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do i do it to keep them
what if your not ready for sex but your partner is giveing you signs do you have sex to keep them or not?
IM 13 SOMEONE!!!!!!!
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If you're not ready you're not ready. Plus you have to realize that if this one guy wanted to be your boyfriend there will be a minimum of ten more who will gladly line up to replace him if he leaves you. Also, when you guys do get it on, he will brag about it to his buddies because guys have a need to put points on the board and show what studs they are. Sounds inane, but it's true.
So you hold all the cards here. Tell him you're not ready and won't be for at least 3-4 years and if he can't accept it, well, you have to do what is right for you because if the shit hits the fan he will head for the hills and leave you holding the bag/baby/STD. You only get one shot in life. Take control of it, do what is right for you and do it right.
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if you are not ready then don't do it just to be with him. thats how i liost my virginity and he left me the next day. Im not sying ur guy will all im saying is that if ur not ready them tell him. if he truley loves you he will wait if he leaves you because you wont fuck him then hes an asshole and doesn't deserve to be in your life. its your life and your desisions you shoulnt let anyone make your desisions for you. run your own life.its yours not his. hell undrstand
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im in the exact situation, im also 13/f and my boyfriend of 8 months whats to have sex. we kinda moved fast in our relationship . . .but any ways. if you are NOT ready for sex then dont do it, if your partner truly likes/loves you they will wait tell you if good enough to do it, my boyfriend wanted to so bad the first months we started going out. i told him im not ready for it and h listened to me. but hey 6 months later i DO want to have sex with him.
all im saying is if your not ready dont do it, if you think you are go a head! if your paretner truley caares they will do what you want.
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I think your last line says it all. You are 13.
At that age, many young people aren't physically or emotionally ready for sex. The relationship is unlikely to be a long-term one because tastes change so quickly, some young boys are very keen to have sex but once it's done they move on, it's the chase that excites them as well as the sex.
If someone is pressurising you to have sex before you feel ready, ask them to drop the subject. If you aren't ready, that's it, end of conversation.
Hope this helps, let me know how this turns out?
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Sex is the most intimate thing you will ever do. It should be wait until you are 100% ready, not when someone is pressuring you. Sex is only right when it is between two consenting Adults, with the operative words being Adults.
When having sex with someone of the opposite sex it is not just an intimate moment but the ultimate in violation of your body. I don't mean that in a harmful manner, but you are letting the male enter your body which is by definition a violation of your body. This should only be done if and when you are ready for this to happen.
You should not allow someone to have sex with you just because your friends say they have. Your boyfriends says, "put out for me or I'm out of here. Sex is not a contest and not something to give away to keep a boyfriend with. It is something to be cherished and to fulfill a loving relationship with.
You should also wait until you are old enough to understand and accept the consequences of a sexual relationship.
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If you're not ready, and you get the impression that you are being forced or pressured into having sex with someone, then that person is not worth keeping.
The right person for you will understand and appreciate that you are not ready, and will be patient.
In short: No, dont have sex to keep them. Dump them.
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