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I reeaaalyyy need help (this might be long)
Okay, well my friend "Michelle"-she has been babysitting for about 2 years now for these 3 kids. The father of the three kids is hitting on Michelle. He has pulled her bra strap, told her she should get something (aka her "chest" pierced..), and when michelle had her sweatpants on, one of the girls were hanging onto her leg and she was puuling them down and she wouldnt let go and then the fatehr was like u could let her pull them down, and the dad said they should "hook up sometime"...(the list can keep going!) Now, the thing is he's a cop. i've told michelle to tell someone-her mom, the mother of the children--SOMEBODY. She refuses to, necause she loves the kids and she gets good money. What should I tell michelle to do?
Thanks in advance...
-Jam
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Dear Jam! wow your friend is not smart why would you pick money over yourself..? He may be just kidding around or hes really serious which is really creepy. Just think of how much money she would get from a lawsuit! Yeah a ton since hes a cop, you have to sit her down and tell her that this guy is a perv and I wouldnt let my best friend babysit over someones house with a father like that. Or if she wont tell her mom then you be the good friend and tell her, seriously. Or mabye he is just drunk when he says those things probaley not though cuz he is a cop but tell her!!
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hey,
I think your friend should confront the dad himself and tell him that she will not tolerate what he is doing, and if he does she is going to tell someone or not babysit for him anymore. If he doesnt stop then I think, as a friend, you should tell someone. She might be mad at first, but true friends know what is best for their friend, even when they dont.(if that makes any sence) Tell her mom, or call up the family she babysits for and have a talk w/the wife of this guy. But, if you dont want to do this, and your friend doesnt want to comfront the guy, she really should just stop sitting for them. She will probably be able to find another family, where the environment is much better. Hope i helped!
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If she is dead set on not telling anyone, then I would advise her to confront the father about his behaviour because it may be that he is unaware that he is making your friend uncomfortable or being inappropriate. I suggest your friend finds a time when it is okay to speak to him (i.e not when his kids or partner is around) and tell him shortly and sharply that she does not like the way he acts around her and that she will tell someone if he doesn't stop (this doesn't have to be true, but it will most likely shock him out of doing it if he thinks that there is a risk that he will get into trouble).
If things continue and she won't/can't tell anyone, then for her safety YOU need to tell someone for her. She might be angry with you to begin with, but she should come to understand that you did it for her benefit.
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