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Memories...I cant take it anymore
I dont know what to do, it's been months and i just can't forget him.OK i was going out with this guy for about 2 years, I loved him so much. But we have broke up and im sure he's waay over me. He has had like 7 girl friends already. Now he's with one he really seems to like and she is beautiful. Meanwhile I'm here 7months later still crying as if it was the first day we broke up. I have a new boyfriend. He treats me great and I like him alot but, I could never love him. I dont think i could love anyone else. I have tried so hard to get over my ex, to fall in love with my new boyfried, but i just cant. I cant take it. Im dieing. NO matter how happy i may spend the day at night it all comes down to thoughts of him. Its like im happy with my new boyfriend but theres something missing. I feel so incomplette without my ex. I need him, i really do. But he can have who ever he wants, why would he waste his time on me. I'm probably just not worth it. I'll never be happy. Please don't think I'm some emo girl I really do try to be happy. I work hard in school, I go out all the time, Im nice to everyone. But then when im alone i cry. I usually cry myself to sleep, or pray and pray to feel better until i just knock out. I cant live like this anymore. Please guys I know this was long. But please help I dont know what to do anymore.
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It's almost like you're trying to make yourself not like him, or even hate him. but the more you think aobut it you like him more, it seems?
give it time, he shouldnt be the number one thing on your mind, when youre 1 in a lot in his.
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This isn't fair to the guy you are currently dating. You are saying to me that, he's nice and all, but you could never love him. It means you are kind of stringing him along in an empty relationship with no future.
This is something you need to be straight forward with him about. That way you give him a chance to decide on weather he wants to stick it out and hope for better, or move on and find someone who wants a real relationship with him. He deserves to be able to make that choice.
My advice to you is this: Stop dating for a while. You need to figure yourself out. You need to get over this guy and move on. You owe that to yourself.
You are obviously not happy with your current bo, or you would be happy in general. You need to get happy with yourself first, then bring another guy into your life when your truly, emotionally ready.
You need to stop thinking so negatively. Saying you will never be happy, you will never love again, you aren't worth it, etc. is crap. You need to start focusing on the good things in your life and in yourself.
Think of it this way, it has been 7 months. The guy has had 7 different girlfriends and is now in a relationship. Sounds like he didn't look back. Is he really worth all of this self loathing?
I wouldn't concern yourself on weather or not he would "waste his time" on you. What you do need to concern yourself with is how much you are currently wasting your time on him, being miserable and unhappy.
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Yeah I agree with ducktape n roses. If you want to get over him the best thing you can do is just stop thinking about him. I know it will be hard but just try to get to know your new bf. He might just be a great guy that you havn't got to find out yet. He might even be better than than your ex. And you still might not be in love with him you might just miss the memmories. If he isn't wanting you then he's not worth it. If this guy likes you then he might be the perfect one. Just give him a chance.
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My dear, you're way over reacting. You say you want to get over him but mentailly you're not allowing yourself to do so. You guys broke up. You guys can be friends but you guys broke up!!
You have this great guy waiting for you yet you're too ignorant to appriciate that fully because you want to mourn ove ur ex. You might not feel like you WANT to mourn over him but you're trying to not move on because you're afraid that when if you do, he might be out of your life forever.
You need to go to your ex and make sure you guys are friends again. Then when that is done, accept it. You're still his friend and it sohuld stay that way. He's moved on and you moping over him like this won't bring him back. You say you wn't love anyone else...well you can if you stop lingering on this guy that broke up with you.
You have a new guy and because of your mourning, you're not allowing yourself to see what a great guy he really is. Just let your whole day go by without your ex coming in your mind. If he does, push it out. Think about other things that makes you happy like your family or Ben and Jerry. Haha. get to know your current bf because I'm sure you'll end up liking him just as much
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maybe you should take a break from dating and just clear your mind.
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