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Little Cousin Is In Love With Me!
My little 5th grade girl cousin is freaking in love with me and she won't leave me alone! I'm a freshman and she's always following me around, kissing me (uggh) and asking to sit in my lap and one time she crawled into bed with me. (Ya I know creepy) I have a girlfriend. I told her that and she says (even though she's never met my gf) that she's not good enough for me and that I should date her. WTF?! She annoys the craps out of me and she's really weird. I want to yell at her to go away and that I dont like her but she would cry and I would feel bad. I'm 14. I don't want a 10 year old girl in love with me. How do I get rid of her? Thanks for any advice
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Part of this may be admiration or wanting to be just like you. The other part however, crosses the line. You don't want anyone thinking that her trying to kiss you or crawl into your bed was something you initiated.
What you need to do is tell one of her parents that she is making you very uncomfortable and give the bed thing and physical contact example to them and ask them to talk to their daughter about this.
At this stage of her development kids start having feelings for peers which is normal but hers are directed to the wrong person and she has to be taught that those feelings for boys are normal and okay but not directed at you and that the whole bed thing or physically kissing etc. is not appropriate.
It should stop but if it doesn't they may need her to see a professional to figure out where the behavior really is stemming from or if she learned it from someone was abused etc. Either way tell her parents and yours pronto. Something lie this you don't keep to yourself.
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You need to tell an adult about her behavior.
It is possible that ahe may be hitting puberty early. At age 10, It is a bit odd that she is showing rebellious behavior in this way. It is also very wrong and creepy to be approaching a family member this way also.
What you do is you tell her mother about the way she has been acting around you or tell someone who is in charge of her. Letting her behavior go on like this could lead serious consequences for her later on in life.
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Whoa, sounds like she is extra horney at age 10...maybe her hormones got going early, going through beginning of puberty, or for some reason she's in a hurry to grow up.
Yes, its not right for her to go after a cousin..that is freaky. But hon...I worry about here because if you were out of the picture lets say, she is exhibiting promiscuous behavior at such an early age, she could end up in big trouble if she goes after other guys.
Now, to protect yourself, someone has to know what she is doing, because its not normal behavior for girls to throw themselves at guys like that. If she gave up on you finally and did get hurt physically or pregnant by another guy, she may want to protect her boyfriend and blame it on you...yeah, sounds crazy but at age 10 you have no idea what to expect from her especially if she's having a hard time mentally adjusting to hormones. Simply tell her that if she doesnt stop you will tell your mom or your aunt. She might stop. She might test you so you have to be willing to then be the rat...but remember you are protecting yourself and her.
A better choice would be to tell her it is inappropriate and tell her you are informing the adults without giving her a chance to stop. This is better because she needs some female guidance from an adult like your mom so that she doesnt go off trying to crawl into bed with any guy at school who would have her and you know theres plenty of jerks who would. This would be a good reason to tell someone...to protect her.
You do whichever you feel best but someone has to be told. If you want to talk to a school counselor, a total stranger...try that instead but tell someone who knows her so they can help guide her
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