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I need to know how to not make my girlfriend worry about me while I am away in the USMC serving in Afghanistan!!
Okay.. I am a Corporal in the USMC and I am currently over in Afghanistan serving!!! She is 19 and I am 20... I love her as if she is my whole world!!! We have two kids and two dogs!! I just need to know how to not make her worry every time I call her back home!!! I call her as much as I can!! But I don't want to make her worry about me while we are talking on the phone and Web cam chatting!! Could you give me some tips on how not to make her worry about me too much???
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thats a tough one. there is really no way to make her worrie less. the one thing you do need to do is let her know that your going to stay safe while your there. that your going to come back to her. when you chat with her talk about her talk about good things keep a positive outlook on things. she worries cause she cares
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The situation you're in is going to cause a certain amount of anxiety. There isn't anything you can do about it. Just try to keep the conversation focused on light things and on her. Instead of saying, "don't worry about me, baby," go ahead and ask her to specifically outline what it is she's worried about and then recapitulate what she said but in your own words. Once she has had a chance to vent about it and gets the impression you understand her feelings then the better she'll feel.
Good luck.
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First: Thank you for serving as a veteran of the Vietnam era I know how your feeling. Second: Please stay safe.
Third: You can't keep your girlfriend from
worrying. She is after all your girlfriend and the mother of your children. What you can do is keep your conversations with her light and upbeat. Assure her that you are staying as safe as you possibly can.
Talk about things of mutual interest like the kids. Ask what they are doing, how they are growing. Are they walking, talking, what are they getting into. Ask about her family, your family anything but what you are doing.
When she asks what your doing? Keep assuring her that you are doing everything you know to stay safe. This is what she needs to hear. You cannot stop the worry. You can reassure her that she is worrying needlessly, that you are being safe and will continue to do your job as safe as you know how.
That is about all I can recommend. Be safe and come home to us safe and sound.
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Good luck and i wish you stay safe in your mission, I myself felt nervous reading your question... its good to know that you chat and call to make her feel secure. Maybe you can ask her to be busy with a hobby, like scrapbooking about your kids and dogs and what happens when youre away and about your conversations? tell her you will check it when you come back home.. or about your favorite foods like a journal of recipe writing, or photography and take photos and do the abovementioned scrapbook... or write and sketch the kids and dogs? keep her busy and tell her it will be a gift for you to look forward to!
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You can't make her not worry. As being your girlfriend, your lover, your bestfriend, and most importantly the mother of your two kids, she will worry. Its normal for her to worry.
There isn't really anything you can do to make her stop worrying. The only thing that can make her stop worrying is if you were back at home and never leaving again.
I know you hate to see her go through this, I'm sure each time you guys Web Cam and talk on the phone, it seems as if its harder and harder for her to say goodbye; But I think all females would be worried that it may be the last time they will ever speak to their loved ones again.
The only thing you can really do is reassure her, and I'm sure you have been doing that a lot. I guess the only thing you could do, is everytime you see her on Web Cam or speak to her on the phone, act like everything is fine. You may not want to tell her if anything bad is going on, because that will make her worry more. If you don't like keeping things from your girlfriend, than be honest with her. But that is really the only thing I can think of to make her not worry as much.
Good Luck!
and Thank you for serving our country. Your appreciated greatly!
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