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I told him I still loved him and he didn't reply :(
22/F
My ex and I broke up at the end of May and he said it was because we were just fighting too much. However, I found out on facebook that he had started dating some girl about a week after we split. So I felt like the reason we broke up was not because of the fighting (which we were) but because he was probably talking to her while we were dating.
Anyway, he texted me for the first time last weekend acting like we were best friends, which I told him when we broke up we would NOT be friends again (we were friends for 8 years prior to dating). and he kept texting me although I told him I didn't want to be friends, I guess he thought I was joking.
Yesterday he texted me again and I straight told him to stop texting me because the next time I reply it's not going to nice and he said "whatever you're being a bitch" ARE YOU SERIOUS? he broke up with me to date some girl and i'm the one being a bitch?! I think I have every right to be a bitch towards him. I felt used and betrayed by someone I knew for 8 years!
Anyway, I told him this I told him how I deserve the right to be a bitch after he did what he did and he kept saying no we broke up because you were getting mad at everything and we weren't happy and blah blah blah... somehow I ended up apologizing for my behavior while we were dating and restated that doesn't make us friends. He said fine bye. Then I texted him saying I still love you I just can't do this, every time you text me it just makes it harder to move on. He read it, he just never replied.
I know this is when I need to move on and forget him but we were friends for 8 years, I feel like he never really loved me if he could just date someone else and not even bother looking back or replying when I say I love you..
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Do not force the issue. Dating is all about learning what is the best for you while he is learning the same. You learn what you like and don't like in a guy. You said you were friends 8 yrs, but not how long you were dating. In a couples relationship, there are things that need to work smoothly for the relationship to be pleasant, rewarding and last forever. This is what your goal is, finding the kind of guy you can marry or be in a long term civil partnership with. Sometimes, being friends is not in depth enough to learn what you can in a dating relationship.
It seems he figured out that the two of you were not a good match for that close of a relationship. However you have history and friendship is possible, I have at times kept in touch with old friends who were male and my hubby has kept in touch with old friends who were female. For you it is hard because you felt rejected, like theres something wrong with you. Thats not it. While too people may not be right for each other, they can be the perfect person for someone else without having to change a single thing about themselves...thats what you need to look for, someone like that.
If your male friend wants to keep in touch by texting every day or every other day, that's not normal...somethings wrong... then he hasn't let go of you. Old friends keeping in touch by texting maybe once every 2 weeks would not be excessive. Or once a month. He's not the bad guy and you're not the bitch. But you have to control your emotions and talk calmly to him without any hurt, no yelling, no placing blame because theres a good chance there is no blame to be placed. Try for a mature way of working through this and hopefully everything will sort out. Either you get back together agree on rules for the relationship which you hold to or end it for good, or you both move on at this point and find others to date but keep in touch periodically, or last scenerio, you find other partner and both decide its best if you don't keep in touch anymore and part on friendly terms. Always part ob friendly terms with anyone if at all possible.
Good luck dear.
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