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what should i do to help her????
hi~~ i got a friend we been best friend for almost 6 years we both know we always will got each other back! but the thing is she like some one i knew that is a dumb ass and totally horriable~~~ i know that he tread her nice just because he want some thing from her. i done ever thing i could to explain to her how relistic is it but she seems to ignore all my opionin and still like him!! i asked her why she like him she told me everthing but he is shorter than her and he got physical abnormal problems i just dont konw what can i do to let her relizes this like is not truethful and she desirve so much better????? pllzzz help me i need her back to normal!!!
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If you really think he is a bad person, there isn't much you can do than just show her what is bad about him.
I bet she does consider your opinion a lot but decided she really does like him and wants to make things work if possible (I know I'm like that with my boyfriend, many of my friends do not approve of him at ALL)
The best I think you can do is if this guy does anything bad to her, stick by herside and never tell her "I told you so." Just be there for her when she needs you.
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Hey. Well it sounds like you really don't kike his physical appearance. He could be the nicest guy inside and you might never know. But, if you know he's mean to you this may be because you both prejudged eachother. He could be the nicest guy to your best friend. Your best friend isn't going to listen to you keep urging her to stop going out with him. She's just going to think you're jealous and this will make her want to go out with him more. You just have to talk to her and tell her that you're sorry for telling her to stop going out with someone because he could be the nicest guy. Just tell her that since she's your best friend you got worried for her but it was a pre-judgement. Then tell her that if he ever tries to do something with her you'll always have her back but you understand that he may be the nicest guy. If you know he's not just tell her that you were hurt because of some things he said to you and you just wanted what was best for her but you understand and will respect her opinion. This way, if you tell her this she won't think you're jealous and she'll be happy that you respect her decision. This way she can figure out how this guy is on her own which will work out good for you too. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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well what your doing is somethingyopur friednd wouldnt want you to do seh mgiht think your jealous you should haev warned her only once adn if seh ignoresyou let it go we all know young "LOVE" dosnt last when they break up who eill she turn to and say you weere right im sorry YOU i mean you have already told her just leave her alone you go have fun smile be the wild teenager let her go through the pain to learn you sound like an amazing friend and trustworthy if seh cant see that well then sehs blind
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PLEASE WATCH YOU GRAMMATICAL AND SPELIING ERRORS. It makes it hard to read and understand.
From the last few lines, I kind of got a harsh vibe with your pointing out at his physical appearance. And you really shouldn't hold that against this guy.
People appear and are different to everyone. So he may have been horrible to you but that doesn't mean he has to be horrible to everyone. And you can't assume that he just wants sex from her and ditch her.
You can't tell your friend to feel a certain way but you can certainly warn her. Just calmly sit her down and tell her:
"I don't have the right to say that he's this and that and that he only wants to do you and that's why he's being nice--because I don't know what his intentions are whether they are good or bad. But I have a bad feeling about this guy and I just want to watch out for you and I'm not trying to break a friendship and crush up. I just want you to be safe from getting hurt in any way because you're my bff. I'm not going to tell you to change your feelings for this guy but just watch out for bad signs and keep your eyes open for other guys too."
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