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Bad choices I made in the past ;/
In the past I went threw this stage where I thought the only way I could get guy's to like me was to send nude pictures of myself, and I'm over that now.
I made a mistake of doing that and now my boyfriend's grandmother has my photo's with her.. so in case I screw up, she'd have them.
I don't want the past ones showing up later on in my life, I want to become a lawyer some day and I've matured. I still have low self esteem but I won't ever do anything like that again.
I just don't want my life ruined down the road ;/
Any advice? I know what I did was wrong, I don't need a lecture..
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Why does she still have them? A grandma surely can't keep these things for blackmail!?
Talk to her. A serious discussion is needed. How old were you? If you were a minor, she has child pornography.. Let this be known and tell her to delete them. If she doesn't, you could take it further if you really wanted to. It's wrong of her to keep them "in case you screw up"
Let me know what happens.
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First you need to make sure as many copies of the nude pictures you made are deleted, including the ones you have.
Then you need to go to your boyfriends grandmother and have a talk with her. Talk to her honesty and straightforward. Tell her that taking those pictures were a mistake you made and you would appreciate if she would allow you to delete any copies she has.
As to being in possession of child pornography. This differs form state to state. The fact that you could be under the age of consent in your state will play a big factor in whether being in possession of that picture puts her in a position of being in possession of child pornography and her grandson in the position of distributing child pornography if he was the one that sent it to her. This though is a card of last resort that you play only if his grandmother refuses to allow you to delete the photo.
We all make mistakes in our lives, especially teenagers. While this one could be embarrassing for you in later life, unless you see yourself running for public office, I seriously do not see this coming back and biting you when it is time to take the BAR Exam. By that time all of you will have gone your separate ways and for the most part this photo would hopefully been long time deleted by those in possession of it.
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How old are you? If you're under 18 she is technically in possession of child pornography, which is crazy illegal.
Let her know that you're aware of the legal implications, and that unless she deletes all copies immediately, under your supervision, you'll inform the police.
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Hey sweety, I've been there, I think what you should do is talk to your boyfriends grandmother, don't lie at all be genuinely as honest as you can tell her that the only reason you did this was because it was all you could think of doing and you regret that decision. Tell her also what you want to do in the future and tell her how if these pictures got out it would destroy your chances, and try to prove you have grown out of this phase and would never do anything to hurt her grandson.
she is just trying to protect him after all, (remember back when she was young the only men who saw you naked would be you father when you were a baby and then your husband) so she probably doesn't understand why you would do this and has her own idea's set about what kind of girl you are, so you may have some work cut out to prove her wrong.
If this all fails, you have two options, hope she is not the kind of woman to do anything to spite you or tell your boyfriend. If you have been together a while and trust him entirely I would go with the second option, and tell him the exact same things you told his grandmother, he may be mad of course but if he loves you and knows you have had issues in the past he should forgive you, and may help you talk to his grandmother.
I'm afraid this is a bit of a pickle but hopefully you're with the right man and his family will forgive you. I honestly wish you luck as I know how you feel right now :)
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