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My mom just moved in with a guy and he has a 13 daughter that I believe is a great person, however I just got out of a mental institution for attempting suicide and depression! I started cutting again and now she is following in my footsteps, I dont want to be a leader in that kind of way, but I cant seem to be able to stop! I want to be a positive influence in her life however I'm just confused! How do I be positive when I'm still a cutter!?!
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Well, not to be rude but you gotta* stop cutting. Then you would most likely be a positive leader. Because it's easy to stop.. I would know :(. And ok I highly doubt that trying to attempt suicide is not a positive way to go either even if you stopped... still! come on your life can't suck that bad. But just try and stop cutting and maybe then she can follow your footsteps without you worrying about what she really is following. Hope I Helped With Your Problem! :) Good Luck With Her And Your Cutting Issues. If I didn't help sorry :(. If you need anymore advice just ask me and I will surely give you all the advice I possibly can. :)
Shann
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sweetheart- you cant control the fact that your a cutter. it is a condition that can only be worked through and be overcome when you are ready to give it up. however when it comes to your new little "sister" you can still be positive. explain the good parts of life (even if you cant think of any because of your depression). just give her good advice and lookout for her. hid your cutting from her and show her that your happy- even if you have to pretend. you want the best for her, and that might mean a little lie here and there. i hope everything works out for you! good luck with everything!
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I've been in a situation a lot like that before, only it was with a friend instead of your mothers bf's daughter. If you can't stop cutting, and believe me I know how hard that can be, (I was in a mental institution for 2 months and it STILL didn't help) you have to ask her why she's doing it and try to get her to talk to you, and then explain to her what you've been through because of it, and try to get her to understand that she needs to find a different outlet. This might be kind of hard for her to understand b/c "if you do it, why cant she?" But just talk to her about it and hopefully that will work. i hope that helped!
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well why dont you talk 2 her and see why she is cutting herself?! if she is a cutter like you, you could help each other to try and stop! if it doesnt stop, then maybe you should tell someone closer to her and see if they can stop her. you should tell her that it doesnt help anything!
i have thought about cutting myself as i am feeling really depressed but i talked about it to my bst m8 and she got it in me head that it wouldt solve any of my problems. this is so true!
now if i feel down i write a letter and burn it, just to get all me feelings out!
hope this is helpful to you and please try to stop hurting yourself... thank you! xxx
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woah...you have been going through this TREMENDOUS emotional thing..and your Mom just moved in wiht a new b/f??
Am I the only one who thinks she is being REALLY selfish right now.
You need to work on your problems and the reason why you cut and tried to kill yourself. Ok..YOU cannot worry about anyone else right now.
If your mom and her B?F do not see what HIS child is doing then..i am sorry THEY are freakin to blame for what is happening to youand to this other poor child!
Sorry i am a mom and i would NEVER ever put myself first..especially after what you have been through.
Sit your what new sis?/down and say look DO not do this..this is not cool..then call a family meeting...the adults here need some serious talking too...too much is going on in this househol..that THEY as the DAM* adults should be dealing with..not you.
My sister tried several times to kill herself..it was all about making sure she had the right chemicals in her system to battle the inbalance. Finally they did and she has been on an even roa for over 20 years.
Please put yourself first...
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Stop cutting. I've cut myself once but that was one time. When ever you get the urge to cut, go do something fun with your new "room mate" (lol :oP)
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You can't be a postivie influence if you are a cutter. It is just not possible. You need to talk to your mom and explain to her the problem because that is a huge issue. You also need to explain to the girl how bad it is to be a cutter and how even though you do it she shouldn't because it is addicting and a bad thing to do. It will be very hypocritical of you but you need to fix the problem somehow and fast.
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i know its not simple but cutting will not help you in anyway ive been in your situation without the follower, if your not a leader who will follow you take your pain out some other way channel it into sports or a pillow (stupid sounding but resourcful) it took me about three months but in the end it worked out now im an A time swimmer and im about to get my blackbelt in martial arts get help from someone you trust like a friend who you know wont tell but will motivate you also this sounds stupid and i know its like been on tv and stuff but put a rubber band/ponytail holder i dont know whether or not your a guy and snap it when you feel the urge to cut that helped me too for a while also its not that hard to scare the easily influenced talk to her about your experiance with her tell her how dangerous it is hard as it may be show her your scares 13 year old girls are usually at a transitional stage if you show her that its wrong and dangerous then maybe she'll get the big picture most of all i encourage you to find help suicide and cutting are never a good answer NO MATTER WHAT!!
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Hey sis, yeah, I kinda could read a little bit while you were typing this so I know this is your question. Don't sweat it. I'll be there for you the best of my abilities. I love you like blood. And I don't make a huge habit of it, alright?! You aren't influencing me into doing that. I had this habit way before you, alright. Talk to me about if you want, I'll be there to listen. Love you!
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