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Well I'm 17, female. Im still a virgin. I had the opportunity to loose it about 2 years ago but I wasn't ready but I am now. Since I'm a virgin an I'm single I don't want to just find a guy I'm friends with and be like "hey, wanna take my virginity?" because that seems kind of slutty. I don't really know how to go about this so I'd just like opinions.
Lets start with the following paragraph and at the end I will include a link to a website I have given to other young ladies asking for similar advise.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always have him use a condom.
Finding a boy/man to give your virginity to is something you should be very selective about. Since this will be your first time you want someone who will be caring, who will take his time and most of all will be gentle. This is a tall order to find in a teenage male. Mostly for at you age teenage males still confuse lust and love. They have been doing so since they hit puberty. There are some boys out there that do know the difference and this is the type of boy you want to find.
For a female as you have pointed out, most cannot just jump into bed with a guy. There must be an element of love if she is going to share herself with him. The same is just not true for the male of the species.
I wish I could tell how to select you partner but I can't. What I will say is that you have waited this long so waiting until you find the right partner is worth waiting for. You will know him when you meet him. The chemistry will be right and when you tell him your a virgin he will make sure to make your first time a beautiful experience for you.
Look at the following link for other ways you can prepare.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
worried after i went to the restroom and saw a slight trace of blood on tissue when i was done
While we are not suppose to make medical diagnoses or give out medical advice. bobby67's advice is pretty much right on although I would not be too concerned with the cancer issue. That would involve anal polyps and you would not generally see blood on the toilet tissue.
My advice is to schedule an appointment with your doctor to have this checked out. Most likely it is nothing very serious but it is worth having looked at by your doctor.
You have not given your age so I will ad this. If you are a teenager something such as this is always best to tell mom or dad about. Yes it is embarrassing if mom wants to look at you, remember these things if she does. Mom is built just like you are so she isn't going to see anything she hasn't seen before. She once changed your diapers so she has seen it all before and the most important thing I'm sure you may be worried about: She cannot tell from looking at you down there is if you are still a virgin or not.
Even if you have lost your Hyman it does not mean you are or are not a virgin. Loss of virginity means you have had sexual intercourse which is defined as penetration of the vagina by a penis. Not even a doctor can tell this except maybe in the case of rape an only if there is semen left behind and damage has been done to the interior of the vagina.
I have taken the time to tell you all this because if you are a female under 21 this is the number 1 reason girls will not go to their mothers when they have a medical problem that might involve mom asking to examine them. As I said embarrassing yes but there is not way mom can tell if you have lost your virginity. She may bluff you but you can hold your ground and she will have to take your word for it.
i have got these small red sort of thing on my hand
they don't itch
and are very small like a ant has bit me or something
they are a couple of them on both my hands
could it be an std?
because of oral sex?
I answered this question yesterday. The answer remains the same.
We are not doctors, we cant say what is causing your rash. If it is an STD or you have reason to think it is an STD you need to be tested. You need to see a doctor and be tested.
Continuing to write to us for an answer you like is wrong and dangerous. If you are to young to go to the doctor on your own, being under 14, then you will have to tell mom or dad that you had sex or sex play with someone. STDs can be life threatening and I think you know this.
Get tested. If you are over 14 you can go to a free clinic.
i have got these small red sort of thing on my hand
they don't itch
and are very small like a ant has bit me or something
they are a couple of them on both my hands
could it be an std?
I answered this question yesterday. The answer remains the same.
We are not doctors, we cant say what is causing your rash. If it is an STD or you have reason to think it is an STD you need to be tested. You need to see a doctor and be tested.
Continuing to write to us for an answer you like is wrong and dangerous. If you are to young to go to the doctor on your own, being under 14, then you will have to tell mom or dad that you had sex or sex play with someone. STDs can be life threatening and I think you know this.
Get tested. If you are over 14 you can go to a free clinic.
17/f
I am a Christian. I have been all of my life.
Some people tell me that Christian's do not get depressed because they have found God's love. I know where they are coming from, but I feel myself fighting depression. I always feel alone.I keep having bad thoughts. I feel like my family will never understand what I am going through, I try telling them but then they feel bad because I am just acting negative and am not being thankful for the life that them and God has provided for me. We don't really have the money right now for conseling. I am not 100% sure what my question is,i guess i have a few. 1.) does anyone know free conseolors online?or free chat where you can instant messageanyone? 2.) are there any websites where I can havea chrsitian penpal? 3.) does it get any better
The two other advisers covered the religious portion very well so I will stick to the depression issue.
Like the other advisor wrote. Anyone can suffer from clinical depression as it is a medical problem similar to diabetes. I use diabetes as a reference in that the body's inability to secrete enough insulin is similar to what causes clinical depression. Two hormones that are secreted into the brain control mood and depression. If you have sufficient stress in your life and not enough of these two hormones being secreted you can suffer an attack of depression. You may not even be aware of the stress you are under. I know, I have suffered from clinical depression.
Sometimes talk therapy, and this can be with a religious counselor, is all that is need to relieve the stress. Other times a combination of talk therapy and medication are needed.
There are several ways to get help for your depression.
First: If your parents have heath insurance you can visit your family doctor. At 17 years of age you do not need parental permission to see the doctor or have a parent present while being examined. In fact their is a Federal Law to this effect giving you medical privacy. Ask the doctor to screen you for depression. The doctor can then prescribe medication and probably talk therapy. Insurance will pay for some visits but there will be a co-pay.
Second: Every county, city or state has a mental health department. Usually the county or city, mental health department, you live in runs a free mental health clinic. You can go to this clinic to be evaluated and treated. If your parents have insurance and you are covered under that insurance they may ask for it accepting what the insurance company pays as total payment for services.
Depression is a serious illness. It is a medical problem that will not go away in its own. You need professional help and counseling as well as spiritual help to over come this disease.
I hope you will avail yourself to whatever help is out there for you.
17/female
I have absolutely no privacy. I don't have a bedroom. My parents are home most of the time. So I don't get much if any time to masturbate. I also don't have a bathtub, as that has been suggested before: just a stand up shower with a very small bathroom so that doesn't give me much of an option either. Idk what to do.
It sounds like the bathroom is the only place with any privacy. You could try sitting on the floor of the shower or sitting on the toilet. Not the greatest way to masturbate but it will help you relieve sexual tension.
Does your house have an attic or a basement. If so is it possible you can section of a portion of the, I suggest the basement, for your own private space. You don't have to build walls, you could use inexpensive screens you can find at Walmart or Target that are used as room dividers. If you could this it would give you probably enough privacy to masturbate, study and do other things 17 year old girls need privacy for.
I don't recommend places like tool sheds, the garage or parked cars as none of them can offer you total privacy.
What is dry humping?
How can you get pregnant from it?
How can you get pregnant from a lap dance?
Is a lap dance the same thing as dry humping?
The fact that you are asking this question leaves me wondering if you are old enough to asking questions on this website. You need to be 14 to be on here.
If you are old enough then you should be able to enter a question into a search engine: Enter your Question into what ever search engine you use like this. "What is dry Humping" or "How do I dry Hump". The information you get in return will answer your question.
FYI: When ever looking for information you can enter it into most search engines in question form and get an answer. Then you can refine your search based on the first answer. This will work well for research work for schoolwork.
So ive been in therapy a few years now and ever since my parents divorced it really weighed on my shoulders, and took me away from my social life and school work. Now im struggling to pick up my grades and be social. Being social is the hardest. Because i always feel tired in school. Even though i go to bed not too late and take 2-3 B12 and multiviatmins a day. I try to eat breakfast. I used to have amazing confidence, like really tough, but now its really hard to even ask my friends to hang out. In some classes its like i cant raise my hand or ask a question because i feel tired or lifeless or expressionless. i not really proud of anything when i speak, i was usually really loud and funny, kinda the opposite now. and its so hard to deal with. especially because i sit with the popular crowd. They were always my friends, but they never ask me to hang out or whatever. i know once i become "myself" like loud and social where all friends and have a great time...that has happened at parties. i have really good confidence at parties and end up having a good time with them. But at school they act weird with me. I think because they suspect of my low self confidence. and i was once that girl that was like that, that would suspect that of other girls, so i know how it is. Eating healthy, vitamins, and working out only goes so far...i mean the endorphins only last for so long. Like for ex. if i drink two Mtn dews i get that same feeling i did 3 yrs ago, like confident and happy and hyper. and i just dont know what to do anymore. I just want to feel like i did before. I know im in middle school and its normal to feel insecure, but if the diovorce or the situation never happened i wouldnt be this insecure. not to the point where i feel like i need to fit in. like i dont really know what to do. i was alot depressed before so i dont think im depressed depressed like omg ahhh im so depressed ya know? days i feel sad but its not so bad. but i feel like i have social anxiety or something. its sucks because i was really popualr not even like that, i mean i was, but i was just social. and now i sit with them but its like weird. like they make plans w/o me, but like im not going to ask them to hang out with me, if i dont feel a conection or friendship with them. But i speak my mind, and that makes people laugh. and sometimes i think too much now of what im gonna say, so i just say it. but i just got in trouble in school for saying something i didnt mean. It seems so complicated..but i know its just me and i need to get over my fear of rejection from friends..thanks whatever u have to say!
I think I know how you feel. The fact that you are in therapy is good. It also does not mean you are not suffering from depression still. Maybe not the deep depression people usually associate with the word but depression all the same. Lets call it clinical depression since it is more hormonal in nature. If I'm right the hormones secreted in the brain are not being secreted in enough quantity to help you overcome the total darkness which surrounds depression; which includes self confidence. Being tired all the time, insecure, awkward socially where you were once out going and some of the other changes and things you spoke of are all signs of clinical depression.
The major cause of Clinical depression is stress. Your parents divorced, your a teenager in middle school, possibly female going through the beginning stages of puberty. WOA that is a lot of stress for a teenager to deal with.
Talk to mom or ask your therapist to talk to mom about taking you to the doctor to be screened for clinical depression and evaluated for an antidepressant. Normally antidepressants are not recommended for people under 18 though there are some that are safe to dispense to some teenagers. Your doctor may ask you to see a psychiatrist for medication, not that you are mentally ill. Antidepressants and the hormones they treat deal with are brain functions making the psychiatrist the better doctor to treat and prescribe.
This is the best advice I can offer, other than I know your parents divorcing is upsetting. Unfortunately it happens. Sometimes it is better they divorce than continue to live together and make life miserable for everyone.
What you need to understand is that both mom and dad still love you. That is a given. You are not the cause of their divorce and there was nothing you could have done that would have prevented it. Love your parents equally, don't chose sides as it is not fair to either of them. Neither should you begrudge either of then future love or happiness.
i have got these small red sort of thing on my hand
they don't itch
and are very small like a ant has bit me or something
they are a couple of them on both my hands
could it be an std?
We are not allowed to give medical advice. Which is good since we are not doctors and we shouldn't give medical advice over the web since we can't examine you.
There are many things that can cause a rash including STDs. If you think or have reason to believe you have contracted an STD you should be tested. In any case you should have the rash looked at by your Doctor or a Nurse Practitioner. Rashes can be from anything contact dermatitis to something you ate, poison Ivy or possibly an STD. Only a medical professional can say for certain what has caused your rash.
When you see a Doctor or Nurse Practitioner and you have reason to believe you have contracted an STD be sure to say this to them. If this is your regular practitioner and you are on the young side of your teenage years they may not be looking at an STD as the cause.
So my boyfriend and I were hooking up the other night and we were getting really into it and I was pretty turned on and he went to start fingering me, which I wanted him to do, but he kinda just stuck his hand down there and went to town. Like ALL OVER town. I think he actually got lost in town...anyway it so did not feel good and I was totally turned off right away. I tried moving his hand where I wanted and stuff but he wasn't moving it with me. I'm not sure if he didn't know what I was trying to do or what, but either way it didn't work. Eventually (not that long after) I just pulled his hand out. How do I help him get better without hurting his feelings?
You make a good point. The male ego is very fragile when it comes to their sexual ability. It is also important that both partners enjoy and consent to anything they are doing sexually.
I would suggest that you start by not simply laying there and letting him "go to town" on you. You can rub him through his cloths, kiss and nibble at him around his ears and neck to get him excited and ask him if there is anything you can do that he likes. This opens the door for you to say; "I really would like it if: "you would slow down a some", finger my clit as it is very sensitive, or finger me here and see what happens". In this way your not really telling he is a bad lover, your showing him that you want to please him and that you have places or ways you like to be pleased as well.
Fact is you will have to show every partner what turns you on as everyone has a preference. Some women are more clitoral then vaginal and prefer to have their clits played with. Finger may do very little for them, but gently or roughly depends on the girl, play with their clit and they can't control themselves.
So be gentle with his ego and first ask what he likes and what you can do to make him feel better. Then you have an opening to show and ask him to do what makes you feel better.
hi,
i was wondering if it is alright to ask someone who you are acquainted with their sexual orientation because you are interested in them, and are not sure if they 'swing that way'. cause i'm a bisexual and want to know about a girl in my classes orientation but do not want to offend her in any way or cause her unnecessary trouble. Should i wait until we hang out more or? thanks! 16/f
Given your ages and the fact that you are both still in high school. I would think asking someone about their sexual orientation would be wrong and embarrassing for them. Even after you get to know her better it is probably not be a good idea.
The best thing to do is to wait until a conversation evolves where you can ask her about her thoughts on different sexual orientations such as being bi or gay.
I am a seventeen year old female. I am still a virgin. I want to have sex but have not had the opportunity to do so, unfortunately. I don't masturbate very often, because when I do it doesn't feel as good as I want it to. I want to know why this is. I can only do it for a certain amount of time before i just get impatient with the fact that I want it to be better. Unfortunately I don't have a dildo, so i can only use my hand.. which doesn't seem to work well enough. What should i do?
Masturbation is a time to explore your body and learn what you like and what you don't like. You need privacy and should not have to rush. It really is a form of self foreplay to learn what turns you on, what parts of your body give you a sexual turn on. So masturbation does not or should not be limited to only your sex organ.
Below is a link I found when I typed the following in to a search engine, How should a female masturbate. You could type the same or any derivative of this into a search engine to learn more about masturbation and how to enjoy yourself.
There is nothing wrong with masturbation. In one article I looked at it stated 92 % of all women masturbated. Masturbation is a safe way to relieve sexual tension. as I said privacy is important. You may wan to set a mood with scented candles and romantic music.
Lock you bedroom do so as you are not intruded on. Then get undressed if you want and relax on your bed and let your hand explore your body.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/kb_mastlad.shtml
I am a 12 year old boy, on Monday, someone left a note in my friend's locker. It was signed in my name. I didn't send this note, but no one believes me. Now Isabel (thats her name) wont talk yo me, AND she got her parents involved. I cant call her, and if I try to her parents just yell at me. I can't figure out how to tell her I didn't do it, and I kind of think she's overreacting.
P.s. I might kind of like her
You might try asking your parents to call her parents. Your mom or dad could try and convince her parents that this was a cruel joke perpetrated on the two of you by someone who either doesn't like you or her. Maybe someone that likes her and wanted to make sure she doesn't like you.
I see this as a form of bullying by whoever did this to the two of you and should be reported to the school authorities. I would think your teachers might be able to look at the hand writing and come up with the person who wrote the note. Hopefully the girl or her parents still have the note.
If they do I strongly urge that this matter be reported to the principal for investigation. Whoever did this needs to learn this is unacceptable. If he/she gets away with something like this now who knows what he/she may try in the future.
I am 17, why are my boobs still the size of a 12 year olds and they haven't grown in forever. I started my period when I was 14. And My left one is noticably bigger than the right one: and they feel kinda hard or something when I push on them,?
You may have a problem that requires medical intervention. While it is possible that your breasts while continue to grow the fact that one is larger than the other is a medical problem that needs to be corrected. Most insurance companies will pay for this as it is not truly a cosmetic problem.
Start by talking with your Gynecologist and letting the doctor examine you. You should then seek the opinion of a good plastic surgeon. Finding a good Plastic Surgeon starts with looking for one that is Board Certified. Any Surgeon can do a Breast lift, but one that is certified in Plastics is going to give you a better outcome. Ask your Gynecologist for a few names to interview.
Each of the doctors should have before and after pictures for you to look at. This is important as you will want to see the work they do. Ask the surgeon about butting the implant below your breast muscle rather than on top as most lifts are done. This surgery takes a little longer, is a little more painful for you but gives a much better out come.
How do I know this? My wife found a lump in one of her breasts which was cancerous. She opted for a mastectomy. The plastic surgeon we were recommended to put the implant under her muscle. My wife, who was 63 at the time chose, a lift for her other breast without an implant. Looking at her cleavage you cannot tell which breast was reconstructed and which was lifted. There is not the tell tale ring that placing the implant above the muscle leaves. When I touch her breasts I can't tell her reconstructed from the lifted breast.
The fact that you have one breast larger than the other is a medical condition I have seen on several medical programs I watch. It is correctable through plastic surgery. Some surgeons may ask you to wait until you are 18 depending how close you are to your 18th birthday. This is good advice as puberty usually last until at least your 18th birthday. As I said above while you are still undergoing puberty there is a chance your body will self correct. You have put up with this for this long I would think another few months would not hurt.
During this time you can search for a plastic surgeon you are comfortable with. Get the approvals needed with the insurance company and schedule your surgery for a time when it is convenient for you and you can rest properly afterward.
Hay I'm looking for help I met a girl shes very nice but she doesn't want sex I don't mind that but she is also a nudes doesn't where any cloths i went to sleep there and i cant stop having a boner. Is there something i can do at least not have a boner because its embarrassing. Any help will be nice.
Mutual masturbation is one answer. The other answer is self-masturbation. Then there is also dry humping if she will allow you. Just make sure you don't get any of you stuff on or near her vagina.
Other than lots of cold showers that is all I can think of.
My friends and I want to go to Montreal to celebrate New Years Eve, so it would probably only be a few day stay. Do I need to acquire a passport for this?
I am an 18 year old United States citizen living in Boston, Massachusetts.
Yes. You need Either a passport or the alternative, Passport Card which is less expensive and can be used to enter at land and Sea ports of entry to Canada, Mexico, Bermuda and the Caribbean.
http://www.travel.state.gov/passport/ppt_card/ppt_card_3926.html
Hi, I'm 14/f. (My birthday was yesterday!!!)
Which one of these options is the healthiest for a girl to take? I know to have sex at all is bad.
1: Not doing anything sexual at all, not even masturbating until youre married
2: Only masterbating until youre married
3: A mixture of masterbating and having sex with someone all your life
Any opinions will be appreciated. Thanks to all who answer (or comment) !!!
My feelings for what you have asked are: Items one and two are your best choices. There is nothing wrong with sex. Sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting Adults. The operative words her are: CONSENTING ADULTS. At your present age you may look and feel you are mature enough to make adult decisions but you are not quite there yet. You need to wait a few years and this includes sex.
Not masturbating at all is a decision you will need to make on your own. There is nothing that says you must masturbate or that you should not masturbate. Most of us, teenagers and adults masturbate; about 85% of us according to a survey I read. Masturbation relieves sexual tension. At 14 you are experiencing the hormonal changes brought on by puberty which include sexual hormones and the sexual tension they cause.
Masturbation is just one way to relieve that tension. Exercise is another way to relieve sexual tension as well as other stress you may find yourself under. Masturbating until married is again a personal choice but don't be surprised if you continue to masturbate even after you begin to have a sex life. Remember the survey I mentioned.
To masturbate or not is your choice. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is a good and safe way to relieve sexual tension. Just remember that masturbation should not become an all encompassing thing and that it is done in private just as sex would be. Lock your bedroom door so mom or dad do not walk in on you. As I said there is nothing wrong with masturbating you just don't want any one walking in on you while doing it. It would be like you walking in on mom and dad while they are having sex. Nothing wrong with them having sex, just not something you should see.
20/female/UK:
I have been under much stress with my family and moving from place to place every two months for almost 8 months, I have also been unwell and believe that could also explain why I am a week late. However I have also had the strangest craving for blueberry muffins (usually I prefer chocolate/chocolate chip) but have been unable to get to a source as been busy job hunting and helping my boyfriend sell his house by helping to clean and show people around and so on.
My boyfriend keeps a better eye on my cycle than I do as he is better with dates and numbers than I am and he said I was due last Sunday. I have had a couple of brown spots here and there but nothing else.
We are thinking of getting a test on the Monday if nothing occurs at all during the day, failing that I am guessing a trip to the GP's is in order?
My chances are hit and miss as we do not use protection as such but he does not finish inside me but I have read up on pre-cum, but not sure if it works?
Stress and illness are the two biggest reasons to throw a woman's menstrual cycle off. From what you have written it appears this may be the case with you.
Your method of birth control is the least effective form. The fact that he does not ejaculate in you does not mean he does not release sperm while in you. Pre-ejaculate is released during sex as a lubricant. This happens without him or you feeling it. The sperm in this is just as likely to make you pregnant as if he finished in you. Remember all it takes is one strong swimmer to fertilize your egg.
If for some reason you do not wish to use some for of birth control drug yourself; you may want to consider a condom. Either the more popular male condoms or a female condom.
You may want to take a home pregnancy test before seeing a doctor for a blood test. The home pregnancy test are fairly accurate. Take one next Monday; if negative wait 10 more days and take another. If that one is negative and you still do not get a period wait 10 more days and take another. If still you do not get a period then I would suggest seeing your GYN for a check-up and a blood test.
I am aware that appointments with specialist, under National Heath are hard to schedule. I would schedule an appointment for a future date based on the schedule I outlined. If you get your period you can either keep the appointment and have a check-up anyway or cancel the appointment. I would suggest keeping the appointment, having the check up and speaking with the doctor about different forms of birth control.
My advise regardless of what you decide to do is for you to decide on some form of birth control. You are the one who can become pregnant not your bf. So regardless of whether or not he likes condoms you should consider using them. They are effective form of birth control when used properly.
I am 13 year old male and want sex I masturbate everyday but it doesn't stop my craving. I promised myself not to lose my virginity until I am at least 18.
Lets' start with the fact that masturbation is totally normal. Fact is according to a recent survey 85% of all adults and teenagers masturbate.
At your present age you are having to deal with the hormones, sexual and others, released as part of puberty. Masturbation is an excellent way to deal with the pent up sexual urges you are feeling. You may need to masturbate more than once a day. Again this would be normal. As long as masturbation does not become an all encompassing activity to the exclusion of all other activities there is nothing wrong with it.
Some boys your age have written wanting to know if masturbating in the morning before going to school and once or twice before going to sleep was normal. My answer to them was just what I wrote above. Just make sure you have privacy when doing so and lock you bedroom door. The last thing you want is to have mom or dad walk in while you are masturbating. There is nothing wrong with masturbating it is just embarrassing to have anyone walk in while doing so. It would be like you walking in on mom and dad while they are having sex. Nothing wrong with them having sex, just not something you should see.
As you get older your body will adjust to the hormones now in your body. The need to masturbate will diminish some. Also while remaining a virgin, as another advisor wrote there are other things you will find to do with a partner that will relieve sexual tension without having intercourse. All of this is natural for teenagers as long as you make sure not to let your sperm get near a girls vagina.
Why do my parents hate me? I'm an only child.
1. I've been getting the 1st rank in school since I was in pre-nursery and now I'm in the 10th grade. They just take a look at my report card and say nothing, or add a spiteful remark about how I've got an A2 in a subject(which is rare, I always get an A1).
2.If I ever ask for something, they promise that they'll fetch it tomorrow but that tomorrow never comes, even if I remind them every day.
3.If I take help in my studies from the internet, my mother will always say "You copy all the homework from the internet. You never study at all. I've never seen you studying." My dad then proceeds to agree with her and tells me that "All the world is working and you are wasting your time on the computer."
4. Mostly , I don't say anything but sometimes I snap and tell them that all they do is criticize me. On this, they suddenly behave innocently and my mother claims "I don't even talk to you, how have I criticized you? I have not." My father will side with my mother.
5. I study by my own. They keep on comparing me with other children. Even though I get the best grades, it's always how Jennie "goes to the coaching class every day" or how Ray "is in tuition for eight hours every day". They say "You should go to a tuition center. Every person needs help and you're not some fairy from Mars."
6. My mother and father, especially my mother always keeps on telling me to "reduce weight" or "how fat are your thighs" or "how is your stomach becoming like a balloon" or how "fat your arms and legs are". They make me feel so self-conscious. I am 5'6" and weigh 117 pounds. Is that obese?
7. I don't get acne but when on the rare occasion I do, they'll instantly tell me "how bad is your skin", "your whole forehead is decorated with pimples", "I never had pimples, are you sure you're my daughter?"
There are plenty of other things but I can't make the question too long. They make me feel unhappy, worthless, useless, fat and stupid.I've tried to talk diplomatically to them many times but they always avoid the question or say that "You're an ungrateful devil, no one should have a child like you." They claim that they love me. But I don't think so.
It would help if I knew your age though not totally material to how I'm going to answer. It appears you are form a country other then the USA, again not material. Only than for you to understand that this is what I am most familiar with in the way of schooling.
First with your weight: According to the height and weight chart I used and depending on your frame size, small, medium or large. You are anywhere from 3 lbs under weight to 23 pounds underweight. IF you are large framed you are seriously underweight and need to see a doctor.
How your parents can say you're fat is beyond me. If you are athletic in any way it is very possible your thighs will be larger then another girl your age. Simply because muscle is and will be more dense than fat. My advice if this is the case just let these comments roll off your back.
It is unfortunate that some parents can never be satisfied by their children. They will always find fault with them. This doesn't mean you should rollover and give up. It means you will just have to persevere until you complete your primary education and go on to college.
Hopefully in college you can live in the dorms and enjoy a true college experience. An experience without the day to day interference and degradation from your parents.
In their own way your parents do love you. Of this I am absolutely sure of. It is possible that your ability to excel in school without the need of tutors or other aids is one of jealousy. There are a lot of reasons for jealousy that start with them having had more trouble in school then you are having to their friends being jealous of you because you are smarter than their kids. There is truly no reason for people to be jealous of one another. If we could eliminate jealousy this world would be a far better place to live.
You should be very proud of what you have accomplished in school. It sounds as if you work very hard to maintain good grades. Just reading what you have written about yourself makes me proud of you. Especially the part about not talking back to your parents. This shows great restraint on your par. It also shows a great deal of maturity regardless of your age.
Since I am not sure of your country of residence I cannot be sure of the advice I could give you regarding other ways you might deal with the abuse from your parents. If you would like more advice write back to me in a private message giving me your country of residence and your age. If I am familiar with the laws of your country I will give you more advice.
The reason I am withholding any further advice is the last thing I want to do is get you in trouble. So far you are doing everything right. Hang in their and continue what you are doing. When you are older and can move out on your own you decide on what earns you wish to have your parents in your life. Until then continue to learn all you can in school. Go on to college so you can find a good job and you dependence on your parents will diminish in the future.