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my rat has been loosing a lot of weight lately. i know rats have respratory problems,but their is no sign of blood in his nose or mouth. he gets plenty to eat and seems very happy.if you have any ideas what could be wrong please let me know. thanks.

Well, I had a rat too but she has died. If he is getting skinyer maybe its getting more exercise. Or hes just not eating. Another sign is he might be getting older now..To the point where he might die..(im sorry :'() but anyhow take it to the vet and see what he/she says...I hope everythings ok.

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I have a spot right below my lip on the bottom left. My boyfriend probably wont kiss me until it's gone so does anyone know any good, reliable home remedies to get rid of it quickly and easily? Thank you.

Darlin its probibly a frekle...And theres no way you can take away frekles!! Use some cover up maybe..It might also be a pimple starting to form,a black head, or ingrown hair...Just use some cover up or if you want go see a dermitoligist!

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there's this guy in my school who seems to dislike me . maybe i'm just being sensitive , but sometimes he repeats what i say in a funny/mocking way .he teases everyone , but i have this feeling he doesn't like me . maybe i'm too sensitive , cuz i don't like it when people tease me or make fun of me . how should i respond to such things ? ( ps : i don't know him that well )

He might like you? Thats a good possibility. Also you could just be sensitive to it. But when ever he mocks you just reply "Dude shut up thats not funny" or do something to tell him off about it...He wont be laughing anymore after that...

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Im 14 and about a year ago i started noticing wierd bumps on my thighs and the backs of my arms. The bumps are kinda like pimples they have white dots in them. Even if i dont shave they dont go away. Please Help Me!

Its acne!! 3 of my friends have the same thing and they went to the dermatoligist and he said it was acne. So they got this speacial cream for it! If you dont think its acne or just want to be sure id go to the dermitoligist!!!

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OMG! i dont knoe why..but my teeth are yellow!! i brush 3 times a day..and i dont smoke!!..whats wrong?!

Its probibly cause you drink to much soda and/or coffee....If you dont...Ask your dentist!!!! Hope i helped

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Where can i buy a du rag??

Sallys Beauty Supply...Ya its gurly but if you want one that bad you'll go there...Or any hair place in town

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oK..I'm 13 5'4 and about 98 pounds..I used to be skinny and stuff but now I'm starting to get a big belly. I run and do situps and drink water and try to eat healthy and everything, but I starting to get larger than I should be. Any ideas on how to keep a flat stomache and stop gaining to much more because I used to see myself good now Im huge. sorry if thats kinda long.
~please help

Hun, your only 98 pounds...If you think YOUR fat....Your (im sorry but i have to say it)dumb ;oP. Do you know how much i would give to be your size?! im not even close.....your not getting fat trust me. And if you still think your fat after reading this then SORRY I CANT HELP....

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My mother bought me a beta fish (a Japanese fighting fish) and I have no idea how to take care of it. I got a book on how to take care of it, but you have to decode it (meaning I don't understand a word of it) The local veterenarians don't really know how to take care of these fish because not alot of their clients have fighting fishes. Does anyone on Advicenators know ANYTHING about these fishes? Do you know any sites where I can find information?

Hey, Beta fish are SO simple to take care of. I have two and i've had them for a year now! Ok well you take care of them like you would a normal fish. If you have two dont let them see each other or keep them at a good distance to where they wont puff up their gills when they see each other. If you let them fight they will get stressed out and apperantly one of the fish will die. So what you do is get a fish bowl (i prefer bigger then those teeny tiny one cause i think that justs wrong having something live in something that small) put rocks in there obiously and a plant..It needs a plant (doesnt have to be real). The kind of food I buy mine is called "Hikari Betta Bio-Gold" but im sure you can buy any beta fish food out there,the directions on how much to feed them is on the back. Also dont use your regular tap water to fill the bowls, it has to be purifyed or get some of this liqid stuff that you put in the water its called "NovAqua" it takes out all the chlorine and copper etc. Clean there bowls like every month or so. If you need anymore explanation about caring for your betta ask a person who works at a pet store. They might tell you the same thing i did but at least its a shot! Hope i helped. If you have any more questions just ask...

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If you were a boy around a 14 or 15 what would be your dream christmas gift to get from your girlfriend? Im stuck on what do get my boyfriend so share what you would love to get from a girl and please... nothing grose! Thanks soo much!!!

Get him a shirt,cd,movie,or video game! Guys like those i've learned lol.

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I told a guy I would go to the fall homecomming with him but a week before I got caught sneeking out and got grounded. I told him I couldn't go with him anymore, then a couple days later my parents said I could go with him still. So I call him and and I asked him if he still wanted to go I could go with him, if not it was cool. But by that time he had another date. I really feel bad b/c I couldn't go with him and yes, I know it was really immature of my to sneak out. One of my friends said he thought it was rude of me to tell him I could still go with him...I don't get it, but should I appologize to him about not bieng able to go with him? I havn't talked to him in 2 months...thanks

-Zero

I can sort of see where he thinks it's rude because it was sort of like you where inviting yourself with him again when you already said yes then no now yes lol. Don't appologize, it might just make things worse. For future notice if you say yes to a guy then say you cant go, dont call him and be like "oh i can go now". If you can go again call him up and be like "hey what are you doing" and start a conversation. Then when the right time comes say "so do you have a date to homecoming" and if he says yes be like "oh thats cool who are you going with" and if he says no then ask him to go with you. Dont say you can go just ask him!!! Good luck. If you need any more help just ask me!

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i didnt no which one i shud put this under illness or relationships/school well anyways.... my friend rachel has 9 bros and sis's and her mom just found out that she had cancer! rachel is the oldest and is only 12! if i try to talk to her about it she just acts like she doesnt care that much and shes telling everyone! if it is possible i want to get her on extreme makeover home edition bc her family deserves it! and if her mother dies then there will b a widow father who has to raise 9 children on his own.

~*****please help*****~
!!!!!i rate high!!!!!!!

Hey hun, im sorry about whats going on. The reson it seems like she doesnt care is because shes trying to hide her emotions. Shes mad the her mom got cancer so she acting like she doesnt care when she does! So just dont bring up the subject shell talk about it when she wants to! Also about the Extreme Home Makeover, watch the show on ABC Sunday night and at the end it will say what you can do to apply for the show. Or try going to extremehomemakeover.com or look it up on google.com!!! Hope i helped. If you need anything else just drop a messege in the inbox!

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MJy stepdad is a real jerk, and my mom always chooses him over me, is that right:?

NO NOT AT ALL! OMG MY MOM DOES THE EXACT SAME THING! I dont know the advise to give you...Maybe talk to her about it (that didnt work for me though she just said i was jelouse) but i hope everything works out with yall. I know exactly how you feel. If you ever want to talk, IM me on AIM or if you need any other advise just leave a message in my inbox and ill be sure to answer!-Michelle

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I cant stand my family anymore .. I just got into a bad car accident a couple days ago on this one road where someone before me wrecked n died so i was lucky i made it.. well i came home n layed down on the sofa n my mom told me to sit up .well i was n pain and she didnt care she didnt even wanna leave work to come see me n my stepdad told me he didnt care i got into accident. i dont wanna be here anymore my mom wont even talk to me she just walks away..

Aww im so sorry..Try and tell a trusted adult about what your feeling.Maybe you can move in with an aunt or grandma.Sorry i didnt help much

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my dad is such a jerk. i'm not going to try to make this sound any worse than it is. ok well he, i guess, "verbally abuses" me. he doesn't treat me like a daughter. the other day he called me a slut, which i'm not, and he cussed me out because he doesn't trust me. i haven't even done anything. he thinks im a druggy too. he tells me that i'm just a mistake. it hurts so bad. i want to run away, but i'm trying to stop myself. im just really afraid he's going to hit me. he jerks me around, but not too bad. i need advice. dont tell me to talk to him about it.

Tell your mom or another parent like your grandma or grandpa or even a teacher at school. THey will help you get out of the abusement (if you want. Also you can tell a friend and her/his mom or dad.

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My mom just moved in with a guy and he has a 13 daughter that I believe is a great person, however I just got out of a mental institution for attempting suicide and depression! I started cutting again and now she is following in my footsteps, I dont want to be a leader in that kind of way, but I cant seem to be able to stop! I want to be a positive influence in her life however I'm just confused! How do I be positive when I'm still a cutter!?!

Stop cutting. I've cut myself once but that was one time. When ever you get the urge to cut, go do something fun with your new "room mate" (lol :oP)

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I am a 14 year old boy who will get a caniche toy poodle in less than two months and I am very, very happy about it but there is a problem. Waiting is killing me. Those two months seem like eternity for me. What do I do to make me feel like the time is going faster. Hope you know what I mean.
Any advice will be appreciated.

OMG I LOVE POODLES! Your so lucky! Well to pass the time, does he/she have bed to sleep in yet? If not to pass the time go buy/look for a new bed! Also buy toys,accesorys what ever that will make the new dog feel welcome in the home! I've had a poodle before but he died from old age...Here are some tips:
1.They loved to go for walks! (no dobt about that)
2.If you go on a car ride take them with you!
3.If you go to the store take them with you..
4.They are super fast runners so try and let him/her run free once in a while.
5.Teach it tricks! They're really smart dogs!!
6.Also get him/her groomed often so its fur wont get matted up and yukey looking.
7.And last they love to play so play with him/her as much as possible!!!!

HOPE I HELPED! Also another way to pass the time is think of what your going to do with your new dog...What you will do together and all that good stuff!!! If you need any other information about your new poodle id be glad to help!

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Hey! Okay, well I am 14 female.. about 5'7 235lbs! I know... FATTY! but still... So, i wanted to go to this weightloss school but it was almost 6,000$ and across the U.S. for me so my mom was like NO WAY! but first I wanted to get homeschooled. and then again No! so I was like Private school.. Too much money she said.. I have 4 sisters n she is seperated from my dad!! So yeah, I have to go to a public school (freshman) n alot of ppl make fun of me.. I cant run fat or anything.. n i wanna start losing weight now, pick up my speed, and then just be a whole new me next yr.. i used to play softball, and i was well good at it.. but got too old to play slow pitch!! I mean im not saying i have no friends or anything.. but my thighs, but, stomach, arms, n etc... I know.. drink water n blah blah! but nothing works for me.. im probably gonna get Slim in 6 (www.beachbody.com) but I dunno if it will work or not.. im thinking i wanna lose 100lbs or so n sorta fat but like not too fast! i just wanna be left alone n not singled out everytime i go somewhere with a bunch "skinny" ppl, and this sumemr i was gonna change everything but stayed n side n was lazy!! n now 2days b4 school starts i wanna chnage everything!! i know its gonna take time but i wanna try sommin n see if it works.. i need lots of ideas, help, motivation, and support!! I seriously want a whole new me. i mean the "stretch marks" are ugly n never gonna go away so ill always remember being fat, i just want it to stop!! i wanna be the one not scared to speak up, and express what i think, i wanna be the one telling the person not to be making fun of someone, not the one being made fun of!! I want to change me!! have a high self esteem n just have fun!! so yeah u think u can help??? I'd rlly appreciate it!!! Any advice will help me .. i mean have any of u ever been n the same position or anything?? I was thinking baout even killing myself once, and i wanna "throw up" wut i eat but i dunno if thats smart, its like i cant stick to anything.. all i know is i wanna look good ... fast... not for boys... but for me.. n for all the teasing to stop!! I ask u all hoping for help!! Thanks alot, xOxOxO

Hey hun i know EXACTLY how you feel!! What i think you should do is run...Run a little bit like maybe from your house to the end of the street then walk back home...After you do that for a couple of days instead of walking back run back! It will help you loose weight and improve your running ability...Also dont go back for seconds after a meanl and if you get the erge to snack DONT no matter what i know that it will be tugging at you inside to snack but dont! Go take a shower or go watch tv or do homework or something...Another thing is DONT PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE dont kill yourself...I've also thought about killing myself before but i know that i would regret it and so would you! ALSO (lol) Dont throw up your food after you eat it, thats called baleemia and once you get going you wont stop..I've had baleemia before and throwing up everyday is NOT fun but i managed to get over it and not do it anymore...Not to mention it could rought out your teeth from the acids from your stomoch (sorry thats gross i know) But just try to do what i mentioned and maybe find a diet thats sutable for you like Weight Watchers...They really do work, my cousins on it and shes lost 10 lbs in a month and a half ...Thats alot...Remeber things dont happen with the snap of a finger! I hope i helped...If you ever need anything else just ask!!

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okay well i shave down there and it grows back really fast. like in a week! is that normal or what? is there anything i can do to prevent it? and i also get those little red bumps and sometimes the hair is not always completley gone! any tips please? thank you.

The bumps are probibly ingrown hairs or iritation from shaving...

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Okay, I recently had sex and the next day I forgot to take my birth control. (We didn't use a condom and i've been using it for about 4 months) the day after that I forgot and for about the next week after that I didnt take it. Is there a good chance that I could be pregnet??


-Scared :(

Take a pregnancy test..Its the best way to go hunny! Good luck

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So, i've been thinking about but not really knowing if... I mean it's not that I want to commit suicide... I guess i'm just depressed and no I don't want to go on medication cause it's not like my brain is screwed up... it's just that I dunno I feel ugly I feel bad and whenever I tell anyone it doesn't seem to be relevant to them... and yes I know by posting this there will be people (stupid) saying that "YA U SHOULD U WORTHLESS PEICE OF ****" and I really don't care cause I probably should... I know that you guys probably don't care whether I live or not cause I mean it'll just mean one less mouth to feed and one more room to fill...

Basically the reason why I am depressed is that cause I'm gay and i've told people but not everyone... and I just want to have someone to be able to love me back and someone to be able to cuddle with on winter's cold... I've tried online chatting (no not AIM) but actual sites that are serious and no respons... I guess it's cause I'm ugly... but I just feel... *sigh*

Hey babe..i know how you feel...Im not gay but i feel so ugly sometimes that i think of suiside! But its not the right choice to make...trust me...you never know how loved you are!! really! and im sure your gorgeous!! Also dont go to a psychatrist (sp?) cause they dont help worth a dang..Please just have a good time..Hang out with friends!! Dont kill yourself...Youll regret it...

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