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He says he likes me, but he wants to be friends.
I recently met this guy at the college I am attending. He works at the textbook store, so when I appeared there constantly, he always teased me, saying, "You're here again?" He would smile and be very helpful. It wasn't until a few days ago we actually got to talking. He was leaving work and he saw me reading on a bench, and he said, "You're still here, huh?" So I nodded and smirked, and I asked him if he wanted to sit with me. He did and we talked for maybe two hours until he had to go to class. He asked me for my number and texted me regularly, but he replies slow. He is saving money for a car, so he gets rides from his parents. It's actually irritating because I don't have any chance to hang out with him outside of school.
Anyway, the other night, we met up when I had to go to the school for a movie night. We met in the library and talked usually. He was being very flirty and would touch me and he even hugged me when he had to go to class. While he was hugging me, he poked me in the eye, and then when I said ouch, he kissed my eyelid and hugged me close. He was being so sweet and romantic. After his class ended a half an hour later, we met up and played with a batch of puppies someone had in the field. We then spent the night on the track in the field talking and looking at the stars. He is so flirty and sweet, I have to fight my urges to kiss him and throw myself on to him. We seem to have amazing chemistry and I just can't get him out of my head. However, when I asked where his interests lie, he said I was sweet and cute, but he was still in the "friend making" zone. It hurt a little bit, but I agreed and went along with it. I have fallen for him so fast, but he wants to take it slow. Face to face, he seems so interested, but through text, he seems very bored of me. Any advice?
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It sounds like the two of you get a long great, and it's no wonder that you've fallen for him so fast.
Like the last person said, text is a terrible indicator for how someone truly feels. It's hard to incorporate any emotion in to plain text in a short message. And guys are particularly bad at it, I've noticed.
Some people just move slower than others. If you really like him, give him a while to adjust and just continue to get to know him. By the way you make it sound, what you've got going is good, and you wouldn't want to put the brakes on it by rushing him. And the fact that he wants to take it slow means that he doesn't want to just be in it just for the physical aspect, he's trying to really know you, as a person.
Also, it sounds like, even though he doesn't have his own transportation, he is still making an effort to see you. That's good! If he wasn't interested, he probably wouldn't go out of his way or spend 2 hours talking to you, or hug you, or any of that.
My advice would be to just keep going and see where it goes. He seems interested and relationships don't stay in the "friend making" zone forever. If there's chemistry, it will move forward by itself.
Best wishes!
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Forget using the text as an indicator of a guy being interested. A good majority of men of all ages will always hate typing so that eliminates keeping in contact on facebook or other venues on screen or texting. If like you said face to face its great, then thats wonderful. Thats where its important to have interest and chemistry.
Some girls fall for a guy real easily. One of my daughters is like that. So if you fall in love easily, you have to learn to give the guy time to go through the same processes you did, it just may 4 times as long, or more. That is actually a good thing. Tell yourself to use this time to do some real investigating to delve deeper into learning about him, beyond the stuff at surface level that you were attracted to.
The best way to learn about a person is lots and lots of talking, and lots of spending time together. If you come up with other specific questions in the future, let me know. If this is your first real relationship with someone you are truly attracted to...do yourself a favor and pick up a book on the differences of how guys and gals communicate. What means something to you may not be interpreted the same way for him. And for you to be going on with him just assuming things because of how you interpreted it was wrong, well...you'd save yourself some heartache. The daughter I mentionsed has of yet not bought such a book and had her heart broken with 3 different guys she fell for, didn't communicate well with and assumed things wrongly about. What can I say? I can only make the suggestion and give the advice but its up to the individual to take action. Good luck to you dear. He sounds great so far.
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