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What??? I dont get him
Ok ok im just so confused.
My boyfriend and i are so in love. But when we get into an argument it seems he always say the most hatefull things to me. After he say its just to upset me but i want ti know if he just say that so i wont go further on about the things he spoke.
Things he say: your probly better off with some one else
I dont need you
You could go to hell
I cant stand you
Why do i put up with your shit etc.
I just dont under stand why the little things i do tick him of. Like telling him not to fart by me or prank me in hurtfull ways. Like play like hes breakin up with me
Someone please clear this up for me ... Please
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Your boyfriend sounds really immature and sounds like he uses a bit of the guilt trip on you. When we fight with the people that we love we say some awful things. When I fight with my boyfriend, we fight. We take stabs at one another but at the end of every fight we find a solution or try to make light of the situation. My boyfriend and I are good at making each other laugh. I would talk to him if I were you and tell him how what he says hurts you and that things need to change in that aspect. That's not fair that he makes you feel this way. Talk to him it's the only way. Good luck!
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Dont stay with a guy who makes you unhappy. If he can hurt you like you say then he does not love you. If he loved you he would cherish you and never hurt you, physically, mentally or emotionally.
He may be saying these things to see if you would leave him because of it. And to be honest, guys who play games like that deserve to be single.
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If you corner the guy with the emotional blackmail too many chicks do then some guys are going to lash out and say things they don't mean. It's his way of trying to reassert control over the situation by belittling you into surrender.
Personally, when you add the other stuff into it, though, the guy sounds like an abuser to me. You keep sticking around even though he obviously can't discuss things in a rational way (women are pretty irrational, too) so what incentive does he have to change? He doesn't. So either leave or deal with it.
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Tell I'm that you get upset when he talks to you that way and see what he says. If he says something a gentleman would say then so ok that's for understanding but if he says something like and or something like that you should leave him because you don't deserve a guy like that. Its bad enough you put up with it this long.
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Alright. Whether your arguments are over something major or something small, he shouldn't be saying those things to you. Period. You should tell him that it makes you upset that he says them. But also, pay attention to what's making him mad in the first place, and if it's unimportant, maybe you could try to change it. But he can't have everything he wants either. If he won't stop saying those hurtful things, maybe you should reevaluate your relationship.
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