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Im 13 and my bf is 16 he wants to have sex with me, what should i do
My bf is 16 and im 13 every time we hang out he would ask me if i wanna have sex with him i would say no and he accepts that but what if he brakes up with me we love eachother so much .and sometimes he would kiss my kneck and try to take my shirt off . What should i do o;
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Your boyfriend is preoccupied with one thing: putting points on the board so he will be praised by his male friends. Guys his age are not psychologically prepared to have sex in a way that girls will find satisfying. Moreover, the chances that your relationship with him lasting for any real length of time is between slim and none. So tell him that he will have to wait, minimum, three more years before you want to even contemplate having sex.
Yes, he may walk, but taking control of your own body and your life will make people respect you more and you will feel better about yourself in the long run. Remember, your life is about YOU, not what other people think you should do (for their benefit, btw) or be.
At 13, you don't really even know who you are or who you will become. So please, take the long view (I know this is tough for teenagers because I remember when I was one).
Just one more note: if you sleep with him now, it will be all over your school within 24 hours because he will brag to anyone who wants to listen about bedding you, with perhaps some play by play tossed in there, too. And since "she got fucked at 13," all the guys who know you from that point forward will figure that you're an easy mark for a lay. Shutting that shit down now will make you look more respectable and you will be taken more seriously. So again, take the long view in all this.
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I think you should not even be thinking about it, your way too young to be having sex and your boyfriend shold not be pressuring you. Maybe you would be better off finding a boyfriend closer to your own age who is willing to wait.
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I'm not even going to suggest you stop and think about whether you are ready or not to have sex, YOU'RE TOO YOUNG TO EVEN BE THINKING ABOUT IT AND YOUR BOYFRIEND IS TO OLD FOR YOU. Don't let him pressure you into doing something you are definitely not ready for. Your body may be capable for having sex but you are not yet mature enough to be having sex.
Sex is not something you trade for companionship. Sex is something you spend as an emotional bond towards a life commitment between you and your partner. By life commitment I'm not fully talking of marriage but a commitment of a long term relationship that may lead to marriage. You have definitely not reached that stage in life or even have come close.
One thing you need to know about teenage boys. They very much confuse lust and love. They are hard wired from puberty to have sex to relive the sexual tension brought on by the hormones released at puberty. Until they learn to control the hormones, which comes with time and maturity, they will continue to believe their lust is love. They will say things like; "If you love me you'll have sex with me." This is not love this is lust."
Don't have sex until your older and more mature. If this young man continues to pressure you for sex let him go. As my mother would tell you; "There are more fish in the sea."
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I know you are so attracted and you feel good when youre close BUT DO NOT MAKE THE HUGE STUPID MISTAKE OF GIVING YOUR VIRGINITY TO ANYONE IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED!!!!!
you are right, you CAN break up, you will be devastated and regret it and YOURE NEXT GREAT GUY WILL COME ALONG AND WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO GIVE HIM THEN?
Sex is a bodily function created by God to make kids, did your boyfriend want to make kids when he takes your shirt of? ask him then!
YOU HAVE TO WEAR WHITE ON YOUR WEDDING DAY TO SYMBOLIZE PURITY, what would you wear then?
youre still young!! try to distract yourselves with activities and THINK FIRST BEFORE DOING ANYTHING!!!!
BE STRONG!!!! I believe you can be strong!!
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In the state I live in, thats illegal.
Only you will know if you are ready or not.
If you aren't ready, than you need to tell your boyfriend that you aren't ready yet.
If he leaves you than his loss and that just shows that he really didnt love you the way he claimed he did. One man's loss is another mans gain. Your 13, you will find other guys that will love, and respect your wishes.
Never, ever give in to a guy when you know deep in your heart you aren't ready. Losing your virginity should be a special thing. You don't want to lose it to the wrong person and regret it. If he keeps pressuring you than you need to leave him. I know you don't want to do that, but you deserve a guy who respect what you want, and not keep asking and asking and making you feel uncomfortable.
IF you don't like him trying to take your shirt off, you have to let him know. He can't read minds, so he is clueless until you inform him.
Keep your ground!
Good Luck!
If you need anything else, please don't heistate to inbox me!
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You are very young, If he keeps insisting on having sex you break up with him. NEVER fall under peer pressure, That is how you end up regretting it. Your boyfriend does not respect your answer no if he keeps trying to take off your shirt. If he breaks up with you then you obviously would know that all he wanted was sex not a relationship. Don't give yourself away, Have self respect for yourself. Only an asshole would pressure you, Wait until you are older and then worry about that stuff. Break up with him and move on cause he isn't worth your time.
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