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I am 16 and pregnant.
I couldn't really pick a category that fit my question very well. Anyway, here it goes: (Bear with me, it will be long.)
I found out about four months ago that I am pregnant. At the time, I was just 15 but I am 16 now. My mom is fine about it, because she and I are very close and she understands me. My dad was upset, but he is better now. My boyfriend is 19 years old. He wants to be fully involved in the baby's life as well as mine.
The main problem is that my dad (Whom I live with; my parents are divorced) is very controlling. He barely even lets me see my boyfriend, and even insists that the baby's last name isn't after the father. I think this entirely unfair.
Anyway, the question is this: My baby is due in May and my boyfriend and I want to live together... We want to have our own apartment, just him, the baby and me. This could be done; he has a good job and I am going to finish school even after the baby is born.
Being that I am a minor, I don't know how I can do this. I want to leave and be with my boyfriend and baby once the baby is born. I know that I am legally considered an adult if we were to be married, but I am too young, aren't I? Is there any way I can move in with my boyfriend? My mom would give me consent, but I highly doubt my dad would. Please help.
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Have the boyfriend get an apartment. You can then get emancipated easily. Having a place to go is the key.
Hubby and I were on our own at 16/17 and we were considered adults since we were married. You can check with city hall, or wherever you get marriage licenses, but I think one parents ok is all that is needed for you to get married.
Married, living together or not, when the baby is born and they bring you that birth certificate
information thing to fill out, you are the one that does that. You can give him the fathers last name. That decision is yours.
If you plan a future with your guy, I advise you to use his last name on the birth certificate.
If you don't, it will cost you lawyers big giant fees to change it later.
I did get married, but whatever you decide...been there done that. Feel free to email me. Address is on my column. Just put advicenators in subject line so I know its not junk mail. :)
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Why don't you see if you and your boyfriend could move in with your mom ? I think I'd do that !
Hope I helped !
xoxo
Stephii <3
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Ok.. this is very simple and easy to answer but its a hard answer to hear. I was in pretty much almost the same situation as you are in but its a little bit different. Babies are real hard to handle just you and your boyfriend you need someone with you that actually knows what there doing. Dont mean to sound rude or anything. But to get right down to it hun your answers are this: Being that you are a minor it is your parents responsibility till you are 18 to take care of you, i mean you can move out but if they call the cops or for some un known reason want you back they have the power to pull you back. Also emancipation only works if you can support yourself.. and if it is terrible such as beatings and such going on with your parent. Also for your final question you have to legally be 18 to get married without parental consent the hard thing is even though your parents are split up they both have to give consent. Its very weird how the law works.. when i was 16 with my son my parents told me i could move out and they called the cops after i did and told them to bring me back just because they wanted me to. Emanciption most states forget about that all together because most got rid of it. But laws are also different in different states itsa confusing process. I hope iv helped a little bit if you have any questions feel free to write back, and id love to hear how your situation turns out keep in touch..
Short N Punky
PS. congrats on the pregnancy
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Incase you didn't know already, Ygsgirl is very smart, and I have yet to find an instance where she's been wrong. Listen to what she has to say. :]
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You need to ask your mom to research this for you.
You may possibly be able to get married by parental consent if your mom signs for it. That is something she would have to look into.
16 isn't too young for parental consent marriage, but that is something she can find out for certain in her research.
Other than that, there is emancipation.
Maybe this site will have answers to your questions about that, considering I don't know what state you live in:
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The father of your baby has every right to be a part of it's life. It is for the best that you be allowed to provide a home for your child, run by it's father and mother.
You are right in wanting your child to be brought into a co-parent family.
ygs-29/f
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