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Why my grandmother and mother want me to be something which im not.
Okay im 13 and every since i was like 7 to now. My grandmother and mother always wanted me to be something that i not wanted to be. They always wanted me to be a girly girl. I am a girl. I just don't like to wear skirts and i have a good reasons why i don't. Everytime we go to a clothing store. Here they go this pink shirt is cute. I say i don't llike pink. I love purple. Here they go what type of girl don't like pink. Every girl love pink. Everybody how do i get them off my back and how do i explain them that im not girly girl. Please help.
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Ask them if they force their personal likes on other people like adult friends. Give them an example, when at a restaurant, instead of quieting choosing their own meal, are they busy pointing to items on the menu, hey Lucy, the salmon dinner here is great, you should order that. "Well I like pasta and lasagna" Oh no no you can't eat that, pasta is too fattening and not a good food for us women who want to have a trim figure, you must order the fish dinner.
If they don't do that with friends, tell them you would like to have the same treatment.
If they do treat all others like that, then they need some training in how to relate to other people.
>Give mom examples of what is okay to say to you.
Like "Daughter, I would like to give you something to consider about the shirt you are interested in. I am not saying you can't have it, but you need to realize it wrinkles easily and I dont iron, so you'd have to be willing to do that if your heart is set on it." That kind of helpful talk is important and the choice is still being left up to you.
Try it and see how it goes. Come up with your own examples using your own words so it feels easier to say to mom and grandma
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Well that's a little weird. I think the best thing to do is just talk to them and tell them that you just don't like pink and you don't like skirts.
I don't think they realize that you can still look like a girl and look pretty without skirts and wearing pink. I mean purple is a beautiful color too.
So just talk to them. You can't really make them stop but it's worth another try.
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You're thirteen! They may have been able to dress you when you were younger but its time they let you dress yourself. Will they still be choosing your clothes when you're 18, 19, 20?
No, I don't think so!
Tell them that a lot of girls don't like pink. Some times the last thing you want to wear is fluorescent pink. Tell them, that clothes mean a lot to a girl, don't they? They can be considered an art in the fashion industry and a means of expressing yourself. Tell them exactly how you feel.
Ask them what's wrong with purple? There is nothing wrong with purple at all. Don't let them force you to ever be anything else that you don't want to be either because that will only make you unhappy.
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