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Weight Friends
i am an eigth grader who is slightly overwieght. when my friends joke about my weight, it makes me feel sad. i try to joke around about myself to lighten the moment, but they end up laughing harder.
is this what you call true friends?
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i used to have the same problem.
right now, i am good.
i make jokes about me.
well, not jokes more like insults to myself.
they go into hollister and ae and stores like that and they are like omg so cute it would look so good on you. (to me) and i am like sure and i put my arm where your torso should go and up through the neck hole and i say "ofcourse, my arm looks hot" but they always roll their eyes and say whatever.
but what im trying to say to them is that i am uncomfordable around them.
i mean they are the kind of girls that get everything they want. guys, clothes, everything.
and i just wonder why they are friends with me.
i mean probably because bigger people are always funny, i just dont know.
so what i am trying to do is lose wieght, i think about hollister because they have the smallest clothes.
now im sure that didnt answer your question.
sorry.
you: "hey guys seriously, you dont look like me so you need to stop laughing, you dont know how much it hurts me and it makes me wonder if we are really true friends when you laugh."
if they tell you that you are fine and they still love you anyways you know they are true but if they don't they arent good friends.
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i wuold say not.this is because if they were the one with the weight problem then they wouldnt like to be the one being laughed at.if this starts to happen just tell them you dont appreciate it and that you would like it if they stop.but if ur makin jokes bout your self then it tells them that its ok with u if they laugh at you.so you should try to stop doing that even though it might help at the moment to make you feel a LITTLE better it does alot more pain in the long run.
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If you laugh about it, they're going to assume it doesn't hurt your feelings and they're going to keep joking about it.
Tell them it hurts your feelings, and if they continue to joke around...they aren't your true friends, they're insecure bitches.
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I know what you mean. That happened to me too a while ago and it really does hrut even if they're just kidding around.
They probably don't realize that they're hurting you and they think that they're just being funny. Since you're going along with them with their little jokes, they're probably clueless that what they're doing is hurting you.
Next time, just sit there and don't join them in their little jokes. Just smile a little and put in a few little laughs here and there. After that, just don't smile or laugh at all. If they don't get the point by then, just flat out tell them that you understand that they may find what they're joking about funny. But that it still hurts you a little and makes you feel self conscious.
If they say lighten up or something and continue, just ignore them and find new friends. If they don't apologize or come around any time soon, they aren't the greatest friends
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