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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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Heyy me n my friend were like erguing on this forever... one of us said that sxe means "se*y)" and the other said it was some sort of drug.... what is the real meaning :S lol
thxx,
xoxoAmber
sXe is neither. sXe/xXx/x all stands for Straight Edge. It's a lifestyle that people [mostly the 'punk' scene] adopts. In simple terms, it's where you don't do any drugs [other than medicine for a headache or something--unless you abuse it turn it into an illegal drug], drink [alcoholic beverages], smoke, and have casual sex [like a one night stand or with someone you've met for a week]. If any are violated, you're automatically not allegeable to be sXe.
It was started by Minor Threat and the "x" parts come from this: when minors [18 and under] went to concerts, the guards at the front would mark their hands so they would'nt be able to smoke or drink alcohol--[just in case you were wondering].
I am overweight, and I love soda. I drink soda, yet I even it out with water and milk. But I want to get healthier. I want to stop drinking soda. How can I stop?
I really like iced tea, Crystal Light, Milk, and flavored water. I can drink that over soda, but I only drink soda for that caffeine urge. Sounds weird but that's the main reason why I am hooked on it. How can I get over my caffeine urges, and start going to merely tea, milk, and water?
HEhe...Organic Green Tea--LOADS OF CAFFEINE!!! I should know because the title fo my life basically yells "Sleep Deprevation Meets Caffeine"
Haha.
For the soda, ask your parents if they stop buying them. And if they do buy them, ask them to get a Coke Zero [no sprite or whatever because they sadly do not have any caffeine]. Coke Zero tastes a little funky at first but you'll get used to it. Ask them to stock up on green tea.
Hmmm usually it takes 10 days for someone to break a habit but I think it would take a little longer. But anywhos, try to carry a bottle of WATER around with you all day so when you're thirsty you'll automatically drink water instead of walking all the way to the far far away fridge. Haha.
So at the beggining of the school year[sept-october] i had alot of acne. It wasn't like big oily whiteheads or alot of blackheads, more like alot of small raised bumps and then up until now my skin has been amazing, i can't complain at all. But now along my hair line the bumps are BACK, and now theres big red bumps of acne on my nose.
i own proacne,
i won neutrogena daily blackhead scrub
and its still there.
What can I do NOW to make it all go away ?
Okay, having acne along your hairline results from your hair [duh haha] Wash it daily if you already don't and pull it out of your face because throughout the day you hair catches all the dirt and yucky stuff from the air and it will transfer that onto your face.
For those red swollen ones, just press some ice onto it to reduce the swelling [make sure it's not on there for too long/too cold]. Also, make sure to moisturize your face daily [cold weather will dry out your skin and it may cause some acne along with your face cleansers]
I don't know what proacne is but Neutrogena is a very good brand. I use Nutrogene Clear Pores [or something like that] day and night. It's like you can use it as a washer and a mask and I use it as a mask a lot at night. Haha, so go and get it because it really helps.
Avoid sugery and oily foods because ha, you're inviting acne. And I've heard somewhere that red little bumps can be caused by red food like ketchup, tomatoes, hot sauce, pizza sauce, etc. but I don't know if it's entirely true.
oh yeah, NO MAKE UP!!!!
people always say im random... i dunno, how do i not be random? i guess its just myself, but sometiemes i say things and my friends are like "that is soo random" and im like.. "how is that really random?" because it was in my head, and when theres nothing to talk about, you bring up a subject! sometimes its kinda annoying.. ugh... so.. well.. how do i stop being so random? how do people become random anyway? answer anything related to this paragraph.
Chillax. Being random isn't a bad thing. Unless you're talking about some serious subject and then you go to cookies or something.
If there's nothing to talk about, just bring up a topic that seems interesting [it doesn't have to be realted to the previous topic because it's just gonna get dull again]. If they say "That's random" say "I know...at least we have something to talk about."
Or something like that.
When you think something isn't random in your ehad and you say it, other people amy think it's random because they don't know what you're thinking when you're saying. Just explain to them BRIEFLY how you don't think it's random [e.g. Well I was thinking about (the topic) and then that related to this and blah blah]But don't do this too often because it soon gets on people's nerves.
But really, if you're just being yourself you can't change yourself fro being random so hm..all I can say is that people who are random have interesting personalities =]
I downloaded the new yahoo messenger and it is supposed to show you the peoples names instead of there screen names, and show pictures by there name. But mine is not doing that, what did I do wrong?
Try reinstalling it, signing on and off again..
If it doesnt work, it's probably not designed to do so (even if the site said it would.) I have it too and The names show up but the pictures sometimes don't show up.
please only girls answer.
what types of clothes/outfits do girls like on guys?? Im not interested in things like emo style or goth, no offense to those that are, i just dont like the style. any help would be appriciated. ..thanx..
Ha, I was reading the replies to this and it's funny how everyone has a differenet preference *hint hint*. Not all girls prefer the same style of clothing. Some might just like preppy guys, baggy clothes, skater clothes, clean fresh cut looking guys.
I believe that most of the girls prefer skater/preppy but still clean looking guys nowadays. I don't really but oh well. haha
Ok this girl I know I've started to talk to her a lot, and i can tell she likes me and i like her too, even my friends think she likes me. But like I asked her to a dance like 3 months ago and she said no, but it was totally random kind of because I hadn't even talked to her in like a year or two. But now i talked to her for like 2 hours a day on aim/phone, i would at scool, but she doesnt go to my scool nemore. So like i donno wat i should do, like ask her out again, or i was thinking to jus go 2 a movie and do stuff wit her and hang then ask... if u hav ne ideas tell me, or jus othr advice on how to help me ask her out and get her to like me more.
Ask her yet again. Just ask if she wants to hang out with you and some of your friends [and she can bring a friend or two along] just for fun. Then eventually ask her to go to the movies with you one on one. Or ask her to go to your school dance with you and if she declines, leave it at that.
my ex is really mean hes mad at me and not his friend dylan me and his friend dylan are going out and hes not mad at him and hes been telling stuff mean about me and his dad has been calling and telling me im ganan go to court if i talk to him
Talk to whom? His dad has no right to verbally attack you over the phone like that and you my dear cannot go to court if you talk to whoever you were referring to because you're not harming them in any way shape or form.
Your ex is probably really jealous and mad at you for going out with his friend and he's trying to make you sound bad to Dylan and put a strain on you two's relationship so that it would end soon.
Tell his dad the next time he calls and threatens you saying that you're going to go to court, tell him that he has no right to have you go to court and if he calls one more time, you're going to report him to the poice for harrassing you.
Tell your ex that he really needs to get over it and that you guys are over and if he wants to whine about something that has passed, let him do so without trying to break you and Dylan up
Also talk to your counslor about it because I'm sure they'll help and if you're planning to do so and bring the "dad calling" part, talk to your mom about it first. Tell her that your ex's dad has been calling and saying all those crap to you
hey there, well i have a bit of a problem there i don't know if you are good at relationship problems, but i have a problem with my boyfriend, well this happend couple of nights ago, well i was on the phone with him and he siad that who i was talking to and i siad my friend sean (which sean and my boyfriend don't get along at all & sean is my best friend which i tell everything to) so like i told him that can i call you back and then i hung up well like when i was talking to sean my boyfriend left me a voice mail and it was him and his mom were fighting sota, well the fight went insane because my boyfriend's mom went all crazy about it because she thinks that iam using my boyfriend over sean which that wouldn't happend anyway, i would not go out with my best firend that would be awkard, so like his mom doesn't like the way i treat him and either my mom doesn't like the way my boyfriend treats me, well like my boyfriend doesn't do anything harmful or anything, but he mainly makes me sad or mad at times, and we fight too much (sota) and like now i told my friends about what happend and all they all told me that to break up with him, well the thing is that i still care about him and stuff, but i feel like my friends are going to think that iam going to keep on getting hurt by my boyfriend and like i told myself that i wouldn't listen what my friends say about breaking up with him because its not thier chocie its mine you know, but like i don't want them to get mad me and making the worng choice and puls the want the best for me and all, and i feel like iam going to make a bad choice if i stay with him, i care about him alot and love him i mean i don't know like there is question mark in my heart and i can't figure out what to do with it... i need your adivce.
thank you very much.
*Lauren
Block out all outside influences dear.
It's completely understandalbe that your boyfriend would be mad if you ditched him to talk to Sean.
He's probably threatened by him because he knows that you and Sean have a strong friendship and so your relationship might go poof at any moment. And his mom probably thinks that to.
About the constant fighting--sure it's okay to fight once in a while but if you guys are constantly fighting, try to make a compromise not to let things rise up to the level of a fighting but rahter talk calmly. If that won't work out, you guys should either just take a break or break up because it's clearly showing that it will just cause more stress on one another and htat you guys can't get along much without quarelling over little things
why is there so much hate in the world? Every one is labeling everyone. Today I got so mad cuase my friend who is emotional and likes black, some kid walked up to here and asked her if he could teach him how to be emo. It really hurt my feelings even though it wasn't towards me. But Even if you are emo. punk. goth, hard core, why does it matter? as long as everyones being thereselves then it should? why does everyone catorgorize everyone? it's rude.What is the difference between punk, goth, emo anyway? help please
I know, it's very sad. Society has yet agian found ways to divide and seperate everyone.
I guess people need a sense of belonging to a certain group and need "closure" as to where they stand in the social groups.
They relate certain things to certain labels and automatcially if you like a certain thing, you belong in a certain group and it's like "you're forbidden to interact with another gorup"
There are many reasons why people label others but my guess is that people just need to know where they fit in...they feel the need to fit in to feel satisfied "knowing" where they stand..
i am an eigth grader who is slightly overwieght. when my friends joke about my weight, it makes me feel sad. i try to joke around about myself to lighten the moment, but they end up laughing harder.
is this what you call true friends?
I know what you mean. That happened to me too a while ago and it really does hrut even if they're just kidding around.
They probably don't realize that they're hurting you and they think that they're just being funny. Since you're going along with them with their little jokes, they're probably clueless that what they're doing is hurting you.
Next time, just sit there and don't join them in their little jokes. Just smile a little and put in a few little laughs here and there. After that, just don't smile or laugh at all. If they don't get the point by then, just flat out tell them that you understand that they may find what they're joking about funny. But that it still hurts you a little and makes you feel self conscious.
If they say lighten up or something and continue, just ignore them and find new friends. If they don't apologize or come around any time soon, they aren't the greatest friends
ok so theres this guy ive known 4 like 2 yrs almost an ive really got 2 know him but now im startin 2 like him an from what hes tellin me he likes me 2 so now it's VDay an I DO NOT know what 2 get him i mean really coz i don't wanna give him somethin retarded coz i was nervous i just want him 2 like it you know.So do you think you can give me sum ideas?
Thanx,
Brittany!
Age is very helpful but okay. So you guys aren't officially going out but you admitted that you guys like each other, right?
Okay, well get him a box of his favorite chocolate/candies with a little heart card you made for him. Everyone loves candy...or you know those stuffed animal toys that come out on Valentines with the little hearts on there or perhaps holding a small box of chocolates...you can give that to him also but it seems a little iffy.
And so far, I think those are your best and only choices since you guys aren't going out.
Is not just my opinion! He is absolutely horrible he treaded my other friend like crap too after he realized he likes my bff he start to treat me in a nice way too~~ I know appearance is not a big deal but is what he acting like he knew that he is not that good looking so act nice! But he act like everyone wants him and trying to be a pimp or something that’s what really got me mad plz more advice for me!! I’m furious and so pissed off at her because she dumped me in the morning just to go talk to him!!! Plz help me
I have guy friends like that and I'm close to them. They think they're everything and all the girls they pass by drool over them when..in reality no one really does--but guys are guys. And they are really cool and nice.
If this guy is willing to change a little for your bff to like him, he must like her. You can never tell with guys if they're playing or if they're for real and you can't take their prior actions and use them against them because people can and do change.
Although you may be fed up with what he's acting like and whatever but just wait out and see what happens. You're friend is basically blinded by a crush right now and will get mad at you if you annoy her with "Oh he's not all that and he's a bad guy" statements. So just wait it out and her crush will pass...if it doesn't and they happen to "go out" let them. I know..frustrating but whatever. Just let things take its course because if this guy is really as bad as you say he is, she'll see it sooner or later.
hi~~ i got a friend we been best friend for almost 6 years we both know we always will got each other back! but the thing is she like some one i knew that is a dumb ass and totally horriable~~~ i know that he tread her nice just because he want some thing from her. i done ever thing i could to explain to her how relistic is it but she seems to ignore all my opionin and still like him!! i asked her why she like him she told me everthing but he is shorter than her and he got physical abnormal problems i just dont konw what can i do to let her relizes this like is not truethful and she desirve so much better????? pllzzz help me i need her back to normal!!!
PLEASE WATCH YOU GRAMMATICAL AND SPELIING ERRORS. It makes it hard to read and understand.
From the last few lines, I kind of got a harsh vibe with your pointing out at his physical appearance. And you really shouldn't hold that against this guy.
People appear and are different to everyone. So he may have been horrible to you but that doesn't mean he has to be horrible to everyone. And you can't assume that he just wants sex from her and ditch her.
You can't tell your friend to feel a certain way but you can certainly warn her. Just calmly sit her down and tell her:
"I don't have the right to say that he's this and that and that he only wants to do you and that's why he's being nice--because I don't know what his intentions are whether they are good or bad. But I have a bad feeling about this guy and I just want to watch out for you and I'm not trying to break a friendship and crush up. I just want you to be safe from getting hurt in any way because you're my bff. I'm not going to tell you to change your feelings for this guy but just watch out for bad signs and keep your eyes open for other guys too."
i'm writing a story about two vampires of the opposite sex. they already went to feed on people once and for a tour of the city. What else could they do to bond and build up a friendship or friendly relationship?
Um, it would've helped if you gave the plot but okay..
Disguise themselves as human and see what life is like as a human
Talk about the history of their family in an intriguing and interesting way?
Haha, erm, go to storywrite.com and post your story up there [break it into parts] it's an awesome site. My username on there is xshatteredxdreamsx so look me up and read "Forbidden Blood"
I'd love to talk to you if you need more help with stories: r0ck0nl0ser on AIM or more sn on my column.
okay so i have this big surprised planned for my boyfriend. it is taking place in his basement but there is a huge problem. i have to have a little time to set up and i have cheerleading practice after school until 5 and he is weightlifting until 5 also. so how will i get to his house before him and be ready for the surprise and myself ready. PLEASE HELP!!!
1. Miss or leave the cheerleading practice early.
2. Have his family/your friends help you set it up while he's weightlifting and you're at practice.
3. Have his family/his friends occupy him
4. Have someone do something to his car so he'll be delayed.
5. Instead of doing it at 5ish, do it at like 8pm or something and have his friends take him out somewhere else while you set up and get ready
ORR any combination of the above.
I feel like I'm always tired and was wandering if its from the food I eat. Seeing as I'm a bachelor i don't really have too much time to eat but when I do I eat enough for the entire day. Could that make me tired? Are there any foods that'll give me tons of energy? I'm also working 2 jobs and going to school, I might start working out pretty soon too so that might make me even more tired. What can I do to not have that tired sickly feeling?
All advice is greatly appreciated,
Thank you
Well, my friend is addicted to Red Bull and Vault. Those are great energy drinks--he skates, has a band, and is in hard classes with me and he still has energy thanks to those artificial drinks. Organic green tea has a lot of caffeine in there too.
So basically, chug down caffeine loaded foods =]
I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated.
Tim and I played the random game for an hour in gym because we were bored and it was pretty entertaining (It's where you say random objects taking turns and who ever repeats a word loses -- incase you didnt know). Go to games.atari.com and you can play monopoly, scrabble, and blah blah with real players. Also (although you have to make an account) go to games. yahoo.com -- they have tons of games there but be careful who you talk to.
When I'm bored (I wish I had time to be bored) I go to storywrite.com or allpoetry.com and just write a story or a poem. If you're not into that, just call up a friend and talk to him/her.
Haha, what I do sometimes is take one of those house advertising magzines with all the layouts in there and pick on room out of it and just decorate the room in whatever way I want to. In other words, just take some graph paper and make a house and design a room.
Have fun =]
I had no idea what kind of category to put this under but here goes my question...
ok now,
I watch porn videos at night to get me horny but I see a lot of girls and I think they're hot. 13/f by the way, and whenever i see like a pretty girl or something ill be like "whoa theyre hot" in my head. but then during the day when i see a lot of guys im like "omg hes so hot." or "whoa hes gorgeous" am i bi? am i lesbian? am i straight? is this normal?
It doesn't mean you're lesbian or bi. You could be straight as an arrow and think that.
This is probably the worse question to answer to answer your question but would you ever see yourself going out with a girl and kssing them and getting sexually engaged with them?
You're 13, you're hormones are running around everwhere. Don't fret...
I woke up this morning and my right eye is squinted. It won't open up all the way. I don't know why this happened because I didn't hurt my eye or anything but last night I kept rubbing my eyes because they itched and now, my right eye only opens about halfway.
What do I do?? =[
It's probably swollen form you rubbing on it. So just put ice on it (make sure you make it cool and not cold. Don't put it directly on your eyes)
And just ask your mom if she has an eye drop for it.