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Texting my Ex
I dated a guy a few months ago..we were not in an exclusive relationship, but really connected and jumped into things very quickly. We drifted, because he was overwhelmed at the time and I think someone else was in the picture. I am moving across the country in a month, so I contacted him earlier last month saying how I felt and that it would be good to see him again before I leave. He wrote back in a very mature and thoughtful way, and asked to see me. We did, it was friendly and we just caught up on each other's lives. When it was time to go, he said he was glad we met up, then we hugged and he kissed me on the cheek. He also said to call him if I want to hang out again. I turned right back around and kissed him on the cheek ad hugged him again. It seemed a bit too much, because the I had to exit the subway train and he then said "you have to go." So fast forward to today, two days later. I texted him saying it was so good seeing him and catching up, and hope he had a fun weekend. It all felt right but I feel like I should have waited... I mean, does this all sound needy? I did turn around and hug/kiss him again before leaving, and now I text only a couple days later. Any thoughts? I mean, this all should be platonic, but I think he knows my interest and that given our prior history, this might be a bit much for him.
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You are moving and my honest opinion is it's completely pointless to light an old flame if it isnt going to work out in the first place. Kissing and hugging him is misleading, It doesn't matter what your history was. The fact that you are moving away, You shouldn't be sending him mixed signals and possibly get his hopes up if your not going to be sticking around.
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You said you are moving across country in a month. I assume your ex boyfriend knows this right? So he knows there's just a month before he won't see you again. When he said to call him if you want to hang out again, I would assume he was talking about sometime within the month. Why wait until a week or two have gone by leaving you less time to hang out together.
Its not needy. He's a current friend. Wherever you are going you likely don't have any close friends there waiting for you so you may be lonely a while. So why not enjoy what you can before you move?
You say you think he knows your interest.
Do you know what your interest is? If you're not sure your feelings, you can't expect him to pick up on anything solid. I think you are confused about your feelings for him now that you know you may not see him again. You say you called last month to say how you felt? I wonder-- How you felt about what, about moving, about him? If you told him how you felt about him, what exactly was said. "You're a good friend and will always have a place in my heart so can we stay in contact on FB?" Or was it more like, "Now that I am moving away, I have been wondering why we parted. Was it that we didn't have enough in common, not enough chemistry. I feel there are unanswered questions because I was really into you and I know I could be again."
Do you really want to be away from him? Are you having ideas of what it would be like right now if you had not drifted apart? Is your move a must? Or can you cancel it? If you must move, and he has a good job there or college he attends, he is not going to move. In this case you are just torturing yourself if you believe you are in love with him. If that's not the case, then hanging out with him before you move should be no problem
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