So, i've been thinking about but not really knowing if... I mean it's not that I want to commit suicide... I guess i'm just depressed and no I don't want to go on medication cause it's not like my brain is screwed up... it's just that I dunno I feel ugly I feel bad and whenever I tell anyone it doesn't seem to be relevant to them... and yes I know by posting this there will be people (stupid) saying that "YA U SHOULD U WORTHLESS PEICE OF ****" and I really don't care cause I probably should... I know that you guys probably don't care whether I live or not cause I mean it'll just mean one less mouth to feed and one more room to fill...
Basically the reason why I am depressed is that cause I'm gay and i've told people but not everyone... and I just want to have someone to be able to love me back and someone to be able to cuddle with on winter's cold... I've tried online chatting (no not AIM) but actual sites that are serious and no respons... I guess it's cause I'm ugly... but I just feel... *sigh*
dinoold answered Wednesday December 1 2004, 4:28 pm: first of all..here there are some really JUVENILE people that think it is funny to write truly stupid stuff down. So why pay attention to them..they are MORONS..not YOU!!
why have you not told everyone?/ Are you a teenager??
It might be that you will have to wait until you get out of the stupid atmosphere of HS anget to college or to a job.
Be honest with everyone..until you are 100 wiht everyone..you are going to be depressed.
And until you feel good about yourself..well you will not attract people to you.
Don't give up. Life is worth it..everyone wants to be loved..ok..everyone..and thier are lots of good websites..not icky one for gay people..maybe you can at least correspond wiht other people and find out way out of this!!Ps..you do not have to show yourself at these sites...just learn how to talk and flirt with people... [ dinoold's advice column | Ask dinoold A Question ]
KeLsEyS_PaGe answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 6:48 pm: don't feel depressed. i don't think that you are a worthless piece of ****. so what if you gay. there are plenty of people out there who are gay. i have gay friends that get along with life each and everyday just as if they were straight. the only thing is, is that you just have a differnt life style that people just don't feel comfortable with. but as long as you feel comfortable with your lifestyle then who cares what people think. and dont' put yourself down about your looks. i'm sure that you were wonderfully made and you were made to also fulfill a perpose in life. don't put yourself down. everyone has something to say about themselves, but someone out there likes you just the way you are [ KeLsEyS_PaGe's advice column | Ask KeLsEyS_PaGe A Question ]
alisonmarie answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 1:31 pm: Being gay can really affect your moods; it does not make you crazy. I think the best options could be speaking to a health professional - depression is depression no matter what causes it. I'd also look into local support for gay young people.
PFLAG is everywhere and will have excellent resources; they should be able to hook you up with local high school, community, or support groups. This is a great way to be around other gay people who will love and accept you for who you are; this could help build your self esteem and is also a really positive way to meet others who you might want to develop a friendship or relationship with.
Being single can make anyone feel bad. Being gay can make it doubly hard, as it often seems there is less of a chance to find someone. THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU - it's about your surroundings. Good for you for coming out. You are fine and perfect and loveable just as you are. [ alisonmarie's advice column | Ask alisonmarie A Question ]
zapreth answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 11:14 am: Oh Sweetheart! First, how your feeling doesn't have anything to do with being straight or gay. Just throw that worry out of your head! I'm straight. I've felt ugly, alone, and occationaly suicidal most of my life, and I know there are people who care about me. Knowing, and being told doesn't really help though. I was never more lonely in my life than when I was married. It's beleiving you're worth being cared about that is important. I still have a problem with it, but I came to my greatest crisis point in college. I found myself driving around after midnight, crying and looking for a place to crash my truck where I knew I'd die. I felt if my parent's thought it was an accident that they wouldn't blame themselves. The only reason I didn't crash that night? My truck. My parents had helped me buy a GMC full size '85 pickup. The thing was an 8 cylinder tank. I couldn't be sure of killing myself in it, and I refused to burden my family with my recovery and medical bills. The next day I called a couceling service. I've taken all the pych tests, all the character indexes, and you know what I found out? That I'm not alone at all. There are soo many of us out there, loney and wanting a friend. Needing someone. And after all the work and selfhatred and feeling worthless and accepting that Prozac truely can be benificial, I have accepted the most important fact of all. I am my friend. I can accept myself. So can you, Sweetie. I've fought depression and lonelyness longer than I can remember, but I'm still here. I will not be broken, and I look forward to tomorrow. You can too, but you must help yourself make the first step. Call someone and make an appointment, keep the appointment. I have never regretted my call. Big Hug, Sweetheart! Stay with us! [ zapreth's advice column | Ask zapreth A Question ]
jabberjaw101 answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 8:11 am: i know how you feel, sucide has crossed through my mind. Talk to someone about all your feelings. If you don't have any close friends or a family member you can trust try talking to a a shrink. You've already said you think you have issues, everyone does but there arent' medical cures for everything. As for depression and thinking your ugly and not loved everyone feels like that at some point in their life. sucide isn't the right answer for this or anything else...you wood hurt a lot of people, more than you think and you wood regret it too. hope i helped.... [ jabberjaw101's advice column | Ask jabberjaw101 A Question ]
lillegend222 answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 7:59 am: I know someone like you. They have this idea that nobody cares about them. I think it's just low self-esteem (i know, i sound like a phyc.) anyway, you need to just find one person that will be your best friend. Just someone to talk to and listen to. You don't have to personally know them either. Get a pen-pal! Trust me, everyone feels ugly and stuff like that, but try to look at the good instead of the bad. Please, don't do suicide. It's not worth it. Trust me. You would hurt a lot of people. [ lillegend222's advice column | Ask lillegend222 A Question ]
Kr4z3y_Ch3lly answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 2:47 am: Hey babe..i know how you feel...Im not gay but i feel so ugly sometimes that i think of suiside! But its not the right choice to make...trust me...you never know how loved you are!! really! and im sure your gorgeous!! Also dont go to a psychatrist (sp?) cause they dont help worth a dang..Please just have a good time..Hang out with friends!! Dont kill yourself...Youll regret it... [ Kr4z3y_Ch3lly's advice column | Ask Kr4z3y_Ch3lly A Question ]
Anarchilist answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 1:23 am: This story just keeps getting better and better.
Ok listen, if you think you have a problem (which you just said you did) you should consider at least seeing a psych.
As for feeling depressed, most teenagers do at some point, so dont feel special. [ Anarchilist's advice column | Ask Anarchilist A Question ]
IPIiINIkI_my_anti_drug answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 1:05 am: AWW... well... all i can tell u is that i care about you! DONT KILL YOURSELF! you are not a worthless peice of ****! it is normal for people to feel like this especially when you are gay! being gay is not a bad thing at all!! people love you! a good way to help this problem is... RIGHT A LIST OF EVERYONE IN THE WORLD who loves you! (include me in it!! michelle) then you will get a list of about over 100 people! that will help you alot!
HOPE I HELPED!
x ♥ x ♥ Michelle
tell me how long ur list it! [ IPIiINIkI_my_anti_drug's advice column | Ask IPIiINIkI_my_anti_drug A Question ]
Beccers_boo answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 12:31 am: im so sorry... trust me i have felt like this ( im not gay or anything ) but everyone feels ugly sometiems and i have had 2 talk people out of sucicide like 3-4 times... it isnt a pretty thing... so please before you do this... talk to someone... me or anyone else who can help u. you will find the right gay guy for you... eventualy right now you just have to tough it up... it will all get better in the end,
russianspy1234 answered Tuesday November 30 2004, 12:14 am: well my advice would be to move. seriously dude you live in a soutehr state dont you? probly texas or soemthing, really move to california people are alot more tolerant of gays and all minorities in general here. yeah being gay (or black or mexican or jewish) in a souther state is enough ot make anyone want to comit suicide. [ russianspy1234's advice column | Ask russianspy1234 A Question ]
dancinqueen08 answered Monday November 29 2004, 11:36 pm: Don't commit suicide. It's not worth it. There are so many other people that love you like your friends and your family. Committing suicide is such a selfish act because so many more people than you will be affected. Obviously your self image is distorted if you think you are ugly and online is not the right way to find someone. It will be hard being gay. Especially if you are a teen, but you will be able to getthrough it and once you have gotten through it you will be so proud of yourself. Yes you are different, but embrace that. Sure not everyone will accept that difference but there are so many more people with differences that people don't accept. For example disfigurement, they get stared at but hey live on because they know they are worth more than what other people might think. Believe in yourself get some self-confidence. I know this might sound whack but you might need to see a doctor or get medication. You said there's nothing wrong with your brain but who knows whats going on with those chemicals. TALK TO SOMEONE!!! Anyone!!! Maybe not a professional, but a teacher or a parent or a close friend. Your life is worth so much please don't let it go to waste. People die when they don't want to. They don't get a chance to do what they were here for. Don't leave without doing what you were brought here to do. You have the chance to live and do the right things. Other people were not given that same chance. Just don't kill yourself. Whatever you do. If you can't talk to anyone else, talk to me. Go on to my advice page and send me a message and I will talk to you. Atleast you know now that there is atleast one person cares enough about you. I am begging you not to kill yourself. The reason I'm responding so much to this is because I feel connected to you. You sound like one of my friends and I know that if he ever killed himself I would be so upset. I know a lot of his friends would be upset too. Even people who he doesn't think like him, would be affected because they do care about him. It would just be a really hard blow. This might seem like a fake response to you and you might not accept anything that I am saying , but it is true. I don't know if my friend understands how much he is appreciated and worth or if you do either, just before you do anything you can't take back, think about the people you'd be affecting. [ dancinqueen08's advice column | Ask dancinqueen08 A Question ]
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