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Masturbation, sex or nothing sexual at all... Which is healthier?
Hi, I'm 14/f. (My birthday was yesterday!!!)
Which one of these options is the healthiest for a girl to take? I know to have sex at all is bad.
1: Not doing anything sexual at all, not even masturbating until youre married
2: Only masterbating until youre married
3: A mixture of masterbating and having sex with someone all your life
Any opinions will be appreciated. Thanks to all who answer (or comment) !!!
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I believe that masturbation and sex are healthy once your reach a certain age. Masturbation is fine but sex is something you need to be a little bit more mature to be able to handle, it's also dangerous if protection isn't used. I've had a few sexual partners and I'm not married, I think it's a healthy thing, when you are growing up you need to learn these things, some religions and some people in general believe sex is something to be saved for marriage. You are fourteen however, Masturbating at your age is very normal actually, however if you plan to have sex before marriage I think you should wait a few more years. I lost my virginity at your age and I was not emotionally ready and it really messed me up. So make sure whatever you decide it is something you are comfortable with. You may not be comfortable with it now, but chances are as you mature you will change your mind. Best of luck.
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I do not believe in waiting till marriage. You dont want to end up with someone who is a dud in bed. You may say that a relationship is not all about sex but in the end, it is! Try before you buy. And test yourself out to see what feels good before you let any guy touch you.
In saying that, dont go out and sleep with everyone you can get your hands on. Thats not what im saying. Be responsible and safe but at the same time just have fun. Life is short. Too short to wait for marriage!
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My feelings for what you have asked are: Items one and two are your best choices. There is nothing wrong with sex. Sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting Adults. The operative words her are: CONSENTING ADULTS. At your present age you may look and feel you are mature enough to make adult decisions but you are not quite there yet. You need to wait a few years and this includes sex.
Not masturbating at all is a decision you will need to make on your own. There is nothing that says you must masturbate or that you should not masturbate. Most of us, teenagers and adults masturbate; about 85% of us according to a survey I read. Masturbation relieves sexual tension. At 14 you are experiencing the hormonal changes brought on by puberty which include sexual hormones and the sexual tension they cause.
Masturbation is just one way to relieve that tension. Exercise is another way to relieve sexual tension as well as other stress you may find yourself under. Masturbating until married is again a personal choice but don't be surprised if you continue to masturbate even after you begin to have a sex life. Remember the survey I mentioned.
To masturbate or not is your choice. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is a good and safe way to relieve sexual tension. Just remember that masturbation should not become an all encompassing thing and that it is done in private just as sex would be. Lock your bedroom door so mom or dad do not walk in on you. As I said there is nothing wrong with masturbating you just don't want any one walking in on you while doing it. It would be like you walking in on mom and dad while they are having sex. Nothing wrong with them having sex, just not something you should see.
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Sex isn't bad or evil - it's just risky. At some points in our lives, the risks far outweigh the benefits, and we shouldn't be having sex.
Masturbation is perfectly normal and healthy, before you are married or after you are married, girl or guy. It makes no difference. Masturbation is harmless (as long as it doesn't become an obsession).
NOT masturbating isn't really harmful or unhealthy either. There have been a few small studies that suggest not masturbating might be a tiny bit unhealthy for men, but nothing similar for women.
Really, it's perfectly healthy to masturbate, and there are perfectly healthy and responsible ways to have sex outside of marriage too.
This isn't about what is good or bad, or healthy or unhealthy. This is about what you believe and how you choose to live your life. Whatever you believe and whatever you choose, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to follow through on those choices.
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Our opinion is that you should just stick with having sex, but only IF you want too.
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