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if a boy asks you out and says he loves you how do you know if hes joking or not.

Hmmm, I have another twist on this.
A guy usually does not say He loves you to ask you out. that goes against the way most guys are. They are usually slow to fall in love. So if he actually used that word instead of "I really like you alot," or "I really care about you alot" or "I am attracted to you so . . ." to ask you out, all I can guess is that perhaps if he really did say I love you and want to take you out. And his reason for saying it, might be that he figured that he had no chance of you accepting if he didn't or he said it simply cus its what he thinks a girl wants to hear to go out. Its actually kinda silly if you realize what dating, going out and relationships like that are for. Dating times of our lives are to get used to the opposite sex, get to know and understand how they act and work in general and then go for what you personally have a taste in, things you like and dont like about a guy. Likewise, he can't know enough of that stuff about you to be able to be in love with you before even having dated.

You can ask for clarification. I would personally ask, "Are you seriously asking me to go out on a date?" If he says Yes, then my next question would be, "Then may I ask why you said you love me at the same time you asked me out?" No matter what his answer is, you can say, "You don't even know me yet. Can you at least be honest with me and let me know what it is about me that you are attracted to before I decide to accept your offer?" Then depending on what he says, you decide to go on a date or not.

Now for the other scenerio, when I would ask, "Are you seriously asking me to go out on a date?" If he says No, then I would probably ask, "Why would you joke around that way? Do you realize you just might say that someday to a girl who is really needy and has self esteem issues and next thing you know, she has glued herself to your side and won't let you live your life cus she really believes 'as true' what she heard you say jokingly. Its not a good thing to joke about."

You see, guys when interested in a female, even when they are way older, still do the same thing even over 50...they said the dumbest things sometimes cus they really haven't a clue how to talk to women, never have learned in their entire "Are you seriously asking me to go out on a date?" life. So never assume anything about what you hear a guy say just ask him about it. And take the opportunity to teach him some better ways to talk to a girl or invite her out. He'll really appreciate you for it and like put into practice what you teach him

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I've recently bought a dress that requires that looks stupid when the straps of a regular bra are on display. Like this http://www.boohoo.com/restofworld/clothing/dresses-promo/icat/dresses-promo/going-out-dresses/melissa-tie-back-cutout-side-dress/invt/azz48877

So what bra do I need to buy?! I'm abit inexperienced on that front you see. As in which is comfortable-is a wonderbra an option?! I mean-do people still wear them?! Basically a strapless but comfy bra that will stay up-and is good value. Cheers!

I tried to answer yesterday but my internet was acting up and couldnt send mssg. Or at least I thougt it didn't go through. This may be a repeat.

What you need to do is take the dress with you to a lingerie department of a store.
Find the clerk, show the dress and say you're looking for a bra to wear with it.
There are some bra's that have multi styles, and can be worn as strapless, but also come with hooks for straps in front and back so you can add the straps to go around your neck as a halter, or criss cross in back. The straps may be solid white or beige like the bra or may come with the bra as clear plastic straps. If they don't you should be able to buy the clear ones separate.
Try on both using it strapless and with straps over the shoulder. Being clear they aren't noticeable unless someone were maybe hugging you but it doesnt look bad. If you decide you don't like the look either way, then the last thing I can think of is foam or rubber cups, a set of two that come with self adhesive on them so you can just stick them in place over each boob but realize there is no support from straps. So If you have very heavy chest that might not look good. Thats all i can think of. Good luck dear.

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So about a month ago I went to this summer camp for violin and so during the camp, I hooked up with my teachers son 2 nights in a row who is like 6 years older than me ( I'm 17 he's 23) . What made me feel bad afterwards was that I have known this guy for the longest time of my life( I've taken lessons with his mom ever since I was 5 years old ) ... Although we never talked until that time at camp I just felt like it was so weird you know ? Especially since my teacher is like my aunt to me ! And like I only did it because I felt lonely and haven't been feeling wanted for a while and because of my raging hormones ! So when I did it with him I felt so dirty and sick of myself cause I never imagined myself doing that with someone I didn't love. I felt hollow and empty . But the thing was that I think the guy may have started developing feelings cause when we got back from camp he would message me to come over to his place and chill. I didn't answer his message but then he kept messaging and so then I told him off that I didn't want anything to do with him and that what happened was just a one time thin and that I would gladly like if he could just leave me alone . And so after that he was like fine. I just wante to keep my options open you know ? This will be the last time you'll ever hear from me . And then after that me befriended me on Facebook and I just feel so bad and terrible ! I don't like him ... But I just feel like i may have been too harsh ! The thought that we may still bump into each other cause I'm still taking lessons with his mom kinda makes me feel a bit antsy! Should I be feeling bad ?! Although my other friends say that I can never please everyone all the time and that i shouldn't feel bad and that I had to make myself clear , I would like other people's honest perspective of the whole situation

You should not feel bad wanting to avoid him for the reasons you gave. Smart girl!!!
There's a good chance that the reason he wanted to get in touch with you after camp so quickly was because he has raging hormones too, not because he likes you as a person. Any guy who gets to have sex with a gal, is going to give a good try to keep that avenue open so he has a steady sex partner. Can't blame him for that...if thats what both people want...its fine.
But what you experienced was just sex, not making love as it would be with someone where both of you are in love with each other.
That will explain why you feel so terrible.
Its normal to be so horny but until you turn 18, it's best not to get any guy involved in a sexual relationship, even if its someone you truly care about, because of the statutory rape factor.
Until of age, you'll have to rely on masturbation...i know...it's okay but not that great compared to having a live male body but your do what you have to do.
Once you are 18, if you decide that you need sex bad enough that you have a male friend, someone okay you're friends with but not someone you'd care to marry....just be upfront with the guys and let them know ahead of time that you are only looking for friends with benefits, not to date them steady or be in a relationship with. If that is what you decide, then you'll be okay with it and not feel dirty and bad because it is an agreement that you entered into of your own choice for just that reason. Theres nothing wrong with that. Good luck dear.

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I recently met this guy at the college I am attending. He works at the textbook store, so when I appeared there constantly, he always teased me, saying, "You're here again?" He would smile and be very helpful. It wasn't until a few days ago we actually got to talking. He was leaving work and he saw me reading on a bench, and he said, "You're still here, huh?" So I nodded and smirked, and I asked him if he wanted to sit with me. He did and we talked for maybe two hours until he had to go to class. He asked me for my number and texted me regularly, but he replies slow. He is saving money for a car, so he gets rides from his parents. It's actually irritating because I don't have any chance to hang out with him outside of school.

Anyway, the other night, we met up when I had to go to the school for a movie night. We met in the library and talked usually. He was being very flirty and would touch me and he even hugged me when he had to go to class. While he was hugging me, he poked me in the eye, and then when I said ouch, he kissed my eyelid and hugged me close. He was being so sweet and romantic. After his class ended a half an hour later, we met up and played with a batch of puppies someone had in the field. We then spent the night on the track in the field talking and looking at the stars. He is so flirty and sweet, I have to fight my urges to kiss him and throw myself on to him. We seem to have amazing chemistry and I just can't get him out of my head. However, when I asked where his interests lie, he said I was sweet and cute, but he was still in the "friend making" zone. It hurt a little bit, but I agreed and went along with it. I have fallen for him so fast, but he wants to take it slow. Face to face, he seems so interested, but through text, he seems very bored of me. Any advice?

Forget using the text as an indicator of a guy being interested. A good majority of men of all ages will always hate typing so that eliminates keeping in contact on facebook or other venues on screen or texting. If like you said face to face its great, then thats wonderful. Thats where its important to have interest and chemistry.
Some girls fall for a guy real easily. One of my daughters is like that. So if you fall in love easily, you have to learn to give the guy time to go through the same processes you did, it just may 4 times as long, or more. That is actually a good thing. Tell yourself to use this time to do some real investigating to delve deeper into learning about him, beyond the stuff at surface level that you were attracted to.
The best way to learn about a person is lots and lots of talking, and lots of spending time together. If you come up with other specific questions in the future, let me know. If this is your first real relationship with someone you are truly attracted to...do yourself a favor and pick up a book on the differences of how guys and gals communicate. What means something to you may not be interpreted the same way for him. And for you to be going on with him just assuming things because of how you interpreted it was wrong, well...you'd save yourself some heartache. The daughter I mentionsed has of yet not bought such a book and had her heart broken with 3 different guys she fell for, didn't communicate well with and assumed things wrongly about. What can I say? I can only make the suggestion and give the advice but its up to the individual to take action. Good luck to you dear. He sounds great so far.

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Okay i am a 13/f and i have this problem. Okay so my best friend somehow became my boyfriend last year. Then we broke up and now he want me back and i keep saying no just friends. But now at school evrytime we past each other we just seem like strangers and this is our third week of school and we didn't even make eye contact.
My question is i just want to break the tension.
So should i say anything first or just wait
thanks

So, reach out and tap him on the shoulder and say that you hate the fact that the two of you can't even look at each other. Let him know you want to discuss with him the break up and why you said you didn't want to get back together.
Dating is for the purpose of getting used to communicating with the opposite sex, learning what you like and don't like in a guy.
After all, there are some girls who are not your girlfriends for the very same reason.
I do not know why the two of you broke up, whether you both decided it was the right thing to do after discussing why you wanted to break up. Or did you say I want to break up and not explain why....or did he decide to break up and not explain why.
Whatever the issues were, are they now resolved? cus if they aren't that needs to happen to get back together. Or did you discover something about his personality that makes you not want to get back together? He must not have any issues with you if he decided he wanted you back? Have you figured out why you do not want to relate as girl-friend boyfriend with him and only as friends? What exactly is the real differences in your mind between the two? If there are no differences, other than just saying the words, I'll be your girlfriend, then whats to stop you from doing so.
On the other hand, if there are differences between the two relationships and thats why you'd rather not go back there, you need to bring it up in a nice but non threatening or belittling of his character. Just put it on yourself, "I am not ready for this serious a .... or I thought I could handle such and such but I feel uncomfortable . . . Once he knows you don't hate him or something, maybe then he'll feel more comfortable relating to you just as friends. Or maybe in discussing your differences, you'll decide theres no real reason to not date.
But conversation is needed here. Remember, girls are always better at this than guys so be patient, and you start the conversation and let him know whats going on in your head cus he's not a mind reader. If he still can't relate to you and wont talk or look at you after this, then at least you know you tried and thats his issue to figure out. You shouldn't feel any tension after talking if he chooses to continue to do the childish thing and pretend to ignore you. All you need to tell yourself then is that the world is full of childish people, leave them to their ways and go on with your life. Blessings to you

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I'm in middle school and i know a lot of people change in middle school but my friends have changed a lot. A lot of them curse now and it's really annoying because I HATE unnecessary cursing! And the just curse for know reason! And then one of my friends who actually goes to church with me used the f word and then put god right after it. I was like "REALLY?!?!". I mean I understand there's a lot going on with her parents and stuff and I've been supportive of that but know she curses and it's really annoying some of my friends have stopped when I don't them I don't like it but I would hate to loose a friend because the curse. :(

If so many are cursing when they didn't in grade school, maybe they made a sudden switch once they got to middle school cus it makes them feel more grown up.
The only other reason for the few is individuals who are having trouble at home. Maybe a parent is ill, unemployed, maybe its battling what your friend thinks are unfair rules, maybe there is verbal or physical abuse, drugs, etc involved and yes...those kinds of things can happen in Christian families and are more likely to go undetected because as christians, people are too afraid to ask for help and shatter the goody goody image they might have had with other parishiners, and pastor/priest. People find it hard to swallow their pride and ask for help.
So only you know what is going on for the one family who hasn't stopped cursing. If she isn't asking for help and feels a need to curse to release stress, give it some time. You'll see it doesnt help. She'll be as miserable. Then you can try pointing out the fact that though you dont like cursing, you continued to hang with her due to your friendship. But the cursing has not helped at all with her stress, with what is making her unhappy or worried. So why keep using something that doesnt work. Thats when you might suggest she find someone she feels she can trust to talk to about her issues...just in case its teasing, bullying or something else that could potentially be very harmful. There's always the school counselors. They do get issues that aren't related to school and it helps having another adult to use as a sounding board in case she does have some serious issues.

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http://static.tumblr.com/413cb0fb187f1e559dd170f7b17b1737/9rllst5/mAkms1l6e/tumblr_static_ya.jpg

Yes she is pretty. But whats going to matter just as much in life, is if she is pretty on the inside.
What is her personality, how she acts, who she is at core, her beliefs, values, etc...

Have you ever taken a beautiful shiny apple to lunch with you, looking forward to it. No flaws on outside to indicate bruises or anything. Then you cut it open and its' rotten all the way through. Remember how disappointed you were that the inside didn't match the outside?

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So my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have a great relationship and we plan to keep it that way for forever.

We are in a really great spot right now. I am 25/f and he is 28/m. He just graduated with his masters degree, and I finished my program certification last year. I have a great job and he's got tons of people interested in him with the degree that he has. We just moved in to a new apartment, and in short, our lives are good.

I've always said that I wanted to wait until we are in a stable spot to get married, and I think right now we are. I'm just not sure how to bring it up. There's always that stereotype that girls are just supposed to wait and let guys decide when it's time to get married because they are the ones proposing. If my boyfriend would allow it, I would propose myself (lol) But I know that eventually, he would want to do that.

So anyways. I'm jsut not sure how to bring it up. I don't want to be the naggy girlfriend always bugging him to get married. I just want to know that he's thinking about it and that it's in our future.

Thanks for any and all input!

After 5 years with what you describe as a pretty stable relationship with two mature people, I would hope that a good, real communication between the two of you exists. A couple like you should be able to discuss anything. Are either of you the type who is ever curious as to what the other is thinking at any particular point in time...asking hey what are you thinking about right now, you're kinda quiet.
We realistically should feel secure enough in a relationship to bring up any topic including marriage. This also would fall under trust...that a partner would be willing to listen to you, hear you out and not shoot you down on what you have to say, what you believe and want.

While there are committed relationships that have made it life long without a wedding and marriage certificate (my sister is one ) there are laws that makes certain things easier when married such as medical insurance coverage.
Forget the stereotypes. If your guy really really loves you, those won't matter to him. If he feels threatened as a man by a supposed role reversible, maybe you should be checking him out for a bit longer instead of wanting to rush into marriage to him. Just pick a day that he doesnt seem to be stressed and ask him, hey I've been thinking that we seem to be in a pretty stable position and have reached some of our goals. We havent spelled it out, but is marriage still a goal to you? Or do you have anything against getting a legal marriage certificate? I'd like to talk a bit and see what else needs to happen before you are ready to marry. I want you to know I feel ready now. If it's just a matter of someone hiring you and you starting a job before we get engaged, then lets agree on that now.
You want to set a deadline. If you reach the deadline and he has a reasonable reason to put it off again for months or another year, then you could go with it. But if he keeps pushing it off, then he may have a subconscious fear of the legal part of a marriage. Don't go for a long term engagement. Get engaged for long enough to plan the wedding and then marry.
How this next thought opens your eyes as to where you stand right now:
This relationship has been around for 5 yrs. thats like an engagement in itself, just without a engagement ring and words said. Dating and living together to discover if the person you're with is someone you want to marry should only take about a year to fully know the person. He's then had about 4 years to become engaged to you. And it hasn't happened because somewhere along the line, one or both of you said you wanted to wait until you were stable. If the conversation did not include examples you agreed on back then of what you both considered 'stable" then its high time to line that out. Good luck dear.

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well yesterday a girl messaged me on facebook and she basically said my boyfriend was cheating on me and she sent me pictures of the messages between her and my boyfriend. so i screenshot what she said and sent it to him but he said she played his friend tim so he played her to get back. he put it on his moms grave, and god. i mean i dont know what to do should i believe him or what? do i keep questioning him ? and i know that he wouldnt lie on his deciesed mother but i dont know im just confused.

btw one messahge he sent said : aww baby i lov you. yoiu makin meh blush but i like it
2. when she leave but she taking a shower baby you wanna get freaky baby ( a while later ) do you baby
3. oh sorry i lost my fone baby dis my friends stuff but baby ima try too call you ima see if he tripping i love you thoo

but after he told me all that he messages her and told her he was just playing her and she sent me the messages. like wtf do i do ?

I don't know what ages are involved here but it sounds like everyone you mentioned needs some serious growing up to do. Everyone seems to be playing games and not taking life seriously. But it could just be the age group you're in. Either that or you need new friends, both girlfriends and boyfriends. But then again, I don't really know them. I can't tell you what to do. I can only give you some things to think about.
Here's a scientific fact. The young people don't have the frontal part of their brain finish growing until they aree in mid 20's. The problem is that this part of the brain is what is responsible for us making good adult decisions. If it isn't fully developed yet, a good amount of young people are going to be making bad choices in life when they could be doing better. These may be things they say or do that only hurt themselves, and sometimes, it hurts others. If you and they are 25 or below, this may factor in to their behavior and drama. Then again some people no matter what age, choose to remain a kid (in their actions) in an adult body and they crave drama so they create it out of nothing.

The fact that your inner voice is suspicious and wondering if you should believe him means that very likely you should not. If you are a naturally suspicious person all the time, then your judgement may be off. But otherwise, go with your gut feeling, often it can be right.

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may i tell to my self be confident ? that my gf is truly love me? even our ralationship is iligal to her side. but i understand that. but in our other friends our relationship is ligal. now our relationship is going strong and going to 6months on the day of aug28 now for me when i ask my gf f she really love me. she said yes! coz ur my life. but last month i caught my gf that she denied me as her bf .when the guy ask her on facebook. were argue & she cry to me & she said i really2 love u. i want 2 clarify

Your age, your culture and country you live in may have heavy influence on your situation. I truly can not answer you satisfactorily without knowing more.I would assume that maturity in matters of relationship and experience in relating simply to members of the opposite sex and things like being truthful and having truly good communication all will come with age. Some people can make it to their 30's and still know nothing because they have never applied themselves in learning how to grow up and mature. Bit other than what i just said, I can not guess at what to suggest to you without knowing some facts more specific to your situation. It may not just be a matter of self confidence for you since you mention the legality of a relationship. You have to explain why your family would consider it legal and why hers would not. If I understand, you have dated 6 months. Dating is for the purpose of discovering whether there are things in common, what you like and don't like a bout a person....its an information gathering time. This imformation is to help a person decide if someone is the kind of person they can and want to be in a lifetime committed marriage to. At any point during this part of relating to someone, even if they have promised to date, a person can discover theres not enough in common and that there isn't enough chemistry...natural attraction.
Maybe in her eyes, dating never was a commitment to be your "girlfriend". i don't know her character personally to make any real observations about her,, just enough time to find out how much she does care about you. People say I love you too easily. People also use the word to show their preferance to a certain things like, I love Italian food or I love rock and roll music. When in a dating relationship, it is too easy for the heart to have some feelings for the other person, whether they are right for each other or not, or even if its an abusive relationship. And these feelings, while they may feel strong...may not be true real love and one won't know that they aren't until they have experienced other relationships and can make a comparison. These feelings are what keep two people together who are not right for each other when they should be parting ways for one reason or another. That may be the case for you too but I dont know enough to be able to say if thats for sure. Go with your gut feeling, and listen to your inner voice on these matters. If it truly is a legality issue such as the law of the land, then there isn't anything I can suggest to help you be able to break the law.

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My boy friend and I have been dating for a year and a half he is 20 and I am 17. And I don't know how to make myself orgasm and neither does he. If my clit gets played with I squirm and it kinda hurts or tickles. Why is that? Do most women get an orgasm during foreplay like fingering and such? Is there any advice or positions that anyone can give me? Please and thank you!!

A clit needs friction provided by a lubricant to help with stimulation, just wet or dry and using fingers isn't necessarily enough. I always need lube for that. You will have to wait until you are of legal age to go into a sex toy store but at that time, a small handheld vibrator, look for one that is really strong. The majority are too weak to stimulate me. But a good one will do it everyy time. And its fun for a partner to use on you. As its having its effect, the clit should become more pronounced.
As for g spot orgasms, heres a video from Univ. of Oregon Health ctr. Its geared for med students and explains how g spot orgasms can occur. Once you see the pic, you realize the tissue that gives the orgasm is wrapped around the urethra, so when stimulated will give a sensation like you have to pee really bad. Empty your bladder first and have a towel under you so you wont hold back for worry of wetting something. The liquid that comes out will be female ejaculate liquid.
It's hard for me to do on my self. Its much easier to educate your partner. The spot is only about two inches in, as far as his second knuckle. As he uses a come hither motion on the rougher patch of skin very firmly, it should get more and more sensitized and swell up as it becomes engorged with blood. Look up more videos on line on g spot orgasms. There are a lot. Its good to have a diagram to look at and told how to do it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BnEJ6bcVFsI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BnEJ6bcVFsI

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what do i do when having sex 19 woman

when two people are having sex for the first time, there's no wrong way to explore it. It will be a process of learning what each other likes. You can't learn that in a couple days, a couple weeks or in a couple months. For many people, there can and will be new things to learn and explore together over the years.
The best thing you can do is view what you can online, get books to read on the subject.

I would also recommend a youtube site on sex, relationships and dating by a peer, she's into her 20's and has done this since being a teen. Has worked with planned parent hood and seemed to have her stuff together and facts down. I highly recommend you view any of her 3-4 min videos that apply to you or grab your attention. Her name is Lacy Green and heres the link:

https://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen

Good luck

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Hi there my cousin and i have been together for 6 yrs secretly we hve a 5 yr old daughter together and no one knows about it weve managed to keep it a secret this long but late last year she decided to end it recently saying she cant pretend anymore and alota people will get hurt if they found out i know shes my cousin but i just fell in love with her and even now im stil madly in love with her i havent seen or spoken to her in a month now and im heartbroken is it true u cant choose who u fall in love with? and i miss my daughter too and ive Also been told by people shes been seen with another guy this is just a very big mess at the moment i dont know what to do

I answered you before and assumed you were in the States. Thanks for providing the info we all needed.
Since I dont live in New Zealand, I had to rely on the internet for information about legality of marriage of cousins in New Zealand.

Yes, it is Okay. Its amazing what you can find on the web. Even you can do the search just like I did. My search questions was "Can cousins marry in New Zealand and this is the site that seems to just be someones opinion but fact.

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/481090/Marrying-cousin-not-a-health-risk-geneticist

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Hi everybody I have two questions. First I want to get a tattoo on the side of my forearm ...I'm not sure what of... But I was thinking my first and middle name. So my first question is... Is it weird to get your own name tattooed to yourself? I feel like it is a little odd but I'm just wondering if it actually is. And my second question right now I am hairdressing but want to go to college to be a cosmotology teacher... Or a therapist... Or maybe an FBI agent.. I am obviously very in decisive but would a tattoo that couldn't be easily hidden like on my forearm stop me from pursuing a job I may want? Or do employers look more past tattoos now? Thank you!

Employers are still concerned with tattoos and body piercings that are visible. While you might find someone who will employ you if you take out your piercings...that happened to my daughter, a tattoo isn't so easily removed. So why go through the pain and cost of having one placed where wearing shorter pants, or skirts or sleeveless tops is going to show off tats. I have heard that it isn't always satisfactory when one tries to get tats removed.
So if you must have one, choose upper thigh, lower back, somewhere that your underwear covers, stomach...you get the idea. However, for those who see it as a work of art and want to show it off, they may not want to keep it covered. If thats your case, you;ll just have to roll with the consequences later. I do not know of anyone who has their own name tattoed on theirselves. Depending on the situations you come across in life, you may not want your name visible on your body. Imagine some guy you dont know who asks you out and wont take no for an answer but you say no and leave. He have your name from your tattoo and starts asking around and may have it easier tracing you down to stalk you. Then again maybe not. If it were my choice, I wouldn't want to display my name on my body. I want the option to remain anonymous in case the situation calls for it.

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hi my name is shonetta im in a relationship for 3 years now and me and my boyfriend we love each other very much but we seems not to understand each other anymore and now we not talking to each other and I cant seems to get over it at all I cant do anything without him in my live so I need him back in my life but I don't know how to go about it cause im scared please tell me how and what to do to get him back in my life
I need advice

I don't know how you made it 3 years without any problems. Perhaps, there were communication problems all through the 3 years, and problems not understanding each other but neither of you saw it due to being in love. Maybe he realizes something is not right. You might try finding a book on how to communicate with the opposite sex. It isn't as easy and natural as you might think it is. All of us without any teaching on it and training, are going to make mistakes in communication because males and females have different ways of doing so and how they interpret what is said.
If he still doesnt want to try what you discover from reading books or even checking on the internet for "how to relate to the opposite sex", then take what you learn and apply it to the next relationship. At least you will know you've tried and done your best.
If your life has no meaning without a guy in it, then likely you are leaning too hard on him for everything in life and come across as being very needy. That will scare a guy away pretty quickly. Learn to become happy and secure with who you are, have your own hobbies and joys to persue in life besides boys. Once you are a person who can enjoy life without a boy, then the boys will come and you will have plenty to choose between.

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I have a lump inside my right labia , been there for a few years. Started out small but grew during my pregnancy last year. Its not painful , but knowing itd there is really uncomfortable for me. I was told it may be an herpes outbreak since i have genital herpes but for 3 years ? Im scared it may be a sign of cancer.
Ive told my doctor when i first noticed it but it was.small back then , he said he didnt see or feel anything its not a hard lump . Ive also had problems with discharge i always go to my doctor to check for stds and i
Turn out clean but still always a white discharge. Its so annoying.

I would see another doctor if I were you. Perhaps you saw your regular general practice doctor who isn't as familiar with std's and genital related stuff. If you did see a gyn, I'd go find another one. If its genital warts, it would be nice to know.
As for the white discharge, you must be familiar with your bodys normal fluid that it does its routine cleansing of the vaginal area. It shouldn't be volumns, be should be able to be noticed in panties. If there is no fishy odor, then its likely not vaginitis. Yeast infection has itching and pain usually accompany.
If a new doctor also gives you a clean bill of health, I wouldn't worry about it.

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How to get a boy to fall in love with you

There is no way on earth that I know of to force a person to fall in love with you if there is no chemistry between you two. Sometimes, a cruel freak of nature is that one person is attracted to someone but it is not reciprocated.

However you won't know if someone might have mutual interest in you until they get a chance to meet you and get to know you. Thats what dating is for...to get to meet people and see if you feel a chemistry with them. If its not there, as nice as they are, time to be honest with them and move on to look elsewhere.
So....if you want to know how to get someone to notice you , just be yourself first, don't change who you are to get someone interested or they may drop you later as they discover you are not who they thought you were.

But there are ways to let him know you are interested in him. A big one is body language. Another is engaging him in conversation, asking about what things he likes, his favorite stuff, hobbies and such...this shows an interest in him. I will share two sites...one about body language and the other on how to incorporate touch, getting past the touch barrier with some who is starting to show interest in return. Good luck!

http://www.kissmegoodnight.com/relationship-advice/read_romantic_body_language.shtml

How to touch to flirt
http://www.wikihow.com/Touch-a-Guy


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i hav had sex many times.n nw my parents want tht i should get merried with other person.im tense coz im not able for it.if i get married hw can i make my hsbnd satisfied?

You said that your parents want you to marry. Is it because you had sex with someone? I don't know if your culture has beliefs that women should be virgins when they marry or not. Some countries, the parents fear no one will want to marry their daughter if they know shes had sex already.
The way it should be around the world, is that two people are madly in love with each other and want to marry each other. That may not be the way its done where you live. If you do have the final choice in the matter, marry only if you really care about him. The learning how to please the husband is something you learn over time. A good husband will want to equally learn how to please the wife instead of treat her like a being without feelings and needs herself. The best marriages are the ones where both partners put in maximum effort to make it work, not just what the wife does to please her husband.
Every man has his own personal tastes and favorite foods, or favorite hobbies, and favorite things sexually. So no person can tell you how to please him. Only he can tell you what he likes. From anyone else, it will only be a guess

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I'm a fourteen yearold female named Laura and I have dreams of being a writer or an actress, but I have two things holding me back: Stagefright and my low self esteem.

Let's start with the self esteem issue: I never really feel good about myself because I'm so fat. I'm trying to lose weight but it's not easy. I get made fun of because if it. I also worry about not being good enough. I look at writer's like Suzanne Collins (author of the Hunger Games) and actors like Lindsay Lohan (in her younger years in The Parent Trap, not now of course), and I think "I'll never be as good as them.... I'll never have a nice body like Lindsay or skill as good as Suzanne."

Stagefright: I can't share my writing with anyone (not even my parents) or perform in front of anyone without freezing up. I am amazing in my bedroom alone, but when the time comes to show off or audition I'm terrible and shaky and quiet.

So what can I do to help myself?

Whether you truly have an issue with weight or thats just how you see yourself but its not true...I'll never know. I can only suggest that dieting and exercise are not enough. There are so many toxins in our environment today that are harmful to our body and our body decides to store them in layers of fat cus it doesn't know how to get rid of it.
Actress Suznne Somers wrote a book whose title doesnt really convey what the book is about...how to lose toxins and takes in less toxins so you can lose weight. Her book is titled 'Sexy Forever' She had the money to go see the best doctors to help her with issues and what she discovered she felt every average person should know, not just those who don't have the money to pay for good doctors to give the advice. So check that out.
Other than your weight, how do you feel about the you inside of you...the creative mind, the talents, personality? Do you feel other than shyness or feeling fearful that there's people with more talent than you so no one is going to want to hear or see what you have to share?
If that sounds like what you feel, then welcome to the club. Everyone feels that. I am in my fifties and finally writing a book that I know I will get published at some point.
What I have learned over my life is that people have different tastes in what appeals to them in art in a gallery, poems, book genre's, same for movies. I knew it but I had to see it for myself. I went to an art fair where you followed a map on this particular weekend to drop in on the art studios of artists at their homes. I saw some paintings I liked and other stuff I didn't even consider a talented art, at least not for the price they had listed, it looked like something a kid in kindergarten could do with ease and yet, there stood another grown up with her friend, ooohing and ahhing over how beautiful it was.
Your personal style and flavor that you lend your writing or acting will be uniquely yours. Some people will like that. Some will respect the talent but it won't be their personal taste. Sometimes it takes someone who can make a good critic to give you a few kudo's. Lets say you show a piece of what you have written to an English teacher. You don't have to be there. He/She can look it over and you don't have to be there, and just write their comments in a note back to you. this works easily if its something sent via computer. I have read parts of my book out loud off my pc to a friend who is an ex grammer english teacher. At one point she laughed at a funny point in the story. She is truly amazed how entertaining it is. That means the world to me to have someone who is an avid reader, writes teaching material and does edit peoples writing for them and she loves the story.
What a person looks like on the outside has nothing to do with the mind that creates a written piece.
As for acting, no one looks blemish free and as good as hollywood portrays. Clothing styles, and prints can hide alot and draw the eyes attention away from something about the body they want less attention on and create more attention on part that they do want attention on. Do yourself a favor and look up on line search for "celebrities without makeup". So many look way plainer in real life than you would think. Before and after pics are given. There a very few natural beautys who look better without the makeup job. One had a really wide nose that looked really skinny once makeup was applied the right way. Freckles disappear, wrinkles lessen or disappear but thats just for photos and film, in real life, its still there. Take someone like Nicole Kidman, she is short, and has a small chest. But there are roles she's had and wardrobe they put her in that make her look like she's get a good size chest.
What directors look for is someone with talent and good stage presence, not going by looks becasue makeup and wardrobe can change that.
If you find this freezing up and terror take over other parts of your life, you may want to go see a hypnotist who will make the suggestion to your subconscious mind to be a confident person with great self esteem.

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How can i tell my bf i want to suck him off
Im female and 17 years

If you both have been very open in convo.s and have talked about the subject of sex comfortably before, this shouldn't be uncomfortable, just ask him if he would like to try that right now. Let him know you really want to do this.
If you haven't discussed sex before and that is the issue, feeling uncomfortable, if you are way too uncomfortable and only wanting to do so to gain brownie points with him, then don't bring it up.
If you truly care about him and have feelings for him and want to do this as a way to show him your love...then say that.

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