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Idk why?
I understand what your saying but trust me, I have never in my life given my dad a reason not to trust me I do everything I'm suppose to. I do all of my chores, always have perfect grades in school, and I help my mom take care of my little brothers and I still get nothing in return, not even a little bit of trust. I guess it maybe because I am the only girl but its still not fair!
By the way you should also lknow that he isn't even my real dad he's my step dad but he has been with my mom since I was a baby so he calls me his daughter even though im not. P.S. I've never met my real dad so please don't bring him up. I need advice and I'm sorry if my life seems so complicated >.<
Thank You! <3
-ForeverLoveKimx3
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If I recall dear, I only asked if there was anything you might have done to get this treatment...not that you did anything wrong...something they interpret wrong.
I still believe your parents are not doing the best job they could. They must be sooo terrified that you will end up on drugs or pregnant by some boy. It seems thats what going on if they dont worry about boys but the only girl. Have you talked to any counselors at school? How close are you to your girlfriends moms? I remember my daughters friends asking my opinion before when they thought something wasn't fair or right. Its one thing to not allow you to go out with a boy but checking up on you when you go out with friends doesn't sound right. For all I know, your step dad might be a controlling personality which will affect everyone, not just be targeted at just one. I knew a controller. Its a mental disorder that requires counseling. Even if he doesn't have the classic disorder, any controlling behavior will have the same affect...it eventually drives the people in his life away, at least all those who want their freedom and will fight for it which is you. You made a statement that both of them act like this, but that your mom knows who you hang with away from home. She knows and she personally doesn't approach you and tell you not to go out with friends, am I right? Does mom ever voice an opinion of her own. Is she her own person who feels the freedom or does she allow dad to lead her about and tell her how things are going to be?
She may be a weak personality, co-dependant on someone else because of low self esteem or whatever.Whether any of this is true or not, you're in a tough situation and you need to be able to talk to someone local...advice from the column here isn't a live human who will sit with your parents and attempt to show them how they are not allowing you to spread your wings and learn to make your own good decision. Personally, I know my feelings would be very hurt that my parents didn't trust me. This is like taking a baby bird and clipping its wings so it never has an opportunity to learn to fly. I have mentioned, aunts, friends moms, school counselors, what about a pastor if you attend church...they handle all sorts of counseling needs too and nothing is weird to them. It takes a certain strength in a person to share their situation with practical strangers. But either you do that, or you allow the parents to control you like this until you turn 18. Then you can decide where you are going to live, see who will take you in, start working and saving for college or doing whatever you want to live your own life. There's a saying that goes "The squeaky wheel gets greased" Sometimes you have to squeak loud and long and often enough until someone is irritated enough out of their complacency to help you so you wont be bugging them for help anymore. I am not going to tell you to sneak out of the house when the parents think you're home, or to run away from home...those choices are not good ones. But you already know that. You are a smart girl. If you find a way to speak up for yourself, no matter how hard or ugly it gets, you will come out stronger in the end because during your lifetime, you will as an adult stand up to whoever is wrong, even a boss doing something illegal even if it means losing your job because you had learned early not to take BS or be pushed around and controlled by anyone. Your freedom is what you treasure most. Sometimes freedom has to be fought for...but fight nicely...no name calling. just state intelligently what the pros and cons of treating you this way are. Basically there will be nothing on the pros list and there will be lots of cons.
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