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mom is abuseive
What to when your mom calls you a hore and stupied and you buy a gift for her and she throws it in your face and threatens to beat you with fishing pole
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My first questions is how old are you? And does your mum have a drinking or drug abuse problem to make her this aggressive towards you? As sometimes its not you as a person it can be the substance abuse people are taking that can make them that why but there are alot of free call lines out there where you can get help and advice from people. I would also call the police if the hitting starts again, no matter what your mother should not be hitting you.
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Carrey Anne (England)
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If your mother is truly abusive towards you then I suggest that you call 911 or a hotline for abused persons. Your mother needs help that you are not able to provide & your safety is priority number one. There are many professionals mandated by law to report suspicions of abuse in various forms. Teachers, health care professionals, etc... are mandated. Please contact the proper authorities immediately.
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The advice of the previous two advisors is spot on. I can only add that anytime a parent hits a child in the face or throws things at a child hitting in the face is physical child abuse and that is illegal. It is not okay for a parent to hit a child in the head at any time or is it okay to hit a child with a closed fist.
There is a fine line between child abuse and discipline. Discipline is a spanking with an open hand or a smack on the butt with an open hand. A spanking with any instrument is child abuse.
If your mom ever hits you in the head, hits you on any part of your body with a closed fist, or spanks you with anything other than her hand. You are the victim of child abuse and should call 911 as soon as it is safe for you to do so.
When you call 911 tell the call taker what has happened to you be explicit. The police and fire department will be sent to help you. The police cannot be sent away by mom until the fire department has checked you over and decided if you need further injuries. Then the police will decide if it is safe for you to remain in the house.
You have a right not to be abuse mentally or physically. Mental abuse is harder to prove. Physical abuse needs to be reported as soon as possible even if showing the injuries is going to be embarrassing. his is the only way to stop the abuse. Waiting for the bruising to heal makes it harder for the police to do anything.
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You tell somebody about this. Like a teacher or another trusted adult.
It's not ok for parents to abuse their children so the way out is to get some help. They'll help you get through this and they will end your problem with your mother.
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Here are a few examples of emotional abuse:
- yelling and swearing at you
- threatening you harshly
- putting you down and making you feel like a failure
- making you feel unloved or unimportant
From your question, I can tell that you have at least been sworn at and threatened, which I think qualifies as emotional abuse. And your mom has thrown objects in your face, which is never okay.
I recommend that you tell someone -- a friend, teacher, school counselor, or other trusted person. When you're talking to someone about this, be honest and open about what you're going through.
Is there anything you can do to prevent your mom from doing this? Try to find out some of the things that cause your mom to swear at you and threaten you.
When your mom is treating you harshly, try to avoid commenting back or letting out your feelings. She is looking for a reaction from you, and if she gets that, she will probably abuse you more. Wait until you are in a place where she can't see or hear you.
When your mom is in a good mood, you could try calmly telling her how you feel. But don't do this if you think it will make her abuse you more.
If you don't feel safe in your house, you should stay with a trusted friend or relative. Calling the police is another option.
Remember, your mom's behavior is not your fault, and you shouldn't have to go through this. I know you will find help and things will get better. You deserve to feel happy, safe, and loved. Don't let your mom stop you from living the good life you deserve.
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