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I'm a 20 year old girl. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 years ago. He cheated on me and tried to date my friend. But when i was in a relationship with him, i think i did love him, and expressed my emotions, cried aand poured my heart out. But he cheated on me, its been two years and at some point i remember him, and i think i miss him. And i knw its wrong, coz my bestfriend reminds me of what he did. And this thought of missing him hurts me, i get lost and at times need the feel of being isolated, and currently when ppl care, i just can't trust them. Its like i'm stuck in between. And i know for a fact that he's never returning back, its like i'm still waiting. I don't want to wait, i wish i can move on. Is there anything i can do?
It is normal to want to feel loved and wanted by someone. You got a taste of that before it went south.
You sound like you are past the crying and depression part but its just that he is on your mind all the time.
Don't worry about meeting anyone else right now or how you feel about a new guy and trusting or not.
What you need is to take your attention off all that other stuff and focus just on you. Get to know about yourself. Your subconsious is where your inner child lives. She also is the seat of all your feelings and emotions. Your sub also controls all involuntary functions such as reflex's, breathing, blinking of your eyes. She will be very interested in protecting you from further hurt. She can be what will hold you back from ever trusting anyone again to keep you from possibly being hurt. Remember, a child isn't always going to know the best decisions to make and could be very fearful. You basically need to talk to yourself and tell yourself you promise that the moment you see anything that reminds you of the qualities you did not like in the last guy, then you will back out..You have to reassure yourself, trust yourself to be able to catch the subtle clues earlier. 2 yrs was long enough to observe any inconsistencies when he took himself out of integrity. When I left my ex and began dating again...I found that people can keep a fake persona in place only a short time to lure someone into a relationship. The reason is that it takes a lot of personal energy going toward being someone they are not, so once they think they have you, they relax and show their real self. On the 3rd date with a really nice guy I was enjoying, i was invited to dinner at his house and he began to complain about his Asian maid not doing a good enough, cussing and cursing and calling her racist slurs. I finished dinner but never went back. That is not the kind of behavior I want to see in a guy even if not directed at me at the time because its only a matter of time he treats me the same. I was verbally abused. I learned what to look for. So take the time to meditate..think about what you have learned, give yourself some pep talks, do something fun and special for yourself. Once you feel secure again and know exactly what you are looking for in a guy, the right one will be attracted to you. People are attracted to confident, secure people. Its just a matter of time dear.
On february i used the prevention injection and since then i have been seing my menstrution so many times in a month so today i went to a clinic and they gave me TRIGESTREL pills so that my periods comes once a month so i just wanted to know if this will help me?????
Unfortunately ALL contraceptives that are hormone based will have some side effects, each different type may or may not affect you the same as it does someone else. So if you really must have a hormone based one...realize you will continue to have some kind of side effect. Here's one of the first things i came across online when i looked up trigestrel.
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Does_trigestrel_give_some_women_low_sex_drive
Basically the woman said NO sex drive, I was bleeding all the time, had terrible mood swings, and when she asked on FB, everyone on it had the same exact problems.
Before you freak out, you may want to do some research on line for non hormone based contraceptives. There arent many choices, the diaphragm which you use spermacide with and the copper IUD (not Mirena--thats hormones) I used both of those. Got pregnant using diaphragm but never did with IUD Look up everything you can on all the contraceptives on line and don't allow a doctor to tell you what is best for you. Make your decision based on what is most cost effective and has zero side effects on your body.
My little 5th grade girl cousin is freaking in love with me and she won't leave me alone! I'm a freshman and she's always following me around, kissing me (uggh) and asking to sit in my lap and one time she crawled into bed with me. (Ya I know creepy) I have a girlfriend. I told her that and she says (even though she's never met my gf) that she's not good enough for me and that I should date her. WTF?! She annoys the craps out of me and she's really weird. I want to yell at her to go away and that I dont like her but she would cry and I would feel bad. I'm 14. I don't want a 10 year old girl in love with me. How do I get rid of her? Thanks for any advice
Whoa, sounds like she is extra horney at age 10...maybe her hormones got going early, going through beginning of puberty, or for some reason she's in a hurry to grow up.
Yes, its not right for her to go after a cousin..that is freaky. But hon...I worry about here because if you were out of the picture lets say, she is exhibiting promiscuous behavior at such an early age, she could end up in big trouble if she goes after other guys.
Now, to protect yourself, someone has to know what she is doing, because its not normal behavior for girls to throw themselves at guys like that. If she gave up on you finally and did get hurt physically or pregnant by another guy, she may want to protect her boyfriend and blame it on you...yeah, sounds crazy but at age 10 you have no idea what to expect from her especially if she's having a hard time mentally adjusting to hormones. Simply tell her that if she doesnt stop you will tell your mom or your aunt. She might stop. She might test you so you have to be willing to then be the rat...but remember you are protecting yourself and her.
A better choice would be to tell her it is inappropriate and tell her you are informing the adults without giving her a chance to stop. This is better because she needs some female guidance from an adult like your mom so that she doesnt go off trying to crawl into bed with any guy at school who would have her and you know theres plenty of jerks who would. This would be a good reason to tell someone...to protect her.
You do whichever you feel best but someone has to be told. If you want to talk to a school counselor, a total stranger...try that instead but tell someone who knows her so they can help guide her
I've had my lobes pierced since I was a little girl - and that's about the only piercing that my parents are OK with. I used to beg them to let me get my lobes double pierced, or a cartilage piercing, etc. They told me when I was old enough to get them by myself (you have to be 18 in my state) then they wouldn't stop me.
I'm 18 now and would like to start getting some of the piercings that I've always wanted. However, I obviously still live with my parents, and even though they know that I plan on getting some piercings, I feel really uncomfortable going out and doing something that they disapprove of.
I feel like I'm supposed to just enjoy my freedom and do what I want to now. However, I still feel really bad doing things that I technically can do, but that my parents don't like or don't approve of. How can I just relax and stop fearing their disapproval?
Thanks :)
If you are old enough, you should have no worries.
If you are considering the tongue, brow, belly button also, keep in mind that it might hinder some people from hiring you as it doesnt go with the company image. Told my daughter the same. She got her brow pierced and couple weeks later was offered a job but was told she'd have to take out the piercing...ahahaha....she did. I don;t know how much your parents made decisions for you before but its high time you make any decisions for yourself. No one should be trying to live their life through you. You are old enough to know the difference between something that is bad like hooking up with a drug addict boyfriend or drinking and driving drunk or while texting, or something that is not as widely accepted by everyone socially, like coloring yThere's more I need to tell your hair blue, piercings, tats, deciding you're bi-sexual, etc...none of that is anyone elses business and you need to get past the fear of man...the fear of what anyone elses reactions will be. Express your self any way you like, as long as it harms no one including you there is no harm in it. Enjoy your life!!
I understand what your saying but trust me, I have never in my life given my dad a reason not to trust me I do everything I'm suppose to. I do all of my chores, always have perfect grades in school, and I help my mom take care of my little brothers and I still get nothing in return, not even a little bit of trust. I guess it maybe because I am the only girl but its still not fair!
By the way you should also lknow that he isn't even my real dad he's my step dad but he has been with my mom since I was a baby so he calls me his daughter even though im not. P.S. I've never met my real dad so please don't bring him up. I need advice and I'm sorry if my life seems so complicated >.<
Thank You!
If I recall dear, I only asked if there was anything you might have done to get this treatment...not that you did anything wrong...something they interpret wrong.
I still believe your parents are not doing the best job they could. They must be sooo terrified that you will end up on drugs or pregnant by some boy. It seems thats what going on if they dont worry about boys but the only girl. Have you talked to any counselors at school? How close are you to your girlfriends moms? I remember my daughters friends asking my opinion before when they thought something wasn't fair or right. Its one thing to not allow you to go out with a boy but checking up on you when you go out with friends doesn't sound right. For all I know, your step dad might be a controlling personality which will affect everyone, not just be targeted at just one. I knew a controller. Its a mental disorder that requires counseling. Even if he doesn't have the classic disorder, any controlling behavior will have the same affect...it eventually drives the people in his life away, at least all those who want their freedom and will fight for it which is you. You made a statement that both of them act like this, but that your mom knows who you hang with away from home. She knows and she personally doesn't approach you and tell you not to go out with friends, am I right? Does mom ever voice an opinion of her own. Is she her own person who feels the freedom or does she allow dad to lead her about and tell her how things are going to be?
She may be a weak personality, co-dependant on someone else because of low self esteem or whatever.Whether any of this is true or not, you're in a tough situation and you need to be able to talk to someone local...advice from the column here isn't a live human who will sit with your parents and attempt to show them how they are not allowing you to spread your wings and learn to make your own good decision. Personally, I know my feelings would be very hurt that my parents didn't trust me. This is like taking a baby bird and clipping its wings so it never has an opportunity to learn to fly. I have mentioned, aunts, friends moms, school counselors, what about a pastor if you attend church...they handle all sorts of counseling needs too and nothing is weird to them. It takes a certain strength in a person to share their situation with practical strangers. But either you do that, or you allow the parents to control you like this until you turn 18. Then you can decide where you are going to live, see who will take you in, start working and saving for college or doing whatever you want to live your own life. There's a saying that goes "The squeaky wheel gets greased" Sometimes you have to squeak loud and long and often enough until someone is irritated enough out of their complacency to help you so you wont be bugging them for help anymore. I am not going to tell you to sneak out of the house when the parents think you're home, or to run away from home...those choices are not good ones. But you already know that. You are a smart girl. If you find a way to speak up for yourself, no matter how hard or ugly it gets, you will come out stronger in the end because during your lifetime, you will as an adult stand up to whoever is wrong, even a boss doing something illegal even if it means losing your job because you had learned early not to take BS or be pushed around and controlled by anyone. Your freedom is what you treasure most. Sometimes freedom has to be fought for...but fight nicely...no name calling. just state intelligently what the pros and cons of treating you this way are. Basically there will be nothing on the pros list and there will be lots of cons.
can u get with crabs tho
Whenever you have any concerns about your sexual health or reproductive health, you must go immediately to Planned Parenthood or your own Doctor. It is unwise to wait.
I'm 18 years old and already feel like a failure.. I went to college for a year and studied Performing Arts but only came out with a certificate due to personal reasons. I also have a certificate in Health and Social from when I studied it at School/College. I'm not doing anything atm.. Work/School/College and I feel like I'm not going anywhere in life.. My sister has recently been trying to get be back into college for a Social Working course as that would of been my second option after acting. But I just can't seem to put the effort in! I feel so stupid compare to everyone else.. She's so clever and I'm clearly not. Plus, I've always wanted to do acting and finally got into a College for it again but didn't attend to course due to religion. Acting isn't an option anymore but every other career path seems worthless. I've always set my self up to become someone and now I just feel like I'm not gonna get anywhere in life! I don't one be known as one of those people that didn't do anything.
I would be grateful for any advice..
Here's an idea...if the love of acting is in your blood, try a local theater group. They take people of all ages, little kids in grade school through senior citizens. High school and college aren't the only places you can experience acting. Since you've already taken some Performing art in school you might be accepted very easily if they have openings for their next upcoming production. If current roles are all given out see if you can get in on the current one as an understudy..and be seen around the place and enjoy being part of it in any way you can to get started. Then decide what degree you are going for to find a job to support you. The performing arts and applied arts are a hard field to make money to live on and survive. You've heard the term, 'Starving artist'. there may be talent but its hard to hit it big time enough to not have to worry about bills.
Do not compare yourself to sister or anyone else. You set yourself up for failure not because you are untalented or worse than anyone else, but only because you believe it. What you set up in your mind, your subconscious is going to work hard to make it come true. Read some self help books on gaining more self confidence. You are going to need that because otherwise your acting won't stand out or be impressive.
You mentioned religion but I didn't understand how it pertained to your situation...if you think it a crucial piece of info. let me know. Otherwise, i think you'll do well if you work on self confidence, decide what other degree you will go for and find the local acting group. Good luck dear.
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Hi I am 14 years old and I have a boyfriend he does not go to my school but I have met him before in my old school and now we are dating. However, my Mom is aware but my dad is Super Over Protective and he would even spy on me when I would go to the Movies with my friends, so I need advice Urgently!!! What should I do I wanna see my boyfriend so badly but I'm afraid tht my dad will catch me ! :( Please Help ! Thank you .
-ForeverLoveKimx3
First of all, talk to your Mom. She and your Dad need to come to some kind of agreement on guidelines and rules for you dating. I'll bet they either haven't discussed it or have come to loggerheads and not agreed on anything so Mom dropped the subject and is pretending it isn't an issue. Either way, if she hasn't brought up the subject, or she is letting dad have his way, she is being "chicken". At your age, it should be fine to have a male friend. And it should be okay with you to abide with their guidelines regarding having a friend who is a male.
since your Dad sounds like he has the least amount of trust, it's either irrational or there is a logical reason. Have you done anything in the past to cause him to now not trust you even if you have grown up and wouldn't do it again?
Have your girl friends spent much time at your house so the parents get to know them? If so, by now Dad should know he can trust them. For example, they should know your girlfriends are good kids who wouldn't influence you to start skipping school or take drugs.
If you are innocent in all this and your parents are the ones with the problems, you might try to ask for advice from school counselors. Although I dont think they handle non school related issues and may refer a family counselor.
First and easiest would be another adult family relation who you could talk to. An aunt, grandma someone who will hear your side of it and go speak to your parents on your behalf...to get them to be reasonable and make some rules you all agree on.
What is really bad and they must be brought to see it, is that you need to be allowed to learn on your own how to make good choices in friends. They need to trust you and give you a little space. They should have been teaching you how to make good choices all along. If they have done nothing towards teaching you anything to prepare you for your more independant years as a teenager, then again they are making mistakes as parents and should not restrict and punish you because of their lack. If they have taught you well and still don't trust you, something is really wrong and I'd say family counseling is important. I could tell you to talk to your parents about this issue. Only you would know if they are the kind of people to listen, really listen to you without yelling and getting mad.
Your parents may unknowingly drive a wedge between you and them and lose your respect of them. Worse yet, the stress of being spied on and never trusted could have psychological effects on you where you start cutting to deal with it, your grades drop so now you're harrassed for that or end up in depression and depression can lead to teen suicide. We don't want to see you get anywhere near that. And thats why I come back to thinking that a talk is important but a talk of just you and parents may not work. You need some other adult, a relative or a counselor being an advocate for you and approaching your parents to speak to them. Your parent may love you but babies aren't born with parenting instruction manuals so most parents are winging it the whole way and sometimes need another adult who knows better to give them pointers. Good luck dear.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and since the beginning I have been having a difficult time finding something that we really enjoy to eat together. I'm a food person. I think food is all about the culture, and its adventurous because their are so many different cultures out there and they all cook food differently and they all have a unique taste. Ever since we've been dating I've been doing my best to compromise, and so has she, between the food that we eat. But we haven't found anything remote to what we could both enjoy..... what can we do?
I think there are plenty of good old American meals that can be eaten in between the more authentic foods you like. Almost all foods in the U.S. for example come originally from other countries. But we serve the Americanized versions of pizza, lasagna, enchilada's and other Mexican dishes, chineese, spaghetti and meatballs, corned beef, etc.
Having two totally different meals that must be prepared when you eat at home can get old fast and expensive too. There must be some authenic cuisine places must have something on the menu more like plain fare for her.
Do you both enjoy salads? Make salads that become a meal with some of the not so traditional veggies in it...or a blend of veggies and fruit, or one with chunks of cooked chicken breast or boiled egg or ham in it. Sorry but I don;t have any other ideas
We've been talking for a while now, and he's probably the only person I've talked to for this long and haven't gotten bored. I mean, when we talk, there is always something new to talk about. And he can actually keep a conversation going. He's nice and he cares and he doesn't push me to, you know, show him anything. We're basically just friends right now, but I feel as if my feelings for him are growing stronger.
We met on Facebook, and he lives across the ocean, which kinda sucks because, you know, I'd actually like to talk to him face to face. I know you aren't supposed to talk to strangers over Facebook or anything, but right away, reading his profile, I knew he wasn't fake. I knew he was real. And all the pictures are of the same face, and he just doesn't seem fake at all.
We kik all the time, whenever both of us aren't busy. The time difference sucks, so its either me staying up late and him getting up really early, or the other way around. I can't help but feel like I'm falling in love with him because he creates all these emotions in me that no other guy has. It's all really confusing.
Basically, what I want to know, if if I should let myself love him. Or is this all a bad idea and I should stop myself now before I get hurt. But the thing is, I don't feel like he's going to end up hurting me in the end. But then again, I could just be a naive girl.
I'm 16, female :)
Unless your family has plans to move to where he lives or his to where you live, you have no control over being able to see him. Once you are of legal age and can do asIf there is no other school--small town...perhaps you could pull out and study for you wish, where would you get the money to even just go visit him. Maybe you will find a way to meet in a few years. Maybe not.
If you are okay with it possibly turning out that you never meet, then continue to enjoy the friendship and love that you really can't control or stop. It comes or it doesnt.
One thing young people need to be paying attention to with any contact with the opposite sex, online or in person, is what you like and are attracted to personality wise because it is that and maybe more you haven't learned yet that you will be looking for in a life mate someday.
If you can handle expecting no more than a learning experience and opportunity to enjoy the feelings of a first love then go for it. Being hurt because it may never go anywhere is possible. But if you go through life basing all your actions and choices on the possibility that you "might" experience hurt or a broken heart, you will learn to set up a wall around your heart to protect yourself for fear of hurt, a wall that no man can get through, even if the right one comes along. I say that because I've known some people like that. You will make the right decision for yourself. Trust that inner voice inside of you.
My principal and assistant principal mistreat me and disrespect me. In fact, my mom is frustrated with them as well.
Here's why:
- A few months ago, they tried to get me stuck in a mental hospital, and they had no reason to do so.
- My parents, the psychiatrist, and therapist do not want me on medication. However, the principal has been trying to force me into taking it.
- I am also bisexual, and I feel that they mistreat me because of it.
- They accuse me of being a liar. For example, when I told the principal that I stopped cutting myself (and I was being honest!), she said, "Why should I believe you?" The nerve! And the assistant principal told me to not say things that aren't true and not lie -- even though all I've done is be honest about what I think.
- They act phony and insincere around me -- like they pretend to care but obviously don't. It's annoying.
I can't stand this anymore!
Depending on where you live, like the bible belt area, anything other than what Christians teach is normal like one man and one woman--married--missionary position, is in their eyes often wrong and they will treat people differently. Although its possible, you have no real proof that would stand in court to file a harassment claim.
Since Mom and therapists have no problem with how you are doing currently, it would seem the easiest way to change the situation quickly is to simply switch schools if that is possible. You would have to look at the pros and cons of such a decision. You would miss your friends, have to make new ones but a plus would be no stress from vice principal and principal which could stress you to the point of going back to cutting.
I think a big thing with you is irritation that they believe you are lying. They don't really know you like your mom or best friends so. So they really don't know when you are telling the truth. Yeah, some people are ignorant and have no compassion for young people and shouldn't be teachers or principals anyways. Later, you'll discover that many jobs have managers that don't know how to manage. It's the way it is. Don't let it get to you. Perhaps they need to see a longer track record of you doing better before they will believe. Thats their problem. All you have control over is how you react to it. I am glad to hear you have stopped cutting. I have known many women who are bisexual and are married and husbands are perfectly fine with them being attracted to and sexual with other women. Perfectly normal happy people. Lots of teens let alone adults may not understand your bi-sexuality and what they don't know and understand or is different from them, they fear and shun. You are a strong young woman and I know you can rise above any teasing or shunning you get. Do not change who you are to fit in or please others. Be true to yourself. Be strong. And be better than them.
ok so i have developing boobs and my pipples are normal size and everything's okay with them, im 15 and a virgin, ive never breastfed but my nipples look cracked, like the very tip is kinda chapped looking.... what do i do? they look okay but they are clearly cracked looking, the normal color is fine, and they've been like that for a few years....
The natural look of nipples is like roundish, oblong sections squished together with cracks that are like tight crevices which sometimes widen.
The crevices if you gently explored do not go too deep and the skin at the bottom is unbroken. If it were broken, you'd be bleeding and see the dried blood in a line the length of the nipple as it tries to heal. It would also feel tender and sore if it were cracked. Some women report real cracked nipples when breast feeding but its not caused by baby. Babys actually suck on the aereola part around the nipple and the milk comes from the nipple. Usually the less you mess with em, the better it is. If you truly begin to experience discomfort or regular cracking and bleeding..go talk to someone at Planned Parenthood.
i have a bff who's 11, I'm 13. I've known her for ages, but recently I've noticed that she's become sort of obsessed with me. for example, my other friend introduced me to her new friends, so we became quite close, but my bff tried to brake our friendships by back-chatting and stuff. also, if a boy asks me out, and i tell her about it, she goes weirdly jealous and upset, as if she wants me to herself. loads of those kinds of things keep happening, which i hate. Also, she takes everything much too seriously. Like recently she asked if i could sleep over at her house, so i said maybe, but then i said i couldn't because i hate loads of homework, then for the rest of the day she was obsessing over whether i could go to her street party the next day. when i said i couldn't, she got really angry and tried to make me jealous by saying she was going to invite some other girl...I think I'm starting to not like her...What should i do?!! Thanks, and please don't say any negative things!!
If you are feeling crowded by her and her emotions too hard to handle but things were ok before then something has changed for her. You're 2 years older. You've probably been going through puberty for some time. Maybe she is just starting and the overload of hormones is affecting her behavior and emotions.
But she also could have a low self image. Was she kind of like that growing up? Teens begin to branch out from childhood friends and make new ones in addition to their old friend. That is normal. She perhaps has not gotten to that point yet.
Talk to her about how you've noticed a change in her. Mention puberty hormones and ask her if she has noticed being more sad, weepy, or more easily angered lately. Tell her that her ways of handling her emotions are starting to irritate you and if it continues it will push you away. But let her know you still like her and care about her and want to be able to encourage her through these hard times of transition for her. But you can't be the only one. Encourage her to talk to her mom about how she is feeling with her emotions...moms understand cus they were there once.
But she doesnt improve, take the space you need to keep yourself sane and less stressed. Give her time and check to see if she has changed for the better later. Always be willing to let her into your life again if her behavior and attitudes have changed
I only ever see him at my local starbucks
Also he seems quite a confident guy around his other workmates/friends that come in. But sometimes seems a bit shy/different when i'm around.
He does stare quite a lot for about 40secs at a time, should I stare back.
We also talk when ever we see each other but only about generally stuff/fav tv shows.
Also on two different occasions he gave me a compliment saying I was polite, I wasn't sure how to respond/was a bit shocked so just said thanks.
He's also made a point of remembering my coffee order, he's the only one there that has.
He talks to other girls that he knows who come in but he never stares at/flirts with them. only me.
I do like him
we both know each other's names
I know that he's single and has been for a few years.
I'm not the most confident person so really don't want to be the one to ask him out.
This started just before christmas I know people say that if he did like me he would have asked me out by know, but if he didn't like me why would he do the whole staring/flirting/acting different around me
ALSO I WENT THEIR AGAIN TONIGHT WITH MY PARENTS, WE SAT DOWN AND LIKE 30SECS LATER HE COMES OUT WITH TWO CUPS OF WATER AND OUR FREE WIFI PASSES AND SAYS OUR ORDER TO US AND THEN SAYS I'LL GO AND GET THE OTHER TO MAKE IT FOR YOU. BEFORE I'VE EVEN PAID, SO I GO INSIDE TO PAY AND HE HAS IT READY ON A TRAY AND EVERYTHING LIKE HE WAS GOING TO BRING IT OUT TO US.
ALSO I KNOW IT'S PART OF CUSTOMER SERVICE TO BE FRIENDLY, BUT ISN'T STARING AT SOMEONE FOR 40SECS AT A TIME AND MAKING THE POINT OF COMING OUT WITH THE WATER/WIFI PASSES AND CHECKING OUR ORDER BEING A BIT OVER FRIENDLY.
AS NORMALLY YOU JUST GO IN AND ORDER AND HAVE TO STAND AND WAIT FOR IT AS IT'S STARBUCKS.
ALSO THE OTHER STAFF ARE NICE/FRIENDLY BUT NONE OF THEM GO ABOVE AND BEYOND AND DO ALL THAT.
ALSO I'VE NEVER SEE HIM DO THAT WITH ANY OTHER CUSTOMERS. IT'S ALMOST LIKE HE WAS TRYING TO IMPRESS ME/MY PARENTS OR SOMETHING
Yes Honey, those are signs that he is very interested in you. Because you haven't given the right clues back yet he hasn't made any move. Some of the sweetest, nicest guys are the ones who are initially quiet and shy but warm up and become confident once they know you.
No matter how shy you are too, you need to do something. He is looking at you hoping you will look back and hold his gaze. Peoples eyes are friendlier when interested in you. If very attracted to, or sexually aroused, the eyes pupils will dilate making the eyes appear darker. You haven't stared back at him long enough for him to see your interest. At least at this level, its just interest. And he is working so he can not be anything other than an acquaintence. Seeing him regularly because he works there and you visit that location Starbucks does not make you friends but if one of you invites the other to get together away from where he works, you will at least have a chance to discover if you have enough in common to want to become friends in activities not connected to his job.
He also may be the type of guy who allows the female to make the first move. If you're too chicken to say anything to his face and in front of his co-workers, buy a notecard and in it say something about how you enjoy seeing him at Starbucks and it seems to you that he has a particular interest in you above other customers. So if he's really interested, here's my number, give me a call. Wait until he has handed you your drink, then slip him the envelope with his name on it and leave quickly if you don't want to wait to see his reaction if he opens it right away. Be sure to smile at him nicely and hold eye contact as you hand him the card.
I dated a guy a few months ago..we were not in an exclusive relationship, but really connected and jumped into things very quickly. We drifted, because he was overwhelmed at the time and I think someone else was in the picture. I am moving across the country in a month, so I contacted him earlier last month saying how I felt and that it would be good to see him again before I leave. He wrote back in a very mature and thoughtful way, and asked to see me. We did, it was friendly and we just caught up on each other's lives. When it was time to go, he said he was glad we met up, then we hugged and he kissed me on the cheek. He also said to call him if I want to hang out again. I turned right back around and kissed him on the cheek ad hugged him again. It seemed a bit too much, because the I had to exit the subway train and he then said "you have to go." So fast forward to today, two days later. I texted him saying it was so good seeing him and catching up, and hope he had a fun weekend. It all felt right but I feel like I should have waited... I mean, does this all sound needy? I did turn around and hug/kiss him again before leaving, and now I text only a couple days later. Any thoughts? I mean, this all should be platonic, but I think he knows my interest and that given our prior history, this might be a bit much for him.
You said you are moving across country in a month. I assume your ex boyfriend knows this right? So he knows there's just a month before he won't see you again. When he said to call him if you want to hang out again, I would assume he was talking about sometime within the month. Why wait until a week or two have gone by leaving you less time to hang out together.
Its not needy. He's a current friend. Wherever you are going you likely don't have any close friends there waiting for you so you may be lonely a while. So why not enjoy what you can before you move?
You say you think he knows your interest.
Do you know what your interest is? If you're not sure your feelings, you can't expect him to pick up on anything solid. I think you are confused about your feelings for him now that you know you may not see him again. You say you called last month to say how you felt? I wonder-- How you felt about what, about moving, about him? If you told him how you felt about him, what exactly was said. "You're a good friend and will always have a place in my heart so can we stay in contact on FB?" Or was it more like, "Now that I am moving away, I have been wondering why we parted. Was it that we didn't have enough in common, not enough chemistry. I feel there are unanswered questions because I was really into you and I know I could be again."
Do you really want to be away from him? Are you having ideas of what it would be like right now if you had not drifted apart? Is your move a must? Or can you cancel it? If you must move, and he has a good job there or college he attends, he is not going to move. In this case you are just torturing yourself if you believe you are in love with him. If that's not the case, then hanging out with him before you move should be no problem
When we do hangout I want to do something unexpected. Something random that we can do without or little money. We live in a small town that the most fun thing to do is go to the mall. And our mall sucks. Weve got fields and back roads all around our town. We usually go to a park late at night and walk around or park in an empty school parking lot and watch a movie in his car. We haven't really done anything that would be unforgettable. I want something to show that I do know how to make a fun thing happen out of nothing to make him kind of like me more. And see that I am fun. So far its fine but I want something different.Please keep the sex options to a minimum and be serious. Oh and there is a couple rivers around that are dried up we've hungout at. And a canal were people go party do bonfires and smim and stuff. But I think its probably really low or dried up. I haven't been there in a while.
Sounds like you have lots of open area, ideal for kite flying. Make your own to start and see if you can save up to buy one. This is a good activity for a breezy day. Not memorable maybe but something different.
You mentioned parks so what do you think of an old fashioned romantic picnic. You both decide what your food container will be and both contribute foods from home, easy stuff, boiled eggs, hunks of cheese, maybe a loaf of fresh french bread. And to make it special, a bottle of Martinelli's apple cider which looks like a wine bottle but is not alcoholic. Or what ever version of the same your town stocks.
The Mall may be boring but even my daughters found ways to have fun like at a Walmart. They couldnt afford to buy anything except maybe some cookies or such. So they used their digital phones to take funny pics. Or if you don't have your own cell phone, surely someone in one of your family's has a digital camera you can borrow.
One of my favorite silly pics is a daughter holding a gianormous wine glass to her lips, big enough to be home to a couple of goldfish. Taking fun pics and being silly at a store seems to still be popular with all the young people. Thats unforgettable because you have to photo proof of the fun you had.
Its summer, so are there any berry picking areas around town? Is there a Fourth of July parade in town? Plan to enter together as participants doing something simple, wearing your own homemade costumes, etc. Or the two of you put your brains to gether and come up with an idea of an event to be held first time ever in town. The ideas and planning are something many won't do but doesnt cost anything. It could be as simple as holding the towns first ever dog show to be held at....you get permission to set it up somewhere with bleachers. Get people to volunteer to be the judges. Talk to different store managers to volunteer to provide a prize for winners 1st 2nd 3rd place. Come up with a design to post around town advertising the event. Find a printer who will print up for free since its a town event and be able to have their name as the printer on your flyer. It doesnt have to be a dog show and yes it can be organized by teens that the adults know are dependable and won;t change their minds next week once the project is started. Have fun!!!
Hi :). 14/F. So I like this guy and I think he likes me 2...* • I asked him if I could have his jersy and he gave it to me • He's allways touching my hand by mistaked. • He just want to hit any guy who hirts me. • He names me baby* • We talk like non-stop..* he allways writes me letters. • His frends and my friends says he likes me!* • He's allways around me and sits with us at break. • His friends asked him if he was going to kiss me and then he smiled* but do you think he likes me?* anD iF he doEs what do I do ? Because he seems very shy?* THX!* :)
Of course he likes you!! I can see that from what you wrote. But I realize you need the reassurance that it is so.
How can you be sure? Easy! Think of a guy you have absolutely no interest in. In fact he kind of creeps you out. Now picture yourself asking him for his jersy and you find opportunities to accidently touch his hand, you talk non stop with him, you hate when other girls look at him, you hang around him, sit at break and maybe even walk home with him.
I'll bet you have a hard time seeing yourself doing that right? And why is that? Because you don't like him and are not attracted to him.. If he is the shy type, maybe he is content going at this slower pace. HIs friends know of his interest and figure that he is going to want to kiss you soon. The fact he smiled shows he likes that idea. If he is that shy, it might be a while before he makes the first move and kisses you. If you don't care who initiates the kiss, then there is no reason why you can not do that.
Wait for a time when you both have some privacy.
When two people are really attracted to each other, sometimes the intensity of what we see in each others eyes causes us to look away. When the gaze is held, we begin to be able to see things in the other persons eyes. Mainly the eyes seem to darken because the pupils dilate when a person is attracted to the other or sexually aroused. If you hold eye contact steady with him, you should be able to see this in him when the mood hits for kissing. And he should be able to see it in you as long as you are very close to him and keep eye contact. My example, a hot day and my shirt is sticking to me and i am pulling it away and fanning myself to cool down. I notice eyes on me and look around to notice my husband watching me and his pupils have dilated. He is thinking right then how beautiful and attractive I am. I might approach him and step into his arms to take advantage of the moment of this feeling of desire and we spend some time kissing and just hugging and holding each other. Start watching for the clues and try to hold eye contact longer. A guy who calls you baby and communicates lots and must hang around you is just the teeniest step away from adding kissing to that list. You kissing him first would not be a mistake at all.
Just to start off,i have researched but struggled to find a similar case to mine with any solid answer online,so your help would be much appreciated.
Im 15 years old and have had fordyce spots for as long as i can remember but only found out that not everyone has them yesterday and i only found out what they are called.i have often squeezed them to make the puss come out but this one spot has reacted strangely and grown hugely in size.it is now a big red bump on my penis and a swollen red area around it.i do shave my pubes with a razor,masterbate and as i already said,pick at these spots.i am meant to be going to my girlfriends house in a week when her parents are out,so i need my penis looking normal incase i get a hand/blow job.is this a normal problem to have?what is it?will the swelling have disappeared and turned back into a normal spot in a week?and finally are fordyce spots a turn off for girls as this might be my first time getting lucky.thanks a lot in advance for any help i recieve.
This was a new one for me, I had to go research online. Here's one of the articles i found.
http://www.natural-homeremedies.com/skin-problems/fordyce.htm
In the article it indicates that the condition can be present at birth and that it may be hereditary. Though it doesnt look nice you need to learn how to deal with it as you will have it throughout your life. I wonder how you know about it. Did you find it online or see the family Dr. ? Self diagnosis is not good idea. If you learned through the doctor, you might want to ask your dr. what to do about the one spot. It sounds like it is infected. The article says to leave them alone and never try to squeeze the pus out. The condition can not be transfered to a female it seems like and should not cause any kind of reaction in her body. Since the skin was broken, its likely you now have an infection. I highly must stress that you stop touching the infected spot, not even consider any romantic ventures or blow jobs until you get this looked at. If you are too embarrassed to let parents know and see a family doctor, then please go to Planned Parenthood ASAP.
You need to be educated more on Fordyce and on how to care for yourself and likely need to be prescribed an antibiotic to get rid of the infection. Forget your date a week away. You may still see her but if it comes to getting undressed, I'd not recommend it until you have some solid information that you can provide a female with. If I was with a guy that had the condition, my initial reaction would be to wonderiing if it was a herpes outbreak which can be passed on, genital warts which a female CAN get from a guy, or something else that is not good for me. I would not do anything sexual at all with such a man even if he tells me what it is called until I see some paperwork from a Doctor with the Doctors determination that this male has Fordyce. I am in my 50's and I would be that cautious. Imagine how a young girl will react especially if its to be her first time with a guy? It is possible to have a good sex life with your condition because it cannot be passed to the lady and it is not painful to you...or it shouldn't be. If it is, then your skin being broken for whatever reason got infected.
It will be up to you to educate any female you meet about your condition once you seem to be getting to the point of being intimate. If the girl once educated about it still is repulsed or not understanding, then she isn't worth your time. Don't send her to the internet photo's to learn about it because not everyone posts correct pictures of what the condition looks like. Some really looked like warts to me and others like herpes. The best ammo you can be armed with for life will be a Doctors diagnosis of your condition with an explanation that it is harmless.
If I were you, that paper will be so important, I'd make copies and put the original in plastic page protectors. It may be difficult for you to ever in life have inpromptu sex with someone you just met because of this, but then again, who knows. The article says that a lot of teens today seem to have the condition so it may be more prevelant now due to something that has changed in our environment. As a nudist, i can say i have never seen that condition ever on the men and there are not many teens that attend nudist events. So I am guessing it must be something affecting the younger generations.
What do you do if you have the sweetest BF but like a different guy but still wanna be with him?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNuzKP9Mb_M
Most people practice what is called serial monogamy. They date one person only at a time...committed to only them until the relationship ends and they move on to the next one. You need to ask yourself if you just like the boyfriend or really love him. What about the 2nd guy? Are you just attracted to his looks or do you feel in love with him also? Do you know for sure if he has a mutual interest in you too? Most people will just date the one they are with long enough to determine if this is someone they want to be with long-term. If not, they break up and then they move on to the other they are interested in.
It is possible to be in love with one man and yet have another catch our eye. When we are in the stage of still learning what it is we like in the opposite sex, we may find bits and pieces in many different guys that we like along with the things in each that we don't like. I believe this process can be done with dating multiple people at the same time as long as you are open up front with a guy and let him know you are in the stage of determining which guy most closely resembles the male you want to live the rest of your life with. So you are not making any commitments or promises. Part of the process is also determining if you are sexually compatible and with many guys, you just can't know until you've actually been sexual with them.
Younger guys who don't want the pressure of a girl who wants to settle down soon are more likely to be okay with this as well as older guys who have been divorced and not in a hurry to get married until they are more sure this time around.
While you may eventually find a guy to be a mate who has most the qualities you like, it's pretty much impossible to find one who has all the qualities in the one person. Some people turn to polyamory for those very reasons. But before you entertain that thought, is what you are looking for in a guy a need or a want? A need is something you must have like some people will only be in relationship/marry another person who is of the same faith. A want is like the icing on the cake, like a guy who likes to wear his hair long, something you are attracted to but not necessary, something you can live without.
There are some people wired to be monogamous and others who find they are attracted to many and able to be in love with more than one at once. That is called Polyamory. Here's a link to a gal that explains it perfectly in just over 4 min.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNuzKP9Mb_M
So I do not have an easy answer for you. You still need to determine what you are looking for, what matters most to you. Are you dating for fun and just to have occasional activity partners for now, or are you ready to look for a mate for life?
I'm a 13 year old girl. I do drama at му school and there's a school play and I auditioned but I'm just a robber and I don't think I even talk and if I do I get like 1 line. How can I become better so that maybe the 'director' puts ме in a better part?
I dont know if you live in a big enough city but besides school plays, if you want more of this, find the local group who puts on plays in your area that takes both adults and kids of all ages. You will get more exposure this way. Its not so much looks that will get a person good parts as it is stage presence. There is an energy or vibes that come off an actor/actress that make the part so real instead of a stiff paperdoll image that anyone could stick in that spot. I say look for a secondary outlet for your love of acting. The only other great way young people who start acting these days get started is the teens who audition and get accepted to play parts is through disney channel auditions. Look them up on line but not until you've honed your skills and gotten the attention of some local people. Watch you tube videos by teens who are working with disney channel. Look up the video titled, "how to get an acting job on the disney channel" It has helpful info even if you weren't targeting disney