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Hey, it's Kristen. I'm 17. I'm here to give you advice honestly and straight forward so ask!


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People are always saying not to do anything until you're totally and fully ready. Well, my boyfriend is ready to finger me and I want him to and i want to be ready but like..how can i become ready?

There is no way to really "become" ready. If you're comfortable with it, and he is too than do it. If you don't think you are, then don't. And it all depends on the girl and the guy. Do you want your boyfriend to cum on your hand? If not tell him, so he can tell you before he cums. If you don't mind then just let him go ahead and do it.

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In your opinion, is 13 years old too young to be fingered? If you really can't get any STDs then what's the harm?

I don't see the harm in it as long as you are totally comfortable with and so is the person doing it. So many young people do this these days. It's in about how you feel, but I wouldn't go any younger than 13 for that. And if a girl happened to be fingered so young, she might want to try more after that got old or she might not. So it's all in how you feel. Think about it.

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Everytime i talk on the phine with my boyfriend and we discuss sexual stuff, like maybe taking our relationship to the next step, i start to shake and i shake like i'm really cold, but i'm not..and even hours afterwards i keep shaking. What's going on?

I would have to say this is nerves. It probably makes you nervous which knowing this it should tell you that you aren't ready to go to the next step. It's nothing to worry about but I wouldn't try going to that next step as it seems you aren't ready.

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Im 14/f and ive never had a boyfriend..is this weird...is it normal??

It's perfectly normal. At school it seems like everyones dating someone but there are lots of people who haven't dated anyone. It's fine. See it as good. You won't have to go through as much hurt as other girls who started dating too young. Think of yourself as lucky. Plus, what's your hurry? You have your whole life ahead to date so nope it's not weird. Your time will come, don't worry.

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If given the choice between Italian and German...which one should I pick to learn?

German

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Can the guy or girl get any type of STDs from fingering?

Yes and No. If the guy has some form of wound with blood and it gets into the girl, the girl could get an std that he has. And if he has an std and he had masturbated before he fingered the girl, his sperm or any ejaculation could get into her and cause her to have the std, etc. As long as you are both clean as in free of the jerms there shouldn't be any problems. But if the girl had an std, after the guy fingered her, I'd suggest he wash his hands afterwards just to be safe or else not do it at all.

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Well I got jelous of my boyfriend getting these girls numbers and he said it was stupid and that hes never got jelous and its a sign of low self esteem. So we got into a fight I was like so what if I was jelous its not like you would matter or care if I was. He thought i said he did'nt matter. I have tried telling him that I meant it for something else but he won't bother he's like its over its nothing. What do I do? I still really wanna be with him.

I've been there and done that in a relationship. I loved the guy I really did but I was still jealous. I get the vibe that you'd like to call him all yours. And that is way understandable. You'll never solve anything if you two can't talk about this because it can be solved. Get him to put himself in the situation of you talking to all these guys. Would he be jealous? I'm sure he would be. They say you if your in love there is no jealousy but this isn't true. That's part of love. Staying true. I don't think he would hurt you, and I think he just wants to have his friends that are girls, but it's not fair to you. You need to get him to realize how you feel about this. Let him know that you respect that he has his friends that are girls, but your his girlfriend and he needs to respect that. Just calmly dicuss this and see if he is willing to still talk to his girl friends every once in a while but respect that you're his girlfriend. If he can't understand then he's a jackass anyways and must not want a girlfriend that bad. That's what happened with, the guy was a jackass. If it doesn't work out, don't be too bummed. You'll find better if he can't understand. Good luck and get back at me if you need anything else.

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ok this might be stupid but im going to ask anyways..me and my boyfriend have only been together for 8 days..but i know its love..its hard to explain but we've known eachother for awhile and last night i relized i was in love with him.hes my entire world..could this be love?

It could be. I just recently had this happen. I had been talking to this guy for a year and then we started going out and within a week or so I felt I loved him and I told him. You could for sure love him. But before you totally determine this you should sit and think a while. Think about all the reasons you love him and what makes you love him and if you think you see a bright relationship for you two. Think about how you feel and if you still feel you love him afterwards then you most likely do. You don't have to always be together forever to think you love someone. Sometimes it's just right and love just happens and it's a great thing isn't it? :) Good luck with you two.

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I like a boy but he already has a girlfriend. I still told him I like him though. He told me he likes me but he doesnt want to break up with his girlfriend even though she is a snob. What should I do?

All you need to do is work your magic. Get this boy to like you more than he likes his girlfriend. Drop some hints. Be nice to him and flirt a little. Show him how GREAT of a girl you are as appose to his girlfriend. Show him you aren't dumb. Steal that boy away. Hehe. Evil yes, but it'll work. Don't obsess over it though, you don't want to draw him away from you. He'll see you're better on his own in time.

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does anyone no a good brand of eyeliner that you can like take off cuz all the ones i have wont come off even after i shower

Cover girl eyeliner is great. They have the dry kind and the wet kind available. I use it all the time and it comes off in the shower just like that. All you have to do is wipe it off after you shower because it drips down.

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2 and a half weeks ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. I'm finding it really hard to get over him and today I found out that he has a new girlfriend. She's a girl who went to his primary school and he hasn't seen her for over two years. He says he likes her and all but I don't know if he's telling the truth or not. I spoke to her on MSN (I've never met her) and she seems nice, she said that if it was really bothering me then she would break up with my ex. I told her not to ruin things with him just because of me but I can't help feeling jealous. I love my ex and if his new girlfriend makes him happy then I hope they're happy together but it's still tearing me up inside. How do I deal with this?

I think you're being really positive about this and doing the right thing by saying you want them to be happy. That's a good thing of you to do. It's going to tear you up inside for a while. That's how getting over love is. You cry but one day you'll smile again. Just focus your mind on postitive things. Hang out with your friends and try to have a good time. Start writing down how you feel on paper so it isn't all bottled up inside so you can get over it faster. It helps to write things down so it's out. :) Try writing poems. But dont' let your self get too down. It didn't work, and that happens. Just try getting on with your life and be happy for them like you've said. That's good. Once you've healed you can try being friends with him? And try to get along with his girlfriend to risk the conflict. I think you all are handling this really maturely! Good job.. When you feel you're ready, try going on some dates so you can fully get over him and get on with your life. Break ups are always hard. Need anything else, let me know. :)

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Ok, yesterday I was on the phone with my boyfriend and he asked me what I want to do on Valentines Day. I'm 13 and he's 14. What should I do on V-Day with him and also------what is something that i should get as a gift 4 him????? Thanx---I rate high!!!!!!

Go to the movies. That's always fun. And maybe grab some lunch?? Make the day all about you two. If you don't want to go out just go to one of your houses. Get some good dvd's and just have him come over and if you're up to it, make him lunch. If you know how to cook simple things that'd be awesome. Beings you guys are young you can do what I did one time. This guy liked me so for christmas I bought a picture frame and put my school picture in it and gave it to him. He seemed to think it was awesome. It's a small yet sweet thing to do. Have fun :)

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whenever i blow dry my hair.. it usually turns out poofy and not that straight. any one know how to blowdry ur hair straight or unpoofy? thanks!

When you blow dry your hair get some moose that is for anti-frizz. Run it through your hair then dry it. If you blow dry your hair too much you can end up causing damage such as frying it. I suggest you get some shampoo that remositurizes your hair. You can find any shampoo for this at the store in the shampoo and body wash section. Use that and try to moose. This is probably why your hair is so poofy. Either that or let your hair dry naturally and then use a straitner on low heat. And don't use a flat brush when drying it. Use a round one. Good luck

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like 2 months,and he wants to kiss me, but I'm not sure if I should. My mom would freak out, but i really like him. What should I do?

You really like him and he wants to kiss you. Go ahead and kiss him if you want. Your mom doesn't NEED to know you kissed him. You're growing up and that's part of it. So go ahead and kiss him and just don't tell her! :) I didn't tell my mom when I first kissed someone.

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I heard that early signs of pregnancy dont occur until after a missed period. Is this true? If not, what signs are there that you might be pregnant in the few weeks before your next period. Thanx

One sign is that you may get morning sickness. That can occur before your missed period. I heard that you find yourself eating more althouh you aren't too far along on pregnancy. Also, you may notice your breast getting sore and big, such as when you get your period. It's hard to tell. I would suggest seeing a doctor for a test or buying one of those test that can detect pregnancy a couple days before your missed period. If I were you, I'd just wait to see if I missed my period first. Good luck

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What is a good brand of makeup remover that is under $3?? and not NYC

A lot of the make up at Wal-mart is really non-expensive. Any store like Wal-mart or Kmart is awesome for make up. It's just as good as expensive stuff and you don't go poor buying. Cover girl from Wal-mart will run you $6 and under but they have cheaper brands. My friend even goes to the Dollar General and gets Cover Girl make-up because it is cheaper than Wal-mart. About $2-4! Need anymore stores, let me know.

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What are some ways to clean my dedicates like bras and pantyhose? They always come out tattered and deformed in the regular wash.

You can either put them in a pillow case or something related to that and throw them in the wash like that. That way they still get clean the the pillow case ist he only thing getting thrown about by the washer. Or you can do like I've done. I fill the sink up with hot water and I put some washing detergent in the sink and hand wash them clean. Then if I feel like I should, I'll put them in the dryer or I'll hang them on a hanger and let them dry on their own. But if you have the time and money, you could get them dry cleaned but that will get expensive for you. Hope I helped.

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Ok well I like this guy...he is in 8th grade I'm in 7th. When ever he sees in the hall and stuff at school he smiles and me and says hey Chloe. But I mean thats just him being friendly then on the internet we act all flirting and crap. but I really like him I have known him since about the time school started. And he is so hott. Bad thing...my friend used to like him and when I told me I MIGHT like him she said how could you you know I liked him but I dunno if she was jokin about it cuz like 2 minutes after that we were all laughing and stuff. What do I do?? How do I know if he likes me! Thanks very much I'll rate 5s! haha x0x

Signs can be misconcepted. I say just ask him so then you have a straigt forward answer. Write a note, call, ask him online. Or have a friend ask him.

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does anyone no any really good books. My mom wants me to get into reading (i hate reading) so i need a good book thatti wont hate to read!

anything will do! thanks a lot!

How old are you? I personally think the Harry Potter series are books for all ages. They aren't boring or anything. If you're into scary books try some Stephen King such as Black House. Those are good books too. Or if you are religous try reading the Left Behind series. They are good books for the religious type. If you just want something simple because you're mom wants you to read, read something like Nancy Drew or the Hardy Boys. Even adults read those even though they are easy to read. A book I highly reccomend is Roll of Thuder Hear My cry and the second book May the Circle Be Unbroken. Those books are about the challenges blacks faced. Hope I gave you some good ideas for reading.

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hey i cut myself and a teacher asked me about them and i have to go to see a counselor should i deny it all or get help?

The one thing you DO NOT want to do is deny it. If you deny it, you'll continue doing this. From personal experience this is not a good thing to be doing at all. If you want to talk about you can IM me on AIM or drop a message in my inbox. You need to tell them the truth and seek help. Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with but however, get help. This is a habit that can last a lifetime if un-noticed. Do you really want to continue this and one day when you're older have ugly scars about your body? That's no way to live sweetie. Please for the sake of your own good, get help and try to stop.

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