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How to come out?
I'm bisexual and would like to tell people. Not everyone, because I don't see why I would need to. Just my immediate family and a couple of close friends. After that it's just something I'll mention if necessary.
The thing is, I'm not sure how to do it. The people I want to tell won't have a problem with it, but most of them I never talk to about anything personal and so it will seem really strange. My dad and little brother, for example - I never talk to them about serious things, they only ever know these things because my mum will mention them to them. But it feels like a bit of a cop out to just tell my mum and count on her to tell everyone else.
Do you think I should tell people individually or together? Should I wait until we're all eating dinner and tell them all, or bring it up to each of them in individual conversations?
I just really don't know how to go about it.
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Frankly if your still in your teenage years I do not see a reason to tell anyone you are bisexual or bi curious. My reasons for this is that as teenager you are still figuring out just who you are sexually. As such most teenagers will experiment with same sex sexual relations. Later they may find that their sexuality takes them to heterosexual sex only, or they find themselves being totally gay or just bi sexual.
In other words what I'm saying is if you are still in your puberty years, which can last through your early 20's, why label yourself. At this time your sexual identity is still in flux and experimentation is a way of life. I've known women that all through college were either bi or could be considered almost gay in their sexuality. Once college was completed they went straight heterosexual.
It maybe just too early to label yourself. So consider waiting if you are under 21.
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I think it'd be really weird to bring up. Would you randomly tell them about your other likes/dislikes...? Such as "Hey mom, I've decided that brussel sprouts are amazing! I hope you'll understand..."
I'm not saying to hide it, but until you have a girlfriend/boyfriend of the same sex, why bring it up?
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Honestly? Tell people whom you feel comfortable with. If you feel comfortable telling only your mother then have a private sit down and let her know there is something you want to get off your chest. If you think it would be easier you could have your mother deliver the news to your father and brother. This is your life, If you want to be with a man or a women I don't see why you can't. It is nobody's business but yours and you have the right to tell whoever you wish but I think it should only really be bought up with other people if they ask or it was necessary. Being bisexual isn't as big of a deal as some people make it out too be but that's just my view on it.
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