i have hair (not a lot but it's noticable it you look closley) on my stomach, arms (on my arms i have a lot and it's brown), knuckles, and back. I'm a girl, is this normal?
Are you A Human girl? Then yes, this is perfectly normal. Not to worry. Now, if you were a fish, I'd wonder why you had hair. Or why you were able to type, for that matter.
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See, I think I have OCD, and it really bugs me. It's starting to interfere with alot of things. Like when I pray at night, I feel the need to repeat some lines several times, and I always have to have my TV remote facing a certain way exactly, and all this other stuff, it's really bugging me, I have talked to my parents about it before but they don't really seem to get how much it interferes with my life, because most of the stuff I do is behind their back, like rearranging stuff and whatnot...
What I want to know is do any of you have OCD and what are some of your symptoms (if you feel comfortable sharing)? And where did you go to get tested for it, if you're undergoing treatment what kind and is it helping? Thanks so much if you help, I will rate if it's good advice!
Thx
You should talk to your doctor about this next time you go, or else call him or her. Not to mention, if you have a school counceler (if you are in school), tell them about your problem. OCD requires therapy and re-adjusting your mind. If your condition is really interfearing with aspects of your life, get help.
These links seem really helpful and give lists of symptoms and otehr information for you:
http://www.mentalhealthchannel.net/ocd/symptoms.shtml
http://www.ocfoundation.org/ocf1010a.htm
There's also an online support group for people with OCD:
http://www.support4hope.com/ocd/obsessive_compulsive_disorder_symptoms.htm
Catching this while it's early is a really good step.
If no one believes you, get to know what your illnes is and list your symptoms and what you want to do about it. The fact that you realize you have a problem is great, now all you need is the help you've got to ask for.
good luck.
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I'm contemplating having the bariatric surgery done. I'm 140lbs over my "ideal" weight... and the diabetes and other probs are too much to deal with for the next 10 years. I've been this same size plus or minus 20 lbs for longer than that...and I have hated being heavy... now we have insurance that will cover it!! I think I need to do it... Just wanted to see where you stand on the issue... and see if you're supportive of the idea.
It's good that your insurance is covering this, but you should definately look into the risks involved with this surgery before getting into something that has a lot of risk involved (and there is always some sort of risk when surgery, especially major surgery such as this, is involved).
On the 'approval' aapect - if this is something that you really want and excersize and eating habits aren't helping, I think you should go for it. Doing what is right for you in your life should be something to consider, and as you have diabetes (and most adult with diabetes are overweight) I can see why this may seem like a great opportunity. Just check things out and make sure you get a doctor you can talk to, and ask as many questions as possible before you decide to go through with it.
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okay i know this is nasty- but you know how when you work out, etc, sweating makes you loose calories or w/e? Well just say you work out for a long long time, and sweat alot, and you don't get home for awhile and so you cant take a shower and wash the sweat off of your body, so the sweat like sinks back into you kinda or it dries up or w/e.. ew i know gross, but does that mean you dont loose any weight cause the sweat just went back into ur body?? [gross i know]
Actually, sweating doesn't make you lose fat or body weight - but it DOES make you lose alot of water! Sweat is basically water from your body mixing with the glands it comes out from.
Since we're supposed to have a good amount of water in our bodies to be healthy, the amount you sweat has nothing to do with how much weight you lose, it just can be used to see how much strain you're putting on your body. The more breathless you get, the better the indicator that you're getting a better work out.
The best thing to do after a workout when you sweat a lot is to drink a ton of water, because your body needs it after losing so much. Showers are only needed if you like to smell good and have clean pores :)
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hi i asked...
im always sad inside , but no body knows cosz i dont show it... how can i get the emptiness in my heart to go away... signed , confused and lonely.
well i no whats bothering me inside.. its that my X boyfriend has gone out with at least 4 of my best friends.. and now hes going out with my closest one .. lets call her shelly - i think hes just using shelly but i really really still like him and i think im crazy for dumping him =\ i dont no how to tell him this .. can you PLEASE give me as much advice as possible..
signed , lonely - again .
Hey hun.. I know you're feeling really hurt right now and that you still have feelings for your ex boyrfriend. The thing is, this kid can't even treat your friends right - think about how he could treat you? It seems hard, but I think the best thing is to take yourself out of the situation. Spend as little time away from him as possible - seeing as he's connected with friends of yours, maybe you should try to have some 'alone time'. You need to sort things out in your own head, and think about what you really want from a boyfriend. Do you want someone trustworthy? Someone who cares about you? Or someone who would use your best friend?
It seems your friends should have noticed that you probably dumped him for a reason. I don't think it was a mistake, by the way he seems to treat people. (maybe he seems to be a nice guy, but gets selfish and ends up two-faced.)
As for your friend, you might want to let her know that you suspect he's using her - but she may not believe you. Don't let yourself get sucked in again by someone who obviously doesn't really care about you. Give yourself some time and find out who you are first, and you'll find someone who really cares about your own personality.
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Hey i'm reallyy frustrated cuz everytime i get some type of new clothing my friends call me or something and tell me that they have the same clothes or type of shirt or w/e. I really dont care but they start freaking out over nothing! when i try to tell them its just a shirt they get all mad at me and so i eventually take it back to get a new one. its really frustrating and i dont mean to get the same thing. i try to get over it but they keep bringing it up saying i "copy" them on everything i do. their my bestfriends and it just frustrates me. plz help me i dont know wut to do:-(
It sounds like your friends are pretty insecure about their clothes. If you all live in the same town and have the same stores to go to, of course there'll be some times when you accidentally get the same thing.
Maybe you could try to look around and see if there are any more shops or clothes that you like. You could look online and find deals there, or make your own clothes if that floats your boat. (I did that for a while, actually.) That way, you'll always be the one with your own sense of style, and your friends can bugger off for a change. You seem to know that it's not a big deal - your friends will just have to catch up to your maturity on this.
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how do you kno when u need the next bra size up?
[wheneva a bend down i "fall" out, does that mean i needa new size?]
Yes, I'd say that's a good indicater that you need a new size. A good-fitting bra should be comfortable, not too tight but not so loose that it doesn't hold anything up. Go to a bra-store such as victoria's secret, and they should be able to help you size yourself.
Really, though - if you ever feel like you don't want to wear a bra or that it's uncomfortable, you don't have to. Your breasts won't sag with time if you don't wear a bra, (actually, bras can contribute to breasts sagging more) but if it makes you more comfortable to wear one, go to a place where they'll teach you how to measure yourself.
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Ok this is about my Dad becoming a citizn. I want to know why it's so hard to become a citizen. I mean, my Dad has lived in this country for almost 30 years, if you talked to him on the phone you would have to clue he was from another country. He has OWNED more than one business, he pays taxes, he does everything he is supposed to do. (I know I am just venting about this and me just saying all this to yall is not going to make any difference to people that decide citizenship but still maybe someone can answer my qustion) So why is it so hard to become a citizen without like being married to a citizen. I heard that when i become 18 (in 2 years) I can so something to make his chancs higher in getting citizenship. Can anyone tell me why it's so hard, and can anyone also tell me what i can do when i turn 18! Thanks, and please only answer if you actually know what i'm talking about, and not to tell me that you don't know what i'm talking about.
I'm assuming that you're talking about the US, because I don't know about the policies in other countries.
You should take a look here:
http://immigration-law.freeadvice.com/citizenship/naturalization_requirements.htm
Depending on your father's age, he may already be considered a US citizen - especially if he pays his taxes and has lived here 30 years.
The reason it's so hard to become a citizen here is because this country is all about money. If you have the money, or you want to work here and give this country the money, then you can stay as long as you like. To be a citizen, though - that's little concern of this country. Obviously, it takes a long time to process so many documents - but really, should it have to take more than a few years? Probably not. I guess it's the U.S.'s way of saying, if you really want it, you're going ot have to wait for it. (i.e., the govt. doesn't care, because your dad doesn't get to vote when he isn'y a citizen)
I digress. Anyway, you can't do anything to help your dad. Unfortunately. He has to go and do it himself. Now, if you were born in this country you are automatically a citizen. If not, then you can apply for it if you want to when you turn 18.
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im 15 and i masturbate quite a lot is this normal?
My penis is quite small and im a bit worried what
my girlfriend will think does it matter to girls?
Rest assured: there is nothing wrong with masturbating and it is quite normal. As for how much you do it - it all depends on your own comfort. Masturbate as much as you want, as long as, er, it's not interfearing with certain things, such as, eating, for example - you should be fine.
My greatest advice to give you about your penis size is not to worry so much about it. If you're wondering if it matters to girls because you're planning on having sex, then honestly it shouldn't matter very much at all. Most of the pleasure a girl gets out of sex is all done with her clitoris, which is just outside of the vagina. Any other pleasure is about a few inches in. I think guys worry far too much about penis size - it really doesn't matter as much as they seem to think. Personally, I wouldn't want to bother with a monsterous-you-know-what. I have to add here that if you are in fact planning on having sex, please please please use a condom.
If you're worried your girlfriend won't be turned on, again, stop worrying. She'll be more focused on what you do to her, anyway - and if she cares about you at all, she won't think anything bad.
By the way, most guys seem to think their penis is smaller than average and turn out to be wrong - so you actually may be more 'average' than you think.
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im 18/m. I had a gay realtionship about a year ago, and it went on for about 6 months. Im now tired of guys and im with my girlfriend. I really should tell her that i was with this guy, she has no idea that i was. She even knows the guy. How can i tell her w/o her finding out who it was, and will she leave me if she finds out?
You can tell her if you want to - all in all, it's not an absolute must to further your relationship if you don't feel you need to tell her. However, it's always good to get these things 'out of the way' in the beggining of the relationship so that everythings out in the open and the two of you can jump and dance around the fields of blissful togetherness.
A good way to tell her is to just simply bring up past relationships, and mention that you had a long-term relationship with another man. There's no shame in that, and really if it bothered her, that's not a very good sign, anyway. When/if you do tell her, she may be curious as to who it was. If you tell her who it is, (and this is totally up to your judgement) she may feel uncomfortable around that person sometimes, especially if she's with you. The case would be the same even if your past relationship were with a woman. Another option is to tell her that it doesn't matter, and that the other person may not want you to give names. This all depends on your situation.
I'm sure everything will be fine. Everyone has had past relationships, this shouldn't be hard for either of you.
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I have this really cute picture I want to put up on my column, but the problem is advicenators only lets you upload jpeg and jpg images. And the picture is bmp. Is there anyway I can change it into a jpeg or jpg image? How? Thanks, I'll rate!
>> xo_sherry_ox
I'd say the best way to go about this is to google "free file conversion program" and look for one that has the bmp-jpg feature, which it should.
I have Mihov Image resizer, and if you google that you should find it. It's very easy to use and works great, and above all is free. I also suggest you get a photobucket.com account because it's a nice place to store pictures and upload them from that host.
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my plant, gromie, just winked at me. it kidna scares me. i am really upset with his behaviors! what should i say to my naughty naughty venus fly trap? should i tell him to be a good boy, or just ignore the cute little guy?
He's obviously fiesty and seemingly frustrated on many levels. The delicacy of such a plant's state of mind is at peril, and I suggest that you do the following immediately.
Find someone you don't care much for, and lock said person in a dark room with the plant for a minimum of seven hours "counselling" time. This therapy is almost garenteed to settle your beloved plant down while simotaneously getting rid of any unwanted neighbors, animals, or unruly children.
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im getting my braces off in a few days and ive had them take 1 or 2 brackets off b4 and they like pulled them off but maybe thats bcuz it was just one. i saw on tv they whole thing off at once. if uve gotten ur braces off, how do they do it? thanx
It depends on what the orthodontist had in mind ofr your teeth, as everyone's teeth structure and jaw are different. Be warned, though: you'll be in for some major pain. Call your orthodontist ahead of time and ask if he/she will be taking many brackets off at once - because you'll definately want to take some pain relievers before you go.
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Okay, this guy asked me out and I really like him in all but he is shorter than me. Please don't leave well if you like him then it wouldn't bother you. I know that I need advice on how it won't affect me, if that makes any since?! PLease Help!!!
Well, in all honesty, what's the problem with him being shorter? It seems that you could at least give him a chance, go on a date (not to say that you'd go out, as I don't know how well you know him) and see how his personality is. One day, he may grow. If he's stopped growing, then the least you can do is give him a chance, because he may be really fun to hang around. Height really isn't very important to tell you the truth. If you're afraid of what others think, then screw them. Hopefully you'll be able to look past his height and have a good time with him, if you like him, that is.
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Ok, this question is for the girls out there!! Have you ever pierced your belly button by yourself? Like how did you do it I mean like all the steps from start to finish, even the small ones lol? Today, I want to pierce my belly button by myself but I'm afraid that I'm gonna do something wrong like piercing it too thin like I didn't use the skin. Can someone please tell me how you pierced your belly button by yourself? Thanks
This is a no good, very bad, HORRIBLE idea. Don't do it yourself, it will almost certainly get infected. You don't have acress to the right tools or needle to do it, or the experience. Instead, go to a nice, clean piercing studio. It should be as clean as a dentist's office and have an on-premise autoclave. If you don't know what one is, that's OK; it's what surgens use to sterilize their tools before they get to work. Take a look at www.safepiercing.com for more info, too.
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My father is the closest person outside of my house family to me. I love him very much but all of a sudden he has developed a mental illness and doesn't remember me. Sometimes when I walk into the room to visit him he shouts things like "Killer!" and "Why did you have to hurt my leg Barbara?" although that is not at all my name. I'm not sure if there is a way to help him remember me, but it's hard to cope with the pain of him thinking that I have hurt him in the past. What should I do?
That's a very hard situation, it's difficult when someone you love begins to have problems with their mind. You could always try to get in contact with his doctor and ask what he/she thinks you can possibly do to help him regain memory, if possible.
If it's a lost cause and he can't remember you, the only thing you can really do is to love him just the same as you always have, and stay close with him, although he may not recognize you for who you are.
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i have a 14g in my ear now, i want to go to a 6g does anyone have any advice for gauging my ears or cartilage??
Well, the proper way to do it is to go to a piercing shop nearby and buy tapers with which to help you gauge them. They should only be done a size at a time, but some people have no problem gauging a 14 to a 10 in one shot. This really depends on if this is on a more, or less stretchy area of your earlobe. You should be buying plugs of different sizes and as I understand it, wait a few weeks between stretches, the stretching should be gradual. If there is a lot of irritation/bleeding etc then you should slow down with the stretching.
If you're really impaitent, go to a reputable piercing shop and ask to get your ears scalpled. This sirt of splits and cuts your lobe all in one shot to the size desired. I've never done this, it looks rather painful. I honestly have little advice about stretching cartilage, but If I happen to find something I'll add it here.
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My husband is almost 40, I am just 34. We have been married 10 years but have known each other for 18 years. Sex was always good between us. Lately we haven't had any. I keep asking him if there is someone else in his life because a man can't go as long as he does without it. He says no, he just doesn't need it. I do and have considered leaving him because he doesn't meet my needs. When we do have it, it's almost like it's a chore for him. How can I deal with this? Is it possible there is someone else?
You should talk to him about your needs and his needs. It's always a possibility that he was telling the truth and just isn't in the mood as often - is this an abrupt change? Has it been more gradual? I think you should probably discuss everything with your husband and explain how much it's bothering you. Hopefully this is osmething you'll be able to work through without ending a 10+ year relationship.
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ok i know i had this questions earlier but i didnt ge tot see the answer to it... is getting your belly button peirced dangerous at all? and also is there an age where you to be old enough to get them peirced. thanx cuz i really want to get them done!!!!
Getting any piercing comes with risks. If it becomes infected due to irritation or lack of proper care, you could get very sick and have to go to a doctor.
I know that in many states in the US, you must be 18 to get anything done, even your ears, unless you have a parent go with you and sign for the permission.
I think you should go to to http://www.bmezine.com/risks/index.html
If you click on the links you find there in front of you, you will se some of the major risks involving a naval (otherwise known as belly button) piercing.
I am all for body piercing, but only if it is done in a proper, safe, and clean envioronment.
You know what? go to http://safepiercing.org as well. Look around a bit. Find a caresheet on bellybutton piercings and see if you're willing to take care of it. What a piercing is, is a wound. A wound must be cared for exactly as directed, or it won't heal.
Most importantly, do this because you want to, and not because a friend has it or it is popular. This should be a personal experience and should be about you, not anyone else. This is your body.
That said, if you want it that badly and your parent doesn't agree with it, then you should be able to wait until you're a proper age. This is because most piercing shops that don't require a parent are cheap, and often are dirtier than other more professional shops.
Good luck and happy piercing :)
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I'm really attracted to my friend. Hes 17 years old and is a total hottie. I really would love to spend the rest of my life with him. He gives me chills down my spine to see him happy and when hes sad it kills me ... literaly. The only thing is, that is stopping me from being with him, is my religion. In my religion it is against my code to have sex with another male. What do you think i should do? I really want to be with him and have sex with him but when i do i feel bad... help please. im an 18 year old male. Weve known each other for 5 years now. please help.
I have to say that I feel for you in your situation where your religion is in conflict with your feelings. Because you are this religious, I am sure one thing you'll want to do is pray. I am not sure what religion you may be from, but a friend of mine was recently in such a situation. She had to overcome a lot concerning family and her beliefs, but overall she realized that religion is a system set up by man. Everyone has a different interpretation of whatever text their religion follows.
My friend's religion believes in God, as does she - but she finally realized that God was forgiving, and wanted her to be happy. Old prejudices against certain lifestyles can't change how you feel, and certainly I find nothing wrong with your feelings. Seriously think about what is important to you. You can't simply decide not to have feelings for this friend of yours, and should never feel guilty about your feelings just because others don't agree with it. Personally, the way you feel is exactly what anyone, male or female, straight or not, wants to feel. This is a personal thing concerning you and your friend, and you have felt something special that no one should be able to get in the way of.
I apologize if my advice was abit jumbled, but if you'd like to talk more please IM me, email me, or leave a message in my inbox and I'd be glad to help.
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