married, but I am too young, aren't I? Is there any way I can move in with my boyfriend? My mom would give me consent, but I highly doubt my dad would. Please help. (link)
Why don't you see if you and your boyfriend could move in with your mom ? I think I'd do that !

Hope I helped !
xoxo
Stephii


My boyfriend fingers me and nothnig ever happened before. Now, I'm itchy and red. This never happened before. what does it mean? I know it's not and STD. help (link)
His hands might have been dirty or he could have gone too hard ... give it a few days and if it doesn't heal either try and over the counter cream or ointment or go to the doctor .

Hope I helped !

xoxo
Stephii


First of all, I like guys...a lot. I have a boyfriend who I really like.

But I'm really comfortable with girls too. I mean I'll go to a club and dirty dance with girls. I have no problem with girls sitting on my lap or anything. I've kissed a few girls too, just for fun I guess, I was out partying with friends. And I'm totally okay with all of this. I guess I'm a bit bi-curious, but I'm definetly straight.

Is there a word for that? (link)
you said it yourself ... bi-curious , or just coforatablly cuious ? lol

Hope I helped !

xoxo
Stephii


I'm fifteen and when I'm on my period I usually use pads, but I want to start using tampons. What's a good brand to start off with? For sports also? Because I'm pretty active...

Also tips to putting them in? No websites please, they really don't help. I've only tried putting one in once and it hurt like hell. (link)
The first kind I used were Tampax regular cradboard applacators and I play loaddds of sports and love to be active ... plus I'm 13 .

To try to put it in ... relax and use one hand to like open it all the way...look down and you'll see like this hole thing but its not open and just slide it in there .

Hope I helped ! Inbox me with anyother questions !

xoxo
Stephii




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