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Um, so basically the guy I was dating and I decided to break up three days ago. I didn't want to, but I did to make him happy. It is crazy. I'm just going through this phase where I miss him every minute of the day. When I talked to him yesterday, I was crying uncontrollably on the phone and that only because he hates himself, he's into depression and he never told me when we were together. On the phone he was just being mean, asking me to stay away otherwise I'll get hurt. Later I found out when I was crying, we was too but silently, because he couldn't say anything. The thing is, sometimes, he gets so mean to me. Everytime, I pretend to be happy, pretend to be okay, he just..it's like he becomes cold. Why does he do this? Is it possible that he still has feelings for me? I didn't contact him at all today and he came on fb and I told him my phone broke ( which it did) and that I couldn't talk for a week..until school starts. But then he replied by saying that he was sorry and he asked me to "please text or call??" But I didn't. Not because I don't want to, but because I don't know what I'll say or how I'll say that stuff again and again. I don't want to show him that I'm weak, but I miss him so much! Is it possible that he still misses me and loves me the way I do?

Into depression? Being "into" something means you kinda like it. He's into rap music, she's into eating vegetarian. So either he is clinically depressed and needs to be under medication or he is refusing to take it for some reason he believes to be valid, maybe side effects., or he is not depressed but choosing to act like that as a defense mechanism to keep people from getting too close to him for whatever reasons, in which case it might be a good idea for him to see a mental health professional to discover why he does that and work towards healthier thinking and feeling and relationships.

If he is warning you to stay away from him...at least he has some sense, he knows he is in no shape to be able to offer a healthy relationship. As much as it hurts it might be best to follow his advice for now but at least write him and ask if he's seen anyone for depression and if he has meds why he doesnt take them. Or ask if it is something else that he has no clear idea what yet and suggest he see a counselor. Make sure you want him to do this for himself, not for you. Watch and see if he improves. If he does not, continue to stay away. You are not weak for crying and being upset about someone you have feelings for. But you do have to watch that you are not led about by only your feelings. Thoughout life you will have times that you will need to make the best decision which will include a period of time when you are sad because there the heart hasnt let go yet.

i started dating this guy and really thought he was the one..but when i introduced him to my family they hated him..so we kept going out and he came to support me in a pagent i was doing and afterwards my parents told me i had to choose between him and them and if i choose him i ad to move out.So i choose them but didnt have the heart to tell my bf and so the other night i did and now he has turned really horrible to me telling me he never cared about me knowing that it hurts..any advice?

There's a saying that love is blind. To some extent that is true. I was blind to things about the guy I dated and married. Perhaps your family saw something in him they did not like and it was a the valid concern. Have they tried to explain to you why they did not like him. They may not tell you because they feel you will become defensive.
As you have already chosen and stayed with family, use this as a learning experience. Calmly ask each family member what they did not like about him. Tell them you honestly want to know so you don't make the same mistake twice. You want to be able to see the same things they saw. If they can not provide you with anything solid like, he was disrepectful to other women, he wasn't able to look a person straight in the eyes, he dodged answering innocent questions all the time...if they have nothing to say, then you know not to listen to them next time. Can you repair the relationship if this is the case? I do not know. When someone is hurt, they can say the most untrue horrible things to try to hurt the other person as badly as they were hurt. Is it an adult mature way of responding...No...but not every adult has figured out yet how to respond in such a situation, they react...and reactions come with emotions attached like anger, sadness, fear.

How do you know if your hymen is "broken" (I know it can't really break, it just tears the tissue and such) I have been using tampons for two years, i used to be very physical when I didn't have my period also. I have never had sex, but I want to know if my hymen is still intact. How can you tell if its been broken or not? Thanks!

It stretches in degrees like a pony tail tie stretches. The hymen doesn't entirely cover your vagina. Using tampons, using your fingers or dildos or vibrators can help stretch it. Its different for everyone. For some it stretches quite easily to become the same circumferance as the vagina. For others, it takes a little longer. Do it the practice stretching in degrees, always moving to something larger until it is stretched out.
The only reason some ladies feel pain or get a drop or two of blood is if they don't use lube and a guy enters too fast without giving the hymen a chance to stretch to accomodate and so he tears your inner skin a bit which will heal on its own, no problem.
For a good talk about the hymen with a good model to explain the hymen better, i suggest you watch a youtube channel, Sex Plus with Laci Green and the episode would be you cant pop your cherry.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA
theres about 160 good videos on relationships, dating and sex for young people

My sister won't listen to me when I want to show her my walk cause I want to be a model .. Whty is that?

Perhaps she has no interest in the modeling field. What not ask Mom, aunt or girlfriends instead. Just because people are family doesnt mean they'll have same interests.

am from Tanzania. my name is helen am 20years old i have a boyfriend for one year now but he changed alot and start to ignore me

HI Helen, not sure what advice you are asking for. You only made statements, no questions.
If you are wondering why he changed, you'll just have to ask him what is up.
There is something called NRE, New relationship energy which is like a drug, a super high you get when you meet and start dating someone. But once it wears off, if there isn't enough chemistry on one or both sides, and not enough in common, to keep the interest going, then one or both can lose interest in each other. It's normal. But best way to find out what specifically it is would be asking.

Hi,
K so there's this guy that I like from work.. He's six years older than I am and I am 17 years old right now. When we first met I felt like he may have liked me cause he would always try a way to touch or even try to hug me several times. But ever since he found out about my age , he sorta then backed off.. Just because maybe he felt that i was just too young for him :/
So then several weeks went by before he stopped acting awkward and starter to be friendly again but like not as "friendly" as before. So then anyways the last time I saw him he said I looked pretty several times throughout my shift, and it was because I was all dolled up for grad that night after my shift and at the end he even stopped me after my shift and pulled me in hugging me saying I looked pretty again. A few days after grad he fb messaged me and asked if I was working tonight out of the blue and I said no haha and then he said u should be working !!! And then somehow he asked for my number and then he texted me late that night after his shift like at 12 pm all the way to 1:30 ish am. We talked and he said that he saw pictures in facebook and said that i looked pretty at grad and asked how it was. he also asked if i always stayed up this late and i boldly said that it was because i liked ralking to him. But when we were texting I felt like he didn't give in much to the conversation like I was always the one asking . And then him answering. He finally said that he was going to bed and that he would ttyl. Does he really mean that ? Or was he just being nice? Does he like me ? I'm so confused ...maybe I'm just overthinking. Do u think he may have been bored at our conversation ?!

First, I think his initial reaction to hearing your age was the fact you weren't 18 yet. He did not want to be in trouble for going after someone under age. However, I find it odd he would hug you at work. Most employers are very about no sexual harassment at work. Hugging is great, maybe his whole family are huggers and that's the only way he knows how to greet people.
The reason you are doing all the texting and keeping a typed conversation going is because most males hate to type. They would prefer voice talk. So he is not bored with you, he wants a real conversation. Try an actual phone call to him instead of texting and see if there is a difference.

A guy that I like from work finally asked for my number and we texted a bit the other night. He said that he would ttyl... Should I be the one that initiate or should I just wait on his word until he texts me ?

Does it have to be texting? I mean, you could call and actually talk instead of text. If he has enough interest to ask for your number, he definitely will enjoy hearing from you. You don't know his schedule and when he is available to talk. You have so much to talk about and find out about each other. You can do that much easier by having a conversation like you would in person, just on the phone instead.

While some guys enjoy texting, not all enough typing. The greatest majority do not write on line or text much at all. When I was on a dating site, of the guys who wrote to me, 90 % wrote just a few short phrases. I could learn nothing about them until we switched to phone calls. Then the men were communicative. So give him a call and talk to him.

Okay im 13 and every since i was like 7 to now. My grandmother and mother always wanted me to be something that i not wanted to be. They always wanted me to be a girly girl. I am a girl. I just don't like to wear skirts and i have a good reasons why i don't. Everytime we go to a clothing store. Here they go this pink shirt is cute. I say i don't llike pink. I love purple. Here they go what type of girl don't like pink. Every girl love pink. Everybody how do i get them off my back and how do i explain them that im not girly girl. Please help.

Ask them if they force their personal likes on other people like adult friends. Give them an example, when at a restaurant, instead of quieting choosing their own meal, are they busy pointing to items on the menu, hey Lucy, the salmon dinner here is great, you should order that. "Well I like pasta and lasagna" Oh no no you can't eat that, pasta is too fattening and not a good food for us women who want to have a trim figure, you must order the fish dinner.
If they don't do that with friends, tell them you would like to have the same treatment.
If they do treat all others like that, then they need some training in how to relate to other people.
>Give mom examples of what is okay to say to you.
Like "Daughter, I would like to give you something to consider about the shirt you are interested in. I am not saying you can't have it, but you need to realize it wrinkles easily and I dont iron, so you'd have to be willing to do that if your heart is set on it." That kind of helpful talk is important and the choice is still being left up to you.
Try it and see how it goes. Come up with your own examples using your own words so it feels easier to say to mom and grandma

I love thos boy so much but I don't know how to tell him. I don't think he's had experiance with girl so I'm not sure which way to go about it ?

Some of the sign of mutual interest in each other are subtle, like looking at each other lots, staring at, finding excuses to be close to the person, finding excuses to talk to them or accidently touch them. These all point to an interest. If you don't see any, do something fun...it usually works, no matter how old you are and the other person will think it's cute whether they're 12 or 30. Write a note that asks, do you like me, yes or no. and have two boxes to check off one for yes and one for no. If the reply comes back yes, next note, Would you like to date me? yes .or no. If yes, then start talking to him, theres nothing you can say wrong except that I love him this early in the relationship. That scares people off and in adult relationships, I had 2 guys profess they loved me right at the start and made them look needy. If he answered yes to both, you can enjoy conversation and dating and give it time to spend together a few months before you say you feel you have developed feelings of love for him.

Simple question so many people ask all over the world. Why am I afraid of bugs? It's not the I just scream and run away, but it's more than that.

What happens is if I see one I just freeze and I watch it movements. I make sure not to lose it. My heart is also beating a hundred miles a minute, and my eyes are so wide! If I lost it, then I panick. And if it gets real close to me or if I lose it and I don't know where it is, I actually start to cry.

I never had a huge problem. I'd just tell my dad or somebody to kill it. Then I'd go back to normal. I'd never cry actually. But recently my fear for them is getting bigger and bigger. To the point where they're winning. As in I change my ways to avoid them.

Over the two months, I've seen little tiny bugs on my window or on my dresser. And I always had a shoe around. Sometimes I'd miss and it would disappear. That was when I'd try my best to forget about it. Some days I did, others I had a lucky shot and found it again and killed it.
But two days ago in my room I saw this one cockroach. It was crawling on my carpet and I just watched it walk. I was scared all night and couldn't sleep.
Then last night I decided it was safe enough now. I was doing good. I was about to sleep when I hear a sound. I thought it was the fan moving something, but it was a bug. Flying. It was coming towards me so I ran downstairs away from my room. I was risking being caught by my parents at 4am but it was okay as long as I was away from that bug. But thing is, I was crying and my legs were all wobbly going downstairs.

I don't why. Why does a simple little bug, a harmless one scare me so much? I get the usual fast heartbeat. But am I the only one who freezes, cries and visibly shakes? How come now because of two bugs compared to me are so tiny, winning? I can't go into my room anymore I just can't! But just, why?

I saw a show where people had irrational fears about something, one was snakes, one was bugs, dogs and there were a couple others. The therapist takes each of them through steps to get them comfortable enough that they could touch or handle the object of their fears, being in the same room while it was captive, caged, then uncaged, then touching it. All others looked on and giggled or laughed because it wasn't something they feared but once facing the thing they feared, they freaked just as bad. Therapists can help you deal with a fear..but it costs money which you may not have. See if you can get a family member to help you work on this if thats the case.
Sure it seems an irrational fear if there is nothing in your life experience that could have given a reason for it. Unless you believe in past lives. Perhaps you are nearing the age you were in a past life when you were stung by a swarm of hornets and died. That laying in your subconscious is enough to bring this fear to the surface, so your subconscious needs to be dealt with and healed from whatever reason this life or a past one caused your fear. A hypnotist can help you deal with the fear or some specialize in taking people back to past lives to deal with a fear that started there.

i want to do sex wth my virgin girl with out condom is it safe.

No it is not. Let me tell you a story with just one STD for an example. Lets talk about Herpes, both oral and genital. This one is really sneaky. It is passed on by skin contact a day or two before the outbreak. The outbreak is painful. No one is going to want to kiss or have sex while having an outbreak. The virus is carried in the body and can be laying in the body dormant all your life, or at some point when you are experiencing tremendous stress, the virus travels up the nerves to the surface of the skin. I have it and this is what was explained to me. Parents who have the oral kind and are the type who give their kids a kiss on the lips, can pass it on right before an outbreak. The kid may never have the oral mouth sores on inside or outside of lips. But later in life as an adult, the kid has something stressful happens which triggers the herpes lying dormant near their mouth and the herpes virus surfaces. After that, they realize not to kiss when they have the sores but a guy who carries the oral one can give oral sex to a female and pass it on to her genitals. She may not have an outbreak at the contact site for years or may get one a few months later. Thats not the only problem, when a person gets tested for STD's as I did years ago, they only test for everything but herpes...thats an extra cost and you have to ask for the test, they don't volunteer it unless it has recently changed. Much later I had another test when I had discovered that you need to ask for herpes testing also. It came out positive. Although i had never had an outbreak. I went on for years not having an outbreak. Then with the stress of a divorce, it surfaced and I now get 1 or 2 outbreaks per year. Not bad compared to how often others get it. What I want to stress is that you can't assume you are safe because one of you or both of you are virgins. One statistic says that 4 out of every 5 people carry the herpes virus now.
Next topic is contraceptives. If the girl was going to rely on just a condom for birth control, she better visit Planned Parenthood or her dr. and get b c soon. If not on pill or other b c, she can very easily get pregnant, don't count on what time in her month her cycle is. Why? because a recent illness or stress from school or something else is enough to delay her cycle so that changes everything in her schedule so unless she is monitoring her temperature every morning and knows when she is ovulating, having sex without a b c is like playing Russian roulette. Click..not pregnant, click...not pregnant, click ...bang...you;re pregnant.

22/F
My ex and I broke up at the end of May and he said it was because we were just fighting too much. However, I found out on facebook that he had started dating some girl about a week after we split. So I felt like the reason we broke up was not because of the fighting (which we were) but because he was probably talking to her while we were dating.
Anyway, he texted me for the first time last weekend acting like we were best friends, which I told him when we broke up we would NOT be friends again (we were friends for 8 years prior to dating). and he kept texting me although I told him I didn't want to be friends, I guess he thought I was joking.
Yesterday he texted me again and I straight told him to stop texting me because the next time I reply it's not going to nice and he said "whatever you're being a bitch" ARE YOU SERIOUS? he broke up with me to date some girl and i'm the one being a bitch?! I think I have every right to be a bitch towards him. I felt used and betrayed by someone I knew for 8 years!
Anyway, I told him this I told him how I deserve the right to be a bitch after he did what he did and he kept saying no we broke up because you were getting mad at everything and we weren't happy and blah blah blah... somehow I ended up apologizing for my behavior while we were dating and restated that doesn't make us friends. He said fine bye. Then I texted him saying I still love you I just can't do this, every time you text me it just makes it harder to move on. He read it, he just never replied.
I know this is when I need to move on and forget him but we were friends for 8 years, I feel like he never really loved me if he could just date someone else and not even bother looking back or replying when I say I love you..

Do not force the issue. Dating is all about learning what is the best for you while he is learning the same. You learn what you like and don't like in a guy. You said you were friends 8 yrs, but not how long you were dating. In a couples relationship, there are things that need to work smoothly for the relationship to be pleasant, rewarding and last forever. This is what your goal is, finding the kind of guy you can marry or be in a long term civil partnership with. Sometimes, being friends is not in depth enough to learn what you can in a dating relationship.
It seems he figured out that the two of you were not a good match for that close of a relationship. However you have history and friendship is possible, I have at times kept in touch with old friends who were male and my hubby has kept in touch with old friends who were female. For you it is hard because you felt rejected, like theres something wrong with you. Thats not it. While too people may not be right for each other, they can be the perfect person for someone else without having to change a single thing about themselves...thats what you need to look for, someone like that.
If your male friend wants to keep in touch by texting every day or every other day, that's not normal...somethings wrong... then he hasn't let go of you. Old friends keeping in touch by texting maybe once every 2 weeks would not be excessive. Or once a month. He's not the bad guy and you're not the bitch. But you have to control your emotions and talk calmly to him without any hurt, no yelling, no placing blame because theres a good chance there is no blame to be placed. Try for a mature way of working through this and hopefully everything will sort out. Either you get back together agree on rules for the relationship which you hold to or end it for good, or you both move on at this point and find others to date but keep in touch periodically, or last scenerio, you find other partner and both decide its best if you don't keep in touch anymore and part on friendly terms. Always part ob friendly terms with anyone if at all possible.
Good luck dear.

To make a long story short, my friend and I drifted apart. I live across the country but moving back to where she lives very shortly. I have felt like she has distanced herself from me. I try to text and keep in touch, but felt like everything was one-sided. I wrote her an email to explain how I feel. She wrote back saying she re-evaluated the friendship because she felt that I was basically full of anxiety, and so caught up in my own issues that I was a burden on her and made her feel like the friendship was one-sided, like I wasn't there for her enough emotionally and too anxious and caught up in my own life.

I wrote back explaining that circumstances have changed-dueto changing life events as well as the fact that I am taking better care of myself. I explained that I was in a dark place, and couldn't be a good friend to her because I couldn't even support myself. I feel like a changed person- I am a better person and friend to others. I hope she can take my word for it because my concern is that she will dismiss it, and not want to re-kindle the friendship because of things that happened in the past, and who I was before.

Any thoughts or advice?

As we mature, we continuously learn to make better choices for ourselves. Unfortunately in the learning process we sometimes will create chasms between us and others. Trust is hard to re-establish but can be done if both parties are willing. It can't be forced.

I respect your need for privacy and not giving details but I can only imagine what may have happened. I will make a guess...if I am wrong please dismiss it as I do not have the details, but in case I am close, please take this only as friendly advice. You mentioned circumstances and life changing events which got me to wondering.

So I will paint a scenerio...lets say someone was depressed because a boyfriend left and then lost her job and now had to rely on help from friends, and because of the depression from boyfriend loss wasn't looking as hard as possible for another job. Then all of a sudden, a job falls into her lap and a guy she works with is sweet on her. She is feeling better but only due to things that occurred externally, not changes inside her self. If she did not learn how to deal with her depression by choosing to do things to raise her levels of joy naturally without relying on the circumstances in her life, then the next time a test comes, (which it always does until we learn our lesson) then she will fall apart again and the same scenerio of the past will happen again.

Your friend does not know that you had life changing ways of dealing internally with your heart and mind and if you found healing there before events in your life changed. That is usually why people are reluctant to believe. They need proof. The proof unfortunately won't be in your great new job, or in the new car or computer you can afford because of it. The proof will be when the next set of difficult circumstances hits your life. It could also be that your friend has no compassion for what you went through because she has not experienced anything the same. With compassion and empathy, it is easier to understand where you are coming from and willing to give an old friendship another chance. I have no idea what the case may be. Just pray that she will be open to talk and also evaluate if you had external changes that took stress off and made you happy again or if it was that you found how to have internal joy no matter how bleak your circumstances. And be able to explain to her which of those you went through. Good luck dear.

My girlfriend of 1 month just recently started abusing me physically and verbally. She really seemed like a cool person at first, but recently she started hitting me with items such as her high heels, purse and back of her hand. She also calls me names such as "FATSO", "LUMPY HEAD", "MUCHO RETARDO", and "HITLER". I really don't know what to do. I work out a lot and people would say I'm pretty good looking, but I just cant see myself without her in my 12 year old life. I cant take my eyes off her when I see her playing kick ball. I know its not right for her to treat me like this, but I think she might be possessed by a demon or something. Seriously, she likes the Dolphins and she used to like the Chargers....something has to be possessing her! anyway...please HELP!

I wonder why you would put up with that. It's not healthy behavior and indicates that if you are willing to accept it, that you have a warped view of what a healthy relationship is. Do your parents or other relatives treat each other this way? You had to learn your view of relationships somewhere.
Trust me, this is not good and will only get worse. She needs to be in counseling for her verbal and physically abusive behavior. Perhaps one of her parents abuses the other. Whatever a child grows up to experience in the abusive behavior of their parents, they grow up to be the same, abused children grow up to abuse others.

If you don't feel strong enough to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough and walk away, then guess what....your whole life will be an endless string of this until you decide to leave and avoid such behavior in favor of loving yourself more. How do I know this? I didnt learn when I was your age. Got married at 20 to someone I thought was nice and he ended up verbally abusing me non stop until 30 yrs later I decided to really love myself. That was the lesson I had to learn and likely is the one you need to learn in this life. If you really loved yourself, you'd only be willing to place yourself in situations where you are loved unconditionally, and encouraged, supported, built up. I hope you learn faster than I did.

is this possible that hymen breake in periods...?

Honey, Hymens don't break, they don't pop. Why, because they are not some kind of thin skin totally covering the entrance/exit of the vagina. If it were so, then how would your mentrual flow get out?

I have a video for you to watch by a peer/college age gal who has a you tube site Sex Plus with Laci Green. She also handles dating and relationship questions. She uses a home made tool to give you an idea of what the hymen is really about. It can be stretched out slowly. Use of tampons, your fingers, dildos, will stretch it out. It stretches quite well, else how does a baby get out?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA

Please watch and all her other videos too, all are short 3-4 min, funny but loaded with good solid facts and info.

I would like to know more about this TRIGESTREL pill because I've never used it before and now its my first time using it. The problem is that I've been in menstruation about am month now and at the clinic they suggested that I must use the pill. So I would like to know how does it work and what side effects does it have.

Honey, you need to be well informed regarding your body, reproductive system and anything you take for birth control. If you wanted birth control, no one can force you into taking any one thing. Your wording makes it sound that instead of a suggest that they were saying this is the best thing and only thing you could take. I don't know if you have tried other birth control previously and had problems but there are side effects with all of them. The hormonal ones have the most side effects because drugs are messing with your body to make it think its pregnant. So it doesnt release any eggs cus it doesnt need to if pregnant. No eggs, no chance of getting pregnant. Thats how pill works. But many report side effects that come with real pregnancy, really sore tender breasts, big weight gain, migraines, headaches, and loss of libido for some.
Since there are many variations of hormones, the side effects will vary. For some no period, for others constant flow. You can put in a search on line for Trigestrel and it will come up and then add side effects if not showing in initial search. I have looked up different pills before but then, you'd be having someone else do all the thinking and work for you when what I am trying to tell you is how important it is to be proactive about your own body and get educated on it by yourself and make the decisions on your own. Available on line are women writing their stories of what side effects they had with any particular product by name, any concoction of hormones. Please also look up the non hormonal choices, diaphragm with spermicide and the copper IUD. Those are the only choices I am aware of, all other are hormonal. So do your research before you go back and tell them this is causing you problems and tell them what you want and why you want a particular contraceptive. Just because medical people have more training, does not mean they know whats best for your body. You know your body best. Good luck dear

Okay, I'm 16 years old, and a girl. Me and my boyfriend are both virgins still, He's the same age as me. We both were talking about losing it to each other, But we're a little bit scared we don't wanna use a condom either, I said we should wait a little more. We love each other very much too. Are we like still too young to have sex ? Should we just get it over with?

If the strength of your feelings for each other are pulling you towards wanting to show each other these feelings through making love, then you need to be responsible like adults. If you really wish to not use condoms, both you and he should get tested for any STDs before you do so and if they dont do that at Planned parenthood, ask where you can go for that. Get on a contraceptive while there. Some like the pill you need to have been taking a while before you will be protected. These days, kids are trying to have sex at 13 already. Not everyone does. But the ones who seem to wait until 16, 17, 18 usually are dating someone they have deep feelings for. It's that loving caring concern for each other that will make sex mutually satisfiying if both all equally doing all they can to please the other, not just one sided. I wouldnt talk about it as something to just get it over with. That means you have in your mind that it is something distasteful that has to be done. No its not distasteful and no it does not Have to be done.

anyone want to have sex???? i am a female age 13

Honey, this is not a good way to go about it, advertising for a sex partner over the internet on any site you can think of. You may get a response from someone whose intent is to abuse you.
Until you find someone from your peer group that you already know from school or the neighborhood, just masturbate. If you want sex toys, and cant ask mom or an aunt for help to get one, then perhaps Spencers store or pharmacys that have body massagers, it wont be a dildo but if it vibrate hard enough, its great clit stimulation. Its not illegal to purchase these, only illegal for underage to go to a porno graphic place store or online to purchase such a thing.

How do you ask your parents if you can start dating???

Remember they were once your age. Things may be different for teens, having cell phones, and pc when the parents didn't. But dating and relationship stuff stays the same through every generation. So ask them if they have given any thought to dating rules and age for you. Let them know that before dating age, you'd like to start slow with just having male friends, and inviting him over to the house just like your girlfriends. They should be comfortable with that. Depending on your age, they personally may not have dated at the same age so it may not have occured to them that you might be wanting to already. So just ask.

Hey first of all I'd like to say thanks for any advice i get.Well basically this girl and i (both 15) have been texting for a few months and have gone for walks(ending in kissing) 3 times.we have both told eachother that we like eachother but shes going away in 5 days for 2 months and i dont know if shes as serious as i am about where we're going.i really like her and might love her but she doesnt reply quickly to texts sometimes for a day and i dont know if we're staying exclusive for the next 2 months.i just dont know how seriously she likes me and i wouldnt know how to ask.please help

Since she is going to be away for the summer, there isn't anything you can do until she returns. If you both admitted you liked each other, then there is a possibility for a friendship when she returns. At your age, people change their minds often too. Dating is all about learning what you like and don't like in a female so that when you are ready for marriage or a long term relationship as an adult, you'll know when you have the right one.
There is no such thing as exclusive until both of you have spent some time dating and both decide together to do so. This should not mean that you or her cannot change your minds at a later date. You learn more in dating several people so if it feels at any point like the relationship is now boring...evaluate what was there before that isn't now or was it all in your head...that sort of stuff. The best thing to say in parting is that you will look forward to her return becasue you would like to date her. Would she like to do that. And thats it. No asking for going steady, exclusive...that puts too much pressure on people and they become scared to commit to a dating relationship because they feel they can't ever back out at a later date. What I think you want is ground rules you both agree on to not date two or three people at once, only one. Thats called serial monogamy. Dating one at a time, and when one ends, going on to the next one, but again just the one until you move on again.

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