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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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I'm a 13 year old girl, and I've been dating my boyfriend for about a month and a half. I've known him since kindergarten, and he's usually a pretty upbeat, positive person.
Lately he's been acting rather down. I know he's been having some hard times with his family, but I didn't realize how bad it was affecting him.
He often discusses things like how no one would miss him if he died; theroies on how he thinks he's going to die.
I just need to know what I should do. Do I inform anyone of this? Does this make him suicidal? What can I do to help him?

I would suggest you discuss this with a trusted teacher or the principal if you are both still in the same school. They may be aware of his change in mood but not how deep it is actually effecting him. Should you tell them what you feel and what he has told you there are things they can do to see to it he gets the proper help.

do girls get pregnant without losing virginity???
please tell.

It has been known to happen. It only takes one sperm getting in to a girls vagina to make her pregnant. That sperm can be on your fingers, her fingers which are then inserted into her or if a guy cums on or near her vagina.

If any of this were to happen and a strong enough sperm was able to make the swim to fertilize an egg pregnancy can happen. The girls Hyman would still be in place and technical we would still be a virgin.

I've told my boyfriend i wanna be fingered by him but i'm reallu scared about it as i'm only 12 but i do really love him but i don't wanna be fingered now, how do i tell him?

There is a reason you are scared: Your body and subconscious mind are telling you that you are not ready for this. You are way to young to even be thinking of sex. Relax you have plenty of time to have boyfriends and to consider when to have sex when you are older and mature enough to both understand what your doing and to enjoy it.

Right now you are way to young. If you think you need to do this to keep your boyfriend and to make him happy you are wrong. Never, never ever trade sex for companionship. When you are older you will better understand this but sex is not a commodity that you trade for anything; be it money or companionship. When you do something like that it is prostitution. Prostitution by definition is the trading of sex in return for something of value. In the some cases the value is companion ship. Prostitution and being a whore are two different things, by definition.

There is something else to consider. Young boys cannot keep a secret. Your boyfriend will tell someone, most likely his best buddy, you let him finger you. He will tell someone else and the next thing you know you will have a reputation around school. Is this something you want? Once you get that reputation you will have a hard time living it down if you ever do.

If you were my daughter at 12 I'm not sure I would be allowing you to have a steady boyfriend. I would want you to be more group involved at this point in your life. Do more mall dating in groups. Go rollerblading, Ice skating and things like that.

I would warn you about boys going through puberty and how they are hard wired for finding sex. How they confuse lust for love at this age. How they are unable to keep secrets and how they chase after girls with reputations to get what others say they have gotten. How do I know this? I was once a teenage boy? Nothing has changed and ever will change about teenage boys.

My advice: Forget about letting him finger you. If you feel it is right to hug and kiss fine do so. Make him either keep his hands to himself or at the very least above your waist line until you are much older. Also keep you pants and panties on for your own well being.

Hi everyone. I'm 20 and my height is 5'7. I saw these beautiful platform pumps with 4" heels, but i'm hesitating to buy them because I think I might be a bit too tall with them. An extra 4" heel will make me stand at 5'11.. is that too tall? Also, i'm not at a perfect weight, I have like 10 pounds extra. Will standing that tall make me look skinnier too... or will I just look like a Miss Giant?? Please help.. thanks in advance. :-))

The only time those shoes might be inappropriate to wear is if your out with a date who is going to be way shorter than you when you wear them. Even then if they don't mind who cares what anyone or someone else thinks. You only have to please yourself and the person you may be with at the time.

My advice: If you like them go for it. Ten pounds is not a lot of extra weight and the shoes will not make a difference.

So I had a lot of sex in a bout 5 days. Last night I noticed when I started urinating I felt like a pain, not really a burn at all, more like a stabbing in my urethra towards the end of my piss. There isn't any possible way it could be an STD. I want to know why this is happening, and what I should do about it?

Why can't it be an STD? Just because you used protection does not mean you were totally protected from STDs. Some STDs cannot be prevented by condoms. If you are not aware of this, I apologize for breaking it to you in this way, but better you find out now then wait and find out the hard way.

I'm not going to go through a list of STDs that condoms won't protect you from. You can find them out from the clinic you go to for and STD check. You may or may not have an STD, you need to be check to make sure one way or the other. Until you find out no sex with anyone. Be prepared to give the clinic the names of anyone you have had sex with as they too will need to be checked. The health department will want this information so that they can stop the spread of whatever STD you may have been infected with.

If the clinic offers education on STD prevention you should take it. This is the best way to protect yourself.

My advice: Go to a clinic, your doctor or a walk in 24 clinic ASAP. The sooner you know the better. If you are over 14 and living at home your medical privacy is protected by law. Meaning you can see a doctor with out mom or dad present. Anything you say to the doctor or are treated for is confidential. BY law the doctor can not tell anyone, not even your parents without you written permission, which must be signed in front of a staff member. You cannot be bullied into giving your permission or it is not valid. This law is called HIPPA and is a Federal Law which is specifically designed for these types of situations.

I am 17 years old
There is this 40+ year old man that is telling all my friends and his that we had sex alot.
I know who he is kinda but I have never even actually talked to the guy before.
I have told my friends to ask him to stop saying stuff but its just getting worse.
He's saying that he pimped me and we had sex all the time and now even his girlfriend who is also in her 40's is causing me problems.
Is there some sort of legal action I can take?

Xenolan's advise is excellent advice I would urge you to follow it. Depending on the laws in the state where you live you may be under the age of consent. If so this will only add to the problems they will find themselves in.

What they are saying is slander and not much the police can do about that. If you are under the age of consent, in your state, or you were under the age of consent when they started this, what they are saying is that he has had sex with someone under the age of consent. This is statutory rape. He is admitting to it. To my mind the fact that it never happened is immaterial, he is admitting to it by telling others. This is something the police can charge him with as well as other violations of the law for associating with a minor. He can disavow that it ever happened. By your writing it sounds as if he will have a hard tome making the police believe him.

In telling them nothing happened the police can believe he is lying to them or they can believe he lied to everyone else. If they believe he lied to everyone else I would think that could only help a slander suit against him and his wife.

In any case this is something you need your parents help with so talk to them. You may never know what you did or did not do to cause them to harass you so. They may be nothing more than crazy fools. Whatever the case they deserve to be taught a lesson and the law is on your side so use it to your best advantage.

My in laws have had guardianship over my step son for around 7-8 years. My husband had him at a young age and the mother choose not to take care of him. My mother in law told my husband that my step son needed health insurance and the best way to do that was to give her guardianship and he could use her health insurance. So they did it. My husband has two other kids now with me and has been wanting his son with him. Hes scared to tell his mother he believes she would fight him on it. She also just lost her mother and her only sibling this year. I do not believe he is being well taken care off. The house is pretty gross. He sleeps in the living room. When I watch him during the week when he doesn't have school he arrives at my house at 6 am drinking soda and eating chips. He has been getting in trouble in school. Hes pretty much out of control and they can't handle him nor even trying to get him some help. He whips balls and my in laws smacks their butts etc. I know he would be a handful to handle but I think anyway to help him would have to be done now. I am just not sure what to do.

If your husband gave them guardianship and not custody. Which would also require the mother to give up parental rights. The that guardianship can be revoked. See a lawyer.

My mom and dad are redoing their kitchen.. my mom has been waiting for it for years, and they finally have enough money to do it. They're really excited and doing most of the work by themselves.. so for Christmas I wanted to give them a brand new pots and pans set.. possibly with spatulas and utensils that come with it.. as well as holders for these utensils.

My limit is probably 200 dollars.. I don't want to get them a really cheap one.. I want to get them one that will last. Any ideas where/what brand would be best?? I'd preferably like to buy online since a lot of times its cheaper.. but if not please let me know another place!

Thank you so much.

The link I am providing is for a set of pots and pan on sale now at J C Penny's. Cell Phone is the best cookware on the market as it is very versatile . I have a similar set I purchase last year as I like to cook and wanted pans that I could take from the stove to oven. If this is the type of cooking your parents do this is the type of cookware you want to look for.

This set is right at your maximum range. Good cookware is not cheap. The only other thing they would really need is a good set of knives for carving and boning. This you could by them for another holiday or birthday. Other cooking utensils are not all that expensive and are unique to the person using them and should be purchased by the user. Actually so should the knives. It really depends on how much your parents are in to cooking.

My son bought me a set of knives that work very well for me. I have added to them as I have needed to. My boning knife happens to be the cheapest knife in my set, it just happens to fit my hand and has a balance I'm comfortable with. I just have to keep it sharp.

http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=1cb66f5&deptid=70677&dep=GIFTS+++REGISTRY&catid=71565&pcat=GIFTS+++REGISTRY&cat=for+the+home&NOffset=0&CatSel=4294928695%7ccookware+%26+cutlery&pcatid=70677&Ne=4294957900+4+5+904+18+949&N=4294928695&SO=0&cattyp=NRC&Nao=0&PSO=0&bcCat=3&CmCatId=70755|71565

One of my managers is in his low 20's, as am i. We both have sexual attractions towards one another and have discussed if we would sleep with each other. Has anyone every slept with their manager? Do you guys think it's a good idea if no one finds out? Thanks

Bad idea. Sex and work don't mix. If this does not lead to a long term relationship you will find it awkward to work together. Should the break up be disharmonious; every time your manger gives you an assignment you don't like it would/could be viewed as punitive in nature. One of or both of you could wind up loosing your jobs.

Sex with a manager or subordinate ranks at the very top of things you should not do list. Right above having any type of office romance. These thing rarely work out and just cause problems for those involved and the company that employs them.

My advice: Cool it between you two. As my mother would say there are plenty other fish in the sea. So go fish in another pond.

this morning I stopped behind a car at a red light. I looked away and must have taken my foot off the break and bumped into him. I have a half square shaped dent, it's not anything bad. I had hit the square attachment to his suv that is used to haul things. (I guess that's it's use) however. police were called and info was exchanged, the usual. the cop noted that there was NO VISIBLE DAMAGE to his car but I didn't have a minor dent. my questions is will my insurance rates rise? the officer said that if the man decides to have his car looked at there is a small fee my insurance would pay. will that raise my rates? I'm 17. so I'm worried.

A summons is a ticket, it is the legal definition of a ticket. Regardless of how fast you were going the officer can issue one if felt it is proper to do so after all you are at fault.

As for your feeling I did not explan enough:I'm sorry but I'm not sure what else I could have said. It boils down to whether or not the person you hit reports the accident to his insurance company. If he does then you must as well. Again depending how much they may pay out will determine if your rates will go up.

Again if this is you parents car or the car is registered or insured under your parents policy talk with them. I would talk with them in any case as they are probably more familiar with insurance rules wher you live and the company you are insured with.

This is really going to depend on several things.

First: did the Officer issue you a summons. If so your insurance company will eventually be made aware of this unless you are able to get a judge to dismiss the summons.

Second: One or both or both of you would have to report the accident to the insurance Company. Since there is no damage to his car there is no reason for him to report the accident to his insurance company unless later to day he starts to have neck or back pain, most unlikely from a low speed impact.

The damage to your car may be less than your deductible or right around the deductible amount. It may not be worth reporting to the insurance company to get fixed.

Third: If this is your parents car you need to let mom or dad decide whether or not to report it.

The insurance company will only raise your rate if they suffer a loss. Meaning they have to pay out something to the other drive. IF they don;t suffer a loss they might forgive you this one accident. It really depends on the insurance company.

When my son was your age our agent told me that our carrier would for give his first ticket and depending on their cost of an accident; all or some of an increase,it would depend on who was at fault.

im 15 i`m in my in my final year of school 4 years ago i started cutting myself wen my mum got attacked and confined to a wheel chair a year ago i found out my dad wasnt my dad it was actually a bipolar drug addict who beat my mum and forgot i had been born...just under a year ago i tried to kill my self my friends and family think im better but in fact i want to die more than ever i know i should tell them but i just cant they will send me back in to counciling and the process will repeat its self every time i cut they gt deeper and i know i wont be strong enough to control my self when things get to much i dont know what to do anymore i just need help. what should i do?

Okay, lets put things in their proper prospective. Your not going to kill yourself. Your too smart for that. Your 15 and in the final year of school tells me that. Your also asking us for help that's is the biggest reason that say you are not. Getting your life in order is always helpful but you are not responsible for anything that you have written about other than your attempt at suicide. Everything else was beyond your control and is the cause of the depression you feel.

Now as for the cutting that is a big problem and a sign you are deeply hurt and depressed. Let me offer an alternative to cutting. Find a large thick rubber band and let it hang loosely from your wrist. When you feel like cutting yourself snap the rubber band against your wrist. This will do two things. First it is not dangerous. Second you can do it anywhere anytime. You do not have to go off and hide.

Now going back into counseling is the right thing to do. You cannot overcome the problems you have that is causing your depression without it. Trained clinicians and possibly some medication are what you need to deal with your problems. Lets face facts here. Being a teenager today comes with enough problems. You have the additional problems of being ahead of your age group in school and those that you have written about.

In my estimation anyone your age would find these things hard to deal with and be in need of help. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. What you need to do is take the help that you ask for with an open mind and willingness to succeed in getting better.

It would appear from what you have written you are a product of your mother being raped. This does not mean your mother loves you any less. I'm sure she loves you a lot. She had choices before you where born but she chooses to have you.

As for your biological father, forget him. He was nothing more than a fertilizer salesman who made a forced sale. Your real father is the one who provided for you. Was there for you as grew and in every way was a parent to you. He may not be your biological father but he is his your dad and you should love him all the same and maybe even more.

Here is a number I would like you to call: 1-800-273-TALK. It is the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. It is open 24/7 365 days a year. They will help you find a crisis center near you who will help you get the right help you need. They will also stay on the phone with you as long as necessary if you are in crisis. Please call them.

im a 15 year old boy and im having relationship issues with my 17 year old girlfriend of three months. we love each other and we have a really strong connection, but i can barely control myself around her. we are Christians and we know that sex before marriage is wrong and we've been trying to control our urges, but she has alot more self control than i do. once we start making out, i'm always ready to take it to the next level and try to get in her pants, but i promised her i wouldn't do anything and i just cant help it. i love her and since she's a senior and this will be our only year together, i don't want our relationship to end before it has to. we are on the brink of breaking up because of me and i cant loose her. how can i control my sexual urges better?!?!?!?!?!??!?!!?!?!??

First of all you are only responding to the natural urges of your body. Being as religious as you are you may feel that masturbation is a sin, it is not. A recent survey shows that 85% of us masturbate. We even do so as part of foreplay during sex. We call it handjobs and fingering. In this survey, which was done in conjunction with a religious newspaper; It was stated that many of the western religion while possibly frowning on masturbation, do not consider it a sin. This includes the Catholic church.

Something to think about. Masturbating will help cool things down for you.

One other thing that may cool things down for you is your difference in ages. Depending on the state you live in. Your different in age puts you two right on the edge of having an illegal relationship. If she turns 18 while you are still 15 that will, in some states, trip the bar of illegality.

What happens is you can be in violation of a law called statutory rape. This law has nothing to do with sex and everything to so with difference in age. That being said nothing says that the moment she turns 18 the police will come and arrest her. Someone has to file a complaint.

If a complaint is filed the police must investigate and the prosecutor must decide if charges are to be filed. At 18 she is an adult and will face adult charges and possible jail time. She will also be considered a sex offender for the rest of her life.

By your own admission you two both realize this relationship will not stand the test of time as she will be graduating this year. Is it not better to, taking everything into consideration, end this relationship know before it goes any deeper.

Yes it will hurt, a little less now then latter I might think. You can still be friends but it is, in my mind better for the two of you to break it off now.

My boyfriend was recently finguring me and i didnt feel any pain shortly after i bled for a little and then it stoped. I'm a virgin and my hymin is not broken and his nails were short. Help!

Your boyfriend may have partially torn your Hymen when he fingered you. Your Hymen does not totally block your vagina; there is a hole where the blood, during your period, can escape.

It is possible that he has scratched you internally or partially torn or dislodge your Hyman. If the bleeding begins again I would suggest you see a gynecologist.

If you have not yet seen a gynecologist you should be seeing one every year if you are having your periods. It is also important to have a checkup regularly if indulging in this type of sex play as it is possible to get an STD from fingering; if the germ exists on your boyfriends finger.

I do not wish to totally scare you, only to make you aware. Your gynecologist can tell you more or you can do more research on the web about STDs and their transmission and how to protect yourself.

If your 14 or older there is a law called HIPPA which protects your privacy in these matters. Meaning you do not need parental permission to see a doctor about these mattes. Mom cannot, may not or cannot be in the exam room if you do not specifically invite her and your doctor cannot divulge anything that happens in that exam room, including anything you may be treated for. Your written permission is required to release information and you cannot be bullied into releasing that information.

This law allows you to meet with your doctor, ask any questions you have, be examined and treated in total confidence. No one but you and your doctor can know what goes on in the exam room and this applies to everyone in the doctors employ. Only you can release information ant the permission to release must be in writing witnessed by some one in the doctors employ.

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Okay my husband is in the Navy. He wanted me to come out for Thanksgiving since he has Wednesday to Sunday off. Well I tried to get it off and I couldn't. I just feel like I didn't try hard enough to get that time off. I feel so horrible about it. We've only been married for about 3 months and I've seen him once. And he understands that it didn't work out. He gets to come for Christmas though. I just don't know how to stop feeling guilty.

I'm sorry you and your husband won't be together for Thanksgiving. I somehow have the feeling your husband is newly enlisted and in Technical Training.

When my son was in Technical School in the Army his school was at a base just 40 miles from home. He too was in school for the Thanksgiving Holiday. The Army issued passes to those who could show confirmed tickets for travel within a certain radius of the base. The others had to stay.

When I went up to sign my son out for the holiday I also signed out as many of his friends as would fit in my 8 passenger van. It was a little crowded both at home and in the van but my wife and did enjoy having the young men in our home for the holidays.

While I know you are going to miss your husband and he you. Hopefully someone close to the base will invite him and some of his buddies to their home for the holiday.

I know what I have written doesn't take the hurt of not seeing him for the holiday away. As a Navy wife there will, unfortunately, be many more holidays that he will not be home for. As he and his ship will be deployed. Please don't let him know how hurt you are. Disappointed yes, but upbeat that in less than 30 days he will be home for probably 10 days for you to enjoy.

If you would when you talk to him next, please thank him for his service.

Okay.. I am a Corporal in the USMC and I am currently over in Afghanistan serving!!! She is 19 and I am 20... I love her as if she is my whole world!!! We have two kids and two dogs!! I just need to know how to not make her worry every time I call her back home!!! I call her as much as I can!! But I don't want to make her worry about me while we are talking on the phone and Web cam chatting!! Could you give me some tips on how not to make her worry about me too much???

First: Thank you for serving as a veteran of the Vietnam era I know how your feeling. Second: Please stay safe.

Third: You can't keep your girlfriend from
worrying. She is after all your girlfriend and the mother of your children. What you can do is keep your conversations with her light and upbeat. Assure her that you are staying as safe as you possibly can.

Talk about things of mutual interest like the kids. Ask what they are doing, how they are growing. Are they walking, talking, what are they getting into. Ask about her family, your family anything but what you are doing.

When she asks what your doing? Keep assuring her that you are doing everything you know to stay safe. This is what she needs to hear. You cannot stop the worry. You can reassure her that she is worrying needlessly, that you are being safe and will continue to do your job as safe as you know how.

That is about all I can recommend. Be safe and come home to us safe and sound.

My bf is 16 and im 13 every time we hang out he would ask me if i wanna have sex with him i would say no and he accepts that but what if he brakes up with me we love eachother so much .and sometimes he would kiss my kneck and try to take my shirt off . What should i do o;

I'm not even going to suggest you stop and think about whether you are ready or not to have sex, YOU'RE TOO YOUNG TO EVEN BE THINKING ABOUT IT AND YOUR BOYFRIEND IS TO OLD FOR YOU. Don't let him pressure you into doing something you are definitely not ready for. Your body may be capable for having sex but you are not yet mature enough to be having sex.

Sex is not something you trade for companionship. Sex is something you spend as an emotional bond towards a life commitment between you and your partner. By life commitment I'm not fully talking of marriage but a commitment of a long term relationship that may lead to marriage. You have definitely not reached that stage in life or even have come close.

One thing you need to know about teenage boys. They very much confuse lust and love. They are hard wired from puberty to have sex to relive the sexual tension brought on by the hormones released at puberty. Until they learn to control the hormones, which comes with time and maturity, they will continue to believe their lust is love. They will say things like; "If you love me you'll have sex with me." This is not love this is lust."

Don't have sex until your older and more mature. If this young man continues to pressure you for sex let him go. As my mother would tell you; "There are more fish in the sea."

does it uhrt when you get staples removed out of the hip ?

You may feel them coming out it really depends on the technique of the person removing them. I can't say it really hurts as it depends too on how you fell pain. Fact is if you do feel any pain say something to the doctor or nurse taking them out. There are topical anesthetics they can spray on to dull the pain.

Hi.
I'm 13 and male. I am so different from all of my peers and most of them make fun of me. Today i found a typo in a book which we were reading and i pointed it put to a person iny group and she said tht is why people don't like me. How do i fix all of this and be accepted? Again, i'm vry different. I overuse the dictionary and listen to classical music. Plr
Please help! Ron777

It's tough being the smartest kid in the class. That is not a reason to change yourself to fit in or to fit what other people think is the right way to be. If you do try to change yourself to pleas others you will be miserable.

I know at your present age this means you will have some lonely times as friendships are to make and maintain. As the other adviser said few if any of these other kids will be around to be adult friends as in a few years you will all go your separate ways. Many of you will go off to college. A few will go into the military and the remainder will try and make their way in the working world.

Ever her the term; "Knowledge is Power." It is a very true term. The more you know, the more you learn the more power you have. The better job(s) you will find or be offered. The better life you will make for you and your family. So don't be embarrassed or ashamed of the fact you are smarter than anyone else. Later in life the kids you know will come to envy you.

As for making friends today;I suggest you do the following. Make a list of those things you like or have interests in, such as classical music. Then number those things in order of mist important to you. Once you have this list made look for groups or clubs with these interests. Clubs like a book club or music club. Here you will find people with similar interests as you which will make for a good foundation on which to build a friendship.

Making yourself over to be something someone else wants you to be is wrong. You will be miserable and those that you make yourself over for will still not accept you.

So today at school my guy friend walks by and goes into the bathroom and then I ask me friend who was sitting across from me if she has another sweatshirt cause i was cool and she said no and then he comes out of the bathroom and I asked him and he was like no and I asked if i could have the one he was wearing and he said no and i said please and he said y and i said cause im cold , please then he gave it to me ( he NEVER gives it to anyone!)then he just stood the and smiled and looked at each other then he went to class. Then later when he asked cor it back i went awww then he said i could have it again tomarrow and on the inside i was going YAY!!! And i was SO happy cause i have a crush on him but does he like me? Oh and by the way im a 13 year old girl and hes a 17 year old guy.

I'm not going to answer the question of whether he likes you or not. What I am going to say is that your even considering dating this boy is very inappropriate given the four year difference in your age.

At 17 he is either a junior or senior in high school while at 13 you're either still in middle school or a freshman in high school. He is far more experienced in the ways of dating then you are. He will expect more from a girl than you should even be considering.

Now to be honest if you were 20 and he was 24 the age difference would be no big deal. Given the fact that he is 17 soon to be 18 and you are 13 soon to be 14 his even being around you in a relationship manner is very dangerous for him. There are laws against an adult, he being 18 is an adult age, in even a platonic relationship with a minor, you.

For both of your best interests don't go down this road. I'm sure he is a nice guy and yes he can be a friend but you do not want to have a love or any type of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with him. It is just to risky.

As someone old enough to be your grandfather. I am calmly trying to tell you something your father will probably scream at you when and if this turns into a relationship and he finds out. We dads are very protective of our daughters. Why? Because we were once teenage boys, that's why. If you do have some type of relationship with this boy and hide it from mom & dad. When dad finds out picture being grounded for life.

a butch looking woman was looking at me. What are some reasons why a lesbian would stare at a guy?

"a butch looking woman was looking at me" Are you sure this person is a lesbian? Never judge a book by its cover. Even if this woman is a lesbian there could be any number of reasons she was staring at you or past you.

Just because this person is or may be a lesbian does this mean a friendship between you is not possible. Being a lesbian is her sexuality, how she chooses to express herself sexually. In all other regards she is a person, a female person who just might have been thinking you would make a nice friend.

Not everyone thinks in the realm of sexuality first. Not everyone is as they appear. What you could have done or should have was gone over to her and introduced yourself. IF she apologized for staring or put you off in anyway then maybe your thoughts might be right. Instead you chose to judge. You may have missed out on a beautiful friendship.

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