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Friends before lovers
Hi, let me just start saying that i've never done this before, but i think its worth a shot. My best friend lets call her Jo, shes been my best friend for the longest time and i like her a ton. I go over to her house alot and we're always together at school, and i really want us to be together as a couple. I tell her how things won't change and everything and how we are best friends and that we should be together and stuff, but she says no i don't like you like that, and i want to be w/ someone who i don't know everything about, and i think thats a bit odd because i think it would be better if she new about them so there are no suprises. OK anywho so i really like this girl and i want to be with her very bad no joke, but how do i have her come to realize that we should be together, when she thinks that we are just too good of friends. Also there is all this tension between us like just want to go after her and just hook up and stuff, but she says its never gonna happen! which makes me feel worse but O well what should i do???
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Even though you told me all of this, I still don't have the details which means my answer may or may not work for you. You didn't mention your age. Anyway, you can't force someone to feel something for you. As strange as I find her wanting to be with someone she knows little about, that's her decision. You've made it clear to her how you feel and that's really all you can do.
She knows how you feel, that's done. She says she doesn't feel that way towards you and unfortunately you can not change that. What you can do is still be there for her as a friend and make sure that she doesn't get hurt while looking for the surprise in a new relationship. You never know, maybe one day she'll realize the two of you were meant to be; or you'll realize that you weren't.
Just remember, love happens. It should not and can not be forced upon anyone. If being friends with her is too much then you'll just have to tell her the friendship is hurting you because you want more and can't have it.
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but you're going to have to find a way to move on. Whether or not you're able to remain friends is up to the two of you and your emotions.
- S_C =D
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