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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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Okay. I wrote this essay. I checked my grade a few days later and noticed I got a zero for it.

I emailed the teacher and asked her why I got a zero... Because I know I turned it in and there's no way I couldn't have gotten any credit for it.

And she said. "I don't know....my mistake? Please show me the essay again so I can reenter your score."

So I printed it again and gave it to her the next day.

And it seems I wasn't being clear because apparently she meant she wanted the [graded] essay back.

But I never did get the first essay back.

I did turn it in on the day it was due. I remember giving it to her and seeing it on a pile on her desk.

So... She must've lost it...?

I told her this today and it doesn't seem like she'll change the grade.

I don't think it's fair at all because I worked very hard on the it.

The original grade was 40/50 but because she seems to think I didn't turn it in the day it was due, it's "late" so the final score is 20/50.

I don't know what to do... I have no proof that I turned it in on that day. The people sitting by me probably didn't pay attention.

Your best bet is to continue trying to get your point across. As ygsgirl said you shouldn't accept anything less than full credit. It's her fault she lost it, not yours.

Anyway, if she still won't listen I would have one of your parents call up. Parents almost always get things taken care of. Maybe that's just my parents though. If she still won't change your grade to full credit then I would continue complaining. Eventually she'll get sick of your complaining and either change it, or send you to the principal. If she does send you out you can politely describe to whomever she sends you to why you're behaving the way you are. Due to an unfair grade. You should always stand up for what you deserve. If you really did work your butt off on the paper and didn't get the fair grade because of your teachers mistake, you shouldn't accept that.

Hi. This morning, as i was in bed, i tried rubbing my eyes, and my right eye, really hurt. so after a few hours, i got up, looked in the mirror, and there was some sort of yellowish-green thick liquid, on the edge of my eye, and my eye was slightly red and runny. there is also a tiny little spot on the edge of my eye, that hurts also. My eye hurts when i blink, or look around. is this an eye infection, or something worse? will it get better with eyedrops? thanks.

I'm no doctor so I can't tell you what you have, but I can take a guess. The only eye thing I know of is conjunctivitus (sp?) also known as pink eye.
http://www.medicinenet.com/pink_eye/article.htm
You can read some of that and see if that could be what you have.

For now I would soak a washcloth in cold water and let it sit on your eye. Whatever you do don't touch that eye and then touch the other, especially not before washing your hands! Even if it's not pink eye it could still be contagious and you don't want both eyes to get it. Eye drops should help, but you may be better off seeing a doctor to check on what you have and getting prescription drops so it'll heal faster.

So when you get the chance I suggest seeing a doctor. But a cold compress may help. That's what I do when I have pink eye. I leave a wet/cold washcloth on whichever eye has it.

So even if you don't have pink eye (which is why you should go to the doctor, to see what's wrong)the cold compress may help.

To answer your questions though, most likely you have an eye infection, and it will eventually get better, possibly with drops. Your best off seeing a doctor because nobody here can be sure of what you have without actually checking you out.

i get discharge, and i can feel it - im not bothered by it but now I'm getting LOADS, and I mean sooo much, today i thought i was peeing and when i went to check, it was just discharge.
I havnt started my period yet but i was wondering do you think it will happen soon because

-im getting loads of discharge - more than usual
- boobs are growing, nipples are getting a bit redish
- a bit more oily skin.

Help People.Ha.!

You're probably going to start your period soon. Unless of course the discharged is discolored or has a funky smell, then you may have a yeast infection.
Anyway, for now just wear some pantyliners or something so you won't feel it and so it doesn't get all in your udnerwear and stuff.

Someone I know took 8 Midol and 8 Ibeprofin. (Sorry for spelling).. What is going to happen? Are they going to be okay?

This was a stupid move on their part. Everyone reacts differently to medicine. One of my friends took less than that and she still had to go to the emergency room and get her stomach pumped. The SMARTEST thing for you to do is call up a local pharmasist and tell someone who knows about medication and have them tell you what you should do. That or call poisen control.

Asking people on here was probably worth it, but people react differently. My first thoughts would be to get the ipecec(sp?), but that stuff isn't any fun and really shouldn't be used unless necessary.

Anyway, call the pharmacy (number is probably listed on bottle, if not look it up in the yellow pages) and ask them what they suggest. If He/She isn't reacting negatively maybe they will be okay. But hey, it's better to be safe than sorry.

I need a voicemail greeting and i have no idea what to say. I have a song at the moment. Any ideas?

I've done multiple greetings.

1.) Hey this is *name* I'm not here right now, but leave a message and I'll call ya back when I get the chance.

2.) Heey!... Hello...? Helloooo...? Oh wait, my bad, I'm not here right now, but leave me a message and I'll get back to you.

3.) Hello (7second pause) This is *name* I can't come to the phone right now, but leave a message and I'll call ya back.

4. Whatup it's *name* I'm either not here or I'm avoiding your call. Hangup and think about it and if I want to, maybe I'll call ya back.

Once I was at a concert and I tried recording a voicemail greeting, it sounded pretty sweet over 3doors down in the background but sometimes those suck because they're much too hard to hear.

ok so i have been looking around on myspace and i see all these pics of posers and/or just pics people have there url or sumthing like typed on it i was wondering how i can write stuff on my pics please help me i dont know how to do it

I'm not sure how well you'll get this (mainly because I don't know how computer literate you are). Anyway, do you know how to open a picture through paint? Once you do that you can use paint to edit it in any way you want. You can make it larger, smaller, write on it, add funky stuff to it. I guess it really depends on how well you do with paint on whether or not you'll be able to do this. I have hp photo imaging shop so I can use either of the two. I don't know what you have so this is the best I can do for ya.

Okay so I am NOT pregnant, this I know for sure because I took a blood test at my doctor a few weeks ago because I am going to South Africa soon.

I haven't gotten my period for 3 months! I am not anorexic or bulimic, I have not lost tons of weight resently, however, I am overweight. What really freaked me out is that I saw a hair on my chin!!!! I know it's normal for females to get facial hair but I never noticed this before.

Can I be going through menapause? Why haven't I gotten my period? Is this normal?? Have any of you ever skipped periods for this long??? AH I'm really freaking out here.

If you're only 19 then you probably aren't menopausal because women don't go through menopause until they're way into their middle-aged years. I'm 16 and my period is still insanely irregular, I skip months like crazy. But if this isn't normal for you then maybe something is wrong. If you're 100% sure that you're not pregnant then maybe there's something else going on. Speak with your regular physician about finding out what's up. Maybe it is just an irregular period and you need something to regulate it.

what are some colleges in the united states that i could take BOTH photography AND fashion design?

thanks!

This college offers both as majors and most colleges let you double up on majors.
http://www.usuniversities.com/listingsp3.cfm/listing/28720

I know this probably isn't what you're looking for, but I noticed your question hasn't been answered and you asked it a few days ago. This is the best I came up with. Try googling "US colleges for photography and Fashion design". I did that and thiat's one of the sites that came up.

A couple weeks ago Itunes prompted me to update to the newest version, so I did. Now all of a sudden none of my videos work in Itunes! They all worked before I updated. Has this happened to anybody else? I'm not too computer savy and when I went to the Itunes support site, I found a place where it talked about what to do if videos wouldn't play, but none of it worked. I also haven't messed with any of the settings in Itunes, they are all still the same as when the videos played fine for me. Any ideas? Thanks

I know this probably won't help, but the same thing happened to me when I updated. Well, sort of. I don't have a video Ipod, I just have a regular 2gb. Anyway, when I upgraded all of the song I bought wouldn't work, only the one's I got from CD's. I just downgraded back to what I originally had. Most likely if you were to buy something new after upgrading it would work and it's just the stuff you already bought that won't, at least that's what I'm guessing.

But you should be able to downgrade back to what you originally had. That way at least you're videos will work again. In the mean time you can call customer service and see if there's anything they can do for you.

Im starting birth control to try and regulate my periodes and some side effects risk if your smoke and i do and im not sure if i should continue and not care or stop...

Stop smoking or stop the birth control? Either way you should stop one of the two if there are risks for smokers.
Smoking is the better of the two choices. No offense meant, but smoking's kind of gross. At least kissing people who smoke is, and being around people who smoke because it gets in your face and it's kinda nasty.
Seeing that you'll still need something to help regulate your period (That is if you choose to stop the birth control rather than stop smoking) you should contact your physician for another option.

ohkay so i wanna go on the grapefruit diet.
what do i have to do like should all i eat is like 3 grapefruit a day? or what idk halol

I consider this site very helpful just because I have the same opinion as the one who wrote it. (Grapefruit diet = VERY bad) But it also tells you what the diet consists of, so, although I threw my opinion in there, I really am answering your question. Funny how things work out. Anyway, the link is...

http://www.dietbites.com/article0160.html

Another site that's a lot less opinionated and also includes the rules is ...

http://www.webterrace.com/fad/grape.htm

i'm a 17 year old guy and i'm wondering what sex feels like to a girl, i've asked my girlfriend but shes real shy about that kind of stuff and gives me pretty vauge answers

If they guy is good - pretty amazing. Yeah, it's vague, but there probably aren't very many descriptive words a person can use unless they're like really poetic.

If the guys sucks they girl is just going to be thinking - ugh, get this over with so we'll never have to do it again!

It's not just that she's vague, it's that it's one of those questions where you can't be all that descriptive.

Do you (teens) have a job at hollister, abercrombie, american eagle, or any place like that? How much do you make an hour? Thanks.

One of my good friends worked at American Eagle for about a month before quitting (she was being harassed there). Anyway, she made minimum wage and was required to wear their clothes. She was REALLY tiny though and their smallest sizes were too big for her so she had special permission to wear her hollister clothes as long as she covered up the hollister logo. Anyway, they pay minimum wage, you get a small discount on their clothes, you get first choice (before the clothes go out on the market), and you're required (normally) to wear their stuff.

Hi, let me just start saying that i've never done this before, but i think its worth a shot. My best friend lets call her Jo, shes been my best friend for the longest time and i like her a ton. I go over to her house alot and we're always together at school, and i really want us to be together as a couple. I tell her how things won't change and everything and how we are best friends and that we should be together and stuff, but she says no i don't like you like that, and i want to be w/ someone who i don't know everything about, and i think thats a bit odd because i think it would be better if she new about them so there are no suprises. OK anywho so i really like this girl and i want to be with her very bad no joke, but how do i have her come to realize that we should be together, when she thinks that we are just too good of friends. Also there is all this tension between us like just want to go after her and just hook up and stuff, but she says its never gonna happen! which makes me feel worse but O well what should i do???

Even though you told me all of this, I still don't have the details which means my answer may or may not work for you. You didn't mention your age. Anyway, you can't force someone to feel something for you. As strange as I find her wanting to be with someone she knows little about, that's her decision. You've made it clear to her how you feel and that's really all you can do.
She knows how you feel, that's done. She says she doesn't feel that way towards you and unfortunately you can not change that. What you can do is still be there for her as a friend and make sure that she doesn't get hurt while looking for the surprise in a new relationship. You never know, maybe one day she'll realize the two of you were meant to be; or you'll realize that you weren't.

Just remember, love happens. It should not and can not be forced upon anyone. If being friends with her is too much then you'll just have to tell her the friendship is hurting you because you want more and can't have it.

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but you're going to have to find a way to move on. Whether or not you're able to remain friends is up to the two of you and your emotions.

- S_C =D

Heyy I saw that you have answered over a thousand questions so I decided to come to you about this.

I know it's kind of weird and if you don't know what to say you don't have to reply.

I was molested by a family member of mine when I was little. I don't remember what happened at all and I've questioned my sexuality since I was 11 or 12 years old.

I've been afraid of penis' since I started fooling around with guys at 13.

I don't know what it is but unless I'm "under the influence" I can't muster up the guts to go down on my most current boyfriend.

Now, I've done it before but every time there's a new guy involved, I freak out.

I really feel like I'm being selfish to my boyfriend. I've also talked to my sister and him about it, but it just seems like there's nothing anyone can say to make me feel better about the whole thing.

What in the world should I do?

It's not that I don't want to please my boyfriend, it's just that I'm afraid and I don't know what I'm afraid of.

I think that whatever answer you're looking for won't be found on this website. That's a really tough thing to go through and I'm grateful that you're able to tell someone. I'm glad you were willing to come to me, but I'm not the person you should be seeking advice from. I'm 16 years old and the only thing I can tell you with full honesty is that you need to seek professional help.
I'm lucky, I've never experienced anything like what you have. The worst heartbreak I've felt was a messy breakup and the death of friends, which, don't get me wrong, are horrible things to go through, but in my mind they hardly compare to being forced into a sexual relationship by someone close to you. If I would have been in that situation, especially by a family member I don't know what I would do. I'd probably feel the same way you do. I wouldn't want to be with anyone, especially not in a sexual way.

I can't really tell you what you're afraid of. I'm sure I know, but it's not for me to decide. Have you forgiven this family memeber? Do you even want to? Do they really deserve your forgiveness? That's for you to decide. But no matter how little you remember, it still happened and it's going to be with you forever. You need to find a way to be able to put this in the past. Not to forgive and forget, I don't think you should ever forgive and forget anything. You're probably better of seeing a psychiatrist and learning ways to cope with what happened and to be able to further your relationship with men in a healthier way. It's really bad to fool around when you're "under the influence" as you put it. You shouldn't feel pressured to please him in a physical way anyway. Especially not after what has happened in your life. If he truly cares about you then he'll wait until you're ready. You shouldn't get drunk or high or anything of the such to please someone, even if that's not the only reason for you getting that way.

Anyway, I'm glad you came to me, but I can't really be of much help. My advice to you is to see a psychiatrist. If you can't afford one, then just explain your past to your boyfriend and tell him you're not yet comfortable. I really hope everything works out okay and that somehow you can get past what has happened to you.

okay i'm 13 and i havn't had my period yet. i live with my dad so its really hard to bring up that subject, and i cant shave my legs because,again it hard to bring up the subject. i have air under my arms, and i'm guessing i should be shaving...but how do i bring up tht subject. what should i do? i cant go to anyone else either.
thanks in advance

It's hard for me to relate to that because I'm 16/f and I normally send my dad out to buy my pads and tampons and stuff haha. Your dad knows what's coming. He's probably just as nervous/anzious about the talk as you are. Just be like "dad, it's about time we have that mother/daughter talk." haha, that will get his attention.

Don't bother talking to him about your period until you get it (or unless you're 15ish and still don't have it). But about shaving and stuff, just say to him, "hey dad, I'm a young girl and I have to shave and stuff." He's not an idiot, he knows where babies come from and that women have periods and need to shave.

Just tell him straight out, get it out there that way it will be less awkward when more important discussions come up. 13 is a weird age and it must really suck not having your mom to talk to about this stuff. If you have any good friends whose mothers you're close to - try and talk to them.

So i know this is probably one of the weirdest questions but i dont know where to find sex toys so is there any like household type things that i could use? I know the shower thing so any other ideaas that would be great!

The first place that comes to my mind is Spencers.

i was just wondering. is there anyone on this website that wears pads instead of tampons? cause i've tried so many times and read the directions but i just couldnt put a tampon in. also if you wear pads do you play sports? cause i do and i wear pads and i wanna know if its bad. i think its really uncomfortable though. thankss.

Even though I think they're uncomfortable I wear pads just because tampons bug the crap out of me. I've played sports while wearing pads, it's not very comfortable, tampons are a lot nicer for sports. Especially because tampons stay in place - perfectly, there's no where for them to move. When I play sports it usually seems as if the pad shifts and I'm always afraid that I'm going to leak.

You'll probably be better of trying to use a tampon, at least for sports. Get some type of lubricant for the first few times to make it easier to get them tampon in and hopefully it will work. It's not impossible to use pads while playing a sport (depending on the sport, you didn't mention what you play) but it's sooo much nicer to wear a tampon for sports.

I realize I kind of just babbled on, but I hope you get what I'm saying. Tampons in my opinion suck except when it comes to sports and excercising.

i was just wondering, does everyone e? and is it bad for you? is it bad for you during your period? thanks for answering.

All I can tell you is that no, not everyone does it. The only reason I know that not everybody does it is because other than eating, breathing, and sleeping, there is no task every single person in this world does. Then again, not everyone eats, breathes, and sleeps when you think about it.

Anyway, what do you mean by e? I went to urban dictionary to see if maybe it was some slang term, but the only thing it says is ecstasy and I doubt you would ask if it was bad for you since the obvious answer is YES. Soo, maybe you can rephrase and reask the question?

What places in Richmond, VA will hire a 16/F?

Most restaurants (especially fast food) and retail shops (stores). Grocery stores, some clothing stores, and just about any food establishment will hire at 16. You'll probably still need a workers permit, but other than that it shouldn't be too hard to get a job.

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