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confused about my ex bf of 4 about 4 yrs
ok so my ex boyfriend and i have been on and off for a little over 4 years. i did see other people in between but its not the same. he has been my best friend for what seems to be my whole life. i have been able to go to him for everything. well a year ago November we got back together and things were great. he means everything to me. i love him more then anything and i know that he truly loves me.. however things got rough this past September and we broke up again. i dumped him. but we promised to be best friends still. for a while things were still great. like we still hooked up and kissed and everything but i don't want to be friends with benefits. but i cant help it when im with him. so last week the week of November 15th was great. we hung out Monday, Wednesday(what would have been 1 year) and then Saturday. Wednesday was the best. i mean he told me he loved me and everything but then Saturday he was a jerk. we hooked up and i told him i loved him and hes like i know u do. but was gay about it. he ended up leaving shortly after. then we didn't talk all week. till i called him Friday upset needing someone to talk to and he couldn't be there for me. then on Saturday i told him again that i really needed him and hes like well im busy. BLAH! i cant take this anymore. its like he cares about me but he doesn't show it. he never calls me anymore like he promised he would and like how tings were b4 we got back together. what should i do? im not happy anymore. i want to express myself to him and tell him how im hurting but i don't know how to. i don't want to stop talking to him cause he has always been my best friend but its like i have too. i don't know what to do. please help me!
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Walk over to his house and sit down and tell him how you feel, and if u want to get back together tell him that. Try this time to stay more together and less arguments. Be kind even if he was acting like a jerk. Dont mess it up because you could never get him back again. Lemme know howo it goes
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It would appear that he's somewhat neglecting you dear. Although it's been 4 years (albeit off and on) - perhaps now is the time to sit down and ask yourself - "has the relationship run its course?" It looks like things are in a pretty bad way, and perhaps it would be better to walk away now, rather than being confused and upset for another couple of years.
I don't thnk you've experienced a proper relationship yet, and I think it'd be healthy for you to do so. You need an environment where your boyfriend loves and worships you. You should be made to feel special!
If you're not willing to do that, then confront him and explain to him that you do just feel like friends and not lovers, and that isn't what you want. Explain that you're not "one of the boys" and thus you shouldn't be treated like one. He should treat you like his princess - because that's what you deserve.
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"But was gay about it." Um, was he having sex with a man while he was telling you he knows you love him? Oh, you mean he was being stupid about it. Like gay = stupid. Interesting.
Actually, what's really stupid, is jumping around in this emotional 3-ring circus of a relationship. Is this the kind of relationship you want? Try taking a break from this guy, and when you have calmed down, try to look rationally at everything that has gone on between the two of you. Then, if you decide he is really someone you want to trust with your heart, tell him what you want. If he can't give it to you, then you're ultimately better off without him.
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HEY!! okay well he is messing with your feelings! you have to confront him and get your feelings let outget your voice herd! be like hey...((name)) i have been doing some thinking latly and have gatherd my thoughts... and continue! somtimes in life we have to do things we dont want to and is hard for us like confronting someone but you have to otherwise you wont get herd and you will b stressed you whole life! he is messing with your feelings and until you dont tell him he will think that it is a joke and get enjoyment out of bothering you boiz are like that! so you need to tell him b4 somthing even worse happens... good luck and srry he is a jerk!
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HOPE I HELPED AND BEST OF LUCK!
x ♥ x ♥ michelle
ps my bday was nov 16 the week of nov 15!! lol
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well my sn is iizyur21hunnay and i know alot about this stuff i had a bf for about what was it 3 years but we wernt showing it like he would say he liked me and wanted to go out so i would secretly say ok. and then like 2 years he forgot we were going out.. soo he was still my best friend and we talked about everything... but we just couldn't talk to eachother anymore .. soo i told him i didn't wanna see him again.. and he was like good cuz i cant put up with a skanky whore like you.. soo i got over my life met sumone over the summer and that didn't work out either. soo i have't been with anyone since.. and if around public he doesn't wanna be with you i would say screw him anyways if he really loved yyou like he keeps saying..he would love being around you. and if he does he should show it..
xox manda hope i helped
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aww four years thats a long time!! it seems like you guys are met to be...i think the problem is that you need to stop calling him and going to him for everything. notice that HES the one who didnt call you back, HES the one who wasnt there for you and HES the one who didnt say i love you back....you just need to give him space..he just needs time to himself hell realize that life without you is different and hell come back to you like he did all the other times for four years ...just back off and it may take some time...but thats the only thing you can really do...you cant change him...hes giving you hints that he needs his time to himself....so just give it to him and hell come back dont worry....good luck!!
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It seems like you're the only one who wants to try to take things seriously and play no more games but he's not putting as much effort as you. Who knows what he's thinking. But you have a way into his head. Just try talking to him. This seems like one confusing relationship which is why, myself, I never stuck around for those kinds because it's more of a commitment rollercoaster that is more work than worth it. It's up to you, keep trying and chasing if you like, but it may not end very soon. And it could feel like a very long dragged out ending. I hope not, so you guys need to talk and talk about things that matter like how much work is he willing to put into your relationship weather it's friends or more and how you don't want to deal with the back and forth anymore, that it's too much. At that point you can't start pointing fingers at each other though, or it's going to be an endless circle of the blame game. And on your part take it back a notch with that reading into every mood he has. He is human with ups and downs, so are you. If you are such good best friends then you know that best friends are willing and able to work through things but also to give each other some breathing room and room to grow and become. Finding the strength to allow that is being a good friend in itself. On top of that, a good friendship is a solid foundation for a beautiful boy/girl relationship. I hope I helped a little. Hope everthing smoothes out for you:)****
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