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moving out
I'm 16, and my home life is good. i'm fed, clothed and sheltered etc.
but my parents make me feel absolutely miserable. i've spent some time on my own before, and i am more productive without them there.
I dont view myself mentally as 16--certain events in my life caused me to grow up too fast i think. (i have no friends my age) I'm almost 17.
When I'm at home i feel depressed. and I want to move out badly.
It might take a while- until i can reach financial independence, and pay my parents back for my car-- but if my parents say no to me moving out- i think im going to go crazy. im already going crazy here.
I know that if i move out- and move in with my boyfriend (which we've wanted to do for some time now) it'll be rough. and im willing to accept the hard times ahead. it'll certainly be better than what i have now with my parents. we dont connect at all. we've tried for at least 10 years. im more productive when im on my own- examples-- my schoolwork i can do when im alone, my music i only do when my parents aren't home.
if my parents dont let me move out, i want to try and bring it up in court for emancipation (once im financially ready to support myself)
if i did bring this situation up in court, do you think i would get emancipation? what good claims do i need for emancipation, and will anything above help towards the case on my side?
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I'm only 13 but still I've read a lot about it .
I know what I'm talking about
Okay well the KEY to being able to be emanipated is somewhere to go , where are you planning on living ? If your boyfriend will beable to ... [when you're both finacially ready ] have him rant an apartment if thats what you guys want , or if you're moving in with his family bring that up in court .
Make sure you expand on how mature you are and how you are finachaly stablee
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Stephii
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EDIT: You response is sadly perfect proof, that like many deeply intelligent people, you are also suffering from a deep-seated mental illness. Please, continue your counseling and your medications. I wish you only the best. You have a lot of hard work ahead of you, whatever your chioces. Please take care of yourself.
Emancipation is a legal tool for young people who need to *protected* from the legal decisions of their parents. Typically, because their parents are refusing them medical treatment the teen feels they need, are using their name for unethical finical dealings, or are being abused in some way.
You don't mention abuse. What it sounds like you are talking about is very serious personality conflicts and enjoying being without them rather then with them. I have to be honest love, I have eight siblings and when each and every one of us was 16 we would have much rather listened to our music, danced, eaten, done our homework, without our parents in our space. Yes, your case might be significantly worse, but what you describing is certainly not unique to only you.
If your parents are not abusing you, what you thinking about when you ask about emancipation is trying to insult them. If there is no legal reason for emancipation, then what you are trying to do is 'stick it to them' and get back at them. That is mean, unnecessary and ruins any chance you might have of having a civil relationship with them ever in your life.
My other argument is a realistic one. When will you prepared to be emancipated? By that I mean, when will you be prepared to live on your own and support yourself? You are almost seventeen, when you turn eighteen you are own legal adult and may move out whenever you choose. Do you really think you will be able to support yourself with in the next year? Do you intend to drop out of school in order to do so? Because the courts wont like that and wont emancipate you if you canâ??t prove abuse or danger AND plan on dropping out of school to support yourself.
Frankly, no. I don't think you'll be able to emancipated and I doubt seriously that it would be the best course of action for you. Even though you don't 'feel' sixteen, you are sixteen, and that involves a certain legal arrangement (ie, living your with your parents).
Have you considered therapy? You sound, honestly, quite depressed, and if you truly want to approach the conversation with your parents about moving out, you could seriously use some professionally guidance with that. Being ready to accept the consequences of your choices ALSO means making those choices with the most support and information available to you.
Rather than telling your parents you want to move out, may I suggest you say this: "I am unhappy and stressed out in this house. I feel like we don't connect and makes me miserable and ineffective. I want to learn how to deal with this and I feel like I need support that I can't ask you guys for. I'd like to talk to a family counselor. I hope that you'll be supportive about this and help me, because I really need to the help. I can't go on living this way."
Try it out. Please. Emancipation, and even moving out, might be extreme and unnecessary solutions. You owe it yourself, and to your parents, to take the correct steps in dealing with a problem. If you are at a loss in communicating with them, the next course is not getting the courts involved; it's getting a trained mediator and counselor involved.
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