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How can i be better in bed?
im 19 and my boyfriend is 20.
i've been dating the most amazing person for the last 4 months, even though it seems like much much longer to us. I lost my virginity to him, he has had a few sexual partners before myself however. The thing is, i heard from his friends girlfriend, that one of his old 'friends with benefits' is absolutely amazing in bed, and is that girl that 'every guy has to sleep with because she knows all the moves and is amazing in bed'
I was drunk when i heard this information, and a little bit taken aback.
I felt really insecure, and topped off with being drunk, emotionally unstable. I told my boyfriend that i didnt even know he slept with her, and that i was feeling insecure because of how amazing her sex is.
He pretty much confirmed my fear that i'm not as good in bed as she is, but im the only person he wants to have sex with.
Now all i can think about next time me and my man get intimate is that im not going to be as good as her. I love him so much and i want to blow his mind and make him feel loved and special. When i think about it... it's always been me that says 'that was amazing' and i always let him know hes beyond satisfied me, yet i havent heard that from him. I want him to say "that was amazing" etc etc. he only tells me i feel amazing cause im so tight, especially compared to the previous girls. But if i wasnt tight, i would be totally terrible at sex. I dont want to be, i ask him what i can do to give him the most pleasure, or what positions he wants to do, and he said he doesnt care. Just once i would like to be amazing in bed, and make him go "wow"
Is their any tips or suggestions anyone could give me to give him an amazing sexual experience? new positions to try or peticular things i can do to make myself better in bed?
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enjoy yourself sex gets better the more you do it and your new.guys dont want a girl thats been around and fantastic in bed that would make him insecure.those girls arent what they want and they love a girl thats tight.it gets better just have fun!
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The amazing thing about sex is the intimacy and the learning about each others wants and desires. I would think your boyfriend would be totally over board to teach you to satisfy his every carnal desire. As a virgin you are a blank canvas he can paint to his own way. Is it possible he is just waiting for you to ask him.
One of the most important things about any relationship, not just sex, is communication. you have to talk to each other to know what the other person is thinking, what their likes and dislikes are and just who they are. Sex only takes a relationship so far, after that you need to be able to exist on other plains as well. Learning from each other on all plains is very important. At this stage in your relations ship teaching each other is most important and teaching each other about your sexual wants and desires is high on the list.
There are a lot of ways to learn things, the best way is to ask what he likes. If you have never given a BJ or HJ ask him how he likes to have it done. Heck even if you have given them before, each guy has different sensitivities just as girls have different sensitivities so guys should ask them how they like oral sex.
The only advise I will give you other than what I have already done is that there must be a clear under standing that stop means STOP and no means NO. If that is understood then anything and everything is fair game to at least try once to see if it is something you like or at least comfortable with.
Just remember what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom and there is nothing weird that happens between two consenting adults.
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