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No you do not use that kind of bleach for that. It isn't a good idea to bleach them anyways so I would honestly embrace your dark hair. It's not good to bleach it.

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what do girls look for in guys. It doesnt really help me because im a guy looking for what qulities like only girls answer please

Most girls including myself want a guy who will be there for them when it times of need, someone considerate. A tough yet sentimintal guy. A guy who is willing to set aside time for her, but still have his friends. Never try to control a girl. That's the worst thing a guy can do. Someone who won't raise their voice or hand to her face, etc. A guy whose nice, and she has lots of things in commmon with. Someone she could share her dreams and thoughts with. A guy who doesn't care about how rich her family is. Someone who can except her for her, and not tell her all the things that are WRONG with her. That's just mean. Someone who can take things at a slow pace instead of jumping into sexual things unless she wants to. A guy who can be honest and trustworthy. Someone who can admit his faults if any. And a good personailty. Well I hope I helped out a little bit.

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For v - day... if i got my boyfriend two little teddy bears... (ones a girl and ones a boy)... that have magnetic noses so its like they are kissing... would that be too girly like giving him teddy bears and stuff?

I think that's a cute little idea. You can make the noses connect, it'd be sweet. It'd bring out his more sensitive and be a sweet moment. And if you're going to buy him something else then it should be quite fine! Very sweet v-day.

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This site sucks. The moderators do a crappy job of filtering stupid questions, people reply with asshole answers with no reprecussions, and most of these people give crappy advice. Why cant the mods or anyone make this site worth comming to? Why do most of your guys's answers suck, and why do some of you have to be assholes?

It makes the world go round. But for starters, this site isn't somewhere you can submit questions that just blast your opinion. People on this site are here to help people. And if the site bugs you so much, give good advice, get good ratings and become a monderator or just quit coming to the site, then you won't have to bitch about it. :)

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people think itz wrong for a 9th grader and an 8th grader to be together,tell me how is that?

Everyone has their own opinion. And that's just how it is. No one can really tell you why people think it's wrong. Maybe it is the factor that you are moving from middle school to high school to get a boyfriend or girlfriend. That sometimes isn't well expected. And, is the girl older than the guy? People think that's odd sometimes. Also, it's a common misconception that just because you're in 9th grade you have to be way more mature than the 8th grader. Think about it and I hope I helped.

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girls say they love you, but they dont show it why is that?

She could love you or she could not. I as a girl tell my friends I love them but I only mean in it in a friendship way cause that's just how girls are. If a girl tells you they love you, consider some of this. Are you dating? Are you close friends? Does she like you? She may just be saying it as a friend way. Or if she really does love you, she could be too shy to show it. Girls can be pretty shy so that could be it. If a girl has told you she loves you. I would suggest asking her in what way she meant this so you can know why she doesn't show it.

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Okay.. well i went out with this one guy for a month and maybee a couple weeks... well i broke up with him becaz 5 months later i would be moving..i still like him alot at times but i also feel that i am friends with him, and thats about it. and he's getting ready to ask me out agian and i dont know if i should go out with him becaz im moving and everything. should i?

How far away are you moving? Do you think you two could make it through the pressures of a long distance relationship seeings you are moving? If you think you two can make it through these things, then sure, why not? It's up to you and how you feel about him and if you could make it. Maybe you should talk to him about it so that there are no worries in it. Good luck

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People are always saying not to do anything until you're totally and fully ready. Well, my boyfriend is ready to finger me and I want him to and i want to be ready but like..how can i become ready?

There is no way to really "become" ready. If you're comfortable with it, and he is too than do it. If you don't think you are, then don't. And it all depends on the girl and the guy. Do you want your boyfriend to cum on your hand? If not tell him, so he can tell you before he cums. If you don't mind then just let him go ahead and do it.

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In your opinion, is 13 years old too young to be fingered? If you really can't get any STDs then what's the harm?

I don't see the harm in it as long as you are totally comfortable with and so is the person doing it. So many young people do this these days. It's in about how you feel, but I wouldn't go any younger than 13 for that. And if a girl happened to be fingered so young, she might want to try more after that got old or she might not. So it's all in how you feel. Think about it.

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Everytime i talk on the phine with my boyfriend and we discuss sexual stuff, like maybe taking our relationship to the next step, i start to shake and i shake like i'm really cold, but i'm not..and even hours afterwards i keep shaking. What's going on?

I would have to say this is nerves. It probably makes you nervous which knowing this it should tell you that you aren't ready to go to the next step. It's nothing to worry about but I wouldn't try going to that next step as it seems you aren't ready.

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Im 14/f and ive never had a boyfriend..is this weird...is it normal??

It's perfectly normal. At school it seems like everyones dating someone but there are lots of people who haven't dated anyone. It's fine. See it as good. You won't have to go through as much hurt as other girls who started dating too young. Think of yourself as lucky. Plus, what's your hurry? You have your whole life ahead to date so nope it's not weird. Your time will come, don't worry.

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If given the choice between Italian and German...which one should I pick to learn?

German

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Can the guy or girl get any type of STDs from fingering?

Yes and No. If the guy has some form of wound with blood and it gets into the girl, the girl could get an std that he has. And if he has an std and he had masturbated before he fingered the girl, his sperm or any ejaculation could get into her and cause her to have the std, etc. As long as you are both clean as in free of the jerms there shouldn't be any problems. But if the girl had an std, after the guy fingered her, I'd suggest he wash his hands afterwards just to be safe or else not do it at all.

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Well I got jelous of my boyfriend getting these girls numbers and he said it was stupid and that hes never got jelous and its a sign of low self esteem. So we got into a fight I was like so what if I was jelous its not like you would matter or care if I was. He thought i said he did'nt matter. I have tried telling him that I meant it for something else but he won't bother he's like its over its nothing. What do I do? I still really wanna be with him.

I've been there and done that in a relationship. I loved the guy I really did but I was still jealous. I get the vibe that you'd like to call him all yours. And that is way understandable. You'll never solve anything if you two can't talk about this because it can be solved. Get him to put himself in the situation of you talking to all these guys. Would he be jealous? I'm sure he would be. They say you if your in love there is no jealousy but this isn't true. That's part of love. Staying true. I don't think he would hurt you, and I think he just wants to have his friends that are girls, but it's not fair to you. You need to get him to realize how you feel about this. Let him know that you respect that he has his friends that are girls, but your his girlfriend and he needs to respect that. Just calmly dicuss this and see if he is willing to still talk to his girl friends every once in a while but respect that you're his girlfriend. If he can't understand then he's a jackass anyways and must not want a girlfriend that bad. That's what happened with, the guy was a jackass. If it doesn't work out, don't be too bummed. You'll find better if he can't understand. Good luck and get back at me if you need anything else.

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ok this might be stupid but im going to ask anyways..me and my boyfriend have only been together for 8 days..but i know its love..its hard to explain but we've known eachother for awhile and last night i relized i was in love with him.hes my entire world..could this be love?

It could be. I just recently had this happen. I had been talking to this guy for a year and then we started going out and within a week or so I felt I loved him and I told him. You could for sure love him. But before you totally determine this you should sit and think a while. Think about all the reasons you love him and what makes you love him and if you think you see a bright relationship for you two. Think about how you feel and if you still feel you love him afterwards then you most likely do. You don't have to always be together forever to think you love someone. Sometimes it's just right and love just happens and it's a great thing isn't it? :) Good luck with you two.

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I like a boy but he already has a girlfriend. I still told him I like him though. He told me he likes me but he doesnt want to break up with his girlfriend even though she is a snob. What should I do?

All you need to do is work your magic. Get this boy to like you more than he likes his girlfriend. Drop some hints. Be nice to him and flirt a little. Show him how GREAT of a girl you are as appose to his girlfriend. Show him you aren't dumb. Steal that boy away. Hehe. Evil yes, but it'll work. Don't obsess over it though, you don't want to draw him away from you. He'll see you're better on his own in time.

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