Hey I'm Lauren and I'm 14. Im pretty good at giving advice because Ive been through a lot. Im really into swimming, singing, and acting. But theres a lot of other things i know about. So try me with your question and I'll help you as best I can. Hope to hear from you!!!!
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listen....im thinking of commiting suicide. all my friends have turned on me. all of my so called GOOD FRIENDS, that is. i dont know what to do im miserable and totally wrecked and upset. i dont wanna hurt any body or make any one cry. but i wish I COULD STOP HURTING and I COULD STOP CRYING. what should i do? except ask a counselor, tried it didnt work. just tell me something! (link)
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this is a really big deal just to let you know. And I know you probably already know this but commiting suicide is not the way to get rid of pain, not even your own. See I had an uncle last week and this week i dont. His wife left him, he lost custody of his children, he stole money from the family, he lost his ebtire family business, and then last saturday, he was found in his home strung up on the garage door. He hung himself. And see think about it, if you can survive the 2 minutes you start seriously planning to take action, the 5 that you take to gather your supplies you might change your mind, so suicide is final and you will regret it so much... I'm sure your friend cannot have completley gone A-wall go to other people you trust, make new friends around your school, neighborhood, etc. And yeah i agree counselors dont usually help because believe me i pretty much know how you feel. I think that maybe your just going through a phase of depression, do things you know you love, find other people who love doing those things too, make an outreach to other people in your community. Just think of all the people you would hurt, even those so called friends Im sure would be devastated, your family in tears, anger, with yourself for making the wrong decision which is suicide, my uncle thought he hadnt a friend in the world. At his funeral there were over 600 people in a 1 mile radius grave yard. you Dont wanna be there ok. SO find your other options, because no matter how much you think you dont have those options you do. If you still need to talk contact me via IM. SOAP sUdDsEr14 ok Lauren
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Lauren please consider giving me advice!! Okay I love Brooke with all my heart but I'm sad and I don't want to feel bad. I just need a way to be less sad. Now im at home alone and i have less to occupy my mind with and i feel like crying. I know it shouldn't be that big of a deal but it is and i don't know why. I feel really bad and i don't want to!!! :( Soon is better than later because i will prolly feel worse
im listening to Christmas music but it isn't helping. Please Lauren write back ASAP!!
u know who! (link)
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Well, yes i know who you are Im really sorry for you but at the same time happy for brooke. I know you say your not jealous but Its sort of obvious you are, and thats ok. Jealously is way past normal for this type of ordeal. Yeah i know you liked him but you'll get over him soon enough. I know that you may have known him longer and blah blah blah but its better to be his friend than nothing at all. Besides its just a simple crush you know it'll pass. Surround yourself with things that don't involve him, or maybe even Brooke because thats what you need right now distraction to help you get over the facts, you have lots of other things going right now and i doubt that its PJ but i know someday you'll land your dream guy and live happily ever after realization before memory, if you cant get over it before you engrain it in your brain hey there aint going to be nothing there
Luv ya chick, Txsunbabe91
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Thers this guy at school that everyone is saying i like. (wich isnt competely false, hes one of my really good friends)But everyone is telling him that i like him and telling me that he likes me. Normally i wouldnt really care if someone liked me but this time i do because he is such a good friend of mine. When i talk to him i feel awkard because i cant get the fact that we may like each other off my mind, and after i finish talking to him my classmates ask me if i was askin him to go out with me. But mostly im afraid that if we do break up we'll end up like my best friend and her boyfriend, they broke up and now never talk to each other. What should i do, i want to keep hanging out with this guy but i dont want either of us to have to feel awkard about it? I am a thirteen year old girl. (link)
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hey, for you this is a really tough decision to make. For love, or friendship. Ive been in your situation and unfortunatley enough it turned out like your friends. We dated for 4 and a half months and then i broke up with him, he had been one of my really good friends. We dont tak as much as we used too, but were not enemies. A strong friendship will withstand the highest winds and the hardest rains, yet a weak love can be devastated by one single tear. I think, just my opinion, is that you should wait it out see how much you like him next week. And besides your thriteen, if its really meant to be and you stay best friend then you can figure it out later when you know better and you realize how you feel exactly. Crushes will always come and go and believe me with a male best friend that crush can come very often of course you'll be attracted to them because they are your comfort zone your equal, and your rock to keep ya steady and together. It may be hard but as much as you think you like him wiat it out, because if you were to break up who would you need most... I believe that would be your best friend.
I hope this helps in some way all my luck to you, Txsunbabe91
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Lately I've been very depressed.Everything in my life has just gotten so boring and old. I've been dishonest with myself and others. I hear myself saying words that I don't mean and all the while I'm screaming inside. I see myself doing things that aren't me and being someone that I'm not, yet for some reason I just can't stop. I can never concentrate because I'm always daydreaming always trying to escape reality. Or I do things that defy my Christian beliefs and do things I shouldn't. I always feel guilty for the things I do but I can't help but stir up trouble in an attempt to make life less boring. As of yet I've done nothing too unforgivable and horrible but I'm afraid if I continue on this path and don't find happiness soon I'll end up doing something I'll really regret. (link)
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i know exactly how you feel. it really hard to answer your question because honestly i havent found the answer myself yet the best way is to surround yourslef with things that make you happy. do things that you know you love even if it doesnt involve other people. give yourself you time and try to find out who you truly are depression however cant be fought alone talk to someone you trust and let it all out and soon enough im sure you will be happy again
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my bro doesn't wear underwear and it's really kinda sick!! What do i do??? (link)
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underwear makes a great stocking stuffer but umm do you really look down your brothers pants often
'cause if you dont then it wouldnt be such a problem its a choice to go comando let him make it on his own
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My mother bought me a beta fish (a Japanese fighting fish) and I have no idea how to take care of it. I got a book on how to take care of it, but you have to decode it (meaning I don't understand a word of it) The local veterenarians don't really know how to take care of these fish because not alot of their clients have fighting fishes. Does anyone on Advicenators know ANYTHING about these fishes? Do you know any sites where I can find information? (link)
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beta fish first of all are called fighting fish for a reason
do not put them infront of a mirror or glass or any sort they will kill themselves becuz they think theyre with a nother fish second do not put them with an actual other fish they will kill it
if u go to a pet store they will hav food with a picture of the fish on it giv em a pinch of that in their bowl every day fish dont last long either and if vets dont about fish you liv ina dumbass town sorry
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Okay usually i don't mind when my boyfriend does stuff with me but not in class! i already am failing that class and i have to get my work done..plus i don't want people talking about me in a bad way like i think they were today. Today i was sitting by my boyfriend in class and he kept going down my pants and rubbin my back and ass and shit and trying to make out with me but i kept telling him no not now! But he wouldnt listen and it was really buggin me i couldnt get him to stop even when i moved my chair away he'd pull it right back by him it was annoying. So my question is: What do i tell him when i don't want him to do that kinda stuff to me? Because obviously telling him to stop doesn't work. He's usually really respectful but i don't know what to do. Thanks so much!. (link)
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hes probably being influenced by his peers to be more sexual guys will do things like that you know he might be getting a little cocky and wanting to show you off saying look what i can do with i got i mean guys can be that way if u dont want him messing with you in class dont sit by him make sure that you surround yourself with other people hav a good private talk with him lay down some ground rules if he doesnt want to listen to you then maybe hes not that good of a boyfriend
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my dad is such a jerk. i'm not going to try to make this sound any worse than it is. ok well he, i guess, "verbally abuses" me. he doesn't treat me like a daughter. the other day he called me a slut, which i'm not, and he cussed me out because he doesn't trust me. i haven't even done anything. he thinks im a druggy too. he tells me that i'm just a mistake. it hurts so bad. i want to run away, but i'm trying to stop myself. im just really afraid he's going to hit me. he jerks me around, but not too bad. i need advice. dont tell me to talk to him about it. (link)
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i guess if your not gunna talk to him about it you should tell someone you trust like another close family member he shouldnt be doing this to you even if you were a slut or a druggy fathers do not do this i know you would never want to rat out your own dad right? but if your keep it wuiet for a while by taking to an aunt, uncle, older person you trust then maybe you could go stay with them for a while and see hwo much your father misses you over time maybe he'll realize he's wrong and all will be good other wise just spend as much time as you can away from the house come home for dinner and sleep wake up for breakfast and leave for school i hope this gives you some idea
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My mom just moved in with a guy and he has a 13 daughter that I believe is a great person, however I just got out of a mental institution for attempting suicide and depression! I started cutting again and now she is following in my footsteps, I dont want to be a leader in that kind of way, but I cant seem to be able to stop! I want to be a positive influence in her life however I'm just confused! How do I be positive when I'm still a cutter!?! (link)
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i know its not simple but cutting will not help you in anyway ive been in your situation without the follower, if your not a leader who will follow you take your pain out some other way channel it into sports or a pillow (stupid sounding but resourcful) it took me about three months but in the end it worked out now im an A time swimmer and im about to get my blackbelt in martial arts get help from someone you trust like a friend who you know wont tell but will motivate you also this sounds stupid and i know its like been on tv and stuff but put a rubber band/ponytail holder i dont know whether or not your a guy and snap it when you feel the urge to cut that helped me too for a while also its not that hard to scare the easily influenced talk to her about your experiance with her tell her how dangerous it is hard as it may be show her your scares 13 year old girls are usually at a transitional stage if you show her that its wrong and dangerous then maybe she'll get the big picture most of all i encourage you to find help suicide and cutting are never a good answer NO MATTER WHAT!!
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hey, well i had this blackhead on my nose and stupid me picked it and now theres like a scab type thingie there is there any fast home remedy i can use to get rid of it, i heard after shave like kills the bacteria or something or toothpaste? any others?
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im sure this will sound odd but hey it works for me unless you have an allergy to it or something try mixing lip balm w/ cinnamin strange but helpful
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so lets see, i recently opened my fridge and saw a Dr. Pepper can calling my name. I went to open it and the thing snapped off. I need advice on how to open this because ive tried everything from a screwdriver to a fork and it won't open. I'm really thirsty so please help me. (link)
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haha thankyou umm try smacking it agianst your head ant maybe thatd work nice
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ok so i have this friend, we have soo much in common, i'm always happy when i'm around her and we always have so much fun together and i consider her one of my best friends... but the problem is i feel like we will never be able to better our friendship and get closer because of her other best friend who although i hang out with sometimes do not look to fondly upon me and often get mad and feel that i am trying to steel their friend when i try to do more things with her, one of her "best friends" in particler is someone i know she herself is not happy with but for some reason feels she must stay loyal to this friend... soo i guess i'm asking for advice as to what i might be able to do to better my difficult situation so that i might better my relationship with my friend without making her feel like i'm forcing her to ditch all of her other friends (link)
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yeah well i guess im in a similar situation see i dont know why exactly this friend feel loyal becuz maybe they know their other friend is having a difficult time as well trying to find herself and although she feels like she would rather leave her behind she feels somewhat responsible for her well being it seem like a complicated matter i htink the best thing to do would be to talk to your friend im sure she loves hanging out with you and arrange some kind of something i guess this is a hard question to answer but id hav to say that its your friends choice what to do with the situation she may not be sure what to do so why dont you help him/her figure it out by trying to see her feelings maybe shes scared of confrontation and maybe thats the thing she needs most
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I'm very overshadowed by my best friend. She's a very flirtatious, outgoing, redheaded vixen and everyone wants to be friends with her. Now, I don't mind it so much, I'm happy that she is well liked by people, but it's the fact that I seem to be getting less and less attention from her every time she meets somebody new. Especially guys. Every guy she meets has had a crush on her. (Except, thankfully, my CURRENT boyfriend...note that I said CURRENT..ex-boyfriends are another story) And often times she has crushes on them, but she still has to complain about them liking her. She seems to treat me like a child and she's the "All-knowing-one", especially when it comes to relationships, and it's really starting to piss me off! She steals my jokes and claims them as her own OFTEN and she says that I'm a bad friend because I once decided to stay with my boyfriend instead of going to hang out with her, while she has ditched me many a time to hang out with guys. (I can think of two instances from just last week.) I'm really bothered by her, yet I remain her friend and most of the time I really don't know why. And I want to talk to her about this, but I've tried before and she always apologizes and then forgets about it two days later.
And when it's just her and I things are fine! We have a great time and everyone's happy and once again I've become the comedian between the two of us, (material she later steals from me to use in front of her flirting victims), but when it comes to boys I'm completly ignored and she's off in the corner creating some sort of drama. It's weird for me, because before I befriended her I was always the center of attention among the group. I was the loud, funny, loving one who everyone wanted to give hugs because I would gladly dish them out. And now it seems like nobody has any time for me because they all want to be with her. Like she's taken all of my friends, but still claims that I'm her best one.
What should I do? I know the most logical thing would be to stop being friends with her, but we've been together for so long and we have most of our friends in common with each other, so there really would be no way to avoid hanging out with her. (link)
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a friend with two faces eh? theyre never good someone who can completley ignore you in a real day and then try and be your best friend when she feels like it is no good if she puts you down its definitley not good a stick to the friends who are always there for you, not one who wants to be your friend but would rather hav recognition i used to have a friend like that she and i now are not enemies but not as close as we used to be if you try to separate from her gradually it wont be as hard a transition another idea would be to talk to her let her know how your feeling maybe she'll understand and try to lighten it up a bit but sometimes things just arent meant to be
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I am a 16 yr. old female and I have a question to ask you.What sould i do if my best friend has told a total private secert about my childhood and private life that she wasn't suppose to tell anybody? (link)
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calmly confront her. ask her why she told. if its bothering you like, maybe its caused teasing or something by your peers, then play it off i mean people look for reactions if you act like its no big deal then it'll fade out. remember though everyone makes mistakes and alot of the times theyre big ones so try to forgive and forget if you cant then i dont know what to say
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I'm 14 and a female. My ex boyfriend is 16. He broke up with me a little over a month now. We dated for 6 months. He broke up with me because he said he wanted to concertrate on school and he didn't want a girlfriend. I think it was just an excuse. When we were dating he told me he loved me and I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I believed him and told him I loved him back because I truely meant it. After we broke up we still talked and he told me that he wanted to get back with me after he brought his grades up. He ignored me for a week and I was upset. We started to say hey and gave hugs whenever we saw each other and I told him to call but he never did. The next day at school I found out that he made out with another girl(this was 2 weeks after we were broken up). I try to get over him and move on but it's hard because I still have alot of feelings for him and I still love him. I wouldn't mind getting back with him even though what he did was totally wrong. I don't want to chase after him because if he wanted me he would come after me...right? I don't know what to do because I still love him and I dont know how he is feeling right now. His friend is supossed to see how he is feeling about me. I don't know what to do though. Can you help? Thanks! (link)
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the hardest thing in life is to let go but sometimes it can be the best thing, if he loved you he never would have let you go try to get over him by hanging out with friends doing things you love that way you take your mind off him maybe if he see's that your moving on he'll remember what you used to have and reignite the flame if not you should know it just wasnt meant to be everyones got a cinderella story maybe he's just not your prince
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