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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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please help me. I don't know what to do anymore! ok. here's the deal. My best friend has been like "doing things". Today she called me and said that last night she peirced her nose (BY HERSELF). I was SO shocked and started to think I shouldn't hang out with her anymore. She went close to s*x but didn't. And she ALWAYS says that she's fat but she isn't. One day she told me she threw up her food but only once. Should I still hang out with her?
ps. I DON'T (OR DIDN'T) DO ANYTHING SHE DOES (OR DID)
There's no real reason for you to discontinue being her friend.
She pierced her nose by herself...not a reason. She went close to having sex--it's her sex life. She threw up once..eh that you may have to be concerned about. But what she is doing--is it affecting you in a negative way?
From what I can read she's not effecting you in a bad way and you just feel like you want to run away from her because you don't want to get pulled into the things she is doing/scared by the thing she is doing. Only you have the power to control what to do unles you let someone else control it.
So if you start to feel like what she is doing is effecting you in a bad way, she is pressuring you to do crazy/stupid stuff, then drop her. But for now, she's not dragging you into anything so just chill because if you ditch her, erm, yeah. Problems
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My best friend and I finally admitted we like each other. We seldomely flirt and don't really know how to switch from friends into going into a relationship since neither of us have had this happen before. I just neeed some advice on how to start transitioning into more than friends since that's what we both want to start doing but we don't know how to start to do that. Please help! I need ideas. Thanks
That's a little iffy. Just hang out at his/your house more. Go to movies together--alone. HOld hands, link arms, hug. KISS lmao. Erm. Haha rest your head on his shoulder/legs when you guys are watching a movie at your/his house etc. Go on dates?
last night, two of my freinds slept over my house. one of them is my best friend(alex) and i really had to talk to her about what happened before at a party. well, when we thought my other friend(tara) was ,we started to talk about what hapened at this party and mainly about our other friend(who was not at the s/o). when i got up, i saw my tara's eyes open and then close. so i totally think she listened and heard our whole conversation! and i am like 99% sure she will tell my friend who wasn't at the sleepover. what should i do?
Okay, well you brought this consequence upon yourself so don't be so mad at tara. Just call her over or talk on IM and tell her that you don't want any details from the sleepover leaking out and you really hope that she won't tell anyone.
Either that or blackmail her with something XD
Is being all over someone and hooking up with someone the same thing or different?
Um, wrong category but whatever.
Being all over someone could be that they're literally all over someone (touching body parts) or it could also mean that they're like head over heels for that someone.
Hooking up is like gettting together like becoming a couple I guess.
hello! My advice column has the visitors and says"10" does it mean I have ten questions or something?
~*jcjenniz987*~
ps:I am a member here and need help with some things and is new
It means that 10 people looked/vistied your column. It doesn't neccessarily mean that the person who looked at your column has anything to do with you. But mostly visitors would be probably people you answered questions for.
you know that sick feeling you get when you realise you like some one and you cant have them, feels like im panicking but thats a bit odd? xxxxx
It's kind of sadness and anger mixed together. You want someone so bad yet you know you can't get them and you're sad aobut it and angry that you can't have the one person you want.
Ok one of my friends are gay. let's call her tina. at first everyone thought tina was gay/lesbian whatever, because of the way she dressed.(she wore her clothes a LITTLE loose and somtimes she wore a lot of things that boys would wear) but she denied that she was a lesbian, so everyone backed off. but then everyone noticed that she was being a little too friendly with two girls. let's call them ciara and brittany. somehow people just started the rumor that tina was a lesbian again, and this time she didn't deny it. then tina ended up going out with brittany and they just broke up. the details are a bit too long, so i'll just get to the point. i was over tina's house after she broke up with brittany, because i still wanted to be her friend even though her sexual orientation had changed. when i was over there, she was askin me should she go back out with brittany and she let me listen to the message that brittany left on her answering machine. they both wanted to get back with each other, and were saying that they loved each other. well, ask you can probably already tell, i feel a little uncofortable with this who situation. any ideas on ways i can feel a little more comfortable with this would be great!!!
ON the fact that your friend is a lesbian?
I have 3 gay guy friends...one too many bi friends. and 2 lesbian friends and I myself am bi. Haha, i know, disfunctional family XD
Haha, she's your friend and she won't do anything to jepordize it right now. She just came out (or either as bisexual) and she's probably going through a pretty harsh time right now if your school is filled with homophobes like mine. Anyways, just be there for her because it would suck to lose a friend or have them be distant from you just because they weren't comfortable with you being les/bi. She seriously won't jepordize things though. You guys are friends and she doesn't want to lose you by making a move on you and everything. Just accept that oyu have a lesbian friend and she knows you're straight so no worries. I know that I would never consider liking or going out with any straight girl friends that I have
How do guys like to be flirted to?
Anything specific I can do without being completley obvious?
for the guys, what do you like when girls flirt with you?
It's different for each guy. Some guys don't like it when the girls too touchy feely and vice versa. They might like girls that make it obvious and some just won't like that.
It all depends on the guy you're dealing with.
My flirting technique differs from guy to guy. So just watch what other girls do around a certain guy you like and if he seems to like it, do similar tings.
It's really hard to give advice on this because it won't work for all the guys and it may just even drive some guys away.
BUt like give him hugs, talk to hmi, make eye contact, link arms with him, and just do all that jazz
What animals are the smartest, easiest to train and are loyal? I'm talking about pets, but no animals that would be to dangerous to keep.
Dogs are the easiest..Well if you get them at an early age. If you get them at an old age, heh say goodbye to training
ok, so theres this girl i like and it seems liek she likes me back, but im shy and all that stuff. well lastnight i went to a lock in at a bowlign alley and all night i couldnt get her off my mind. its starting to rip me apart inside. well i dotn really know if things would work out too well between us if we did start dating. i need help with what i should do. i appreciate advice. please help me.
If you think she likes you, just ask her to casually hang out with you at the movies. Just casually go up to her and ask "Hey wanna watch that ___movie?"
I know, trite dating location, but I'd go haha. Movies are uber sweet especially scary ones. It gives us girls to hold onto the guys. HAha.
Don't be intimidated by what might happen when you guys go out because nothing can say this and that will happen--only time will tell.
So just ask her out either directly or through a note and blah blah
I have 3 pregnant friends and they are all keeping them two of them are 14 and the other is 15. the 14 year olds are good about it and I hope everything turns out great for them.
Yesterday I was with my 15 year old friend whos pregnant and we went to illegals and the guys we were with had some alcohol.
She started to drink some and by the way shes a month and a half pregnant.
I yelled at her and pretty much she pissed me off like I wanted to slap her at the time.
like how could she do that to her kid and everything she said shes keeping it but she does drugs and she drinks alcohol like every night.
So she agreed to not doing anything but earlier she was drunk again and our other friend which she was with called me to go get her because she was like really messed up and she almost got raped and some really bad stuff.
I just really don't know what to do about her because I really want to help and I'm so worried about her I don't want this to go on anymore.
Any ideas?
Okay, you're 15yr old friend is proving that she is unfit to be a mother. Threaten her. Even if you're going to lose the friendship. IT's better to lose that friendship than have her kill the baby.
Threaten to tell the ocunslor, her mother, whoever that if she doesn't collect herself together and think about the baby form now on, you're going to be forced to tell someone about this. Tell her that she could kill the baby and if that's what she really wants, she should have just gotten an abortion.
this did not happen to me but im just curious. if someone like fingers you or something against your will [say if youre drunk or even if youre not] is it still considered rape?
If you're talking about full intercourse, then definately yes. Rape to me is defined as: sexual stuff done to you agaisnt your will
It would be sexual assualt and mild rape i guess
I never had acne and I don't have it on my face or anything just on my forehead.
I always have my hair over my forehead so I was thinking it was hair oils and maybe I should get the hair out of my face, but I don't think it would work,
Proactive.. I've heard so many bad things about it and I don't even want to try because I usually don't get in the habit of putting things on so if I stop using it I heard I'll break out really really bad.
I just started using clearisil but no results yet
Do you have any tips on getting rid of them?
Thank you :]
Pulling your hair out of your face with definately help. Because through out the day your hair gets oil and collects all the dirt and stuff from just walking about and it will transfer the dirt onto your face
Use Neutrogena or Clean and Clear products for acne and it should help
ok..the guy wears a condom to prevent diseases & getting the girl pregnant, right? well how are they supposed to have a kid, if he can't take it off? my mom says ALWAYS WEAR ONE.. so..i don't get it?
Well, condoms aren't 100% STD proof but anyways.
She doesn't want you to get pregnant right now because to me you sound like a teenager. So wear a condom and do safe sex. And when you're married, forget the condom if oyu want to get pregnant
My grandpa died recently, and I am not sure how to deal with it. I feel like I have everything, grief, sadness, still inside me, but it wont come out. I think I have not come to terms with my feelings, just pushed them aside. What should I do?
I'm sorry...one of my uncles commited suicide a month ago and I know what you're going thorugh..sort of.
What I do is listen to music and write everything down. I write it in poems, short stories, just a plain journal entry, or into lyrics. And sing my lungs out to a song that I can relate to right now or just whatever song I like to hear.
Two songs that really helped me is:
Welcome to the Black Parade by MCR (the part where it goes: And though you're dead and gone believe me you're memory will carry on)
And Helena by MCR (My Chemical Romance if you didn't know.)
Best thing is to talk about it with your mom or ddad (whose ever dad it was) because I'm sure theyre going through the same grief and they need someon to comiserate with right now and you can be there for them as they'll be there for you.
I'm not sure whhat the cause of your granpa's death was but if it was like cancer, or an illness or some sort, or just old age, think of it this way: He's out of his pain now and in a better place.
I dont know what to do, it's been months and i just can't forget him.OK i was going out with this guy for about 2 years, I loved him so much. But we have broke up and im sure he's waay over me. He has had like 7 girl friends already. Now he's with one he really seems to like and she is beautiful. Meanwhile I'm here 7months later still crying as if it was the first day we broke up. I have a new boyfriend. He treats me great and I like him alot but, I could never love him. I dont think i could love anyone else. I have tried so hard to get over my ex, to fall in love with my new boyfried, but i just cant. I cant take it. Im dieing. NO matter how happy i may spend the day at night it all comes down to thoughts of him. Its like im happy with my new boyfriend but theres something missing. I feel so incomplette without my ex. I need him, i really do. But he can have who ever he wants, why would he waste his time on me. I'm probably just not worth it. I'll never be happy. Please don't think I'm some emo girl I really do try to be happy. I work hard in school, I go out all the time, Im nice to everyone. But then when im alone i cry. I usually cry myself to sleep, or pray and pray to feel better until i just knock out. I cant live like this anymore. Please guys I know this was long. But please help I dont know what to do anymore.
My dear, you're way over reacting. You say you want to get over him but mentailly you're not allowing yourself to do so. You guys broke up. You guys can be friends but you guys broke up!!
You have this great guy waiting for you yet you're too ignorant to appriciate that fully because you want to mourn ove ur ex. You might not feel like you WANT to mourn over him but you're trying to not move on because you're afraid that when if you do, he might be out of your life forever.
You need to go to your ex and make sure you guys are friends again. Then when that is done, accept it. You're still his friend and it sohuld stay that way. He's moved on and you moping over him like this won't bring him back. You say you wn't love anyone else...well you can if you stop lingering on this guy that broke up with you.
You have a new guy and because of your mourning, you're not allowing yourself to see what a great guy he really is. Just let your whole day go by without your ex coming in your mind. If he does, push it out. Think about other things that makes you happy like your family or Ben and Jerry. Haha. get to know your current bf because I'm sure you'll end up liking him just as much
Hey everyone :D,
I'm Hailey, and im 15 years old (freshman in highschool)
I need advice on my love life lol. I like a boy named jake that goes to my school.. but hes a Senior. Hes 17. I don't know what to do.. Do you think that a freshman dating a Senior is wrong? And if you think its okkay, do you have any advice on how to get to know him. He goes out to lunch and i dont have any classes with him, occasionally I see him in the hallway and i start up some kind of small talk untill we get to our classes, but it usually doesn;t branch off from there. Any siguestions? Thanks a million! i REALLY appreciate the help!! :D
hailey,3
Well, My friend Matt is going out with Shane and they're in 9th/12th grade...and yes they're gay. I personally don't know a girl and a guy who's in 9th and 12th grade going out.
I mean I'm in 9th grade and I have severl senior friends. But it's just a casual I know you friendship kind of thing. They don't really want to persue a friendship and more with freshies most of the times.
But, in the hallway, get his sn and talk to him IM first. Just be like, Hey whats your sn?
Then get his number eventually if you think he doesn't mind being friends with a freshie. Then hang out with him if he still doesnt. But be careful not to try and urge him to give you anything or make him your friend because that'll just drive him awaay
Now, you see, I don't have bad acne at all. But every one and a while, i get random bumps. They are very tiny, but still noticable. Sometimes they are red and others and just my skin tone.
I have average skin; not oily or dry.
Any HOME REMEDIES for good results?
Mix some green tea, cool it down to room temp, splash your face with it for a few minutes and just pat your face dry. Do this after you wash your face btw.
If it's red, put ice on it to let the swelling go down..
Oh yeah, don't use lemon juice!! It'll just cause your skin in that one little spot to get tanned much faster and darker than the rest of your skin
ok so i FINALLY got over this guy i liked for FOUR WHOLE YEARS..and i felt soo free and liberated, but then all of sudden his msn-name was the lyrics for OUR song and my mind directly thought "aww he likes me again!" and i started likking him again and now i cant stop thinking about him (even though I KNOW he doesnt like me) so whta do i do? do you suggest i delete him (i realllly dont want to!)
You like him...no biggie.
He may just like the song and never really linked it to being you guys' song.
Don't delete him because..well that's just stupid. Just be friendly with him
If you want to get him out of your mind, talk to you girl friends and hang out with them more.
Hi all. I'm soon to be interviewed regarding the link between drinking a lot, and taking sexual risks. This might mean going further than you wanted/planned, not using protection, etc - but only while you've been drinking.
My interview is going to be specifically about teenagers, so I thought I would ask the younger people on here for their input. Do you think there is a link? How strong do you think it is?
Thanks for any help you can give.
There is a link. Alcohol takes a tole on everyone's brains and our senses/judgements/thinking process gets all screwed up. And if a girl and a guy is both drunk, one may just want to lead the other on but the other being drunk might want to persue it more and soon become a rape case. Or when one or both are drunk they won't be able to think cleary and just have sex without thinking about it. Sure they may use protection but when you're drunk, most likely you'll forget.