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Reason's why I dont like my living environment
I'm 17/f with a child on the way. don't be biased with your advice because I am young and still live with my parents & pregnant bc I know how yall are.
Things have been this way. I never noticed until now how annoying it is and how I don't want to bring my child into this. We live in a 3 bedroom house & we have 2 full bathrooms. One is in the master bed room my moms room, I have to take showers in there.. I can't stand it anymore. I have no privacy I feel like the other bathroom should be myyy bathroom & my parents should share the bathroom in what's supposed to be theirrrr room. But my father sleeps out in the game room & uses the other bathroom. I think this is very selfish . I know I pay no bills and have no say so. But no one keeps that bathroom nice & if I were to start using it my dad would just mess it up anyways. This is the number one reason I can't stand living here. I rather stay at my boyfriends apartment with his parents cause at least he has his own bathroom. & my mom thinks that shes never in anyones business when she always is, she always opens my mail & moves my things it's very annoying. What should I do about the bathroom thing because it doesn't look like I will be moving out until i finish this year of college...? I don't want to have to be taking my baby all the way to my mothers bathroom to do anything or have to be cleaning & taking care of this bathroom when all my dad is going to do is take it over & mess it up.
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I Have a number of questions I won't ask, but this one. Why does you father use the other bathroom ? Is it so as not to disturb you mother who may be sleeping when he goes to work?
As for your living environment and privacy. This is a tough one. If you want to use the other bathroom you should be able to. If your father makes a mess than you will have to clean up after him if he won;t clean up after himself or your mother won't clean up after him.
As for privacy; you are living in your parents house. Living there has become sort of a privilege when you became pregnant and not married. I know you don't want to hear that but I needed to say just that much to explain what your parents might be feeling.
As their daughter pregnant or not by law they are responsible for you until you reach the age of 18. They cannot force you to pay any bills, they must supply food, clothing, a place to sleep and all medical treatment you may require including treatment for your pregnancy no mater their feelings. Once their grandchild is born until you are 18 they are also responsible to supply the same things for their grandchild.
Once you reach 18 they can ask you to leave. Until then you have no privacy other than medical privacy. You did not say how your parents feel about your pregnancy so I am assuming the are less than thrilled. If I';m correct there is not much you can do about your living situation.
I would suggest talking with your mother because the stress the living situation is placing on you is not good for her grandchild. This is the way you have to approach your mother. Not what you need for yourself but what you need to ensure a healthy grandchild for her. Not knowing how your parents feel about becoming grandparents I cannot say how this approach will work. What I can say is this approach has the best possibility of a positive outcome for you.
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