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okay i'm 13 and i havn't had my period yet. i live with my dad so its really hard to bring up that subject, and i cant shave my legs because,again it hard to bring up the subject. i have air under my arms, and i'm guessing i should be shaving...but how do i bring up tht subject. what should i do? i cant go to anyone else either.
thanks in advance
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Your dad knows that you're going to experience these things sooner or later. Simply tell your dad that you need some "feminine products" from the store. Ask for some money, if you don't have your own, and have him drive you to the store. He can just wait in the car while you go inside and get the things you need. Get yourself some creme and a good razor, along with some refills, some pads in case you start soon, and maybe pantyliners if you need them. When you started living with your dad, he knew that, as a girl, you would need to shave your legs and deal with your period, so he will be sympathetic to the subject.
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hey girl, well i know how you feel. i lost my mom when i was 9 so its me and my dad. i was scared about that stuff to. when i went to the mall with my friends i just went into cvs, bought a razor and shavnig cream. it was a smallbottle so it went away fast.. and i got my period and i called my older cousin and she just took me out to get stuff. maybe if you have a understanding aunt whos easy to talk to or a cousin.. maybe even a friend.
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It's hard for me to relate to that because I'm 16/f and I normally send my dad out to buy my pads and tampons and stuff haha. Your dad knows what's coming. He's probably just as nervous/anzious about the talk as you are. Just be like "dad, it's about time we have that mother/daughter talk." haha, that will get his attention.
Don't bother talking to him about your period until you get it (or unless you're 15ish and still don't have it). But about shaving and stuff, just say to him, "hey dad, I'm a young girl and I have to shave and stuff." He's not an idiot, he knows where babies come from and that women have periods and need to shave.
Just tell him straight out, get it out there that way it will be less awkward when more important discussions come up. 13 is a weird age and it must really suck not having your mom to talk to about this stuff. If you have any good friends whose mothers you're close to - try and talk to them.
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Well are you sure that you can't go to anyone else?? Because if you have a good friend maybe you could talk to her mom. I am sure any female would be happy to help you out. If not just say to your dad " Umm well dad I think that I should start shaving, is that ok? " and then he will probably be happy that you came to him, and you can ask him any other questions that you need answers to.
Hope I helped,
Nicole x0x0
And if you have any other questions don't hesitate to ask. I would love to know how this worked out so write back if you want. : ) x0x0
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well you might not think it but it's probably gonna be as awkward for your dad as it is for you to talk abut that subject with him. I'd say one day when your at the grocery store just get a shaver, some blades, and shaving cream and throw them in the shopping cart [[[: haha
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you should see if you can talk to an adult female but if you cant then it would be hard to talk to your dad but dont worry he is probably finding it hard to talk to you about it and maybe avoiding the subject and being male he probably doesnt know what to say or when is the right time to talk to you about it.
if you have hair under your arms you can start to shave but you dont have to, its up to you really.
And everyone is different and get there period at different ages in there life so dont worry you will probably get them soon.. have fun while you dont have them coz they suck!!!lol
if you dont have anyone else to talk to i guess you need to talk to you dad.. maybe bring up the subject by saying dad where do babys come from but try not to laugh... or say i need to talk to you about girl stuff... and yer youll be fine cos your dad loves you and he will probably be glad you brought it up.. it wont be as awkward as you think... please keep me posted id love to hear wat happens!!! xoxox
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Well, my suggestion would be to find an adult woman, like a friends mom or someone that your close to, an aunt, grandmother (yeah lame whatever) hehe. Its an awkward situtation but just find someone that you know real well, they know what you are going through
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if you dont feel confy talking to your dad about it maybe talk to your mom about it or maybe a friend that is a girl
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casually say sometime when you two are alone "dad, next time we go to the store remind me to get some saving creme and shavers" if he asks why, just make a joke and say "have you seen my legs/underarms lately? definitly need it!" (ya i know thats bad, but you have to ask him) your dad probably won't bring it up himself.
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Well, with the period thing that is just one of those things you are going to have to push yourself through. When I got my period I was 11 and very shy. I couldn't even bring that stuff up to my mom but I just had to go ahead and do it. And when you tell your dad, I really doubt he'll ask questions. I've noticed that men kind of get freaked out by the whole period issue. I think he realizes that you are getting older and he's taken that aspect of your life into account and knows it's coming soon too though. You don't even have to necessarily say "hey dad, i got my period" you could say something like "hey dad do you think i could have $10 for girl things?" he'll probably know what you are trying to say.
Ahh shaving. I also know how you feel on that one. I don't know why for some girls it's embarrassing but it is! It was for me! If you are the humorous type you could lighten up with situation by making a joke about it. You could tell him you feel like a french woman and/or gorilla and it's about time you got some shaving equipment. Or you could show him your under arms and tell him it's not becoming of a young lady. I really doubt that if you ask him to buy a razor and some shaving cream he'll think your odd or anything. For adults that tends not to be an akward subject. Don't sweat it too much!
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well if i were you i would just go ahead and shave it and after you do it tell your dad and apologize....or try to talk to an older adult like and aunt or and older girl cousin....and have them talk to your dad...
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Tell your dad you need some money, and if he asks for what... tell him that your growing up, and it's kind of embarassing to have hair under your arms and on your legs. Than you can also get into a convo about your period.
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Well, you really don't even have to bring up the subject, really. Just ask him to take you to the store because you need to buy something, and if he asks what, just tell him "female things" and he'll understand. And then just run into the store real quick, buy it, and then just go home and keep it in your own drawer or something. But if you really want to bring up the subject, just be like,"Dad, I need to start shaving my legs and stuff, so can you take me out to the store to go get some shaving cream?" I'm sure he'll be completely fine with it. Just don't be like "DAD! I HAVE TO GO SHAVE MY HAIRY PITS." or something like that, lol. I hope I helped. <3
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You don't have to go up to him and be like "Hey dad I'm gonna go shave my legs! k bye" Just do it. I'm sure he could care less about whether you shave your legs or not, he's not gonna like, examine them
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yea it was really awkward when i asked my mom to shave my legs. i really couldnt figure out how, so an easy way is to be watching tv together, and when a venus razor/nair commercial/etc comes on, you can just casually bring it up. if you make it seem like your uncomfortable, then he`ll feel uncomfortable as well :(
as for you under arms, those have to be shaven basically, and theres really no reason why they should be hairy, cuz its such a small space. some people dont want their children to shave their legs cuz after words, once you start, you basically wont ever stop, but you armpits you have to shave..
good luck ;]
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just talk to your dad..and while your at target or something just be like "i need to start shaving and i need to get some stuff" me and my dad are very close and so it was easy for me to talk to him. but dont stress , get it over with because you have to do it sooner or later. your dad will understand, you're family! i hope i helped..please rate me high!
(: Rachel
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My mom is not home much either, so I was in a similar situation to yours. I decided that I wanted to shave because I felt that it was pretty gross to have that much hair under my arms and on my legs, so I just found a razor (I don't know if you could do that since you don't live with your mom) and I decided I'd shave my legs. And nobody had a problem with it--I told my mom I started shaving over the phone, and my dad just noticed eventually. And they didn't make a big deal out of it. And the period problem...if you don't have a pad on hand, then go to a friends house who has their period and ask if you can borrow one just incase cuz your all out. Then once you do get your period, just gently let your dad know and tell him you need to get whatever you need. He's a grown man, he knows everything you're talking about--he won't bite. good luck to ya!
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Well you could do a few things. First, you can just go up to your dad and tell him you need a razor because you want to start shaving. Or if you can, just buy some on your own? If you can't, the next time you go to the store, just go get a razor and when you ring up the stuff, if your dad sees them just tell him you need them now.
As for your period, you might want to get stuff in advance like pads or tampons and have them in your house cause it would be embarassing asking your dad for them the day you got it. So if you can, talk to your dad about getting some just in case. Everyone goes through it, so I'm sure your dad will understand even if he does get a little embarassed.
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