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I feel like a Failure..
I'm 18 years old and already feel like a failure.. I went to college for a year and studied Performing Arts but only came out with a certificate due to personal reasons. I also have a certificate in Health and Social from when I studied it at School/College. I'm not doing anything atm.. Work/School/College and I feel like I'm not going anywhere in life.. My sister has recently been trying to get be back into college for a Social Working course as that would of been my second option after acting. But I just can't seem to put the effort in! I feel so stupid compare to everyone else.. She's so clever and I'm clearly not. Plus, I've always wanted to do acting and finally got into a College for it again but didn't attend to course due to religion. Acting isn't an option anymore but every other career path seems worthless. I've always set my self up to become someone and now I just feel like I'm not gonna get anywhere in life! I don't one be known as one of those people that didn't do anything.
I would be grateful for any advice..
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You lnow, a bit of fire in your belly goes a long way. Of course you're not doing anything. You have no motivation.
So you need to find some-this could come from the fact that you don't want to do NOTHING for the rest of your life.
Also, recognise (no offense) what hard work is. Only the most hard working people become actors. You could as someone suggested, join drama groups. But the issue with this is that yes its experience but they are usually just for fun, and carry no acclaimed awards to their name.
So yes, another career path is in order. You need to do a course that will lead to a job. You seem to suggest you're not very academic. I am 18 too, and very academic. But even I am doing a vocational course at Uni, because I know that it will lead me to a job.
Also, if you're really stuck, go for a course where people are in demand. You could try:
Midwifery
Carer
Chef
Or, you could go on an apprenticeship. Even just office work, if you can get it. You could also try internships and ask to do voluntary work experience.
You'll have to work really hard to achieve your long term career goal, and you may indeed feel like a failure along the way.
But you have to just pick yourself up and carry on, because its a competitive jobs market.
Good luck :)
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Everybody will feel like shit sometimes, I do, I didn't last week, and i may not two weeks from now. You'll be ok. My only advice is, if you aren't doing anything, go a little crazy, shake hands or talk with random people on the street, be outgoing, be friendly, be "That guy" who everybody wishes they were because of how outgoing you are.
Remember, all work and no play makes jack try to axe-murder his family.
You owe it to yourself to take a long break, and have a lot of fun.
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Here's an idea...if the love of acting is in your blood, try a local theater group. They take people of all ages, little kids in grade school through senior citizens. High school and college aren't the only places you can experience acting. Since you've already taken some Performing art in school you might be accepted very easily if they have openings for their next upcoming production. If current roles are all given out see if you can get in on the current one as an understudy..and be seen around the place and enjoy being part of it in any way you can to get started. Then decide what degree you are going for to find a job to support you. The performing arts and applied arts are a hard field to make money to live on and survive. You've heard the term, 'Starving artist'. there may be talent but its hard to hit it big time enough to not have to worry about bills.
Do not compare yourself to sister or anyone else. You set yourself up for failure not because you are untalented or worse than anyone else, but only because you believe it. What you set up in your mind, your subconscious is going to work hard to make it come true. Read some self help books on gaining more self confidence. You are going to need that because otherwise your acting won't stand out or be impressive.
You mentioned religion but I didn't understand how it pertained to your situation...if you think it a crucial piece of info. let me know. Otherwise, i think you'll do well if you work on self confidence, decide what other degree you will go for and find the local acting group. Good luck dear.
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The best way to fix your problem is to stop crying about it and do it! Your LOVE is acting! SO DO IT! You are making yourself miserable because YOU ARE NOT FOLLOWING YOUR DREAM.
Get up, Go back to college, And you go get your dream.
No one can ever make you feel WORTHLESS except for you. No can ever keep you from REACHING your goals except for you. So take "you" out of the way and start believing in yourself again because you can do this. You just need to have faith and patience.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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