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PLEASE READ..I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO COMMNUICATE BETTER
14 yrs old here, been seeing a therapist for a yr now because i had some trouble with my family a lot of issues, my parents got divorced which wasnt the issue, i wanted them to, but it was the way it went down that made me sad. it brought me and my family alot closer. but the whole time i was trying to build my family back, i was losing my freinds, and had no idea what to do. now i see what i need to do. my therapist says be yourself, and go out and socialize, im tryinggggg, its hard once you've been out of it for a while. ive always been very tough, and popular, and a leader. now im the opposite, but i just want to know how to be myself again, and stick up for myself,and NOT THINK EVRYTHING THROUGH, im not saying not having a filter, but say what i think. i dont want to be a follower, and i want to get my circle of friends back. how do i just be a kid again...i had to grow up a lot, but i knew i never wanted to lose my funny immature side, how do i use it? thank youuuuu...say all advice!
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You have been forced to grow up before you time and now you want to go back to where you should be at your age. It is somewhat like the old saying of how do you get the boy back on the farm once he has seen the city?
I' don't have any magic answers for you. In one sense I have been where you are when I chose to go off and fight a war while my friends stayed home and went off to college. We all matured in different ways. I was forced to see and do things that forced me to grow up in a hurry, while they were able to remain kids longer. Eventually we caught up with each other.
What I had to do was put the past and some of those things I had to do to survive behind me. Something that is very hard to do because the past never really leaves you. I had to watch my friends and learn from them what it was like to be someone their age as the war had matured me beyond my age.
In a sense you were forced to mature beyond your age to withstand the riggers of a family in divorce, something that you should never have been put in a position you found your self in. Now you are more mature than your friends and whether you believe this or not what you see are your friends being somewhat juvenile and you want to be able to be that way but you are to mature to do so.
Try talking to your therapist along these lines and see if you can come up with away you can learn from your friends how to be more like them, rather than judge them. If you can do this I think you will be a happier person.
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