Hey, it's Kristen. I'm 17. I'm here to give you advice honestly and straight forward so ask!


i've never had a boyfriend, im 13 and i havent even kissed one person.....i really just want to have a boyfriend, that and to get more experienced, but, how? also is there something im doing wrong that makes guys un-attracted to me?

Just because you haven't had any of that doesn't mean you are un-attractive to guys. You're only 13. You have plenty of time to meet guys and date. Don't feel like you are moving too slow on the train. You're on just the right speed. Don't worry about getting too awfully experienced. You're not doing anything wrong. You're only 13 and so are the guys and it usually takes guys longer to come around at that age than girls. They are just now getting into the girl stage. Just talk to some guys and flirt a little and see where it takes you. Maybe you will really click with one of the guys and you will have a boyfriend. It's really nothing to rush and I am proud to know you are 13 and still haven't kissed someone. Teenagers move too fast these days so hold on to that kiss for that someone special. Let your first kiss be memberable. First kisses always suck but atleast if it sucks it'll be with someone you really care about. The best way to get into the dating scene is just to talk to guys and get to know them and see if anything clicks. :) Hope i helped


i just recently got braces and ive always heard stories and seen stuff on tv about how hard and the things that happen when kissing with braces.

does it really hurt the other person and hard?
or is that just made up?

mainly, can i kiss with braces?

No. They don't get stuck together. That's one of the worst myths. No worries


Okay im watching dazed and confused right now and the song at the end goes....

slow ride.... take it easy ....

Whats it called and who sings it!!?!??!?!

It's called slow ride and it's by Foghat. That is a killer movie. OMG! I love that movie to death. It's the best thing ever. :-D


Hi I am 17 years old girl. I have not seen my boyfriend for a while and will not be seeing him for another two weeks. And I feel scared. I don't get to see him or really get to talk to him but that's not either of our faults. It kind of feels like we aren't together. Can my feelings weaken because I feel like we aren't together then get strong again when I see him when he gets home?please help me

I can totally relate to you with this and I can tell you that it will be okay. My boyfriend is in CA right now. He went for the summer for 2 months. I was sacred too. Scared I wouldn't love him as much when he came home. And we didn't get to talk much for a while. He also is coming home in two weeks. Now, do you really care about this boy? If you do, then you need to stay strong and stick it out. Take a moment to think of how much you care about him. Do you care enough to wait it out till you can see him? It's going to feel like your feelings are weakening and that's normal. But if you really care when you finally get to see him it's all going to come back to you and you'll feel amazing. Value every moment you do get to speak to him and think positive and remember that in two weeks you get to see him. Try not to worry or dwell on anything. As long as you care about this boy and you stay strong to the fact you'll get to see him soon it'll be okay. But it's all up to how much you care. I think if you stay strong once he gets home it'll all be okay and you'll feel just fine dear. I'm going through the same thing and I know it's not easy. But I stay positive and rmemeber he'll be back with me soon and I value every phone call we have and every instant message cuz it's time and time is what matters when one you care for is away. So stay strong and try not to worry. It'll be okay as soon as he gets home. Two weeks, it seems like forever I know but it's really not. So get excited dear, your baby is coming home to you!!!


I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months and due to my work schedules I never get to see him.I really like him and he really likes me but we only see each other every other saturday.DO you think it is a good idea to continue dating?

A lot of couples with jobs and busy lives like that only see each other once a week but they do just fine. This is is really up to you though. I mean do you get along great and value your time together even though you only see him once a week? If you do then why call it off over one small challenge? Seeing each other too much can put a damper on a relationship beucase you see too much of each other. So why worry. Your schedule will lighten up eventually and you'll get to see him more at some point. So as long as your both happy and you love the time you to spend together you and you like each other, don't end it. Keep it going strong and let it grow. Who knows, you could be together for a long time just beucase of the fact you didn't smother each other in spending time together at the beginning of the relationship. A lot of relationships fail cuz they spend too much time together in the first 6 months of the relationship and get bored. So if I were you, I'd keep dating and jsut see where it all takes you. :)


Whats some good tips to keep a relationship alive that is with two people tat are trulely in love but dont see eachother a lot? we talk evreyday... anwere from 2-7 hours on the phone and atlest 2 hohurs on the internet a day... but we go like a mont without seeing eachother until January when we'll see eachother like evrey weekend... [[he lives 35-40 minutes away]]

This is always a tough situation to deal with. There really aren't many tips. If you talk that much it sounds like you're doing fine. But value the time you spend together for all it's worth and try to avoid arguing or any confrontation at all when you get to see each other. You gotta value the time you have and not take advantage if you're only seeing him once a month. Keep your conversations flowing in a positive direction. Try not to focus on the fact you aren't seeing each other a lot. Look forward to the fact seeing each other is coming up and say I love you often. Be there for each other and just love each other with all your might, ya know? Be positive and keep the conversation a live. Make each other laugh and joke around. Keep each other happy and entertained with each other. It's all about just loving each other and being there and talking on the phone, ya know? It'll all work out wonderful once you get to see him once a weekend


I have a question.Well you see I wanna make a new xanga but I cant think of a good name.Have any clues.Ill tell you about me to give you some ideas.I like singing,my fave color is pink,my name is Brittany,Iam very very very short and Iam a social butterfly

all in pink x3

uhhh.. lemme know if u want more?


ok i have i boyfriend and i like him a real lott but today i saw my friends cuzzent and i thought he was cute and thinks im hott but i like my boyfriend and i feel bad i fell like im cheeting on him because i sorda started flurting with her cuzzent now i feel so bad what should i do

You aren't cheating just beucase you thought some other dude was hot. You didn't physically touch him or act apon it or anything. Now, you're only 13 which means you're going to go through a lot of guys anyways. So what you need to do is really think here. All you did was think this guy was hot and he thought you were hot. What do you really know about this guy? Think about it. I'm sure you know a lot more about your boyfriend than you did this guy you think is hot, right? I think you should just be friends with this guy and get to know him. If you start to like him then that's just where your feelings took you and you'd have to let your boyfriend know you though it was time you split. But just beucase you talk to this guy doesn't mean you're cheating on your boyfriend. Talking never hurt anyone unless you flirt and such. But sweetie, you're 13. There's gonna be tons more guys you see that think you're hot and you think they are hot and it'll end up meaning nothing. So really, just get to know this dude and see where your feelings take you. You aren't cheating unless you kiss him and stuff like that. So no worries, don't stress. It's all just part of being a teenage girl surrounded by many cute boys just waiting to talk to you. ;) xo


IS masturbation bad??

Nah. A lot of people do that. They don't tell people cuz some people think it's gross but yeah. It's fine and normal.


how to find that a boy fancys you if you fancy them

What? Could you rephrase that question and I'll try to answer it. I'm not quite sure what you're asking, cuz you asked it in a odd way.


ok heres my quest. this guy i have known for about 3 years and i liked him alot.we acted like we were dating for awhile but it wasn't afficial. now that were dating im falling for him really hard and the problem is he seems like he likes me at somepoints other times he just pushes me away. i know he don't feel like i do. all i get told is to leave him. help me out on this plz i dont know what to do. if i should stay or forget?oh ya im 16 years old and im a female.

When you say get told do you mean you're peers and family and such? Well if that is the case, it's not their place to tell you if you should leave a guy or not. That is up to what you feel and what you think is right. All guys are dickheads, it's a fact. You should probably ask him about how he feels. Because there might be a reason he is pushing you away. So you should ask him how he feels about you and stuff. Because if you are falling hard like you say you are, you don't want to get too involved and then him decide he doesn't feel the same way enough to be with you. That would suck and hurt you too much. So just ask him how he feels about you and what's going on in his prospective. And whatever he says in reply will tell you if you should be with him and keep trying or if you should break up before you fall too hard. Let me know how it goes and if you need anymore help on this after you talk to him about it, let me know. xo


what do you think is the longest someone should be grounded for for sneaking out and swearing and there parents. my friend wanted me to ask because she did that and she doesnt think its fair how long she's grounded for. thanks.

It really depends on how things went down. How severe was her lie? Did she make up some out of the blue stuff or a little lie that made her look good even though she snuck out. It's about circumstances. And I don't know the circumstances of what she did and how she did it and how it all occured. But sneaking out is something every kids gonna do at some point. If my child snuck out, I'd ground them for atleast two weeks. But I wouldn't ground them from everything. They could still have the phone and internet but I wouldn't want them constantly on them just becuase they can't go anywhere. I would ground them from going places on school nights totally, becuase that is a privlage and limit them on the weekends. And I would have to know a good bit of detail about it when they went somewhere, until I could gain trust back. Parents lose a lot of trust when their child sneaks out behind their back. It's hard to think rash and give a child a reasonable punishment when they're mad. That is probably why she is grouded for so long, becuase they've lost trust. They probably figure if they ground your friend for a logn time, she'll learn and they can get more trust back that way. But yeah, two weeks.


i have a problem over the past year i have been expierencing weird symptoms sometimes im depressed like real depressed and other times im very hyper ive been real irritable too and i dont know why also every time someone makes me mad ill walk away from them to smoke a cigarett and blank out but the scary part about it is that when i blank out its almost like im watching a movie of just really hurting the person or people that anger me and every time i drink if someone makes me mad i turn into a different person and its not for the good but anyways im concerned because i dont want my blank outs to turn into a reality i reciently told my friend about these events and he told me he thinks i might be bipolar because he is and says that he gets the same symptoms but i was wondering if you could tell me if it is a possibility that i might be bipolar

thank you


My father is bipolar and you may very well be. Not to tell you what to do, but drinking isn't a good thing to do if you know it's going to flame your temper. Now I can't tell you if you ARE bipolar but you show strong symptoms. Only a doctor can tell you that you truly have this though. Go to a doctor and they will find out. If you are, they'll put your on medication that really helps you and will help you control the disorder. :) If you want to know anything else, just ask me. x0x


hey buddy ol' pal
Havent talked to you in likeee 273626252 years. I probably will never be able to go on aim..so sad! Since the death of my beautiful myspace, I'm back on advicenators. I feel advicenators knows it's just a backup site to me and is deeply hurt by the fact... Even though they know I'm using it in such a way that a 20 year old guy will use a 13 year old girl...the site is still welcoming me with open arms! Just like the 13 year old girl, but in her case..open legs. So ha, I am back and leave me something in my inbox sometimes. I think this will be the only way to talk to you.

Oh and do you have my cell phone numbero (thats spanish for number)? You should call me friend.

No I don't have your cell phone. I have a cell phone now. It's pink! And I have nation wide long distance and free nights and weekends and my nights start at 7! My text messaging cost money though. So yeah, e-mail me your cell and ill call you on mine sometime. crazy_n_love_xox@yahoo.com x0x0x


does 3 way calling on a regular phone cost money? how much?

Yeah. It's about 75 cents per call. But some phone plans have it for free but if you just have regular features it cost 75 cents everytime you use it.


how is it possible to have your period while pregnant? is it even possible at all?

It's rair but a woman can have her period throughout her entire pregnancy.


If you always say love u to your bf when he is signing off n he says it back its all good. what does it mean when u've said it twice that day and he hasn't said it back. but he was leaving cause he had 20mins to get a shower n eat before a bball game that he said i didnt have to go to (its 45mins away) but he still gave me directions. am i just over reacting cause he didnt say 3 words?

That really isn't anything to worry too much over. It sounds to that he was in a big hurry to get himself ready and out the door to get to this game so it probably just slipped his mind to say it. Guys do that. If you're really that worried about it, just ask him why he didn't say it. But be nice about it, you don't want to piss him off. I seriously doubt he has any other reasoning to say it, just giving the situation and moment that it did or didn't happen. But I respect that you're upset. Saying "I love you" can be very important to girls. x0


..... Okay, so I don't know him and he's a junior and from what i hear he's pretty shy, but i don't want to make a fool of myself, what is the best way to get him to notice me without making me look dumb?

Find out who his friends are. Have your friends help you if necessary. Talk to the people he knows and ask them a little about him without being obvious. Then mention "well id like to get to know him". One of them well for sure want to help you with that.

Or, if you aren't up for that. When you see him in the hall, just look at him smile, and say hi. He'll notice you if you speak to him. And maybe it will slowly grow from there. Then one day, you can start talking, have a conversation.


ok im trying to figure out which song to use in my xanga!
i can have 4, right now i have
hard to say by the used
dateless losers by reel big fish
box of sharp objects by the used
sugar we are going down by fall out boy

im trying to think of something to replace hard to say even though that is a really good song!

.:stalking roxy:.

the used - all i have
saliva - always
3 doors down - let me go
im not okay (i promise) - my chemical romance
incubus - drive
maroon 5 - she will be loved
simple plan - untitled
staind - so far away
hawthorne heights - ohio is for lovers
foo fighters - shes the blade

there are some good ones..

EDIT! EDIT! EDIT! that song could very well be sugarcult. Im not sure.. i had it on the computer and then i had to redo the computer so i could be wrong. but i thought that is who it was


Ok, so schools out and I'm really bored...Where are some fun places to hang out /fun things to do, etc during the summer?

Swimming, shopping, hang with friends, clean the house to pass time, go to the movies, go to the park, cruise around town while jamming to music, go on vacation for a weekend or week, stay with relatives such as cousins who may be your age or just plain stay with relatives, make a website online, talk on the phone, go outside in your yard and tan, go outside in your yard and just chill with a glass of tea or something and some tunes, start a diary or journal to write what you're thinking about in to pass time, go to an amusement park, go to a water park, watch a dvd with a friend or someone special, have a night for you and your friends to chill at one of your houses and be crazy, sit down and go through your past year books and remember past good times, take a nap (lol), hang with your neighbors, etc.


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