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The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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I'm bisexual and would like to tell people. Not everyone, because I don't see why I would need to. Just my immediate family and a couple of close friends. After that it's just something I'll mention if necessary.

The thing is, I'm not sure how to do it. The people I want to tell won't have a problem with it, but most of them I never talk to about anything personal and so it will seem really strange. My dad and little brother, for example - I never talk to them about serious things, they only ever know these things because my mum will mention them to them. But it feels like a bit of a cop out to just tell my mum and count on her to tell everyone else.

Do you think I should tell people individually or together? Should I wait until we're all eating dinner and tell them all, or bring it up to each of them in individual conversations?

I just really don't know how to go about it.

Frankly if your still in your teenage years I do not see a reason to tell anyone you are bisexual or bi curious. My reasons for this is that as teenager you are still figuring out just who you are sexually. As such most teenagers will experiment with same sex sexual relations. Later they may find that their sexuality takes them to heterosexual sex only, or they find themselves being totally gay or just bi sexual.

In other words what I'm saying is if you are still in your puberty years, which can last through your early 20's, why label yourself. At this time your sexual identity is still in flux and experimentation is a way of life. I've known women that all through college were either bi or could be considered almost gay in their sexuality. Once college was completed they went straight heterosexual.


It maybe just too early to label yourself. So consider waiting if you are under 21.

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21 female. Ben -18

I've known Ben for about 8 years, but we haven't always been close. We recently started dating. He's not the type of guy I usually go for. I usually go for the college hockey boys -the ones all the girls want. But after the past 3, things clearly haven't been working out with those type of boys.

Now that I'm with Ben he treats me so unbelievably good. He would honestly do anything for me. I'm so comfortable with him, I've never been as comfortable with anyone else. My family likes him. I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend. But, I still keep thinking about wanting someone better. Yes, I'm crazy!! How could I find anyone better than Ben? I'm still wanting those hockey boys. I'm attracted to them, I find them sexy. Ben is cute and I'm a little bit attracted to him but it's not as strong as an attraction as hockey boys.

I tell Ben I have doubts because we're so different and he's not usually the type I go for. He gets really sad when I talk about it, because it would break his heart if we ever ended our relationship. He tells me to just give it a try, and that is what I will do but I am just so confused :(

I know I will not find a boy that treats me as good as Ben does. I keep telling myself that as the years go on, and I get older, the popular college hockey boys won't matter anymore because they will just be regular people too. They won't be the "stars" which is why I think I want them so bad. I have to remind myself that it's all about how a man treats me and if he treats me good and Ben does. My head is in a million different places. Ben is my first real boyfriend, all the other hockey boys I've just had "things" with, and they didn't last very long. Maybe I'm just not used to having a boyfriend. I'm a big flirt, so maybe I miss that!? I would never cheat on Ben though, I wouldn't do anything to hurt him. I don't why I keep doubting myself with Ben.

Please any guidance, advice, ANYTHING is appreciated!!

You and Ben are young enough that you can both wait awhile and let both of mature and grow it into your relationship. This has nothing to do with your ages. Maturity comes with time not chronological age.


What you are missing here is the fact that these hockey stars are all dreamers. They all think that some day they will play in the NHL. Fact is less than 1% of them will actually reach the NHL and become a star. Some much can happen to them to ruin their chances and then they have nothing to fall back on as everything they had went into playing Hockey.

What I see in what your saying is: That you too are looking at the life of a Super Star hockey players wife. You are maybe not consciously looking for but you are seeing in them the glory and riches that come with being a Super Star Hockey player. You are not seeing the self absorption of the player. How absent the player is during a very long season. How quickly the players playing life can end.


In Ben you have someone you can possible make a family with. Someone that once he finishes College will secure a job that will secure an on going income. With Ben there is security. That is not what you are seeing.

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In the past I went threw this stage where I thought the only way I could get guy's to like me was to send nude pictures of myself, and I'm over that now.
I made a mistake of doing that and now my boyfriend's grandmother has my photo's with her.. so in case I screw up, she'd have them.

I don't want the past ones showing up later on in my life, I want to become a lawyer some day and I've matured. I still have low self esteem but I won't ever do anything like that again.

I just don't want my life ruined down the road ;/

Any advice? I know what I did was wrong, I don't need a lecture..

First you need to make sure as many copies of the nude pictures you made are deleted, including the ones you have.


Then you need to go to your boyfriends grandmother and have a talk with her. Talk to her honesty and straightforward. Tell her that taking those pictures were a mistake you made and you would appreciate if she would allow you to delete any copies she has.


As to being in possession of child pornography. This differs form state to state. The fact that you could be under the age of consent in your state will play a big factor in whether being in possession of that picture puts her in a position of being in possession of child pornography and her grandson in the position of distributing child pornography if he was the one that sent it to her. This though is a card of last resort that you play only if his grandmother refuses to allow you to delete the photo.


We all make mistakes in our lives, especially teenagers. While this one could be embarrassing for you in later life, unless you see yourself running for public office, I seriously do not see this coming back and biting you when it is time to take the BAR Exam. By that time all of you will have gone your separate ways and for the most part this photo would hopefully been long time deleted by those in possession of it.

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Do you have kids? How many?
Would you be okay with them being on an advice website like this? My dad doesnt like it.

I have one child who is now old enough, and has, moved out and to be on his own.


If he still lived at home with me I would not want him to have to resort to this site for questions I am more than willing, and in some case still do, answer for him.


The reason I try to always recommend talking with your parents on a question asked is that we as parents are the best source for any question you have. With my son my wife and I told him early in his teenage years there was no question he could not ask us. Unfortunately these question landed in my wife's lap most times because my job kept me away from home a lot.


It is my belief that it is a parents job to teach their children about life and that includes sex. If you are unwilling to teach you can't be surprised or angry if your daughter comes home pregnant in her teenage years. It's as much the parents fault for not being there to teach the girl how to protect herself and how to abstain until she is truly ready.


So I answer questions on this sight as best I can as if I were answering them for my child. Generally with the added clause that you talk to your parents as well.

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Hi Im Gracie and I'm 13! Remember me? No? That's okay. LOL :)

Anyway, I have a question about, like guys and dating and stuff. Kinda, 2 questions actually.

Well, Im 13 and he's 16.

Okay so my first question is, is it weird to date someone with the same name as your brother? His name is Matt and my brothes name is Matt. It's kinda awkward and my friends say some stuff like its gross and stuff and it's kinda embarrassing. What do you think?

My second question is, Do you think its wrong for us to date each other because he's older? I really, really like him and he says that he likes me too but he doesnt want his friends to know we're dating because they're gonna say stupid stuff about it because he's older and everything. I mean, I don't see the bid deal and it kinda hurts my feelings a little. He wants to keep it a secret that we're dating. It kinda makes me feel like he's ashamed of me or something. Maybe Im just being over sensitive?
But I like him alot, maybe even love him a little and I dont want to keep us a secret. I told my bestfriend Natalie that we were dating now and Matt (My boyfriend not my brother) found out and he got really mad and he hit me. I get why he was mad. He's popular, and has lots of friends and tons of girls that wish they could be his girlfriend and he gets mad when his frinds say stuff about him hanging out with me. It makes him upset. Its just that I've like him for a long time and I've alwaysed wish he would like me back and date me. I dont want to hide it from everybody. What if other girls start flirting with him because they dont know he's dating me?
Am I being stupid?

(FYI- We're in the same grade. I skipped a few grades. Im the youngest kid at my high school. Im a sophomore.)

Hi Gracie,

First: Maybe I'm to old fashion but I think 13 is to young for one on one dating. What complicates this for you is the fact you have skipped some grades and are forced to associate with older kids. Have you discussed this with your dad and if so what does he say.


Second: Hitting is never okay. It doesn't matter who is hitting who; it is totally not right. He is old enough to be charged with domestic violence or worse, if he was to seriously hurt you. It is also a trait that says so much about him and how being with him is a danger to you.

We have corresponded many times in the past. I say this as if you were my daughter; if someone is hitting you then you need to tell him to take a hike. There is no reason in this world to subject yourself to this abuse. You will not change him.


Third: While the age difference is not all that great. His desire to keep your relationship a secrete sends up all types of warning flags for me. The most important of those flags is that his intentions are not the most honorable. He is probably trying to take advantage of your youth and inexperience for his own sexual needs.

Thirteen is way to young to be having sexual intercourse. Sixteen is even to young for some. It is my belief he feels he will get from you what he cannot get from girls his own age. So please be careful and remember NO means NO. Do not let him force you to do something you do not want. If he says either you do or I'm leaving. Point to the door.


Fourth: Ad far as names go. A name is just a mane. You cant help who you fall in love with or who you become friends with. A name has nothing to do with how you feel about a family member with the same name.

Hope you have a great school year

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I got diagnosed with a UTI and the doctor prescribed me antibiotics. I know that while on birth control, antibiotics make it ineffective. But tonight is my last dosage of the medicine, so how long until my birth control works again?

This is a question best answered by your doctor or your pharmacists. My best guess to be truly safe would be a complete cycle.

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What does it mean when your itching an burning when you pee and white stuff is all around your vigina?

It is most likely a yeast infection. although if you are sexually active, even if you use condoms, there is a chance you contracted an STD.


In either case you need to be treated by a doctor. If it is an STD don;t worry, your doctor cannot tell you parents if you are over the a age of 14.


Congress passed a law, acronym HIPPA, which gives teenagers age 14 years and up medical confidentiality so that they can seek treatment for just such problems.


This means that no matter how much you parents demand to know, without your written consent, your doctor cannot tell them what you are being examined you for, what you are being treated for anything else in regard to certain non-life threatening medical conditions.

So make an appointment to see your doctor, preferably a GYN and get treated for whatever is the problem.

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I have been married for almost 20 years,I have 3 kids with my wife.Recently my wife has had a relationship with a younger guy who live just down the road from our home.She prommised that she would not see him again,but I have seen tem together recently-she is still seeing him.

She met him at our local Bar where we socialize most weekends.


The humiliation has been unbearable as everybody in our village knows about this affair,I was the last person to find out.

My question is this :

What should I do, I know this is a strange question,I'm unable to make a decision as my head is in such a mess.

I think you know what you want to do. You want someone to tell you it is okay or the right thing to do. I can't or won't be that person. The reason is simple; I won't be your scapegoat if you end up hating the decision you make.


You really have two choices to make. You can stay and try to work things out with your wife and the rest of the village be damned. Or you can go and be the martyr for being cheated on by her.


If you decide to stay you should seek marriage counseling. Both individual and joint sessions. In the individual sessions you can work out you feelings of hurt and anger with the therapist. In the joint sessions you can again work out your feelings as well as find out what was or is missing form you lives that caused your wife to cheat on you.


If you go remember it is your wife that cheated on you not your children. If they are under 18, which I would think at least one or two of them would be you have responsibilities to them as their father. Too many times children become pawns in a divorce, don't let this happen to your children. The divorce itself will be traumatic enough don't add to it by making them choose between their parents.


Other than suggesting finding a new bar to socialize in I can't be of any further help. This is a decision you alone must make.

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My dad has become a hermit.
He never goes out. except when he has to work or to errands. Like doesn't have friends to go out with.
He gets home from work,. goes down stairs and sits infront of the tv. Comes up for supper then goes back down until he goes to bed.
I don't know how to talk to him to make him realize how me and mom are feeling.
She's not happy and says if it doesn't change in 10 yrs she's not gonna be here.

I'm scared for them. I am worried they will get depressed. mom more so than she is.

and the fact my friends and i are talking about moving out next year. with out me here it will become even worse unless dad starts spending more time with us and starts opening up more.

What can i do to help. How can i make my dad realize what he's doing?

i understand you wanna rest after work.. i totally get that. but i feel i don't see him much cuz he's always down stairs and when i ask him to spend time with us he says oh well come downstairs then..

mom doesn't wanna go downstairs cuz it's kinda messy.

Help??

This one is hard to answer as you have posed a few questions that need answering first.


For one thing; what is or does mom mean by:"if it doesn't change in 10 yrs." What is significant about 10 years? Do you have a younger sibling still at home?

Next: Is mom a stay at home mom?


There are reasons why I as these questions as it does have some effect on the possible why dad is the way he is and what if anything you can do about it."


The possible why of why dad is the way he is. Dad may get all the intellectual stimulation and people interaction he needs at work. When he comes home all he wants is to relax sit in front of his TV an zone out.


I'm not saying this right or even good for him. It is what he feels he wants and needs. Telling you to come down stairs and watch TV with him is his way of saying "I'm available if you want me."


Dads is not a hermit, he is in his comfort zone and you need to find ways to move him into a zone that is both comfortable for him and you. You say you are moving out next year. If your going to college then get him involved in preparing for moving to college. Shopping for things you need for the dorm. Ask him to make a trip to the College with you and your mother. You want his opinion on the whole college appearance.


It doesn't matter if you do or don't. The object is to move him from in front of the TV. You want family time to talk with him, make plans for vacations, family visits to you at school. If your not going to school then enlist his help to find an apartment. Everything else remains almost the same.


After awhile parents fall into a comfort zone with each other. They don't need to be with each other all the time to know they love each other. I've been married 40 years. I love my wife. We have different tastes in TV shows, so she watches one TV I watch another. We talk to each other, we hug and kiss and we have slept in the same bed with each other almost every night for all of the 40 years. When we didn't it was because I was traveling for work.


I tell you this because what you see and what what you think you see may not be what it appears. This may be something mom and dad have to work out for themselves.

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My friend was hugging me today and crying because she's on her period and she said it really hurts. She wants me to cuddle with her. Is it ok ? What else can I do to help her ?

There is nothing wrong with holding, cuddling or hugging someone when they are hurting. People draw comfort from closeness from others. Especially those that they are close with and are in any type of friendship or loving relationship.


While soothing your friend during this time you should encourage her to see her GYN. While painful periods are not uncommon; they should not be totally debilitating or cause tears. Your friends doctor may be able to recommend some medication to help at this time or to make her periods less painful.

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My uncle does mass amounts of crack and has stolen so many things from me. I used my camera to recently take photos of me standing plainly in my underwear to track my weight loss. I did not delete them. My uncle took my camera and pawned it, or gave it to a drug dealer idk... can i charge him? I'm 17 in the state of texas

The short answer is yes. Anytime someone takes something of value they can be charged with theft. In this case there is another charge that could be brought against him as well. That being the distribution of child pornography.


I doubt it is against the law for you to take pictures of yourself. It would be against the law for your Uncle, or you for that matter, to distribute those pictures, knowingly or not. The same would be true for the drug dealer or porn shop who may be in possession of the camera. The charge would be possessing child pornography. Of course all this is dependent on the laws in the State of Texas.


The one charge that holds true is the theft charge. Depending on the value of the camera will depend on whether the charge is a felony charge or misdemeanor.

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For a very long time, my mom has been trying to live through me. But, now that I'm an adult, almost graduating from college, it's just getting out of control. She has gotten better, I cannot discredit that. But, I'm really worried. About a year ago, I got hair extensions (long story). But basically, I lost hair because I wasn't eating very well and I also bleached it which was really bad. It was fine for a while... but it's been almost two years now (about a year and a half or longer) that I've had these extensions. They are expensive and limit me from being able to wash my own hair or dry it. I can't ever leave it wet. They are very annoying. It's fine that I had them for a while. But, I think they've overextended their stay. I told my mom that I really want them off. All she says is your not ready. If that wasn't enough, she recently saw a friend of mine with fake eyelashes on. She said I HAD to go get them. The problem with the eyelashes is that they require refills (expensive refills!) Like, maybe $75 every time, which is every 2 weeks. My mom doesn't work. Her income comes from a house that she rents out, whose taxes were backed up. She always has to put herself on a payment plans for cell phones (which she is using my credit for because she lost hers). I work and I'm getting money from school because of my scholarships. So, I help her out with certain things. By the extensions and the eyelashes are getting ridiculous. Today, I have an appointment at noon, which I really needed that time to study and work out, because I have to go into work/class at night. I explain this to her... but she doesn't get it!!! Please advise me

The first thing you need to do is take your credit card back form your mother. If you can't get it back from her without a fight call the credit card company and explain what is happening. They can help you reverse some of the charges she made like the tanning salon membership. They will also shut down your present card and issue one new card sent to you at school.


Any charge you do not authorize on your card is technically a fraudulent charge for which you may not be responsible for. If you have not used the tanning salon membership don't. Ask the Tanning salon to cancel the membership and explain to them that yo9u did not ask your mom to sign you up for this. If they refuse ask the credit card company to refuse any more charges to your card and reverse any charges made. They can do this if you ask and explain what has happened.


If you are able to reverse some of the charges mom made without your permission then you will have the money for food as you will have only the charges you authorized on your credit card.

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I am a 37 year old women who was married for 10 years. I have three children 12, 8, and 9. I divorced in 2009. The relationship was emothonally stressful. I am told that I was a victim of control and emotional abuse. It is funny because that kind of abuse is very difficult to see until you are out of the situation. Anyway, my ex husband has spoke to the kids about me in very bad ways. He is upset because I took him to child support court and he has to pay 32@ of is income.

He harrassed me for months before the child support went through. Now that it has been finalized he still uses the Kids to hurt me. He wants joint custody which my attorney says is a way to further control me. (There is alot that I'm skipping over) to get to my point..

I am extremely depressed. I feel like I want out of life period. My children are all that I have in this world and the control that he is using to tear my house apart is hurting me so bad. I feel trapped. If he gets joint custody he will use it to control me, he teaches my kids to disrespect me, he calls me bad names when we speak, he disrespects me.

I wanted to relocate out of the State to get away from him but he refuses to let me go with the children. I need his premission or the court will have to get involved. my attorney said that it will be difficult for the reason in which I want to leave.

I'm tired. I feel like I have NO wiggle room. I want to be left alone to raise my kids without his interferences. Today he picked my oldest child up and didn't bring her home. I just have to deal with it because he wants to spend time with her...I know killing myself isn't the answer but I dont know what is... I'm so frustrated and tired.

The first thing you need to do is get a hold of yourself emotionally. To do this you need counseling by a qualified therapist. Your family doctor can help you find a therapist.


After you have seen a therapist and your therapist feels the time is right you need to expand your therapy into family counseling for you and your children. The therapist can help you explain to your children what is going on and why daddy is saying such things about you. If need be your therapist can be called as an expert witness in any custody hearing to explain his or her feelings on what your husband may be doing to the children.


I am assuming you have full custody of the children and your husband had visitation only. When your husband is late returning a child or the children call the police and children's services. If he picks up a child when he is not scheduled to do so call the police.

When he is late returning the children he is in violation of a court order and the police can arrest him. I believe the charge is parental abduction or non custodial abduction or interference. By doing nothing when he is late he is one exerting control over you and two making an example of you as an unfit mother by not enforcing a court order. I know this sounds unreasonable and he is not asking you to have him arrested. But this is what the court will see if it is ever brought up in court. Don't warn him just do it the next time he is late.

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okay so our school will be celebrating teachers day on the 17th because of the ongoing exams
as it is going to be my last teachers day in school
i want to give something to each of the teachers who have taught me for atleast two years now
i have a maths sir who teaches me and the rest five subjects are taught by women

any sugestions???? i need help.
i don't have a very huge budget. but i can splurge a lil'.

I think that is a wonderful idea and I think any thing you give them will be well received and cherished.


I have always liked something that is made for me by the person giving it. I am a first responder and on 9/1q1 the neighbors have always turned out to do something nice for us. I especially like it when the children in the neighborhood bring in something they baked for us or cook for us.


Some have made quilts for our beds. I realize you don't have much time between now and the 17th. I would see what you can do to come up with something that represents you and how you feel about them.


Remember it is not the gift or the size of the gift that counts. It is the thought and the gift itself that counts.

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I just need you to answer some of my questions.

1. What is a nurse?
2. What is nursing?
3. What does a nurse do?
4. How would you describe a "good" Nurse?

And it would help if you could state your age group(not age)

1. What is a nurse?

A nurse is someone trained in the care and treatment of people who are ill or disabled.


2. What is nursing?

Nursing is the actual act of caring for people who are sick or disabled.

3. What does a nurse do?

Nurses assist doctors in the care of patients. They carry out the instructions of the doctors treating the patients. The chart the patients care so that the doctors can properly evaluate a patients progress. In the hospital they are the doctors eyes and ears of patient care.

4. How would you describe a "good" Nurse?

A good nurse is someone who cares for her patient(s) while caring for them. For them nursing is not just a job it is truly a profession.

And it would help if you could state your age group. 65+


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well both my grandparents died last week and i missed five days of school... im a freshman and im 15.ive made good grades most of my life without tryin much but now im in advanced and im flunking like 3 classes and handing in blank papers. it seems since then i just go and fuck everything up now.i cant study, cant drum anymore, cant write songs, can barelt tlk to people without pissing them off or saying something stupid. i just dont care anymore and ive lost all confidence and self esteem.. i just all out hate myself. i went to my dad to get a pep talk but all he did was call me lazy and told me i suck so that didnt help any. i cant even look in the mirror without hating what i see look back at me. please help me , if i keep this up i could ruin my life or something. i just want to feel whole again

First my condolences on your the loss of your grand parents.


A psychologist friend of mine tells me there or 5 to 8 stages, depending on which theory one follows, of grief. You are in one of those stages of grief. Everyone griefs differently. If it was your fathers parents that died he to is grieving, just differently than you are.


Counseling will help you with your grieving. Your school guidance counselor may be able to help you. If not you may need to seek private counseling with a therapist trained in grief counseling. There is nothing wrong with seeking help for your grief. it helps to talk things out with someone totally removed from the situation who can see things more clearly than you are right now.


Talk to dad or mom about grief counseling. Once you are over your grief things will return to normal for you. Also talk to you school guidance counselor will help as he or she can arrange make up work for you once you are ready to raise you grades in those classes you are failing. Once the school now's the reason behind your failing the will be very helpful in helping you get your grade(s) up.

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I am 16 and I was just wondering if my dick was to small for my age its about 8 or 9 in

According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long.


Average Vagina Size

Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch

Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches

As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.


I bope you find this helpful.

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okay, my friend is fourteen and the guy she is with is 17 they are only holding hands and kissin can they still date? or will he get into truoble?

It is not likely that he would get in any trouble until he is 18, it really depends on the state they live in and the laws of that state.


Numerically there is not a big difference between 17 and 14. In age though at this age group their is a world of difference. He should be dating someone in his own age group and at best, if she was my daughter, she would not be dating at all. Mall dating and group dating is at best I would or might allow. She is way to young to be dating anyone alone or not in a group type setting.


Now if they were 24 and 27 that is very different. There is nothing wrong with that age difference. Even 18 and 21 would not raise any eyebrows. But 14 and 17 is just wrong for many reasons.

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Ive had my period for 4 years. It was regular for a long while. Every 35 days for 3-4 days. And i know thats a long time in between but thats what it was then recently its been getting longer inbetween like right now its been probably two months since my last one. Im not pregnant. Im 110% sure about that. I may go see a gyn. But i was just throwin this out there to see if amy ome may know about this.

There are a lot of reasons your period can suddenly stop. Checking with your GYN is definitely a good thing to do.


Some of the reasons a period could stop.

A sudden loss of weight.


Being under weight.


Becoming more athletically active.


Stress


Illness


Being underweight: Being underweight is actually more harmful than being slightly over weight. The body is designed to save itself. If you are underweight the body will work to preserve your heart and brain. If need be the body will systematically shut down different systems until only your heart and brain are functioning. By this time you will be hospitalised on life support. This is what happens to people with anorexia.


Being athletic. I can't explain why I can just point to women athletes such as the women Olympic athletes. If you look at them you see that many of them are not well developed. For some reason all of their training interfere with their development. Most do not get their periods either until they stop training then they develop and their periods start.


Illness and stress. Everyone's body responds differently to these factors. A woman's body is more delicately balanced so an illness or under stress can effect your cycle.

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What are the turn on spots on girls

Every girl is different in what turns her on. In general places with the most nerve endings are going to be the areas that will turn her on the most. It also depends on just what you are doing.


If you are just making out; a girls lips and neck, just behind the ear are places that will give her the most pleasure. If you are going any further her nipples and breasts. The further you go the more areas there are to caress, kiss and lick. Some women even like having the back of there knees kissed. Like I said each girl/women is different.


A considerate lover man or women will take the time to get to know their partners likes and dislikes. The nice thing about intimacy is getting to know your lover. The best way to please one another is to teach one another.


Sometimes we consider a lover in experienced or inept because he or she did not satisfy us. That is not always true. What worked for someone else may not be working for you or your partner. How is your lover to know this if you don't show or tell them.


Being a considerate partner means not just trying to satisfy your own hormonal needs.



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