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How to break the tension?
Okay i am a 13/f and i have this problem. Okay so my best friend somehow became my boyfriend last year. Then we broke up and now he want me back and i keep saying no just friends. But now at school evrytime we past each other we just seem like strangers and this is our third week of school and we didn't even make eye contact.
My question is i just want to break the tension.
So should i say anything first or just wait
thanks
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I think you should say something. I doubt he's going to be the one to come up to you since he wanted to get back together and didn't want to just be friends.
Also, keep in mind, he might not want to be actual friends with you anymore. It's really hard to be friends with someone you want to be with. One thing that being friends comes with is that you'll both have to be ok with the other person dating. You'll be ok with it because you want to be friends with him but it doesn't sound like he will because he still wants to be with you.
So you also might want to give him time until he is over you. Once he is over you, then you guys can be friends again.
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So, reach out and tap him on the shoulder and say that you hate the fact that the two of you can't even look at each other. Let him know you want to discuss with him the break up and why you said you didn't want to get back together.
Dating is for the purpose of getting used to communicating with the opposite sex, learning what you like and don't like in a guy.
After all, there are some girls who are not your girlfriends for the very same reason.
I do not know why the two of you broke up, whether you both decided it was the right thing to do after discussing why you wanted to break up. Or did you say I want to break up and not explain why....or did he decide to break up and not explain why.
Whatever the issues were, are they now resolved? cus if they aren't that needs to happen to get back together. Or did you discover something about his personality that makes you not want to get back together? He must not have any issues with you if he decided he wanted you back? Have you figured out why you do not want to relate as girl-friend boyfriend with him and only as friends? What exactly is the real differences in your mind between the two? If there are no differences, other than just saying the words, I'll be your girlfriend, then whats to stop you from doing so.
On the other hand, if there are differences between the two relationships and thats why you'd rather not go back there, you need to bring it up in a nice but non threatening or belittling of his character. Just put it on yourself, "I am not ready for this serious a .... or I thought I could handle such and such but I feel uncomfortable . . . Once he knows you don't hate him or something, maybe then he'll feel more comfortable relating to you just as friends. Or maybe in discussing your differences, you'll decide theres no real reason to not date.
But conversation is needed here. Remember, girls are always better at this than guys so be patient, and you start the conversation and let him know whats going on in your head cus he's not a mind reader. If he still can't relate to you and wont talk or look at you after this, then at least you know you tried and thats his issue to figure out. You shouldn't feel any tension after talking if he chooses to continue to do the childish thing and pretend to ignore you. All you need to tell yourself then is that the world is full of childish people, leave them to their ways and go on with your life. Blessings to you
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