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Should I Love Him...?
We've been talking for a while now, and he's probably the only person I've talked to for this long and haven't gotten bored. I mean, when we talk, there is always something new to talk about. And he can actually keep a conversation going. He's nice and he cares and he doesn't push me to, you know, show him anything. We're basically just friends right now, but I feel as if my feelings for him are growing stronger.
We met on Facebook, and he lives across the ocean, which kinda sucks because, you know, I'd actually like to talk to him face to face. I know you aren't supposed to talk to strangers over Facebook or anything, but right away, reading his profile, I knew he wasn't fake. I knew he was real. And all the pictures are of the same face, and he just doesn't seem fake at all.
We kik all the time, whenever both of us aren't busy. The time difference sucks, so its either me staying up late and him getting up really early, or the other way around. I can't help but feel like I'm falling in love with him because he creates all these emotions in me that no other guy has. It's all really confusing.
Basically, what I want to know, if if I should let myself love him. Or is this all a bad idea and I should stop myself now before I get hurt. But the thing is, I don't feel like he's going to end up hurting me in the end. But then again, I could just be a naive girl.
I'm 16, female :)
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I don't know how your feel but I went through a similar situation. It may just be the idea of him and not actually HIM. You must consider he lives across the ocean so you will probably not be able to see him face to face. And if you are contemplating whether he is who he says he is, ask him to take a picture of him holding your name up or Skype him
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Becca
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He is half way across the world, I would personally keep it strictly a friendship. I firmly believe we cannot love someone we never met. You do not know him, You know him off a computer that's it. There is a big difference between engaging in conversation online and in person.
Another issue here is that you are young. This guy seems ideally of someone that has common interests and personality traits that attract you. He is not your future husband.
Be friends, Keep it mutual. Better off meeting someone who is in person
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Unless your family has plans to move to where he lives or his to where you live, you have no control over being able to see him. Once you are of legal age and can do asIf there is no other school--small town...perhaps you could pull out and study for you wish, where would you get the money to even just go visit him. Maybe you will find a way to meet in a few years. Maybe not.
If you are okay with it possibly turning out that you never meet, then continue to enjoy the friendship and love that you really can't control or stop. It comes or it doesnt.
One thing young people need to be paying attention to with any contact with the opposite sex, online or in person, is what you like and are attracted to personality wise because it is that and maybe more you haven't learned yet that you will be looking for in a life mate someday.
If you can handle expecting no more than a learning experience and opportunity to enjoy the feelings of a first love then go for it. Being hurt because it may never go anywhere is possible. But if you go through life basing all your actions and choices on the possibility that you "might" experience hurt or a broken heart, you will learn to set up a wall around your heart to protect yourself for fear of hurt, a wall that no man can get through, even if the right one comes along. I say that because I've known some people like that. You will make the right decision for yourself. Trust that inner voice inside of you.
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