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On New Years Eve im going to my boyfriends house. I'm a virgin but that night i think i want to lose my virginity with him. I'm 14 almost 15 i know i'm young but i'm tired of being a virgin. We've only been going out for a week today but we went out for 7 months a while back. Please don't reply if your just going to call me a hoe or yell at me because i don't need that. Would i be making the wrong choice if i do? I already know about the whole getting pregnant thing im not stupid..but other than that am i making the right choice? thanks.. (link)
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I don't think you're making the right choice sorry :-( If you went out for 7 months, and didn't feel ready - what's changed so dramatically that you feel your ready now?
I know when I was a teenager - I dumped somebody because they wouldn't sleep with me after 6 months - but looking back, it was a really stupid thing to do. Your virginity is an important and valuable thing - dont just throw it away - wait until it feels so right that there's no question about it!
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Well here's my situation. My mother was seeing a man for awhile that seemed totally normal, well as time passed he began to become controlling and totally weirded out. He was suppose to be this guy living "the good life" with money ect. ect. Well things started to get weird whenever everytime we were suppose to visit his house the meetings would get "cancelled." After awhile he started to turn my mother against me. He convinced her that I was a hell raising child who needed to be locked up, and I needed help because I was "Ill in the head." All of this was far from the truth. Anyways, to make an extremely long story short, we found out he's not who he says he is, and he has a major criminal record, just got off parole for MURDER. He has an obsession over me (For God only knows what reason) and now the police are after him and he dissapeard before they got the oppurtunity to arrest them. This has brought so much strain on our family. My mom is constantly drinking, and I just can't look at her the same after the things she did to me because this psycho told her to. I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas as to what to do in this situation. I want things to be better in our house-hold after this, but I have no idea where to start to mend it back together. Sorry it's so long, thanks for the help. (link)
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This is obviously a very serious matter, and you have a lot of work to do. I don't believe you're in the rigth place to be asking this sort of question to be honest, you should phone a counsellor of some description (there are many toll-free numbers listed on http://www.trynova.org/s/tollfree.html)
The people on the other end of the line will be fully trained, and will respect your privacy. This is a serious topic and needs proffesional guidance.
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sorry this is so long but i REALLY need ALOT of help...please read it...=(
my friend told me that my boyfriend was cheating on me with TWO other girls..we dont go to the same school but we see eachother ALOT and her cousin goes to his school and said that he has other girlfriends. i love my boyfriend so much and just before she told me all this my boyfriend was on the phone telling me how much he loves me and stuff. i asked his friend about it because hes my really good friend too and he said he didnt know anything about it and he doesnt think my boyfriend would do something like that to me. i dont know. he wasnt home last night when i called so it kind of made me suspicious. i'm going to call him today and ask him about it but i dont know how to ask him. i dont know if i should believe him if he says no either. what if he is? i dont THINK my friend would lie to me, but i never even met her cousin. and lately my boyfriends kind of been blowing me off though to be honest. like hes too busy for me. so i dont know im really confused. i dont know like if he says no im not cheating on you if i should believe him because what if he is? but i dont think he would admit it if he was. not many guys would be like OH YEA I AM CHEATING! you know? please help me.. (link)
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Are you sure that this girl even has the right guy? Perhaps your friends cousin has mistaken him for somebody else and completely has the wrong end of the stick. If you are adamant that he's cheating and you need to find out for sure - then I'm afraid you'll have to resort to some evil tactics. Simply act really annoyed at him, and ask him who was the girl he was with on saturday (if possible find out where he was) - if he is cheating, then hopefully he will admit all. If not he may get a little annoyed - but that's what apologys are for. Tell him you must have had the wrong end of the stick - or seen somebody who looks like him. Hope I helped!
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My friend and I are trying to plan a party. The thing is, I know that at most parties, not much goes on. I mean, you eat, and then when the going gets slow, someone gets everyone to start dancing. I'm not a big fan of dancing, so I'm trying to figure out what I could do besides that. I'm not saying I'm completely opposed to it happening, I just don't want to spend an hour trying to avoid the swaying mass congregated in my living room.
Soooo...if anyone has any ideas on fun things that I could plan (that aren't too corny, I need them to be things that a bunch of sixteen-year-olds would agree to doing) I'd love to hear them! Thank you!
(by the way, it's a holiday party, so anything Christmas/Hanukkah themed would be appreciated) (link)
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When I was 16, our parties would generally consist of drinking too much, taking recreational drugs and having sex. But then again, I'm British... I dont think that sort of thing happens in America does it? Why not have a British themed party and do all of the above!?
Seriously speaking though, if you mean a party which is closer to a sleepover - go for the movies option, if you're inviting a lot of people, I'm afraid you'll be expected to go for the whole shebang! Beer, dancing and music!
Send details to my inbox and I'll try and help you out a bit further.
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Okay, this is kinda compicated. So theres this guy i like. hes a year younger than me, hes 16 im 17, but i couldnt care less about that. last year, at homecoming, two of our mutual friends decided that he and i should go out. so they convinced him to ask me to homecoming. he really liked me. but i was still in the process of getting over this really complicated relationship/non-relationship which it has taken me until a few months ago to get over. i did have some feelings for this guy (the first guy) but i wasnt ready and i felt cornered cuz our two mutual friends were pushing for this so when he asked me,... i reacted pretty badly. as in not good. rejected him. not gently.now, hes hung up on these two different girls, one is an exchange student from new zealand. shes really nice, but ive talked to her about her and him, and she says itll never happen. the other girl is not allowed to date. so there's no problem except that he likes them. sometimes i get signals from him that make me think he likes me, and then hell make a comment about one of the other girls and im really not so sure. but i really like him. but im going to college in less than a year and we wont be in the same school or even the same city. well be in the same state though. im so confused. please help. (link)
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If you really like this guy, then it's time to bite the bullet and confront him. He did all the work last time (with a little help from your mutual friends) - and so this time it's down to you. The worst case scenario would be that he rejects you, just as you rejected him - but I expect he would do it in a more civil way, as he experienced harsh rejection first hand!
As for the college thing, a year is a long time, and you can have a lot of fun and good times in a year. It's well worth asking him out now, even if it's only for the fun you'll have in the next 12 months! Don't forget, 21st century girls ask boys out too! Anyway, I hope you do ask him out, and I hope you find happiness with him - let me know how it goes or something ok? Good Luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been together since the summer, I'm 15 and he's 16. He has mentioned the holidays coming up and he really wants to get me something. I never even thought about it because I didn't even know we got to the stage in our relationship where we buy eachother things. Now, I have no idea what to get him. We haven't been together for that long and I'm worried whatever I get him he won't like. How do I make something sentimental, without looking cheap or stupid and how do I buy something for a 16 year old boy? (link)
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Looking back on when I was 16 - I was happy with whatever my girlfriend bought me. Presents would usually be things like aftershave (cologne), CDs (although it was more difficult to download them from the net at that point), videos and other little trinkets. You should be looking to spend a max of $20. And don't worry about it - he'll love you whatever you get him :)
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k, so my ex and i broke up about two weeks ago from a two-week relationship, but the thing is, he thinks were on a "break" which isnt the case at all, because i really need to get over him. He was a really bad boyfriend and used me for sex pretty much, it's not as bad as it sounds, but yeah, so he wants to be friends still talk n stuff, but i really cant stop thinking about how bad he was to me n stuff, but should i call him and talk to him about this since were still "friends" or should i completely blow him off? please help, i`ll rate (link)
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Don't completely blow him off - use the jealousy card a little. OK - so he's treated you badly? Why not get even? He's obviously a bad guy, as anyone who uses a girl for sex is clearly evil - what if mention of his incredibly small penis and poor sexual showing got out? He certainly wouldnt use any girl who found out about that for sex! Although that may be a little vindictive to be honest. If you can get over the fact that he treated you wrongly, then by all means be civil towards him, just hint at how much better off you are without him (and I do mean hint, not state!) - hopefully then, you can get back to being friends and feel better about yourself for it.
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ok so my ex boyfriend and i have been on and off for a little over 4 years. i did see other people in between but its not the same. he has been my best friend for what seems to be my whole life. i have been able to go to him for everything. well a year ago November we got back together and things were great. he means everything to me. i love him more then anything and i know that he truly loves me.. however things got rough this past September and we broke up again. i dumped him. but we promised to be best friends still. for a while things were still great. like we still hooked up and kissed and everything but i don't want to be friends with benefits. but i cant help it when im with him. so last week the week of November 15th was great. we hung out Monday, Wednesday(what would have been 1 year) and then Saturday. Wednesday was the best. i mean he told me he loved me and everything but then Saturday he was a jerk. we hooked up and i told him i loved him and hes like i know u do. but was gay about it. he ended up leaving shortly after. then we didn't talk all week. till i called him Friday upset needing someone to talk to and he couldn't be there for me. then on Saturday i told him again that i really needed him and hes like well im busy. BLAH! i cant take this anymore. its like he cares about me but he doesn't show it. he never calls me anymore like he promised he would and like how tings were b4 we got back together. what should i do? im not happy anymore. i want to express myself to him and tell him how im hurting but i don't know how to. i don't want to stop talking to him cause he has always been my best friend but its like i have too. i don't know what to do. please help me! (link)
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It would appear that he's somewhat neglecting you dear. Although it's been 4 years (albeit off and on) - perhaps now is the time to sit down and ask yourself - "has the relationship run its course?" It looks like things are in a pretty bad way, and perhaps it would be better to walk away now, rather than being confused and upset for another couple of years.
I don't thnk you've experienced a proper relationship yet, and I think it'd be healthy for you to do so. You need an environment where your boyfriend loves and worships you. You should be made to feel special!
If you're not willing to do that, then confront him and explain to him that you do just feel like friends and not lovers, and that isn't what you want. Explain that you're not "one of the boys" and thus you shouldn't be treated like one. He should treat you like his princess - because that's what you deserve.
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okay ive been dieting for the past like 3 dayz...ive been eating about 3 healthy meals a day and stop eating around 6. but today i dunno if i ruined it. I have an orange, an apple and a banana for breakfast, then for lunch i had a portion of turkey and a turkey sandwich with wheat bread, and then for dinner i had a bowl of chicken soup..But inbetween the meals i had another orange, a boiled egg, another apple, and another banana, and a bite of a pickle... it sounds like alot but it was through out the whole day..is this gunna affect my diet because i kinda over did eating the fruits?? thanks! (link)
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Although you're not supposed to snack between meals while dieting - THIS ONLY APPLIES TO JUNK FOOD! Eating fruit throughtout the day is fine - and very good for you, as is drinking plenty of water. You didn't say how old you are, but if you're still a teen, don't forget your body's changing at the moment, and over-dieting can be permanantly damaging.
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I'm 14 and a female. i have been liking the same guy for a little over a year now and he likes me too but we havent dated becaues he said his dad told him i was too young, (im 14 and he's 15) but he said when i was in high school we would date. He told me he loved me and i said it back because i meant it and thought he did too.Right before high school i heard he did things with another girl and confronted him when i called his cell phone and she answered,so we didnt talk for a few weeks. Then, he began to talk to me and began to act really nice and told me how he regretted what he did and how sorry he was. So, we started talking again and it didnt feel like it was working out. THis was after homecoming, which i went with a senior who now likes me. Well me and this 15 yr old were supposed to date after homecoming, but it didnt happen because he hardly called me and it felt awkward, so we called it off again. recently he has been calling me a lot and inviting me places, like to his house and to a wedding, and he told me the song my boo reminds him of us and he's really serious this time , but we still are not dating and he hasnt mentioned it, i know it sounds crazy of me to still like him but he says he loves me and he means it and that he wishes he would have done things differently, so what do i do? (link)
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hmm - another predicament here. I don't mean to sound nasty, but I think you'd be better off without this boy. It might not be that he is hurting you delibratly, but it seems that he's doing so and not realising. Girls mature faster than boys, and this boy in particular isn't on your wavelenght yet. He doesn't understand that you're nto a toy that he can put down and pick back up whenever he feels like it. Why not take a break for a while and look for somebody else - or even just wait for this guy to mature a bit (I for one matured a hell of a lot, very quickly when I was around 15/16) Hope I helped you!
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k, i've had my industrial since July, and i was wondering if I could take it out, and if so, how long? its a 14g and i was wondering if i did take it out, if i could put regular 18g earrings to fill the holes? please help, i'll rate (link)
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hmm - I'm not quite sure on that one - wouldn't want to commit myself in case you got hurt. However, I did manage to dig this out - http://www.faqs.org/faqs/bodyart/piercing-faq/ - It's not much, but I hope it helped.
Regards.
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