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my dads a jerk
my dad is such a jerk. i'm not going to try to make this sound any worse than it is. ok well he, i guess, "verbally abuses" me. he doesn't treat me like a daughter. the other day he called me a slut, which i'm not, and he cussed me out because he doesn't trust me. i haven't even done anything. he thinks im a druggy too. he tells me that i'm just a mistake. it hurts so bad. i want to run away, but i'm trying to stop myself. im just really afraid he's going to hit me. he jerks me around, but not too bad. i need advice. dont tell me to talk to him about it.
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I am so sorry about what you are going through but hold on it will get better. Try to tell a teacher or someone you trust about it, but that will be hard, if your not ready just wait... And dont belive him you are so much better than that, you are NOT a slut and NOT a mistake. Even though it doesnt seem like it at all everything does happen for a reason hang on things will get better and if they dont someone who loves you will help you, you just have to make that first step. I really hope this works and things go rite for you.
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I think a teen hotline would be a good place for you to start. You don't need to be in an environment like that, but running away will just put the law on your father's side and make you look bad. I know you have a strong, and it seems well earned, distrust of the adults in your life. In your situation that's normal and even good. Unfortunately the only way to improve your life is to find someone to trust who has the information and influence to help you get out. A hotline is designed to help you find that person. If the first person doesn't seem right, ask for another. Keep going through the options and whatever coucelors they have until you find one that you feel comfortable with. There should also be places on the net you can find for info. Big hug and good luck!
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You know what..when an adult hits a kid..there is evidence in a bruise or a red mark. But no can ever see the LONG range horrible effects that words can bring to someone.
Your Dad has an anger issue..i know for my paresnts did the same thing to me. And let me tell you those words stopped me from being a functional adult until i saw a doctor to stop that TAPED message they gave me from reapeating in my head.
Talk to your mom..no tlaking to him will not work..for I bet his paresnt did the same to him.
My dad is still like this..i swear...and eventually he did hit me...
You HAVE done nothing...ok...but this is tough..for NO one could make him stope..we all wwent to see docotros..even MY MOM!! This man ruined 4 lives...
I think maybe you need to talk to someone..to see what you can do to disfuse his anger..but if your Mom will not bakc you..then she is a LOSER..this stuff hurts..as much as a punch.
I am so sorry..i wish with all my heart you were not goiong through this...
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Tell your mom or another parent like your grandma or grandpa or even a teacher at school. THey will help you get out of the abusement (if you want. Also you can tell a friend and her/his mom or dad.
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i guess if your not gunna talk to him about it you should tell someone you trust like another close family member he shouldnt be doing this to you even if you were a slut or a druggy fathers do not do this i know you would never want to rat out your own dad right? but if your keep it wuiet for a while by taking to an aunt, uncle, older person you trust then maybe you could go stay with them for a while and see hwo much your father misses you over time maybe he'll realize he's wrong and all will be good other wise just spend as much time as you can away from the house come home for dinner and sleep wake up for breakfast and leave for school i hope this gives you some idea
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If you dont want to talk to him about it...maybe put your feelings on paper. Do you live with your mom? if so talk to her..if you dont..maybe you should move in with her. If it gets real bad with ur dad..maybe even ask a close friend to spend a week at their house to kinda cool down from him. Talk to a guidance conselor. They will keep things confidential if you want.
-best of luck
-melissa
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