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Life is an adventure but Life doesn't come with user manuals for everything. School subjects do little to prepare us. Its no wonder we all need helpful advice sometimes. Blessings to you!
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I (24/f) have had a few serious relationships in my life, and they have been great - for the most part. I am in one right now with an amazing guy that I can see a future with. The problem is, I am always insecure, though I've hid it well with all my relationships including this one. If I don't get a text/call for hours, I get worried or suspicious. If my current bf is out and girls will be there, I get myself all worked up, feel sick to my stomach and it's all I think about. It's driving me insane, because I've never been cheated on/betrayed (to my knowledge) and have no reason not to trust my bf. I'm terrified I won't be able to hide it much longer, and it will ruin a wonderful relationship. How can I fix this? I'm exhausted from being so insecure.
You are subconsciously trying to find your security in external things, things outside of yourself. Works the same with joy and happiness.
Those who go looking for happiness by purchasing things they think will make them happy, doesn't work for long.
Your conscious self knows he is an amazing guy and that it is irrational for you to feel this way. So this is more about what is prompting your subconscious which is also your inner child to feel she doesnt measure up? Can you think of any occurances from childhood not related to dating that made her feel insecure or unloved or special. Maybe something as simple as loving parents who didn't show the kind of love that really reached and satisfied that need inside you...there is a book about love language. When I started communicating with my subconscious...while wide awake, I got answers from her pop into my head.
Whatever you discover it to be,
you can deal with your sub much the way you would with a child who watched a scary movie only once but now is always afraid every night that there is something scary under the bed or in
the closet. Looking under the bed doesnt help to erase fears because the childs fears are in the mind...So the solution is to enlist the mind in creating a positive thing to focus on instead. For the child, it visualizes an angel or favorite superhero hanging out under the bed and another in the closet so that nothing scary can lurk there The child now is no longer afraid.
You can do the same. You'll need to use your imagination because you're dealing with ungrounded fears from your inner child about your attractiveness as a woman.
I will tell a piece of my story to try to encourage you:
I gained some(but not all) of my confidence attending nudist clubs. When guys can see all these women, all these bodies, you learn very quickly that they don't stare and are not obsessed with the female body as men who do not attend nudist events regularly. This is when you get to witness that some men prefer a personality trait more than looks. Some guys are attracted to woman way older than themselves, or overweight. So it isn't about outer beauty that we see in the modeling world. Not every guy is after a young, skinny curvy body with big boobs. Once you can realize that, like me, you will see that he indeed loves you for who you are or he wouldn't be with you. 99.9% of us women do not look like models. If you get a chance, study, I mean really study photos of some of the famous actresses without their makeup on and their hair done up. I remember seeing some in magazine or on the net. And do you know what I realized, they weren't any prettier than me in real life. In fact, some had noses that were too long or narrow for my taste, but it never shows in the movies, too wide a mouth, more wrinkles than me. And I realized that I am as pretty as if not more so than the famous women. Pretty salon styled hair doesn't count for a man is he can't come home and delve his hands into his womans hair for a passionate kiss. Some of those showcase beauties don't want their hair touched. They aren't even real.
I hope this helps you
so i have a friend who liked this guy and one of my other friends ended up dating him but now they broke up and my friend stills like him and she wants to start talking to him again. does this go against a girl code? i dont know what to tell her?
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This seems to be a big question from many young girls. I wonder why? Are the young girls of today making pacts and promises to each other to never consecutively (meaning:following one another) date the same guy? For what reason is there doubt that it could be wrong? The only way to find out if you have enough things in common and have some chemistry with a person id to meet them and date them. Once you get to be older, if you've learned how to spot what you are looking for you won't necessarily have to go through the dating stage to know if a guy is a good prospect for you or not. When we are young, that is our time to learn things about relationships with the opposite sex, dating, sex, what characteristics we like in another person or not. How can you do so if a girlfriend gets upsets and doesnt want you to date a guy she did. It doesnt reflect bad on her or him, they just weren't the best match for each other. If a girlfriend demands that a friend not date her ex boyfriend, then theres something seriously wrong with her and you may want to think twice about limiting the amount of time you spend with someone like that if she won't listen to a friend trying to reason with her. Being open and discussing things helps lots in diffusing awkward situations. Always keep in mind that our bodies mature faster than our brains. Our brains don't catch up until into our twenties. So hormobe driven teens want to date and have sex but don't the brains, logical, thinking coping skills to handle situations maturely.
Your asking for help is a good step. Eventually your mind will have matured to a point where you don't need to reach out for advice cus your brain caught up! :) I have been promoting a very informative you tube site on Sex and dating and more. It's done by a yung gal in her 20's. Lacigreen. I highly advice looking her up. She has 156 video's so far and takes many different subjects and tackles them in 3-4 minutes all with teens in mind but she's getting quite a following of older people too. My own adult sister just learned something from her she did not know about how to cleaning genitals for women. It is not corny and shouldn't be overlooked just because I am an older person suggestinG it. Please give Lacigreen a look. She's on facebook and twitter also. But the videos are whats really important to learn from.
What's the best way to clean a fridge, and what kind of cleaning products do you need?
Every article I see says to unplug it first and then take out shelves.
I live in an apartment and the plug is not within reach because the fridge is right by the next appliance. Also, the shelves do not come out.
Thank you!
I understand the part of not being able to unplug and have been in same situation so I just clean with it still plugged in.
Mostly fridge shelves are made to be stable and are tight fits but should be adjustable to heights needed. It may be that they need to be forced a little to pop out of their holdings. The bottom drawers and the shelves they hang from also should be removeable. Just get down close and study it. You may see exactly how to angle it to remove or see an obstruction.
Once I could not remove a bottom drawer when cleaning a clients house and it was because the setting was too cold and ice had formed on the tracks so the ice had to be chipped away carefully as they had no hair dryer to melt it with.
I dont like to use chemicals for cleaning where food will be stored. So look up how to use natural cleaning products on line and the amounts to use. Vinegar, lemon juice and baking soda will go a long way to cleaning tough dirty jobs. They are inexpensive. Just buy an empty sprayer bottle to put a water vinegar mix in and spray it liberally on any stuck on food drips in fridge and let it sit to help soften it up. Use the scratchy teflon pads plus baking soda to get it sparkly clean. And the vinegar smell will dissapate in time.
I am 14/f. I am totally depressed on the matter of not getting friends In school. In my earlier school people used to think I am weird and some rude ones even said it on my face. They used to gossip about me but my mom soon changed my school and I was so happy for it. In my new school, I expected friends but here also people kind of at times ignore me and gossip about me. I can feel the hate about me in some people's faces and I really feel bad about it. I am the kind of person who likes having a lot of fun and friends but unfortunately I never get them. I have like only 3 friends outside but not in school. There is only one girl who actually talks to me but just to use me to do her work. I always try to talk and get in conversations but no one talks too me really. I feels so alone and hopeless. I really want friends but don't know how?? And this is the second time I am going thought this so I hate school but I have this question in mind: why don't I get friends in school??
I really want to talk to some one nice about this and get good advice. It would be nice if someone gave me!!
Hon its really hard to know what you may be doing that turns off people towards you since you say its happening in a new school now.
I am curious about Mom. This makes me think you made her aware of the situation so she changed schools for you. She obviously loves and cares much about what you are going through.
Maybe Mom though is too close to you, having raised you and being with you day after day to not notice behavior that might put off people from approaching you because to her, it is normal since you've always been that way.
You mention always trying to talk to others so it can't be shyness that is the problem. If the 3 friends don't like to be seen in school with you but really truly like you otherwise, I'd say its time to find out what is going on and if it is something you can change or not.
You might mention to Mom that you have the same problems at the next school so you are wondering if there's something you are not aware you're doing that makes people avoid you. See what she has to say. If she hasn't a clue, its a good idea to get mom on board about see a school counselor and/or school psychologist. They need to know this happened before at the previous school and is now happening again. You just want to be tested to rule out that it isnt something you are doing. If they do discover a behavioral syndrome that does affect socializing, it won't go away as you grow up and must be addressed. One example that comes to mind is Aspergers syndrome. I did not learn what it was until somewhere in the last 5 years. Looking back, I had a friend in high school who was like that. She didn't have all the characteristics of aspergers but a big one was the "talking at me" rather than conversing with me.
If they find nothing wrong with you, great, its just a matter of waiting for the school kids to grow up. But if knowledge helps you to better understand and know what to do that helps, its worth it.
Sweetie, look at Aspergers on line. It is relatively unknown yet in many circles. The reason why is that people with Aspergers syndrome can easily blend in to society and don't stand out until they try to converse with people. If its not that and something similar, just knowing how to work with and around whatever it is,
will help you lots in having a more normal social life.
To instill hope in you: I know an adult woman who knows she has Aspergers. She recently went back to school to get a counseling degree and she is one on a team of counselors at one of the local mental health agencies. Good luck.!
For the last few months, I have been reading various articles on etiquettes. Obviously, I have tried to employ them in my life. I have tried to make my family adopt them too. I would like to ask, are those etiquettes to be followed in my own house too. For example, it is mannerless to sit in an awkward position with one leg on the sofa and other one on the floor. But, should I overlook the etiquette at home because I would like to relax. Will I be cheating myself ?
Here's what I know etiquette to be: a code of behavior that delineates expectations for the societal norms, ethnic background norms or group norms. Societal norms affect a larger group in which there will be 'sub groups. '
We can only really change ourselves or choose to adopt a new belief or lifestyle ourselves. You can not force family or friends to see things your way, not in etiquette, beliefs, lifestyle choices.
The ways people were raised and societal or ethnic norms will likely stick with them for life. Younger generations don't always see things the same way and their way isn't necessarily bad, just different.
When you invite people into your home, you are allowed to have some reasonable house rules.
But Learn to not make an issue of things that don't really matter. If you have a house rule that people must remove their outdoor shoes, that is reasonable. Make sure there is a place where they can sit to remove their shoes. You might also offer a container of clean bootie-socks for people to wear so their feet don't become too cold. If you have wood furniture with a nice finish, you can expect visiting family and guests to use coasters. Whatever you feel is okay for yourself should be for anyone else in your home such as your example of how one is seated. The "Do as I say, not as I Do," attitude will ensure that you don't have many friends or family who want to associate with you because you expect something from them that you make yourself exempt from.
This does not apply to something like its okay for you to open your fridge to get something but if a house guest were to go help themselves to something in your fridge without asking, that is rude and bad manners. Societal etiquette has trained people that one does not do things like that when at someone elses home. That is a given and should not have to be a rule that you state, for it is a societal etiquette. If after reminders someone continues to disregard your house rules, then you can tell them they will not be welcome at your home again until they can change their behavior.
Hi....* so I really like this guy... And we visit their farm often coz... My uncle live on their farm.... He's really sexy! * Taned body!* * choclate brown hair...* * 6-pack and beatifull eyes!* he kinda sorta know I like him and I don't know if he like me 2!* he touched me once. I really wanna have sex with him...* but I want to show him trough body language? Any help plzzZ?
Just because someone looks at you a lot doesnt mean that they like you. It's a possible indicator but it's not enough information. I had someone stare at me like that. Ends up once I start conversation with the guy, he was staring because I looking like a body double for his cousin. It wasn't cus he wanted to date me. Another time, I was being stared at by a nerdy ugly guy at friends church, he finally told me he liked the song I played on guitar and would like to play guitar with me. I assumed he was just looking for a friend. I could handle him as a friend but I was not attracted to him sexually. Long story short, he took me to his house but parents were gone and he made sexual moves for me. I was angry because he had not been upfront with me letting me know that he found me sexually attractive and wanted to do it with me.
You will need to learn how to communicate well with people, especially guys so there is no assumimg or guessing what they are thinking or planning and to what degree they have interest in you. Guys can and will have female friends but not want to have sex with them. It doesn't mean they are gay. Some guys make friends easier with females even if they're straight and some females like myself make friends easier with guys.
You can't know any of this unless you talk to him. If you can't even do that, you aren't ready to have sex. Why? Because the sexual act between two consenting people involves talking. Movies don't show that very well. You need to be letting him know if something is painful, or pleasurable..."keep doing the same thing, don;t change" Or here's an example of him needing to communicate, You are giving a blow job. Each guy is different in what he likes that makes a bj work for him. YOU are not supposed to be left guessing what to do. He needs to be able to say things like "Thats great. Could you do that again, the flicking back and forth of your tongue? That drives me wild." Once you have become lovers and are very familiar with each other, then you can use body language to tell him you want him. But not now!
Hi.
So I used to have a good group of friends. But I don't really fit in with them now. I tried to get rid of them but just became a loner. Now I'm with them again, and they are the same way. They used to always ask me for advice and they still do. But when I am having big problems they just don't care! I'm very shy (I don't talk in a lot of classes), sarcastic, and a bit socially awkward because of my shyness, even though I am very kind. How can I make new friends and actually be happy at school?
I used to be so shy I wouldn't get up to use the pencil sharpener because I didn't want the other kids to stare at me. I refused to do book reports for fear of speaking in front of the class. So my grades would suffer. It took until I was about 16 before I decided I was sick and tired of being so shy. I didn't have the guts to just switch behavior and start talking so I prayed and asked God for help and here's the answers I got. It sure helped me and I know it will help you. You can skip any steps you already have mastered.
None of this involves using people you already know because you already have some comfort level there
1. Smile at strangers every day as you come across them. When you are comfortable with this move on to step 2
2. Smile and add saying hello to people you don't know. This is already harder because your mind will be going, "They're gonna think I'm nuts cus I am saying hi and they dont even know me." When you can do this without feeling shy, move to step 3
3. Smile and say hi to and then pay a compliment to another person you don't know. It could be telling the grocery clerk you love her necklace. Keep paying compliments to people until you can do so without being fearful of their reaction or simply the act of doing it.
4. Smile, say Hi, and start a conversation with a stranger. Here's an example. When I'd be at a clothing rack and another woman was there...no matter her age, I would make a comment to her about the clothing. I'd pulling off the rack something that looks absolutely hideous and showing it to her, "Look at this. Can you imagine people wanting to wear this. It would make them look like a......" Or "Even though I am small, I have a hard time finding things in my size, do you have the same problems? Keep trying like to get responses from a person. If they don't open up and start responding and sharing some of their story or thoughts then they are part of the 10 % of people who are hermit like and don't like being around people or talking to them. I took a class that taught about personality types and discovered that 90% of people are very friendly but will not start conversation first. If you can learn to start conversation first, in every situation, you will find that the majority of people respond in a very friendly way. They won't find the fact that you start talking too weird. Once they figure you're a naturally friendly person you will see them willingly respond back and share bits and pieces of information and such.
I was trying to pick ripe but not over ripe melon one time when an older woman was tapping and listening to the melons. I asked what she was doing and she explained that there is a certain sound it makes so I learned something. Later we bump into each other in another aisle, and I say, "Well Hello again!" Her response, "Hello again. Do you use coupons?" "Sometimes." "Do you buy this product," she shows me something in her cart, "Yes I do." "Well I happen to have a coupon for a great deal on it if you'd like," and without waiting for my response reaches into pocket and hands it to me. You'd be amazed at the conversation you could have with people and be able to share helpful info with them or vice versa. And sometimes in the conversing you may find people who you have some things in common with and you decide to keep in touch with and exchange cell numbers and /or get their name for facebook friending.
This should help you.
This is a question of what you think of my craziness. Everyone is insanne, because we all see different things from the same things. Our ears turn noise into something comprehensible. Maybe, what each of us hear from the same thing is different. Same for seeing. In turn, what I hear or see happening is based on what I think I said or did. So, in a way, we are all living in our own little fantasy. There's no way for me to even know your real opinion, because you could think I'm saying something totally different than I am. I just see the words, and, from what my brain says I typed, I interpret what anyone would say back. So in a way, we are all completely alone. By the way, I'm 13, so excuse my oddness for being a teenager, and hormones, or whatever people say. I don't see why knowing that I'm a girl would help you in telling you my thoughts, but who knows, right?
I think I am following you. Our brain plays crazy games with us. Sometimes we've kind of programmed it to run only certain programs like a computer.
So let's get to it.
There's a boy in some of my classes who constantly flirts with me and I kinda like it :)
We've been friends for a long time and we sometimes play around. Like I slap his butt sometimes and he pits his hand on my leg and rubs it :D I'm starting to fall in love with him and he feels the same with me. He's rubbed my lists through my toga pants before, and I've grabbed his dick through his pants. We're hanging out later this week at his house alone and we'll probably end up having sex. Any tips that 15 year old guy like? I'm kinda scared that anal is going to hurt but I want to please him and let him do it. Thanks :)
OMG girl you have the totally wrong attitude here. At your age or even at my age in my 50's, sex should always be a mutually satisfying event with neither one pushing the other to do anything they are uncomfortable with. Yes we like to please our partners but boys need to learn that women come first...if a boy learns to do it right, you have full trust in each other gals can have multiple orgasms eventually...not so sure it will happen the first time. But a guy need to make sure the gal is fully satisfied before he goes for his orgasm.
If you're already scared about anal you will be then too and that means you'll be tightening your muscles and I guarantee it will hurt. For anal to work, you'd have to learn how to relax your spincter muscle and have him willing to go ever so slowly like move a half inch which will sting but not too bad as long as he hold that position until you say ok to move another 1/2 inch in and so on until he's all the way. If this is what you plan to do for sex so you don't get pregnant, it may not be the most enjoyable thing for you. Your first time having sex should be a wonderful memorable event. I can't tell you exactly what your guy will like, each one is different, I have had opportunity with quite a few different guys. What one likes for oral sex is ok but not the best for another.
Its great that you both are attracted to each other. What is missing though is that the two of you have not talked everything out ahead so, before you try the next thing...talk. If one or both of you haven't done it before, ask each other how this or that feels. It okay to not know..cus everyone has to start somewhere.. You don;t have to rush to fit in every little experience all in the first time. You might want to check out Lacigreen on you tube. Her channel called sex + and covers relationships too. Later, perhaps you can get your guy to watch it too if he really wants to learn everything there is to know about girls sexually so he can be a great lover. OH one more thing about guys, they like being touched as much as you do, your hands in his hair, kisses everywhere on his body, running your fingers over his skin on his chest and stomach for example or use a soft clothe to run over his skin or if you have long hair, that will give the ticklish sensation as you swish it over him. Guys love to have their genitals touched and you have shown no problem with that. Just cradle him in your hands for a bit while you rest and talk before going for it again.
Good luck!!
I'm 13, and social situations are hard for me. My mom wanted me to be more involved, so I joined art club. I like drawing well enough, and I made a few friends, the majority of which are boys, all of which are a grade below me. I read often, and care little what others think of me, so when one of my friends expressed interest in me, it wasn't easy for me to ignore. I thought he might actually really like me, but he was, to say the least, very sexual. Art club is only once a week, but when he asked me out after five weeks, it was as though I couldn't say no. I almost wanted to, but I said yes. My others friends didn't like him, but I was momentarily blinded. For the last three weeks or so, he's been touching my leg, higher and higher up, and I want to tell him to quit, but it's like I'm not able to say anything. To be honest, I like it, but I also hate it. Still being honest-while I'm with him, I'd probably do whatever he wants. I may be really young, but we're all human, and a lot of the good feelings I have when he touches me are sexual. I want to tell him to stop, that I'm not his girlfriend anymore, to stop winking and saying he loves me. But speaking has never been my strong spot. I can write this and say what I want, but trying to say them, well, it never sounds right. My sister hates him, says he flirts with every girl, all the time, and I don't know if she's lying this time. The stuff he says, it's really inappropriate, and I wish I said I didn't want to go out with him. My question? I am not sure. Possibly: What's wrong with me? What should I do? What should I say? What color are bananas? Ignore that last one.
You are fighting yourself on this. Your conscious self or awake self wants to experience sex because it feels good but your sub conscious or inner child is afraid and doesnt want to be hurt. She wants the sexual experience to be with some one who cares for her for more than just her body. Your conscious self is ignoring that fact.
To be direct, this guy has targeted you. He didn't ask you because he thought you were a very special person or for your looks or because he's in love with you...he chose you because he is a predator, yes at his young age...somehow he has learned to observe who the weak females are who have no fight in them and can't stand up for themselves because they will be the ones easiest to have sex with and gratify his sexual needs. He is NOT at his age going to care about making it pleasurable for you, in fact it's highly unlikely at his age that he has a f**king clue. If your friends and sister don't like him...there's something very wrong about him. Women have great intuition and it sounds like theirs is starting to work. He's looking for someone easy to control. Don't stay with him. Don't let him have what he wants and don't let him control you. Do you know that one out of every 4 girls who gets into a relationship with a guy gets beat up by them? Not saying he's capable but there is a chance of that. If you can't find some back bone to say no then you are going to end up a very miserable young lady.
Kids are having sex at younger and younger ages where their minds haven't developed enough to be able to make good decisions yet. Your mind wont get there until into your twenties. I know its unfair and thats why you're having trouble with knowing how to deal with this. You might enjoy a site that attracts teens and young adults on you tube. Its about sex and dating and more. Every possible question you can come up with, likely is covered there. Very informative and the gal who runs the channel is a lively perky young lady named Lacigreen. Look for her. I know adults who are learning things from her. Please check her out, tell your girl friends about her. I have never been so into promoting anything or anyone but this one is definitely worth it.
I hope everything turns out ok for you
I've liked his guy for 4 years now. We were always friends but not close friends. This year has probably been the closest we've ever been. But last year we almost dated but his ex got in the way. And this year I told him that we need to talk about us. He told me that he just wants to be friends. And I was just wondering, is there any way I can make a guy like me? If so, how?
I believe you are able to answer that question on your own and already know the answer. But just for fun, lets reverse the situation. Let's pretend there is a guy (not your guy, some other guy) who has liked you for quite some time. You know because people have told you and he has tried talking to you but he is really shy and stammers a lot, and acts real nervous and is clumsy and dresses like and looks like a nerd. Because you're polite, you've been nice and talked to him, he's gotten braver and asked you out but you said you just want to be friends. He is now asking everyone if they can show him how he can make you like him? Next, he asks you...is there any way I could make you like me? What are you going to answer him with?
Whatever your answer to him is, will be the same answer for yourself with the guy you really like.
I'm 13, female. I feel nothing. For about a year, I haven't been happy, sad, embarrassed, or anything. I know why. Long story short, my dad sucks, and I hate him. Other than anger and frustration, I'm empty inside. Accordinng to my research online, it's probably some sort of defense mechanism. I don't take antidepressants anymore. No one believes me. I go to a therapist, and she thinks I'm ignoring it, supressing it. I'm not, I'm not. I don't even want to tell my parents. They'll say the same thing. Question is, what's wrong with me?
Obviously you are very unhappy so you've shut your emotions off. That is a coping mechanism...tell me about it...I did that for many years while married to a verbally abusive husband. BTW, your dad isn't verbally or physically abusing you is he? If its anything like that, authorities need to know.
If it's just bad parenting, can you find support and solace with mom? When we have a kid, they dont come with an owners manuel...parents have to learn as they go. Some have a knack for it, some don't and some instead of rectifying a problem only make things worse.
I don't know your situation exactly so its hard to tell you what to try. Sometimes a parent can love their kids but have a terrible way of showing it where it seems to be the opposite for all the yelling and putting down you get. If you can cope with living at home the way you are doing it, then continue on. If it begins to affect your health or studies at school you might want to find if a relative can take you or a friends parents take you in for a while although this has to be discussed between your parents, you and counselor and those who are willing to have you stay with them.
If you feel you are in danger of becoming very depressed, this needs to be discussed with professionals also. There are ways to raise your levels of neurotransmitters in your brain by simple actions such as skipping, dancing, bear hugs, singing songs that are uplifting to you, etc... I hope this helps a bit. If you have any more info that might help, I'd be willing to see if I might have anything more to add to try and help more.
I am 13, female. I am online quite a bit, and most of my friends are online. I am generally unfeeling, as in I have no emotions whatsoever, but while talking to one of my friends, I am not. My heart aches, a good, but needing, never satisfied ache. I am certain I like him. More than I should, especially for a 22 year old I met online. While reading this, I assume the majority of you plan to lecture on my young, stubborn, ignorance. For all I know, he is a 57 year old predator. Fortunately, while being young and stubborn, I am not stupid. I do not plan on ever actually meeting him. I have recently told him my age and feelings. I have discoveed that, while I am unable to completely supress my feelings, I can dull it. He has not said anything to me; it was in the form of an e-mail. I hope you don't simply scold me for liking someone so much older than I, but I enjoy talking to him. He understands me, my love of reading, of learning, of science, and of thinking. Our conversations tend to be mostly intellectual, and I enjoy how he treats me as though I'm equal, not just a little kid, and learning from him. His ideas and how he uses words are amazing. He weaves words into sentences meaning more than just their contents, beathing life into letters how I wish I could. My thoughts often jumble up between my brain and mouth, the already scrambled and unorganized words more like a first grader's finger-paint than anything else. This, I hope, is understandable, and my questions now clear: What is wrong with me, a 13 year old girl liking a 22 year old man so much? What should I do? Is it odd to hope he laughs at me and says I am just a little girl, that I shouldn't feel the way I do? Am I as crazy as I think I sound?
For a 13 year old, you write with more intelligence than a lot of 17 and 21 yr olds I know of.
Let me ask this, if the only thing different about this person, was the fact that it was a female instead of a male, would you still enjoy the intellectual conversations, and feel like you're being treated as an equal? Be honest with yourself. If you can answer yes...then you may possibly have found a mentor.
My husband when he was a teen was asked to meet his parents marriage counselor. He wanted to meet the kids to see how they were effected. Ray found my husband to be a highly intelligent young man at your age, high IQ, the things he just happened to know without having studies or read any books was college level or beyond. He took my husband under his wings as a student and became his mentor. Ray passed much valuable information to him and likewise asked my husbands opinion on problems that he and scientist friends were debating to get a new point of view. Ray was treating this teen as an equal.
If you realize that you like the fact that your friend is a male more than the intellectual conversation, then I'd have to say you are having your first crush or one of your early crushes in life. Learn from this what you like in a man and tuck that away until the time you are a bit older and can date. At school age, the boys aren't going to be mature enough to catch your interest so you may well need to wait until you graduate
So i asked many questions about her, and decided to summarize everything. We are friends and we flirt sometimes, i tease her and she teases me also sometimes. But sometimes it doesnt seem like she likes me, there is a rumor some of her "friends" told us guys that she is in doubt between one of us guys, but he likes another girl, and me. But these are just rumors, so i dont really know what to do. I was planning to ask her out on my best-friends Facebook account since i dont have one and if she rejects me i can just pretend that i am my best-friend. What do YOU think i should do?
Why do you want to ask someone out on facebook? If you are too shy to ask her in person, I would suggest you work first on overcoming your shyness.
Most humans are not mind readers. While girls like attention from boys, they will not respond well if at all to someone who only stares at her and never talks to her.
You cant judge a persons interest level if they know next to nothing about you...I'd say that's a good reason why she is not sure which guy she really likes. At this point all she knows is your face and his face. She doesn't know anything beyond what you look like. It might take good looks to get a girl to look at you but it will take a lot more to keep her interest such as giving her the opportunity to get to know something about your personality, what your hobbies are, what your likes and dislikes are, For example, are you really into dogs and love everything about them and have a dog walking job? Talk to her about dogs and find out what kind of pets she has, what's her favorite animal...that sort of thing. Don't bypass the friendship stage and jump ahead to dating the asking out girls stage. That usually is not long lived and very disappointing IF a girl were to even say yes. You are more likely to be rejected by a girl who has not had a chance to get to know you as a close friend first. If you took the time to get to know all about her...not from her friends but from talking to her, and spent time with her the same way her girlfriends do, I am sure she would be much more likely to want to date and go steady.
You did not list an age so I am assuming you may be very very young like still in grade school. If you are age 10 through 13. That is the stage at which to become good friends with girls. My nephew gets to know the girls first before he dates. He actually has dozens of friends who are girls. It will take getting to know several girls better before you begin to discover what some of your favorite traits in a girl are. Enjoy the friendship stage and don't worry so much about the dating stage yet.
I'm 15/f and I have recently gotten a vibrator, my older sister who is kind of immature and doesn't know that no means no was bugging to buy it off me or have it and I kept saying no, then she eventually stopped bugging me. I didn't use it for a while when I first got it and a couple days later she took it without permission and used it, then she told me so of course I got mad because it was my personal item. I didn't go to a store and buy it myself and I'm too embarrassed because I'm young, but I want a vibrator that I can use. Would the vibrator be fine if I cleaned it really good? I never got the chance to use it yet and it really ticked me off that she would just go and use it anyways, she only used it one time then gave it back to me but I wouldn't use it because she did and I'm unsure if it's safe to use if it's cleaned.
I don't know how you got hold of a vibrator if you never got it at a store. The same stores sell toy cleaners. Antibacterial soap will work in many situations but depending on the material a sex toy is made of, the cleaning instructions can vary. You can do a search online "how to clean vibrators" >The web has lots of good info. Here's one site to get you started.
http://www.vibrators.com/toy-cleaning.html
What ever you do, cleanse the toy before using it yourself. There are certain materials used for vibrators that will clean but not disinfect well because the material is porous. Jelly toys are very porous. While you can clean them, you can't ensure they are totally disinfected.
Does doing house work count as exercise?
I'm struggling to find things to do that I enjoy doing that also require a fair amount of effort to do. I figure that I should be doing house work anyway. Maybe I can just do more house work and that will count as exercise? two birds with the one stone sort of thing.
Housework is indeed a form of exercise. >Doctors however will recommend doing something aerobic regularly that gets your heart rate up for a period of time.
I have been told that putting baby powder on your underwear is good, but I've also been told that you may get cancer from it. Is it safe to use baby powder or not? I tried researching it and got a bunch of different results, some saying that it's good and some saying that it's bad. I need the real truth on it.
I have never heard anything about putting baby powder in underwear or that it gives cancer. Are your friends just saying this. A friend of a friend of a friend info passed down is usually not very reliable. Baby or talcum powder is applied to babies bottoms and there have been no weird reactions from that.
However for a teen or adult, I wounder why there would be a need to put powder down there. I can not imagine a man wanting to smell like baby powder unless perhaps he is gay and that's his favorite scent...it smells too feminine to make a great scent for men. So I will assume you are a female.
In which case, that opens up a whole different topic of conversation. Perhaps you are concerned about bad odor from the vagina? The more you fuss over cleaning it the worse your problems will be. There is a good bacteria inside of you. It has its own odor which is not unpleasant and can barely be detected by even you if you sniffed your underwear. This good bacteria is part of a fragile ecosystem which is easily upset by using douches and cleaning with soaps inside and outside your genitals. Your body on its own will clean itself out...this little bit of fluid is what leaves the vagina betweens periods and ends up on your pantyliner. You've seen it, clear to slightly yellow with no detectable bad odor. You might want to explore more to get used to what is a normal odor from your body and what is not. A normal body odor is kind of musky for both men and women, each having their own musk smell. The vaginitis and yeast infections are all caused by your destroying the good bacteria. All that is needed is using plain water to wash between the labia. If for some reason you dont smell as fresh as you usually do, in the shower, use two fingers to reach inside and swish around all sides of the cervix. When you withdraw, if there is any milky looking substance, sniff and see if it smells sweet or off. Rinse the fingers and try one more time. Sometimes, when you're under stress or something else is troubling you, that can affect the effeciency of your natural cleaning just as it affects the timing of your period. I have noticed as I got into my fifties that my natural cleaning slows down a little, not much but is easier affected by stress. Another thing that cleanses the vaginal area out very well, is having sex and basically being rinsed out by the partners fluid. Strange as that may seem. If I go too long between acts of intercourse during stress times, I can start to smell. Regular sex life is very healthy for you for more than just one reason.
I have a lot of cleaning to do on lino floors and tiled floors. At the moment I add dishwashing liquad into a bucket of water and use that.
Do a search online to read the benefits of using vinegar and lemon juice as natural cleaners. Some times you mix them with baking soda too for the tougher scrubbing action. Baking soda is also a good occasional alternative to brushing teeth.
The on line articles will list how much parts to water to use and what its good for cleaning. I keep forgetting and have to look it up each time. LOL
All the items I mentioned are inexperience, are good for the environment if you're into being 'green' and non toxix to have around the house if there are little ones around.
So I am totally into my best friend ex fuck buddy what should i do? Is it bad to act on it? They haven't hooked up in over a year and she never admitted to liking him more than just a hook up.
Perhaps they did not have enough in common and not enough chemistry to keep the relationship going. That happens to people quite often..enough sexual chemistry for a friend with benefits deal...I've done that, but those guys were not perfect enough to be a husband for me. Not that you're looking for a husband but any serious relationship...should have something in common. You will never know until you act on it. Let the guy know you are interested in getting to know him better. If there is a mutual interest to at least check it out, he will respond. Just because he responds doesnt mean it will work out yet. YOu'll both need to spend time together and get to know each other better before you will know if it should continue or not.
Your best friend should have no claims on him or proprietory actions towards him if she hasnt been with him in a years time. If she can't handle the fact that you are dating him, thats for her to learn to handle. A bad reaction of any sort will indicate you have a very immature best friend. You can't let her possible reactions or real reactions control how you live your life. If you do that, then there is something seriously wrong with you too and you might want to consider going for counseling. Good luck!
I'm unmarried 24 year old I'm getting breath problem like I'm not getting properly breath and sometime I'm bleeding if I run or if I lift heavy wait plz someone can me why all these happen
Something doesnt sound normal here. Wondering where you are bleeding from. You mention breathing problems so perhaps you are coughing up blood? Even smokers aren't usually affected yet with cancer or COPD at your age. I would say, best thing is to go see a doctor and get some tests done and then you will know what must be done next.
I know the economy is bad and therefore many have no health care and can't afford to see a doctor.
If that's the case, the only thing i can think of is that you find the local energy and faith healers in your area. You may find someone on line and still have to pay for their services but it won't be as bad as the cost of a medical doctor. Some can be found through meet ups.com where groups of people who know how to heal will psychically determine what a problem is sometimes can discover what is wrong and use psychic energy to heal. Healing like that can be instant but usually takes place over time. So anything life threatening like an appendix rupture or internal bleeding must be taken care of immediately. I wish you the best