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what if your not ready for sex but your partner is giveing you signs do you have sex to keep them or not?

IM 13 SOMEONE!!!!!!!

Sex is the most intimate thing you will ever do. It should be wait until you are 100% ready, not when someone is pressuring you. Sex is only right when it is between two consenting Adults, with the operative words being Adults.


When having sex with someone of the opposite sex it is not just an intimate moment but the ultimate in violation of your body. I don't mean that in a harmful manner, but you are letting the male enter your body which is by definition a violation of your body. This should only be done if and when you are ready for this to happen.


You should not allow someone to have sex with you just because your friends say they have. Your boyfriends says, "put out for me or I'm out of here. Sex is not a contest and not something to give away to keep a boyfriend with. It is something to be cherished and to fulfill a loving relationship with.


You should also wait until you are old enough to understand and accept the consequences of a sexual relationship.

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Im not ready for sex, but my partner is giving signals and signs that they are. Do I do it to keep them with me or do I let them know im not ready ?

Sex is the most intimate thing you will ever do. It should be wait until you are 100% ready, not when someone is pressuring you. Sex is only right when it is between two consenting Adults, with the operative words being Adults.


When having sex with someone of the opposite sex it is not just an intimate moment but the ultimate in violation of your body. I don't mean that in a harmful manner, but you are letting the male enter your body which is by definition a violation of your body. This should only be done if and when you are ready for this to happen.


You should not allow someone to have sex with you just because your friends say they have. Your boyfriends says, "put out for me or I'm out of here. Sex is not a contest and not something to give away to keep a boyfriend with. It is something to be cherished and to fulfill a loving relationship with.


You should also wait until you are old enough to understand and accept the consequences of a sexual relationship.

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I am wondering what I should do...we have 3 children and we have been married for 12 years....Recently I entered a treatment center (in May)and when I got home he had created a profile on one sex/dating site- we went to counseling and last night I was snooping (never good, I know...but once a cheater always a cheater?) I found profile information on a different sex/dating site He claims that it must've been a pop up and somehow they got his e-mail address. The thing is that the password usedwas one we had from when we first got dial up internet...and coincidently, his email password...Is this possible, account from pop-up? a user name and password? am I just hoping hes not cheating and fooling myself?

Where there is smoke there is fire. In this case you are looking at a two alarm fire. Pop ups do not usually require pass wordsl.

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My immediate family really have no table manners.. They don't hold there utensils properly and because of that I had the same habit... When I went to dinner at my bf house he later asked me about it... I was so embarrassed and grateful that he brought my manners to my attention ... I have since become pretty proper but my mother is still he usual self and now I get disgusted when I eat next to her because I realize EVERYTHING she is doing... Chewing on chicken bones really loudly, eating with her hands, speaking with her mouth completely full and food on her lips just makes me loose my appetite. You may think I were making this up and I wish I were but I'm not, I've tried talking to her but she gets offended. I don't know what to do ... Maybe I'll just restrain myself from having dinner with her.

There are some foods that it is acceptable to eat by hand under or in certain surroundings. Chicken legs are great for eating with your hands, something I would do at home or on a picnic but never at a restaurant. Just the other night my wife and I had T-bone steaks and I remarked I never order this in a restaurant for the best part of this steak is gnawing on the bone.


What I'm trying to say is that if your family has better table manner away from home then at home or when company is over than it is best you not say anything. Home is a place you can relax and let your guard down. When you go out to dinner or have company over then you put out your best manners.


If this is not the case then the way to show your family that their table manners are not acceptable is to use the table manners you boyfriend showed you when you are with your family. They are bound to notice the difference in you. Then when they ask you can say something. TO go to your mother and in anyway say to her that yo find her and the rest of the familys table manners suddenly disgusting to you is a fight waiting to happen.

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I have a boyfriend but he doesn't interest me.I akways fantasize about woman and only girl on girl pornography turns me on!sexy girls excite me!I look at girls more then guys and have been like this for many years!I have done stuff with females and loved it!am I a lesbian?I am a 22year old girl!help

If you find both guys and girls too be attractive then that would make you bisexual. Going on what you've wrote most likely you are lesbian and there is nothing wrong with that.


At 22 years of age you should have a good handle on your sexuality. Their is nothing wrong with being a Lesbian or bisexual. I really believe the question you are asking is; "is it okay for me to be a lesbian?" The answer to that question is yes.


You need to be comfortable with who you are and that includes your sexuality. Your sexuality is part of you, it is not something you chose to be. If you are more comfortable with being a lesbian or bisexual than that is who you are and what you were designed to be. It is not a choice you made.


Their are people out there who will tell you differently. Don't listen to them and definitely do not believe them.

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I'm M/16, and I hate how I barely get sleep on weekdays. I'll go to bed at around 12am, wake up at 3am, stay up until like 12am again. Its annoying because in school I'm sleepy and at night I toss and turn constantly until the sun comes up. Even after exercise! I thought it would help. After jogging 6 miles, I still had trouble sleeping! I Can easily sleep right after school but I stopped. I don't drink coffee, energy drinks, & I rarely have soda. BUT on the weekends, I'll go to bed between 2am & 5am, ans get a nice 8-10 hour sleep. I'm afraid I might have to "reset" one day by eating very little, pulling an all nighter and go to bed at 10pm. ???Any advice? I never had this problem before. It developed a few months ago. I miss sleeping like a baby, I miss dreams. Maybe its because I have nothing to look foreword to the next day. Its very annoying. A good night's sleep can make me a better person during the day.

If you have not spoken to your doctor about this problem you should. None of us here are doctors so we cannot and should not be giving medical advise.


Problems sleeping can be signs of more serious problems. It can also get you in trouble at school if you happen to fall asleep in class. Just what the problem is could be anything from teenage puberty problems, meaning a slight hormone imbalance to maybe something like eating to heavy before trying to go to sleep. Your doctor will ask you a bunch of questions to narrow down the why. The doctor might also run some test.


One thing you do not have to be a doctor to know for sure, "sleep lost can never be regained." If you do not get enough rest you can do yourself serious harm.


You need to tell mom or dad what is going on. Then make an appointment with the family doctor to see if the problems is medical, chemical (hormonal) or some other problem like outside stimulation. What is most important is to find out the why of the problem before you so yourself serious harm.

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14 yrs old here, been seeing a therapist for a yr now because i had some trouble with my family a lot of issues, my parents got divorced which wasnt the issue, i wanted them to, but it was the way it went down that made me sad. it brought me and my family alot closer. but the whole time i was trying to build my family back, i was losing my freinds, and had no idea what to do. now i see what i need to do. my therapist says be yourself, and go out and socialize, im tryinggggg, its hard once you've been out of it for a while. ive always been very tough, and popular, and a leader. now im the opposite, but i just want to know how to be myself again, and stick up for myself,and NOT THINK EVRYTHING THROUGH, im not saying not having a filter, but say what i think. i dont want to be a follower, and i want to get my circle of friends back. how do i just be a kid again...i had to grow up a lot, but i knew i never wanted to lose my funny immature side, how do i use it? thank youuuuu...say all advice!

You have been forced to grow up before you time and now you want to go back to where you should be at your age. It is somewhat like the old saying of how do you get the boy back on the farm once he has seen the city?


I' don't have any magic answers for you. In one sense I have been where you are when I chose to go off and fight a war while my friends stayed home and went off to college. We all matured in different ways. I was forced to see and do things that forced me to grow up in a hurry, while they were able to remain kids longer. Eventually we caught up with each other.


What I had to do was put the past and some of those things I had to do to survive behind me. Something that is very hard to do because the past never really leaves you. I had to watch my friends and learn from them what it was like to be someone their age as the war had matured me beyond my age.


In a sense you were forced to mature beyond your age to withstand the riggers of a family in divorce, something that you should never have been put in a position you found your self in. Now you are more mature than your friends and whether you believe this or not what you see are your friends being somewhat juvenile and you want to be able to be that way but you are to mature to do so.


Try talking to your therapist along these lines and see if you can come up with away you can learn from your friends how to be more like them, rather than judge them. If you can do this I think you will be a happier person.

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hi im ashlyn im 13 and im a girl. i want to have sex so bad because im going through a phase. but i want to ask my boyfriend if he will have sex with me but i dont know what he will say. so i need to know how to ask him if he will have sex with me.and i need to know where to have sex if he says yes

Hi Ashlyn,


To start off with you are way, way to young to be having sex. You are barely a teenager and way immature for sex as your reasoning why suggests. Sex is not something you have because you are going through a phase.


Another reason for not having sex at you age is you do not want to get a reputation at school. I'll be honest with you about this; when it comes to having sex boys are unable to keep a secrete. If you have sex with your boy friend tonight it will be all over school before next week is finished. You will become the most popular girl in school for all the wrong reasons.


Once you get this type of reputation it is very hard to live it down. It will even follow you to a new school. I don't think this is what you want.


For that reason I am not going to answer your question. I'm going to ask you to rethink your reason for wanting to have sex at such an early age in your life. I can think of no reason you should be considering of even letting a boy get to first base let alone hitting a home run.

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Im 13 and so depressed. I think i might be suicidal. I almost did an overdose before i went to school today. I guess that does make me suicidal. But instead of an overdose i just cut my wrist, hip, and thigh until you could barely see through all the blood. My question is do I need help? And if I do, what kind of help? I have no friends, i cant pass science or metal shop. And my drawings are getting bad. What should I do. Please help me.

Yes you do need help. Being suicidal, almost overdosing, cutting yourself to the point of bleeding is not a phase. It is a sign of something bothering you to the point of depression. You need help right now, today.


You can get that help by talking with your parents and telling them what is going on, how you are feeling and what you have been doing to yourself. Ask them to take you to a hospital emergency room so you can be evaluated and started on medication for depression.


If mom or dad are not home when you read this then pick up the phone and call 911. Tell the call taker what you wrote to us and how you are feeling at that time. They will probably want to stay on the phone while the proper emergency services are sent to help you.


As a first responder I can tell you that most likely the emergency services that will be dispatched will be fire rescue and the police department. Don't be afraid of the police coming as they are coming to help you not arrest you. Where I live this is done to keep you safe by dispatching the units that can reach you first and keep you safe until an ambulance can get to you to take you to the hospital.


Most importantly is to try and talk to your parents if they are home and to see a doctor today. Today being Saturday the best way to see a doctor is at a Hospital or clinic emergency room.

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im 19 and my boyfriend is 20.

i've been dating the most amazing person for the last 4 months, even though it seems like much much longer to us. I lost my virginity to him, he has had a few sexual partners before myself however. The thing is, i heard from his friends girlfriend, that one of his old 'friends with benefits' is absolutely amazing in bed, and is that girl that 'every guy has to sleep with because she knows all the moves and is amazing in bed'

I was drunk when i heard this information, and a little bit taken aback.
I felt really insecure, and topped off with being drunk, emotionally unstable. I told my boyfriend that i didnt even know he slept with her, and that i was feeling insecure because of how amazing her sex is.
He pretty much confirmed my fear that i'm not as good in bed as she is, but im the only person he wants to have sex with.

Now all i can think about next time me and my man get intimate is that im not going to be as good as her. I love him so much and i want to blow his mind and make him feel loved and special. When i think about it... it's always been me that says 'that was amazing' and i always let him know hes beyond satisfied me, yet i havent heard that from him. I want him to say "that was amazing" etc etc. he only tells me i feel amazing cause im so tight, especially compared to the previous girls. But if i wasnt tight, i would be totally terrible at sex. I dont want to be, i ask him what i can do to give him the most pleasure, or what positions he wants to do, and he said he doesnt care. Just once i would like to be amazing in bed, and make him go "wow"

Is their any tips or suggestions anyone could give me to give him an amazing sexual experience? new positions to try or peticular things i can do to make myself better in bed?

The amazing thing about sex is the intimacy and the learning about each others wants and desires. I would think your boyfriend would be totally over board to teach you to satisfy his every carnal desire. As a virgin you are a blank canvas he can paint to his own way. Is it possible he is just waiting for you to ask him.


One of the most important things about any relationship, not just sex, is communication. you have to talk to each other to know what the other person is thinking, what their likes and dislikes are and just who they are. Sex only takes a relationship so far, after that you need to be able to exist on other plains as well. Learning from each other on all plains is very important. At this stage in your relations ship teaching each other is most important and teaching each other about your sexual wants and desires is high on the list.


There are a lot of ways to learn things, the best way is to ask what he likes. If you have never given a BJ or HJ ask him how he likes to have it done. Heck even if you have given them before, each guy has different sensitivities just as girls have different sensitivities so guys should ask them how they like oral sex.


The only advise I will give you other than what I have already done is that there must be a clear under standing that stop means STOP and no means NO. If that is understood then anything and everything is fair game to at least try once to see if it is something you like or at least comfortable with.


Just remember what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom and there is nothing weird that happens between two consenting adults.

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I have expressed my concern on a former question on this site. But now I have a new question to ask since I have recieved very useful information on my previous question. My question is this is it possible to have multiple prescriptions at different pharmacy's for the same drug? Also if you suspect someone of having multiple prescriptions at diffrent pharmacy's what should you do?

The quick answer to you question is yes.


Which brings up the question of how multiple prescriptions were obtained. If from one doctor then you can report the doctor to the state medical board and the police. If there are multiple doctors, as in the person is doctor shopping, there is not much you can do other than try and contact those doctors.


Some states have a program for addictive drugs where pharmacy computers are linked to catch such abuse. This program is new and is in it's early stages.


You can talk with this person untilnyou blue in the face, it won't help. For you I suggest contacting al-anon or al-ateen depending on your age. They have a website that will help you locate a meeting place near you. Through them you will learn how others have delt with family members or friends with addictions and hopefully find away to deal with your situation.

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I have a family member who has been having an issue with abusing pills. Her doctor continues to prescribe her medications such as Fioricet and Ambien even after she had a 48hour watch done at the local mental hospital for taking a large quantity of Lortabs and having hallucinations. My question is this as a very concerned family member what can I do? The doctor knows about her stay at the hospital.But I think she is lieing to the doctor about what she uses the meds for. Just recently her boyfriend said she would not allow him to go back in the room with her at the doctor. She also is in major denial about what she is doing. As far as I am concerned the doctor is enabling her to continue to abuse meds. Any suggestions about how to handle this would be greatly appreciated. We are very afraid that she might overdose and her behavior becomes very erratic.

Because of medical confidentiality laws there is not much you can do.


You can have a conversation with her doctor and make the doctor aware of your concerns. This will be a very one sided conversation as the doctor by law will not and cannot discuss the family members medical history with you without a signed consent to disclose form from that family member.


If you truly believe that family member is a danger to themselves there is a possibility of an involuntary commitment to a hospital for a period of 24 to 72 hours for observation. Generally this requires two consenting opinions by examining doctors, a social service commitment or a commitment by law enforcement.


A third option is to consult with an attorney and see if a court order can be obtained where in you or another family member can be appointed this persons guardian. I believe it is called Guardian Ad Litem. If you can successfully prove to the court that this person is a danger to themselves and cannot properly care for themselves and their family if they have one the court can at their discretion order guardianship.


Once guardianship is ordered you will then have access to medical records, can approve medical treatment nd what ever else the court appoints you to handle on behalf of this person. All of which is overseen by the court.


Guardianship of an adult is very hard to get. The courts are going to want proof beyond all doubt. Consult with an attorney in any case as the laws in every state are different.

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Last night when I was looking at my boyfriend's laptop history for an important link I visited on his laptop, I came across a bunch of porn links.
It somehow threw me off and I felt so insecure.

We've been together for two years now, he's 21, I'm 18. I mean, I know it's normal for guys to watch porn every now and then, and I guessed my boyfriend did so too, maybe once a month.

But after discovering this (by the way, I never snoop on his laptop- we are very open with one another) I told him that it made me feel bad and insecure about myself and I asked him how often he watches it. He told me that every three or four days when he's feeling horny.

This is just bothering me so much and he said he'll stop if it makes me feel bad, but I know that if he needs it, then he probably will watch it anyway and I told him that.

Is it normal for me to be bothered so much about the fact that he watches it twice a week or so, and the fact that it really makes me feel insecure and I just hate the fact that he's sitting there masturbating to some other women.

Overall, our sex life is fantastic, and he assured me that he doesn't watch it because I'm not sexy enough or because he's looking for something else...but I still feel weird.

Or am I being irrational? I need some explanations and comfort here...

Are you being irrational? That really depends on what you mean by irrational. You should not feel insecure by him watching or looking at porn. Men are wired differently than women.


The fact that you two are not together all the time does not mean he can just turn off his sexual needs which are at his age stronger than yours. So he chooses to look at porn and take care of himself; rather than look for relief with another women. Rather than feeling weird or insecure you might feel a little flattered that his love for you is strong enough that he would rather masturbate than cheat on you.


If he is masturbating for relief then the women in the porn films are not a threat to you. They are simply inspiration by which to relive himself. The fact that you and he have a great sex life should tell you this.


Rather than ask him to stop watching porn you might think about watching it with him. When my wife and I got married we were somewhat inexperienced. We watched porn together and learned a lot from watching the actors have sex. So porn can be just that or it can be inspiration, as your boyfriend is using for; or it can be a teaching tool as my wife and I as well as others have used it for.

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Why do people have sex when there pregnant with no condom or anything when they know they can get more baby's in there and they don't even want this one?
Why do that?!

I don't know how old you are, or what type of sex education you have had. One thing that is obvious from your question is you need to learn more about reproduction.


Once a female becomes pregnant she no longer capable of any further reproduction until the baby she is currently carrying is born. For this reason there is no longer any reason to use birth control until she is once again fertile, which will not happen until after she gives birth.

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Every time I have to present something in class I get nervous standing in front of everyone. My knees shake and my voice starts trembling and changing. I had to present yesterday and my knees were shaking in front of everyone and my voice was shaking. It was embarrassing. I know most of my classmates, I don't know why I get nervous. I can't just pretend Im presenting to one person either. Sometimes I get so nervous people Laugh at me. I have to present something again on next tuesday, so how can I stop my knees and my voice from shaking?

You are normal, the last thing any of us want to do is fail in front of our friends and peers. There is an old axiom in public speaking that says to pretend everyone you are speaking to is naked. Frankly I never found that to helpful as a male there were obvious reasons for that.


There is another public speaking trick that usually does work. That is to find a friendly face. A girlfriend or boyfriend in that class and speak directly to them. You can also look directly at the teacher. If the teacher moves around the room follow the teacher as he/she moves.

Instead of standing there looking out at the entire class. Focus on the one person you know and trust. Lock your eyes on theirs. Having been in Sale & Marketing for over thirty years I found this to work. Even in a room full of strangers I have been able to find a kindly set of eyes to focus on during my presentations.


I have had a wonderful career, generally ranking at the top of sales force list. When making a presentation you are in fact going into, in most cases, a strange place and setting up a stage to put on a one person play with you as the star. In these circumstances it is only right that a person will be nervous. You need to find little crutches to help you through the nervousness. The one I described above has worked for me and many other public speakers. Give it a try, I'm sure there is someone in class you are friends with that you can stand in front of the class and look at and speak too while giving your presentation.


Good luck on Tuesday or as they say in the Theater; break a leg.

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and he loves to rub my belly and kiss it even talks to it ! I gain a little bit of weight but I'm not pregnant. Right before we'd go to sleep he'd rub it and says " I love you " and he kisses it. Is this weird ? Why does he do that ? Were both 18.

I don't think it's weird. Everybody has their little fetishes. Your boyfriend has a belly fetish. I'm a leg man myself but when my wife and I were dating I thought she had the cutest little nose I ever saw, still do for that matter. I loved to kiss it until she finally told me she had a bad problem when she was a child with one of her Aunt's who hold her nose, so I had to stop.


I do not see a problem here. If it really annoys you then say something to him. If you can live with it then do just that. He could have foot fetish and crawl under the covers to kiss your feet. Now that could be a problem, though that too is a benign fetish.

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Hey i'm 20/f and i'm 5'7 and weigh about 180 pounds. I'm wanting to lose like 30 pounds within the next couple months. I do eat healthy and exercise regularly but i feel like the weight just isnt coming off. I know some diet pills are bad and such i dont want a lecture please. I'm looking for a diet pill that will work and actually work, i know theres no over night cure but anything would help please!

Over the counter diet pills can be very risky to your health.


The best way to diet, the only way to diet that I will ever recommend is one that is supervised by your doctor. If you are having trouble losing weight, which is not unusual for females, then you need to see your doctor.


Your doctor will tell you what your best target weight is. Your doctor will examine you to make sure you are healthy then make recommendations on a proper diet to follow. You might also want to find a nutritionist, many can be found in Health food store, to help you come up with proper meal plans. Eating healthy is not always the same as eating properly.


Once you have proper meal plans you need to come up with a proper exercise plan. If you belong to a Health Club the staff personal trainer may be able to help you.


Once you have this in place and with regular visits to your doctor while dieting, you should be successful in loosing weight.

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It takes a lot for me to ask for help and I'm not really sure who to talk to about this so I figured I'd see who has the best answer for me. Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we got engaged new years eve. We have a great relationship, I'm very comfortable with him and we have a lot of things in common. However, we do have our issues, like every couple out there.

This is something that has bothered me for quite some time now. He had a female friend who he had a one night stand with after they had both gotten out of a long term relationship. This was before he even met me. He explained this to me before we dated and said it was a mistake. This friend of his happened to be the girl my ex boyfriend cheated on me with. So as if that wasn't bad enough she was a horrible person. Rude, trashy, used my boyfriend for rides to her friends house. Numerous things that makes me sick to think about to this day.

At first I didn't say anything to my boyfriend, I didn't want to tell him who he can and can't talk to. A situation occurred later on that was the final straw for me. I told him how uncomfortable I was when he hung out with her. They eventually went their separate ways which couldn't have made me happier. Well I figured my problems were over since she was out of the picture.

Now there's this other girl who he used to talk to at work where we met. I had known her sister pretty well but I had only met her twice. She's one of those people that only talks to you when she has nothing better to do which is what I gathered so far. So out of no where last year she asks my fiance to go to the movies with her at 10 at night alone. Now call me old fashioned, call me ridiculous all you want but doesn't that sound completely odd? Well I basically flipped out, I said how how dare she ask you to go to the movies with her alone at night when she knows when we are in a relationship? I know that I would never do something like that and I don't know anyone who would.

Now my fiance is completely oblivious, he doesn't see anything wrong with this. He says well I haven't seen her in a long time, we are just friends there's no harm in it. So we happen to walk into her sister that same day and I told her what happened. She even agreed with me that it was odd. After I had explained why it was inappropriate for the thousandth time, my fiance finally said I guess I can see your point. Why don't you come with us and her sister ended up going as well. The night consisted of us sitting in the theater in silence. I mostly spoke to her sister and she barely said anything. It was awkward, I didn't know what the point of this was. So even though she seemed okay, she was too quiet I wasn't sure what her intentions were. So that happened last October and for some reason she starts talking to my fiance this time of year. She will ignore him all year then all of a sudden talk to him and ask us to go to the movies.

Well it's that time of year again and now, she's apparently inviting me now. So now we are supposed to go with her this Saturday which I'm not too thrilled about. Maybe I'm reading too much into it but its weird, me, him and her going to the movies together. Especially since I don't believe she is a true friend. He says I am being ridiculous, which I probably am but she has done things I don't like. She's asked him to go to the movies a few times alone and will text him randomly late at night when she starts talking to him again. I just find the situation odd and I really don't like it. I trust my finance, I don't think that anything is going on but I find it inappropriate. So now I am forced to go with them this weekend and I just know its going to be awkward. I feel like this is a silly teenage problem that shouldn't be happening.

I think my main problem is I really don't know her, the only things I do know are negative things. I honestly don't want to get to know her and I think that's my other issue. They haven't been friends for a long time and I don't want them to start again basically. I know this sounds horrible but it's ridiculous and random I guess. I wish I could say that I was just jealous but I honestly don't think that is the issue. I just find it strange that she all of a sudden comes around when she wants to and imposes on us.

This is keeping me awake at night, giving me bad dreams. Basically making me crazy, and I was never like this. Even though I know it's innocent, it's just a freakin' movie, I don't like it. I just need someone to tell me I'm not crazy, that this is normal to feel this way. And that I'm probably making more of a big deal than it has to be. That is something I will admit, I read into things far too much and I wish I didn't. It just seems to cause me more issues for me.

I'll give you a guys point of view on this.


First: I don't think your crazy. If this person was a long time friend I wouldn't think much of it. We are all entitled to our friends of either sex, this includes you.


Second: It is strange the way she is on again off again in her desire to see your fiance. She is intruding on you since she seems to blow hot and cold at her convenience and is making no attempt to be friends with you.


Third: If the situation was reversed an it was you seeing a guy in this manner, I believe what I would do id take him aside and say something to the effect of. Look you and I are not friends. You blow hot and cold. You are intruding on my relationship with my future wife and I do not appreciate it. If you want to be OUR friends then you need to be more than a fair weather type acquaintance. Jill (to pick a name) is off the market. We are getting married so unless you want to be friends with both of us I would like you to disappear.


It is up to you as too how you want to handle this. Your fiance may be just too nice a guy to tell her to take a hike, especially since she is the sister of a friend of yours.

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My right eye has gotten red since the summer of 2011 only when I put a contact lense in. So recently I went to
my doctor and she prescribed an antibiotic which I used daily every two hours. On our last appoinent she said I could go
back to lenses, so I went go school in lenses and my eye got red again! This time the entire white if the eye was red so I put some drops in and went to bed. This morning, I wake up and it's still red and now it hurts. What should I do?
Please dont tell me to change solution, case, or lenses. I already tried.
F/16

If you are reading this in school go to the nurses office. Ask them to call 911 NOW. Eyes are considered life and limb situations and are a good reason to call 911. You need to be seen by a doctor NOW.

DangerNerd is correct we are not Doctors. I am a first responder an I can tell you; If I was one of the responders I would be urging you to allow us to go to take you to the emergency room. Actually where I live, as a 16 year old you would have no choice if the school nurse agreed. You would be taken to the emergency room like it or not since you are below the age of consent.

There is something wrong with your eye. Either you are allergic to the lens, the cleaning solution or you have an infection. If left untreated you could very well loose the sight in that eye. Worse you could lose the eye itself. GET TO A DOCTOR KNOW.

Call mom or dad if need be; go to a hospital emergency room if you can not get an appointment for today with your Optometrist. In the mean time wear your glasses.

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I'm 17/f with a child on the way. don't be biased with your advice because I am young and still live with my parents & pregnant bc I know how yall are.
Things have been this way. I never noticed until now how annoying it is and how I don't want to bring my child into this. We live in a 3 bedroom house & we have 2 full bathrooms. One is in the master bed room my moms room, I have to take showers in there.. I can't stand it anymore. I have no privacy I feel like the other bathroom should be myyy bathroom & my parents should share the bathroom in what's supposed to be theirrrr room. But my father sleeps out in the game room & uses the other bathroom. I think this is very selfish . I know I pay no bills and have no say so. But no one keeps that bathroom nice & if I were to start using it my dad would just mess it up anyways. This is the number one reason I can't stand living here. I rather stay at my boyfriends apartment with his parents cause at least he has his own bathroom. & my mom thinks that shes never in anyones business when she always is, she always opens my mail & moves my things it's very annoying. What should I do about the bathroom thing because it doesn't look like I will be moving out until i finish this year of college...? I don't want to have to be taking my baby all the way to my mothers bathroom to do anything or have to be cleaning & taking care of this bathroom when all my dad is going to do is take it over & mess it up.

I Have a number of questions I won't ask, but this one. Why does you father use the other bathroom ? Is it so as not to disturb you mother who may be sleeping when he goes to work?


As for your living environment and privacy. This is a tough one. If you want to use the other bathroom you should be able to. If your father makes a mess than you will have to clean up after him if he won;t clean up after himself or your mother won't clean up after him.


As for privacy; you are living in your parents house. Living there has become sort of a privilege when you became pregnant and not married. I know you don't want to hear that but I needed to say just that much to explain what your parents might be feeling.


As their daughter pregnant or not by law they are responsible for you until you reach the age of 18. They cannot force you to pay any bills, they must supply food, clothing, a place to sleep and all medical treatment you may require including treatment for your pregnancy no mater their feelings. Once their grandchild is born until you are 18 they are also responsible to supply the same things for their grandchild.


Once you reach 18 they can ask you to leave. Until then you have no privacy other than medical privacy. You did not say how your parents feel about your pregnancy so I am assuming the are less than thrilled. If I';m correct there is not much you can do about your living situation.


I would suggest talking with your mother because the stress the living situation is placing on you is not good for her grandchild. This is the way you have to approach your mother. Not what you need for yourself but what you need to ensure a healthy grandchild for her. Not knowing how your parents feel about becoming grandparents I cannot say how this approach will work. What I can say is this approach has the best possibility of a positive outcome for you.

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